Esimweni socansi lwe-BDSM, ubuhlungu buyithuluzi elibalulekile lokuthola injabulo. Ubugqila, iziswebhu nokushaywa, izindlela ezitholakala kozakwethu ziningi. Indlela yokwenza i-sadomasochism ngaphandle kwengozi? Ingabe i-sadomasochist idinga ukuba sezinhlungwini ukuze ijabulele? Isibuyekezo ngalo mkhuba wocansi oyimpikiswano.

I-Sadomasochism ayisho ngempela umkhuba wocansi. Ekuqaleni, ihlobene nobuntu bomuntu ngamunye. I-Sadism ihlanganisa ukujabulela ukwenza umonakalo, ezingeni elingokwenyama noma elingokwengqondo: i-sadist ijabulela - ucansi noma cha - ekwenzeni umuntu wesithathu ahlupheke futhi ambone ezwa ubuhlungu. Ngenkathi i-sadism, i-masochism ihlanganisa ingxenye yayo ebuhlungu bothando: i-masochist ifuna ukuzibona ibuhlungu ngokomzimba. I-Sadomasochism ingumphumela wokuhlangana komuntu onosizi kanye nomuntu onama-masochist, futhi ngokwemvelo isho ubudlelwano bokubusa nokubusa.

Uma i-sadomasochism ivezwa kumongo wobulili, ukululazeka, ukubusa nokuzithoba kusetshenziswa njengama-vectors okuzijabulisa ngokomzimba: abalingani bafinyelela ku-orgasm ngokuzwa ubuhlungu. 

Udlame lwamazwi nokuhlukunyezwa ngokomzimba

Ukubangela ubuhlungu, abathandi basebenzisa amasu ahlukahlukene. Ukuhlupheka okulethwayo kungase kube ngokwengqondo noma ngokomzimba: inhlamba nemiyalo kulo mongo isebenza njengokushaywa noma ukushaya.

Ingabe i-sadomasochism kufanele iholele ebuhlungu?

Sekuyisikhathi eside kubhekwa umkhuba wocansi ongajwayelekile futhi ohlanekezelwe, i-sadomasochism ekuqaleni ihlose ubuhlungu. Ngokwenza intando yeningi, lolu hlobo lwezocansi olukhululekile luba lula: ubudlelwano bokubusa kuphela obuhlala buyisithako esibalulekile. Uma i-sadomasochist ingafaki noma izwa ukuhlupheka ngokomzimba, iyahambisa noma ihanjiswe ukuze ithole ibhalansi elinganayo yamandla.

Ucansi oluthambile lwe-BDSM, kungenzeka?

Izenzo ze-sadomasochist eziqinisekisiwe zisebenza ngohlaka olucacile: abathandi baba yinkosi nesigqila, futhi basebenzisa izesekeli ezingashiyi ukungabaza ngenjongo yabo. Ozankosi, ama-swifts, amaketanga, izitshalo zokugibela, imaski kanye nezinto okufanele zifakwe emigodini yokubuswa, umongo ubhekwa njengonzima. Kodwa-ke, ezinye izinhlobo ze-sadomasochism zingatholakala ukuze ziguqule injabulo: ukuboshwa, okwenziwe ngobumnene, kungaholela enjabulweni esimweni sokuzithoba njengesibonelo. Ngokunjalo, ukuya ocansini uvale amehlo kufana nomkhuba we-sadomasochistic wokuthi umlingani oyedwa kuphela ohola umdanso, kodwa akusho ukuthi kunencazelo ephambukayo. 

Njengakwi-fetishist, kuvamile ukuzibuza ngobulili be-sadomasochist. Ingabe lokhu kuthambekela kuyindlela yokuhlola engase ithole uhlobo olusha lwenjabulo noma ingabe ubuhlungu budingeka ngempela ukuze i-sadomasochist izwe injabulo? Eqinisweni, konke kuncike embonweni lapho ozakwethu abenza i-sadomasochism abazithola bekuyo.

Kwesinye isikhathi, i-SM ethambile ingaba yindlela yokunonga ubulili bomuntu njengombhangqwana. Uma izithandani zizijwayeza i-sadomasochism ngokukhethekile, ngakolunye uhlangothi, akusewona umdlalo ovusa inkanuko kodwa indlela yokubonisa ubulili balo mbhangqwana. Kuleli zinga, abanye abantu bayehluleka ukuhlukanisa injabulo yobulili nobuhlungu. 

Okuhlobene nobuhlungu, i-sadomasochism kufanele iphathwe ngokucophelela. Ubuhlungu obunamandla kakhulu bungaba ibhuleki enjabulweni yocansi, futhi ngaphezu kwalokho, kube nezingozi ezikhona ngokwempilo yezithandani. Kuleli zinga, kubalulekile ukuthi ubudlelwano be-sadomasochistic bubekwe ngokuqinile. Eminye imibhangqwana isebenzisa indlela ethile yomlomo, eyake yakhulunywa yisithandwa esibusayo iqeda ngokushesha ubuhlobo bobulili ukuze kugwenywe ubuhlungu obungabekezeleleki.

Qaphela: imvume yozakwethu ababili bezithandani iyimfuneko ebalulekile. Ngaphandle kwalokho, i-sadomasochism icindezelwa umthetho wobugebengu.