Okuqukethwe
Kwezinye izimo, ungase uzithole ungenamandla phambi kwemizwa yakho hhayi ngoba ungakwazi ukuyilawula. Ngokomzimba, ungakwazi, kodwa ngokwenhlalo, ngezinye izikhathi awukwazi. Kunemikhawulo yezenhlalo. Lonke isiko lesintu lakhelwe phezu kokuthi imizwa ngokuyinhloko iwukusabela okungenakuzikhethela, futhi ukudluliselwa kwemizwelo esigabeni sezenzo eziqaphelayo nezingenangqondo kuyingozi ngoba kucekela phansi isisekelo sobudlelwane babantu. Ngakho imikhawulo.
Isimo somyeni nomfazi
Umndeni, indoda nomfazi baye baphothula ngempumelelo amakilasi okuphatha imizwelo - futhi bobabili bayazi ukuthi imizwa yomunye manje isilawulwa: iqalwa lapho kudingekile futhi isuswe lapho ingadingeki.
Umyeni wafika ekhaya sekwephuzile kakhulu, akafonanga, inkosikazi yayinganelisekile. Uma umyeni engathandi, angakhuluma kanjani naye? “Tan, usunqume ukungithonya ngokungeneliseki kwakho manje? Khipha ukunganeliseki kwakho, akukufanelanga futhi akuyixazululi indaba, Uma ufuna ukukhuluma, khuluma nobuso obuvamile, bese ukhumula ubuso bakho obungajabulile ngokushesha!” Ngakho? Yile ndlela abantu abangaphili ngayo, yile ndlela isisekelo esivamile sobudlelwane obujwayelekile esishabalala ngayo.
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Isimo ngengane
Futhi kanjani ukuthonya izingane? Ukukhuluma akusizi, abakwazi ukulalela izingxoxo, bavumele badlule ezindlebeni zabo. Izingane zingathonywa ngokungathi sína imizwelo kuphela, kodwa inqobo nje uma izingane zikholelwa ukuthi abazali bazo banemizwelo yangempela. Futhi manje cabanga ngendodana eyeve eshumini nambili iyazi ukuthi unina wathatha izifundo zokulawula imizwelo, unina wayitshela ukuthi kusho ukuthini, futhi manje indodana ixabana nodadewabo, imbiza ngokuthi uyisiwula futhi unamandla. Umama wathi kuye: “Yima!”, Akayeki. Manje umama usemthukuthelele, uthi: “Yima ngokushesha, ngikuthukuthelele!”, Futhi uyamphendula: “Ungathukutheli, mama, uyazi ukuthi ungayilawula kanjani imizwelo yakho? Hlala phansi futhi uphumule, zibeke ngokuhlelekile, imizwa engemihle iyingozi empilweni! ”, Lokhu kwenzeka ezinganeni zezazi zokusebenza kwengqondo. Ngokushesha nje lapho ingane iqaphela ukuthi abazali bayakwazi ngempela ukulawula imizwelo yabo, ngokuyinhloko abazali basuke bengakwazi ukuzisiza phambi komntwana.
Akumele utshele abanye abantu lokhu. Udinga ukuzitshela. Ngezinye izikhathi ungabelana nabangani abaseduze ukuze uhlole ukwethembeka kwangaphakathi, ukuthuthukisa ukwethembeka kwangaphakathi - lokhu ngezinye izikhathi kuyasiza futhi kubalulekile. Kwesinye isikhathi awuboni okuthile kuwena, futhi lapho abasondelene nawe bekutshela ngendlela enobungane ukuthi wenzani ngempela, ungavuma ngekhanda — yebo, uqinisile.