Ukuxhumana nawe futhi unqobe ukwesaba kwakho kuzokusiza ukubeka kuqala impilo yakho. Ungesabi ukukhetha, ungesabi ukuba nguwe. Kungase kuvele ukuthi kukho konke ukuphila kwakho ubulokhu wenqaba okuthile okubaluleke ngempela. Nokho, akukephuzi kakhulu ukulungisa izinto.
1. Amagama agqamile
Thatha ishidi lephepha, ubhale phansi kulo: "Izifiso zami eziyinhloko" - futhi uqoke ngamunye wabo ngegama elingukhiye elilodwa. Ungazikhawuli futhi ungazami ukubonakala emehlweni akho njengomunye umuntu. Noma ngabe kuyini: umndeni, umsebenzi, izinto zokuzilibazisa noma impilo yomuntu siqu - lezi yizidingo zakho. Lesi kuzoba yisiqalo sazo zonke ezinye izinqumo okuzomele zenziwe.
2. Impilo yomuntu siqu
Kwabaningi bethu, ukuphila komuntu siqu kungenye yezinto ezibalulekile ezibalulekile. Kodwa endaweni yemizwa, izinto zivame ukuba nzima. Uma uzizwa unganelisekile, zibuze: ushoda ngani? Mhlawumbe isikhathi nabathandekayo, ukunakwa noma lezimanga. Bhala phansi izidingo zakho.
Bese ukhuluma nesithandwa sakho somphefumulo. Yenzani lokhu ngesikhathi lapho nobabili nizizwa kahle. Qala ngezici ezinhle zobudlelwano bakho, bese ubhala lokho okushodayo. Ungafuni impendulo esheshayo kothandekayo wakho. Kunalokho, mcele ukuba azibuze imibuzo efanayo, bese ubuyela kule ngxoxo.
Ngemva kokuba nobabili nizihlonze izidingo zenu, bhekani izixazululo eningase nizisebenzise ndawonye. Bese uthatha isinyathelo - wonke umuntu uzokwenza lokhu ngokwakhe.
Ngemva kwesikhathi sesilingo enivumelana ngaso ngokwehlukana - makube yisikhathi ozibekela sona - thatha isitoko. Xoxa uma wenelisekile ngomphumela. Ingabe ningcono ndawonye? Ingabe kukhona okunye okungathuthukiswa? Khumbula nje ukuthi umgomo wakho awukona ukusola umlingani wakho ngamaphutha akhe, kodwa ukwenza ubuhlobo bujabule.
3. Icwecwe lamakhono
Beka eceleni ubusuku bamahhala kulokhu, lungiselela ipeni nencwajana yokubhalela. Thatha izinto ezizokusiza ukhumbule okwedlule: izithombe, izikhumbuzo ... Khumbula izikhathi lapho wawujabule khona, ujabule, ukuziqhenya, ukwaneliseka. Yini ebahlanganisayo? Wenzeni?
Mhlawumbe ukujabulele ukupheka, noma ukuhola abantu, noma ukuba nobuciko. Lawa ngamathalenta akho. Zikeke ebhukwini lokubhalela futhi uzibophezele ekubhaleni ukuchitha isikhathi uzithuthukisa. Cabangela ukuthi ungalithola kuphi ikhono lakho empilweni.
4. Ukufakwa emsebenzini
Ngokubona izimo zengqondo engazi lutho, sinciphisa ithonya lazo.
“Yiba uphelele.” Ukwesaba ukungawenzi umsebenzi ngendlela efanele kukwenza ubheke amaphutha kuwo futhi kuholela ekwandeni kokukhathazeka kanye nokufuna imvume kubaphathi. Kungcono ukuthatha ubungozi obusesilinganisweni kunokumosha amandla ekuhloleni kabili okungapheli.
“Yenza umzamo.” Inkolelo yokuthi injabulo nomsebenzi akuhambisani: “awukwazi ngisho nokukhipha inhlanzi echibini ngaphandle komzamo.” Mhlawumbe ucabanga ukuthi okuza kalula akusebenzi nhlobo. Lesi simo sengqondo siholela ekutubekeni ngokomzwelo. Nikeza okuncamelayo kumaphrojekthi lapho ungathola khona amakhono.
“Yiba nomusa kakhulu.” Isimo sengqondo esisiphoqa ukuba sinakekele abanye ngokulahlekelwa thina. Ngenxa yalokho, ngokuvamile sizithola singemuva kwabo bonke abanye abavunyelwa ngomusa ukuba bangene kuqala. Umphumela uwukunganeliseki nokuntuleka kokukhula komsebenzi. Uma lokhu kuzwakala kujwayelekile kuwe, yisikhathi sokufunda ukuthi cha.
“Kufanele uqine.” Kusibangela ukuba sihluleke ngokwethukela ngobuso betshe, singanaki imizwa engemihle. Kuzwakala kuwumbono omuhle, kodwa qaphela: lokhu kuziphatha kungaheha abaphathi abanonya. Kungcono ufunde ukuphendula imizwa yakho futhi uyibonise.
“Woza masinyane”. Ukukhathazeka mayelana nesikhathi esichithiwe - kanye nombuthano ononya wokungabi nangqondo nokukhathazeka okukudalayo. Ukukhathazeka kusivimbela ekugxileni, futhi ukuphazamiseka kusenza sizizwe sinecala ngokungakhiqizi ngokwanele.
Umphumela wukungazihloniphi, ngoba sizibekela izinga eliphezulu kakhulu futhi asifinyeleli kulo. Kulokhu, kufanele wehlise ijubane futhi uthole ukuthi yini onekhono kuyo.