Okuqukethwe
Emhlabeni wanamuhla, ngenkathi sifuna umlingani ophelele, sihlela ukufaka izicelo zokuphola, ukuya ocansini "ngenxa yezempilo" noma "ungenzi lutho." Kuyingozi noma kuwusizo kangakanani ukuxhumana okunjalo kowesifazane? Ingabe bazonikeza amandla noma, ngokuphambene, basuse lezi zamuva? Uchwepheshe wezokwelapha zaseMpumalanga uchaza umbono wakhe.
Kunezinganekwane eziningi kanye nezinganekwane mayelana nengxenye yamandla ocansini: othile uthi ucansi "lwempilo" lunika amandla futhi lunikeza owesifazane ukuzethemba. Abamelene nalo mbono baphikisa ngokuthi indoda "idla" amandla wesifazane. Enye yezinganekwane eziqhakazile imayelana ne "energy worm", lapho indoda ekhohlisayo ifaka emzimbeni wesifazane, futhi impompa amandla akhe eminye iminyaka eyisikhombisa, iwadlulisele kumnikazi.
Kodwa-ke, okuhlangenwe nakho kwangempela kubonisa ukuthi uma owesifazane engena ebudlelwaneni obuseduze obudlulayo, khona-ke angathola kokubili okuvelayo okuhle ngomphumela wokushajwa kabusha, futhi azizwe edangele futhi edumazekile. Indlela yokuqonda ukuthi yini ezokulethela ubulili obuvamile?
Isiko lamaTao lisekelwe embonweni wokuthi abantu banamandla e-chi — «uphethiloli» lapho «sisebenza khona». Ngakho-ke, inketho yokuqala echazwe ukuthola amandla engeziwe e-qi futhi uthuthukise ukujikeleza kwayo, kanti okwesibili, ngokuphambene nalokho, ukulahlekelwa kwe-qi.
isici somzwelo
Uma owesifazane enokwesaba ngaphambi kokungena ebudlelwaneni bocansi, khona-ke isizinda somzwelo sizodla ubungqabavu ngokoqobo. "Ngizolala naye - kuthiwani uma kungelona uthando?", "Uma ngithandana, kodwa yena?", "Ngenqaba, futhi unquma ukuthi ngiyabanda", "Ngokungazelelwe lokhu "ofanayo", futhi ngizomkhumbula? - izigidi zemicabango ngalesi sihloko zingakuncisha injabulo ngesikhathi sokusondelana, ngaphambi nangemva kwale nqubo.
Okufanele ngikwenze? Okuningi kwalokhu kwesaba kusekelwe ekungazethembini, okusingathwa kangcono kakhulu ngomsebenzi wokusebenza kwengqondo. Isibonelo, ungaqala ngamamanyuwali noma amasemina ukuze uthuthukise ukuzethemba. Umsebenzi wakho ukususa ukungaqiniseki nokungabaza, funda ukuzilalela futhi uqonde ukuthi udinga ukusondelana okwamanje noma cha. Uma ususithathile isinqumo, uzokwazi ukucwila kulo mkhuba ngekhanda lakho - ngaphandle kokukhathazeka okungadingekile ngekusasa, okungashintsha cishe noma yimuphi umcimbi opholile ube yingcindezi enkulu.
isimo samandla
Ngokusho komuthi weTaoist, impilo incike enanini le-qi kanye nekhwalithi yokujikeleza kwayo. Kalula nje, uma umuntu enamandla amaningi futhi angakwazi ukujikeleza ngokukhululekile emzimbeni - okungukuthi, umzimba "uyageleza", ukhululekile futhi uguquguqukayo - unamathuluzi amaningi okuthola amandla engeziwe. Ezweni lezezimali, kukhona isifaniso esilula futhi esiqondakalayo - imali emalini. Futhi amandla emandleni.
Ngakho-ke, uma wena nomlingani wakho niya ocansini nisesimweni esinamandla nesijabule, khona-ke le nqubo izoletha kokubili imali eyengeziwe yamandla. Kubantu abagcwaliswe kanjalo, abanomdlandla, ucansi luhle, luyathandeka futhi lumnandi. Bangena esimweni esishubile esigqamile, bondlana futhi benothisa. Ngemva kokuxhumana okunjalo, kuba nokwanda kwamandla namandla.
Uma owesifazane esesimweni esidabukile, ubulili buzothatha kuphela amandla engeziwe
Inketho ephambene: owesifazane uzizwa enesizungu, edabukile, edidekile, akazi ukuthi enzeni. “Konke lokhu kungenxa yokuntula ubulili,” kusho abangane abakhathalelayo. Futhi unquma ukulungisa isimo sakhe ngosizo lokuxhumana okudlulayo. Ngokwemvelo, esimweni esinjalo esicekeleke phansi, ubulili buzothatha amandla engeziwe - futhi ngeke ukwazi ukuhlangabezana nokulindela.
Okufanele ngikwenze? Yilapho umqondo "wokuzinakekela" ungena khona. Ukuzibandakanya ezenzweni zocansi ongazisebenzisa njengomuthi kuyingozi ngokwanele ukuzijabulisa. Kunezindlela eziningana eziphephile zokwandisa insiza yakho yamandla, ukufudumala ubulili bakho futhi wengeze umlilo ekubukeni kwakho. Okokuqala - ukubhucungwa okuhlukahlukene, ukwelashwa kwe-spa, imikhuba yokuphumula.
Ukuzola nokuzethemba emkhakheni wezocansi kuzovumela hhayi kuphela ukujabulela ucansi, kodwa futhi nokuthola umlingani womphefumulo
Inketho esheshayo "yokufudumala" okunjalo kobulili yimikhuba ye-Taoist yabesifazane: izivivinyo eziletha amandla amaningi emzimbeni futhi zijwayele ukujikeleza kwayo, ikakhulukazi endaweni ye-pelvic. Ngenxa yalokhu, i-libido, ukuzwela kanye nokuzwela kuyanda. Abesifazane abaningi bathi njengoba isimo sabo samandla sikhula, kanjalo nokuzethemba kwabo kuyakhula - ngakho-ke kwezinye izimo, imikhuba yeTaoist ingathatha indawo yokusebenza nodokotela wezengqondo.
Yiqiniso, lokhu akusho ukuthi bonke abesifazane kufanele babe ocansini nabalingani abaningi. Kodwa ukuzola nokuzethemba emkhakheni wezocansi, ukuqonda ukuthi yini ngempela nokuthi kungani uyidinga, kuzokuvumela ukuthi ungagcini nje ukujabulela ubulili, kodwa futhi uthole umlingani wakho womphefumulo. Phela, ngokushesha noma kamuva uzothanda othile, futhi uzofuna ukulala naye. Futhi ukuthi lobu budlelwano buzoba isikhathi esingakanani, impilo izokhombisa.