Okuqukethwe
Ukuzihlukanisa nomuntu omthandayo - yini engaba mnandi kakhulu? Sekuyisikhathi sokuthi sazane kangcono. Ungakuhlukanisa kanjani ukuzijabulisa kocansi endaweni eyodwa, ugcine isifiso futhi ugcine izinyathelo zokuphepha embhedeni, ngaphandle kokudebeselela imithetho yokuzihlukanisa?
Ocansini nokuvusa inkanuko, umongo ubaluleke kakhulu: kwenzekani kuwena njengamanje. “Uma ubopha ingane yakho izicathulo bese isithandwa sakho sikushaya ngempama endaweni ethambile, kuyacasula. Futhi uma ekushaya lapho nenza uthando, ukubheka njengesenzo sobulili,” kubhala u-Emily Nagoski encwadini ethi How a Woman Wants.
Ukungqubuzana phakathi komongo nesimo kuvame ukubonakala. Isibonelo, uma ufika ephathini yezingane bese ubona owesifazane egqoke ngokungagwegwesi, enziwe ngendlela egqamile futhi edlala ngothando nobaba, ungase uzizwe ucasukile ngoba umongo (iholide lezingane) kanye nemodeli yokuziphatha, isimo somuntu othile asihambisani. .
Ukuzihlukanisa ngenkani kuyawuthinta ngempela umongo, futhi ubudlelwano bethu bocansi bungaphazamiseka. Uma ngaphambili «sasiphila» izimpilo eziningana ezahlukene ngosuku olulodwa - umzali, umngane womshado, isisebenzi, isithandwa - manje sihlala sisesimweni esifanayo.
Kunzima kakhulu, ukuchitha usuku lonke kuma-leggings kanye ne-bun ekhanda lakho, ukuze ube i-tigress enothando kusihlwa! "Sivula" kanjani i-Monica Bellucci yangaphakathi?
Ukwenza ngokwengqikithi
"Ukuze ushintshe ngempumelelo phakathi kwezifunda, kubalulekile ukukhumbula umongo. Ziqeqeshe ukuze ushintshe izindlela: "Ngingumzali", "Ngingumthandi", "Ngingumlingani", "Ngingumholi", "Ngingumsebenzi," kusho isazi sezocansi uMaria Shelkova.
Ezimweni zamanje, akulula, kodwa kuwufanele ukuzama. Kungase kudinge umzamo othile, kodwa ukuze kube lula, landela amacebiso awusizo. Phela, umongo awusona nje isimo esithile, kodwa futhi imvelo ekuzungezile.
Hlukanisa indawo yakho yasekhaya ibe yizindawo lapho into eyodwa ivunyelwe, kodwa enye ingavunyelwe. Isibonelo, ungaba nezingxoxo ezingathi sína noma zansuku zonke nomyeni wakho ekhishini noma endaweni yehhovisi, kodwa akufanele neze uzidlulisele embhedeni. Uma ulandela lo mthetho, umbhede womshado uzoba indawo yakho yokuphumula nokuzijabulisa. Futhi lokhu kuzosiza ukuhlanganisa indima yenkosikazi - uma usekamelweni, "kusho uchwepheshe.
Ukuphepha kwekamelo lokulala
Imithetho yokuvimbela inzalo isalokhu ifana neyangaphambi kokuvalelwa yedwa, kodwa kufanele ilandelwe ngokuqinile nangokwengeziwe, ukholelwa uMaria Shelkova.
“Uma usubambe isifo esingajabulisi, uzotshala amasosha omzimba ngokushesha. Futhi uma kungazelelwe ngesikhathi sokuvalelwa uhlangane nozakwethu omusha (isibonelo, ku-inthanethi noma kuhlelo lokusebenza oluku-inthanethi), mcele ukuthi ahlole i-coronavirus. Lokhu kuvamile, uzothula ngale ndlela,” kuxwayisa uchwepheshe.
Futhi ukuzola nokuzethemba kuzokusiza nakanjani uphumule futhi ujabule.
Ungayinaki imithetho yokuphepha noma ngabe usuthole enye ingxenye yakho isikhathi eside. Kungase kuzwakale kuhlekisa, kodwa khumbula: I-WHO itusa ukuhlanzwa okumanzi njalo nokufaka umoya egumbini.
“Cabanga ngokubulala amagciwane ekamelweni ngezibani ze-quartz,” kweluleka isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo. Lokhu ngeke neze kubulale ezothando, ngokungafani namagciwane ayingozi namabhaktheriya. Ngaphezu kwalokho, umyeni othatha i-mop angavusa izifiso eziningi ezintsha kuwe.
Isikhathi sokuzama okuthile okusha
Ake sithi wena nophathina wakho ningene shí emcabangweni wokuthatha iholide eliphoqelelwe embhedeni. Futhi njengamanje yisikhathi sokuzama okuthile ongazange ube nesibindi sokukwenza ngaphambili. U-Maria Shelkova uqinisekile: namuhla ungakwazi ukukhokhela yonke into, kahle, noma cishe yonke into. Into eyinhloko ukugcina izinyathelo zokuphepha futhi nivumelane ngalokho okuvunyelwe ogwini.
UMaria Shelkova unikeza ama-hacks amaningana empilo kulabo abafuna ukusinda ukuzehlukanisa ngokuphazima kweso:
- Manje imboni ye-virtual reality iyathuthuka. Ungakwazi uku-oda umakalabha we-VR ekhaya futhi uyisebenzisele ukuhlola okuqukethwe "kwabantu abadala", uphile isipiliyoni obungeke ube naso empilweni yangempela. Eqinisweni, lokhu kungenzeka, akekho ozokwahlulela - kungumdlalo nje, futhi kwabaningi kuzoba ukutholwa okungokomzwelo okukhanyayo. Unga-oda omakalabha ababili futhi ujabule nozakwenu.
- Ungazama ukudlala indima. I-wardrobe yonke isesandleni sakho - shintsha indlela obukeka ngayo ekujabuleleni kwakho.
- Oda amathoyizi esitolo socansi ku-inthanethi osekunesikhathi eside aheha ukunaka kwakho. Ngokuvamile kunencazelo namathiphu wabaqalayo. Zingasetshenziswa ngokwehlukana, kanye nokuvuselela okwengeziwe ngesikhathi socansi nomlingani.
- Okuhlangenwe nakho kocansi okuvalwe amehlo kuzothuthukisa imizwa ethintekayo: izokhanya izikhathi eziningi.
- Okokugcina, ngenxa yentshisekelo, ungazama izindlela ezilula ezivela kusiko le-BDSM. Okubaluleke kakhulu ukukhumbula ukuphepha. Akukho ukushaywa kanzima: gwema izindawo lapho ithambo liseduze nesikhumba; ungashaya kuphela lapho kunemisipha emikhulu. Akukho ukubopha okuqinile - amabhande abanzi kuphela namaribhoni. Ukuze uzijwayeze ngokungathi sína, udinga ukuqeqeshwa okukhethekile. Ukunakekela umlingani wakho nokulandela imithetho ku-BDSM kuyinto ebaluleke kakhulu.
Angifuni lutho!
Kungase futhi kwenzeke ukuthi sisondele ngokuzibophezela ekuzihlukaniseni: salalela okuhle, sathenga amathoyizi nezinto zokuvimbela inzalo - kodwa asikho isifiso ... Siyaziluma ngokwethu: ingabe iholidi eliphoqelelwe liyahamba? Njengoba siwele ethukile, sizama ukwenza yonke into “ngendlela efanele” (ngemuva kwakho konke, kuyithuba elihle, noma kunjalo, asijahile), siqala ukuhlupha umlingani wethu noma thina.
“Sithenge amathoyizi — mabaqambe amanga! Idola selikhulile, ngakho-ke ukuthengwa kunenzuzo, vumela ukufudumala umphefumulo. Kodwa ukuziphoqa ukuba siye ocansini kuyinto eyingozi kakhulu esingayenzela i-libido. Akumele kube nodlame olumelene nawe kanye nabanye ngendlela esondelene! Yebo, kwesinye isikhathi isifiso sokudla siza nokudla, kepha akukhona ukuthi ulwe nawe futhi ubeke izifiso zakho kobathandayo, ”kusho uchwepheshe.
Yini okufanele siyenze uma njengamanje, lapho, kubonakala sengathi, yisikhathi semarathon yothando, singazizwa njengezifiso zase-Afrika nhlobo?
“Esimeni esicindezelayo, ukunakekelwa kanye nomuzwa wokulondeka kubalulekile. Ziningi izindlela zokuzinakekela wena nabanye ngaphandle kokuhlangana,” kukhumbuza uMaria Shelkova.
Singamane siphulule othandekayo wethu, sinwaye ngemva kwendlebe yakhe, sigone ngaphansi kwengubo, sicoshe izincwadi zethu esizithandayo. Dansela "i-lingerie efanayo." Futhi ukuthi ukungena noma cha, akubalulekile kangako. “Uma sizinika inkululeko yokufuna ucansi, kumele sinikeze isithandwa sethu inkululeko yokungafuni ukuya ocansini, siphinde senze okufanayo. Ngaphandle kwalokho, inkululeko yethu ayinalutho, "uqinisekile uMaria Shelkova.