Okuqukethwe
Kungani abantu abaphumelelayo, abahlakaniphile bevele baye kubabhuli nakubathakathi? Kubonakala sengathi sifuna umuntu ozosenzela isinqumo, njengasebuntwaneni, lapho abantu abadala benquma yonke into. Kodwa asisezona izingane. Uvelaphi umqondo wokuthi kungcono ukunikeza umthwalo wemfanelo wezimpilo zethu kulabo “ababazi konke kangcono kunathi”?
Manje u-Alexander uneminyaka engu-60 ubudala. Ngesinye isikhathi, esengumfana, yena nodadewabo bahlala ocingweni futhi badla i-apula elimnandi. Ukhumbula kahle lolo suku, ngisho nabebekugqokile bobabili. Lahamba ikhehla endleleni lajika laya endlini yabo. Abazali babephatha isihambi ngenhlonipho nangenhlonipho.
Ingxoxo yayimfushane ngokwanele. Ikhehla lathi umfana uzohamba ngomkhumbi olwandle (futhi lena kwakuyidolobhana elikude laseSiberia, okwaholela ekungabazeni), ukuthi wayezoshada kusenesikhathi, futhi ku-heterodox, nokuthi uzohlala engumfelokazi. Le ntombazane yabikezelwa ikusasa elihle: umndeni oqinile, ukuchuma kanye nezingane eziningi.
Umfana wakhula futhi waya kofunda edolobheni elikhulu, lapho okukhethekile kwakhe “kwakungengozi” okuhlobene nolwandle. Washeshe washada, intombazane evela kwelinye ihlelo. Futhi umfelokazi. Wabe eseshada futhi. Futhi umfelokazi futhi.
Udade wahamba ngendlela ehluke ngokuphelele: umshado omfushane hhayi owothando, isehlukaniso, ingane eyodwa, isizungu impilo yonke.
ukutheleleka ngengqondo
Kusukela ebuntwaneni, besijwayele ukukholelwa kuSanta Claus, ezindabeni zemilingo, ezimangalisweni.
Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo u-Anna Statsenko siyachaza: “Izingane zithatha imiyalezo nezimo zengqondo zabazali ngaphandle kwemibandela, zamukele imibono yezwe yalabo abaseduze kwazo,” kuchaza isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo u-Anna Statsenko, “Ingane iyakhula. Ebhekene nezimo ezihlukahlukene zokuphila, yena, kusukela engxenyeni yakhe yobuntwana, ufuna umuntu akwazi ukunquma: indlela yokwenza, yini ngempela okudingeka yenziwe, ukuthi izophepheka kanjani. Uma kungekho muntu endaweni ombono wakhe ingxenye yengane ingawethemba ngokuphelele, ukusesha kuyaqala.
Futhi-ke labo abahlale futhi konke bazi kusengaphambili, bebikezela ngokuzethemba ikusasa, bangene esenzweni. Bonke labo esibanikeza isikhundla somuntu obalulekile nonegunya.
“Baya kubo ukuze bazikhulule emthwalweni wemfanelo, ukucindezeleka ngenxa yokwesaba ukwenza iphutha,” kuqhuba isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo. - Ukuze omunye umuntu akhethe futhi akutshele ukuthi kanjani nokuthi yini okufanele uyenze ukuze unciphise izinga lokukhathazeka, uthole ukuqiniswa okuhle. Futhi ukuze umuntu omdala obalulekile aqinisekise: "Ungesabi, konke kuzolunga."
Ukubucayi kuleli phuzu kuncishisiwe. Ulwazi luthathwa kalula. Futhi kukhona okungenzeka ukuthi umuntu "uzotheleleka ngengqondo". Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukwethulwa kohlelo lwe-alien kwesinye isikhathi kwenzeka ngokungabonakali ngokuphelele, ezingeni lokuquleka.
Sixhumana sisebenzisa amagama, ngalinye eliphethe umbhalo othile wekhodi, umyalezo osobala nofihliwe, kusho u-Anna Statsenko:
“Ulwazi lungena ezingeni lokuphaphama kanye nasekuqulekeni. Ukwazi kunganciphisa lolu lwazi, kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo, ukuquleka kuzokhipha embhalweni leyo fomethi nesiqeshana esingamukelwa nge-prism yolwazi lomuntu siqu kanye nomlando womndeni nomndeni. Bese kuqala ukusesha kwamasu okusebenzisa ulwazi olutholiwe. Kunengozi enkulu yokuthi esikhathini esizayo umuntu ngeke enze ngenkululeko yakhe yokuzikhethela, kodwa emigomeni etholwe ngomlayezo.
Ukuthi igciwane lomlayezo lizomila ngokushesha kangakanani nokuthi igciwane lomlayezo lizomila yini izimpande kuncike ekutheni ingabe kukhona inhlabathi evundile ekuqulekile kwethu ukuze uthole ulwazi olunjalo. Futhi-ke leli gciwane lizofinyelela ukwesaba, ukwesaba, ukulinganiselwa komuntu siqu nezinkolelo, kusho u-Anna Statsenko.
Ngabe impilo yalaba bantu ngabe yenzeke kanjani ngaphandle kokunciphisa izibikezelo? Kunini lapho silahla khona indlela yethu, ukukhetha kwethu kweqiniso, ngenxa yesibikezelo? Lapho kwaba ukuthembela kuwe, ephakeme «I» yakho elahlekile?
Ake sizame ukukuthola futhi sithuthukise i-antidote ngezinyathelo ezi-5.
Ikhambi legciwane
Isinyathelo esisodwa: funda ukuthembela esikhundleni lapho uxhumana nomuntu: Ngingumuntu omdala kanti Omunye ungumuntu omdala. Ukuze wenze lokhu, udinga ukuhlola ingxenye yakho yabantu abadala.
“Isimo esidala yileso lapho umuntu eqaphela futhi ehlola ngokuhlakanipha izingozi zanoma isiphi isenzo sakhe, ekulungele ukuziphendulela ngalokho okwenzekayo ekuphileni kwakhe,” kuchaza u-Anna Statsenko. - Ngesikhathi esifanayo, wenza amasu ahlukahlukene esimweni esithile.
Kulesi simo, umuntu unquma ukuthi yini engelona iqiniso kuye, lapho efuna ukwakha inqaba yomoya. Kodwa lokhu ukubheka njengokungathi uvela ngaphandle, egwema ukuhoxa ngokuphelele kule mibono ekhohlisayo noma ekwenqabeleni kwabazali.
Ukuhlola ingxenye yami yabantu abadala kusho ukuhlola ukuthi ngingakwazi yini ukwenza amasu ngedwa, ngizibophezele ngalokho okwenzeka kimina, ukuxhumana nokwesaba kwami neminye imizwa, ngizivumele ukuba ngiphile ngayo.
Ngingabheka yini enye, ngaphandle kokulinganisa ukubaluleka kwayo, kodwa ngaphandle kokuyinciphisa, kusukela esikhundleni se-I-omdala kanye Nomunye-Omdala. Ngingakwazi ukuhlukanisa imibono yami engelona iqiniso?
Isinyathelo ezimbili: funda ukugxeka ulwazi olutholwe ngaphandle. Okubalulekile - lokhu akukona ukwehla, hhayi ukugxeka, kodwa njengenye yemibono echaza izenzakalo.
Sikulungele ukwamukela ukwaziswa kwabanye, kodwa sikuthatha njengenye yezinkolelo-mbono, sikunqabele ngomoya ophansi uma kungamelani nokuhlolwa.
Isinyathelo sesithathu: ukubona ukuthi esicelweni sami Komunye kukhona yini isifiso esingazi lutho sokuzikhulula emsebenzini. Uma kunjalo, zibuyisele esikhundleni somuntu omdala.
Isinyathelo Sesine: qaphela isidingo engisanelisa ngokuphendukela Komunye. Ingabe umuntu engimkhethile uyakwazi ngempela ukwanelisa lesi sidingo?
Isinyathelo Sesihlanu: funda ukunquma isikhathi sokwethulwa kwegciwane. Ezingeni lokushintsha isimo. Isibonelo, uvele wahleka futhi ugcwele amandla, kodwa ngemva kwengxoxo nozakwenu, u-melancholy, ukungakholelwa kuwe kwanqwabelana. Kwenzenjani? Ingabe isimo sami noma isimo sozakwethu esidluliselwe kimi? Kungani ngiyidinga? Ingabe ikhona imishwana engxoxweni ezwakala ikhethekile?
Ngokuhlala sithintana nengxenye yethu yabantu abadala, singakwazi ukuvikela kokubili umntwana wangaphakathi kanye nathi ngokwethu eziprofethweni ezizigcwalisayo nakwezinye izingozi ezingaba khona zalolu hlobo.