Ouch, kuyodingeka ubeke ubuhlungu bakho ngesineke, “izimpi phakathi komfowethu nodadewenu azinakugwenywa futhi ziyadingeka,” kusho uchwepheshe. Ngezingxabano zabo, izingane zibonisa ukunganeliseki futhi zifuna indawo yazo emkhayeni. ” Ukuxabana kubi ngokuhle! Kodwa nawe unendima ongayidlala. “Kubalulekile ukungenelela kwabazali ukuze izingane zingavaleleki ezingxabanweni zazo, zingalimali futhi zihlomule ngazo,” kuchaza yena. Yebo, akukhona ukujaha ukukhala, kodwa ezinye izimo zidinga ukuthi ungenelele.
Mvikele ekushayweni nasemihuzuko emphefumulweni
Nini ukuhileleka ezingxabanweni zakho? Lapho imikhawulo yeqiwe futhi enye yezingane ezisacathula isengozini yokulimala ngokomzimba noma ngokwengqondo (ngokuthukwa). "Ukwakhiwa kobuntu bakhe nokuzethemba nakho kudlula ebuhlotsheni esinabo nabafowabo nodadewabo, kufanele siqaphele ukuthi ingane ayizizwa ibukelwa phansi", kunezela isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo. Kungani kubaluleke kangaka ukugxambukela ezindabeni zabo? Ukwehluleka ukungenelela kuthathwa njengokugunyazwa kanye nobungozi bokukhiya izingane endimeni engahambisani nazo. Imiphumela: ohlale ewina ingxabano uzizwa egunyazwe ukwenza ngale ndlela, usesikhundleni sokubusa. Lowo ophuma ehluliwe isikhathi ngasinye, uzizwa elahliwe ukudlala ngokuzithoba.
Indima yomlamuleli
“Kungcono sigweme isikhundla sejaji elizochema. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukulalela izingane, ”kweluleka uNicole Prieur. Banikeze indawo yokubeka amagama engxabano yabo, ingane ngayinye ilalele omunye. Bese kuba kuwena ukuthi ubeke imithetho (ukuthayipha, ukuthuka, njll.) Bakhombise uhlangothi oluhle lobudlelwano obunokuthula. Khumbula izikhathi zokusebenzisana okungenzeka babe nazo.
Yiqiniso, akuyona yonke into exazululwa ngegagasi le-wand yomlingo futhi kuzodingeka uqale ngaphezu kwezinsuku ezimbalwa kamuva.
Ungabhekana kanjani nezingxabano zengane yakho?
Ukuphatha izingxabano nesoka lakho esikoleni ...
Okubambayo wukuthi, awukho lapho kufika inhlekelele futhi uzoyifunda yonke indaba lapho ingane yakho ibuya esikoleni inamehlo adabukile. Izindlela ezimbalwa zokumduduza:
Lalela ukwesaba kwakhe (ukulahlekelwa isoka lakhe, engasathandwa …), yehlisa isimo, mqinisekise futhi ubuyisele ukuzethemba kwakhe: “ngoba umngane ekudumaza akusho ukuthi awuyena umuntu. omunye omuhle. Unezimfanelo eziningi ezinhle nabanye abantu abafana nawe. ” Okwakho ukuthi umenze aqonde ukuthi izingxabano ziyingozi yokuzwana futhi asilahlekelwa umngane ngoba sixabene naye.
U-Léa usaxabana nentombi efanayo. Kungani ungandisi umbuthano wakho wabangane? Ngaphandle kokumtshela ngokucacile injongo yalolu hlelo, ungasikisela imisebenzi yangemva kwesikole. Ngale ndlela, uzohlangana nezingane ezintsha futhi abone ukuthi uyakwazi ukuphila ubudlelwano obanelisayo nabanye abantu.
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Uhlele iphathi emnandi yosuku lokuzalwa enamagoda ezimbali, udoba ukuze uthole izipho… Kodwa, ngemva kwemizuzu emihlanu kuphela, u-Mathéo usevele exabana nelinye lamasoka akhe. Isizathu sokungaboni ngaso linye: ingane yakho encane yenqaba ukuboleka indiza enophephela emhlane yayo (ngisho noma into yobugebengu ibingezansi kwebhokisi lamathoyizi futhi ingane yakho ingafuni ukuzijabulisa nayo!) Kukuwe ukubeka imithetho futhi mkhombise ukuthi ukwabelana kunezinhlangothi ezinhle. Ungaphinda uzame isu elaziwayo: ukuchezukisa ukunaka kwabo entweni yengxabano. “Kulungile awufuni ukumboleka indiza engujekamanzi yakho kodwa iliphi ithoyizi osulungele ukumshiya?”, “Ufuna ukudlala ngani?”… umhlabathi ezinsukwini ezimbalwa ngaphambi kwephathi, ngokumcela ukuthi abeke eceleni amathoyizi angeke afune ukuwaboleka kanye nalawo angakwazi ukuwashiya nabangane bakhe abancane ntambama. Isinyathelo esihle sokukhawulela imithombo yokungqubuzana.
Akubuzwa ngokulingisa! Izingxabano zinhle enganeni yakho: ziyisiza ukuba ihlangane nabantu, izazi kangcono ... Futhi zinenzuzo kuwe (yebo, yebo, sikholelwe!), Zikufundisa ... ukubekezela! Futhi lokho kuyimpahla eyigugu kubazali.
Ukufunda “Yekani ukuxabana! ", uNicole Prieur, ed. Albin Michel |