Indlela yokufunda izincwadi eziyishumi eziphathelene nomzali futhi ungahlanyi? Yimiphi imishwana okungafanele ikhulunywe? Ungakwazi yini ukonga imali yesikole? Ngingenza kanjani isiqiniseko sokuthi ngiyayithanda ingane yami futhi konke kuzohamba kahle ngathi? Umhleli oyinhloko wensiza ethandwayo yezemfundo uMel, uNikita Belogolovtsev, unikeza izimpendulo zakhe.
Ekupheleni konyaka wesikole, abazali banemibuzo ngemfundo yengane yabo. Ubani ongabuza? Uthisha, umqondisi, ikomiti labazali? Kodwa izimpendulo zabo ngokuvamile esisemthethweni futhi musa njalo ivumelane nathi ... Abantu abasha abaningana, abafundi bamuva kanye nabafundi, wadala indawo «Mel», etshela abazali mayelana esikoleni ngendlela ezithakazelisayo, ngokwethembeka futhi kumnandi.
Psychology: Isayithi linonyaka nesigamu ubudala, futhi izethameli zenyanga sezivele zingaphezu kwesigidi, usube umlingani we-Moscow Salon of Education. Ingabe Uyingcweti Yesikole manje? Futhi ngingakubuza noma yimuphi umbuzo njengochwepheshe?
Nikita Belogolovtsev: Ungangibuza umbuzo njengomama wezingane eziningi ezinezingane ezineminyaka engu-7 kuya kwengu-17 ubudala, onesithakazelo ngokweqile kwezemidlalo, yile ndlela ama-algorithms e-inthanethi engichaza ngayo. Eqinisweni, ngisenabantwana ababili abancane, kodwa mina - yebo, sengiqedile kakade inkambo eyisisekelo yokucwiliswa emhlabeni wemfundo yaseRussia.
Futhi uthakazelisa kangakanani lo mhlaba?
Okuyinkimbinkimbi, okungaqondakali, kwesinye isikhathi kuyajabulisa! Hhayi njengomdlalo weqembu lami le-basketball eliyintandokazi, kunjalo, kodwa futhi uyamangalisa.
Ithini idrama yayo?
Okokuqala, ezingeni lokukhathazeka kwabazali. Leli zinga lihluke kakhulu kulokho obaba nomama bethu ababhekana nakho, noma ogogo bethu njengabazali. Kwesinye isikhathi ivele idlulele phezulu. Ukuphila kushintshile ngokwengqondo nangokwezomnotho, isivinini sihlukile, izindlela zokuziphatha zihlukile. Angisakhulumi ngezobuchwepheshe. Abazali bayesaba ukungabi nesikhathi sokwethula okuthile ezinganeni zabo, ukuba sekwephuzile ngokukhetha umsebenzi, hhayi ukuhambisana nesithombe somndeni ophumelelayo. Futhi ubuchwepheshe bezemfundo bushintsha kancane. Noma okukha phezulu. Isikole sinomkhuba ovamile.
Isayithi lakho labazali besimanje. Bayini?
Lesi isizukulwane esijwayele ukuphila ngokunethezeka: imoto ngesikweletu, ukuhamba izikhathi ezimbalwa ngonyaka, ibhange elingumakhalekhukhwini liseduze. Lokhu ngakolunye uhlangothi. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, abagxeki befilimu abahamba phambili babachazela yonke into mayelana ne-auteur cinema, izindawo zokudlela ezihamba phambili - mayelana nokudla, izazi zokusebenza kwengqondo ezithuthukile - mayelana ne-libido ...
Sifinyelele izinga elithile lokuphila, sathuthukisa isitayela sethu, sathola iziqondiso, siyazi ukuthi bazophawula kuphi futhi ngani ngokugunyazwa nangobungane. Bese-ke - bam, izingane ziya esikoleni. Futhi akekho umuntu ongambuza ngesikole. Akekho okhuluma nabazali banamuhla ngendlela ejabulisayo, exakayo, ethokozisayo neyakhayo (njengoba bejwayele) ngesikole. Ukwesaba kuphela. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ulwazi lwangaphambili alusebenzi: akukho lutho olwasetshenziswa abazali bethu - njengesikhuthazo noma njengesisetshenziswa - empeleni alufaneleki imfundo namuhla.
Kunolwazi oluningi kakhulu olunikezwa umzali ofuna ukwazi, futhi oluphikisana kakhulu. Badidekile omama
Okwenezela kubo bonke lobu bunzima inkathi yezinguquko ezinkulu. Bethula i-Unified State Exam — kanye ne-algorithm ejwayelekile «study — graduation — introductory — university» yaphambuka ngaso leso sikhathi! Baqala ukuhlanganisa izikole - ukwethuka okujwayelekile. Futhi yilokho nje okungaphezulu. Manje umzali, njengaleyo centipede, uqala ukungabaza okuyisisekelo: ingane ilethe i-deuce - ukujezisa noma cha? Kunemibuthano eyi-10 esikoleni - yimuphi ongaya kuwo ngaphandle kokuphuthelwa? Kodwa kubaluleke nakakhulu ukuqonda ukuthi kufanele ushintshe amasu abazali nhlobo, yini, cishe, ukutshala imali? Ukuphendula imibuzo enjalo, sakha uMel.
Iningi lemibono kusayithi lakho elokushicilelwe okugxile empumelelweni yomphakathi - indlela yokukhulisa umholi, noma ngabe uzibandakanya ekukhuleni kwezingane ezisencane ...
Yebo, imithetho eyize yabazali lapha! Kodwa imibono engokwenhlalo ehlotshaniswa nenkolo yokuncintisana kanye nokwesaba komama kokungayeki okuthile nakho kunomthelela.
Ingabe ucabanga ukuthi namuhla abazali abanakuzisiza kangangokuthi abakwazi ukuphila ngaphandle kwetilosi ezindabeni zemfundo yesikole?
Namuhla, kunolwazi oluningi kakhulu olunikezwa umzali ofuna ukwazi, futhi oluphikisana kakhulu. Futhi kunengxoxo encane kakhulu ejabulisayo ngezihloko ezithinta yena. Omama badidekile: kukhona izilinganiso zezikole, kukhona ezinye, othile uthatha abafundisi, omunye akakwenzi, kwesinye isikole isimo siyadala, kwesinye isimo esinzima sokusebenza ... Ngesikhathi esifanayo, zonke izingane ezinamagajethi, ezinkundleni zokuxhumana, ezweni abazali abaningi abangaziwa, futhi akunakwenzeka kakhulu ukulawula ukuphila kwabo lapho.
Ngesikhathi esifanayo, kuze kube muva nje, kwakunzima ukucabanga ukuthi abazali bafuna ushintsho kuthisha wekilasi, ukuthi izingane zithathwe ezinsukwini ezintathu ngaphambi kwamaholide futhi "zibuyiselwe" ngemva kwezinsuku ezinhlanu ... , ngamandla, "izinsizakalo zemfundo zamakhasimende" zangempela.
Ngaphambili, imithetho yokuphila yayihlukile, kwakukhona amathuba ambalwa okusebenzisa ngamaholide, izilingo ezimbalwa, futhi igunya likathisha laliphakeme. Namuhla, imibono yezinto eziningi ishintshile, kodwa umqondo wokuthi "amakhasimende ezinkonzo zemfundo" useyinganekwane. Ngoba abazali abakwazi uku-oda noma yini futhi abakwazi ukuthonya lutho. Yebo, ngokuvamile, abanaso isikhathi sokuqonda izindinganiso zemfundo, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi badinga incwadi yomlando eyodwa yabo bonke noma bazivumele zihluke, uthisha uyokhetha.
Khona-ke yini inkinga yabo enkulu?
"Ngabe ngingumama omubi?" Futhi wonke amandla, izinzwa, futhi okubaluleke kakhulu, izinsiza ziya ukucindezela umuzwa wecala. Ekuqaleni, umsebenzi wesiza kwakuwukuvikela abazali ekusebenziseni imali eshisiwe egameni lengane. Sasingazi ukuthi ingakanani imali esetshenziswe ngokungenangqondo. Ngakho sathatha inkululeko yokucacisa isithombe sezwe, sibonise ukuthi yini ongalondoloza kuyo, futhi yini, ngokuphambene nalokho, akufanele inganakwa.
Ngokwesibonelo, abazali abaningi bakholelwa ukuthi umfundisi ongcono kakhulu unguprofesa wasenyuvesi ohlonishwayo (futhi obizayo). Kodwa empeleni, ekulungiseleleni ukuhlolwa, umfundi oyizolo, osanda kuphumelela lesi sivivinyo ngokwakhe, ngokuvamile uwusizo kakhulu. Noma evamile “uma ekhuluma nami ngobuhlakani ngesiNgisi, uzophumelela nakanjani ukuhlolwa.” Futhi lokhu, kuvela, akusona isiqinisekiso.
Enye inganekwane edala izingxabano: «Isikole siyikhaya lesibili, uthisha ungumama wesibili.
Uthisha ngokwakhe uyisithunjwa sezidingo ze-bureaucratic ezilayisha umsebenzi wakhe ngokweqile. Akanayo imibuzo emincane ohlelweni kunabazali bakhe, kodwa kuyena ukuthi bagcine behambile. Awukwazi ukuya kumqondisi, izinkundla zabazali ziyi-hysteria ephelele. Isixhumanisi sokugcina nguthisha. Ngakho-ke ekugcineni unesibopho sokunciphisa amahora ezincwadini, ukuphazamiseka ohlelweni, ukuqoqwa kwemali okungapheli - nokwehlisela phansi ohlwini. Njengoba yena, uthisha, engenandaba nombono wakhe siqu, ngisho nalowo othuthukayo kakhulu, kulula ngaye ukuba asebenzise izingcaphuno ezivela emithethweni nasezindizeni.
Abazali abaningi bakholelwa ukuthi umfundisi ongcono kakhulu unguprofesa wasenyuvesi ohlonishwayo (futhi obizayo). Kodwa lapho ulungiselela ukuhlolwa, ophothule izolo ngokuvamile uwusizo kakhulu
Ngenxa yalokhu, inkinga yezokuxhumana isikhulile: akekho ongasho okuthile kunoma ubani ngolimi olujwayelekile. Ubudlelwano bukathisha nomfundi esimweni esinjena, ngikholwa ukuthi akubona obala kakhulu.
Okungukuthi, abazali abanakho ukuphupha ngokuthembana kwabahlanganyeli enqubweni yemfundo?
Kunalokho, sifakazela ukuthi lokhu kungenzeka uma sizama ukuthola ukungqubuzana okuthile ngokwethu. Isibonelo, funda ngohlobo olunjalo lokuzibusa esikoleni njengeseluleko sabazali futhi uthole ithuluzi langempela lokuhlanganyela empilweni yesikole. Lokhu kuvumela, isibonelo, ukususa indaba yeshejuli yeholide engalungile noma indawo engalungile yokukhethwa kushejuli ku-ajenda futhi kungabheki umuntu ozomsola.
Kodwa umsebenzi wakho oyinhloko ukuvikela abazali ezindlekweni zesimiso semfundo?
Yebo, sithatha uhlangothi lwabazali kunoma yikuphi ukungqubuzana. Uthisha othethisa umfundi ulahlekelwa ukucabangela ubumsulwa ohlelweni lwethu lokuhlanganisa. Phela, othisha banomphakathi oqeqeshiwe, umqondisi ophethe, futhi obani abazali? Ngaleso sikhathi, isikole siyamangalisa, mhlawumbe iminyaka engcono kakhulu yomuntu, futhi uma uzibekela imigomo engokoqobo, ungathola isiphithiphithi sangempela (ngiyazi ngokwami siqu!), guqula iminyaka engu-11 ibe ubuciko bomndeni obuhlangene, thola abantu abanomqondo ofanayo. , vula izinsiza ezinjalo, kuhlanganise nakuzo ngokwazo, abazali abangasolanga ngazo!
Umelela imibono ehlukene, kodwa umzali kusafanele enze ukukhetha?
Yebo kufanele. Kodwa lokhu kuwukukhetha phakathi kwezindlela ezizwakalayo, ngayinye yazo angakwazi ukuzihlanganisa nolwazi lwakhe, amasiko omndeni, intuition, ekugcineni. Futhi yehlisa umoya - ungakwenza lokhu, kodwa ungakwenza ngendlela ehlukile, futhi lokhu akwethusi, umhlaba ngeke ubheke phansi. Ukuqinisekisa lo mphumela wokushicilelwa, sibonisa umbhalo wombhali kochwepheshe ababili noma abathathu. Uma bengenakho ukuphikisa okuqinile, sizobe sesiyishicilela. Lesi yisimiso sokuqala.
Ngingabenqabela abazali leli gama elithi: "Sikhule, futhi lutho." Ithethelela noma yikuphi ukungasebenzi nokunganaki
Umgomo wesibili awukona ukunikeza iziyalezo eziqondile. Yenza abazali bacabange, naphezu kokuthi babala imiyalelo ethile: "okufanele ukwenze uma indodana ingadli esikoleni", iphuzu ngephuzu, sicela. Silwela ukuqinisekisa ukuthi phakathi kokuphelelwa ithemba, ukucasuka kanye nokudideka kubantu abadala, umbono wabo siqu ukhula, uphendukele enganeni, hhayi ekubhekeni imibono.
Thina ngokwethu siyafunda. Ngaphezu kwalokho, abafundi bethu abalali, ikakhulukazi uma kuziwa emfundweni yezocansi. “Lapha uthambekele ekukholweni ukuthi i-ice cap yomfana ijwayelekile, ugxeka inkolelo yobulili. Bese unikeza amafilimu ayi-12 abafana okufanele bawabone, nangu-12 amantombazane. Kufanele ngikuqonde kanjani lokhu?" Ngempela, kufanele singaguquguquki, sicabanga ...
Ake sithi azikho iziqondiso eziqondile - yebo, mhlawumbe, ngeke kube khona. Yini ongayinqabela ngokuphelele abazali?
Imisho emibili. Okokuqala: "Sikhule, futhi akukho lutho." Ithethelela noma yikuphi ukungasebenzi nokunganaki. Abaningi bakholelwa ukuthi isikole saseSoviet sakhulisa abantu abafunde kakhulu, bafundisa eHarvard futhi basheshisa ama-electron ku-collider. Futhi iqiniso lokuthi laba bantu bahamba ndawonye ku-MMM ngandlela thize selikhohliwe.
Futhi inkulumo yesibili: "Ngiyazi ukuthi ngingamjabulisa kanjani." Ngoba, ngokubona kwami, ukusangana komzali kuqala kuye.
Imuphi omunye umgomo abazali abangaba nawo, uma kungeyona injabulo yezingane?
Ukuze ujabule - khona-ke, ngicabanga, konke kuzosebenzela ingane. Hhayi-ke, lowo ngumbono wami.