Ukhathele ingcindezi, noma umuzwa wombhedo womsebenzi wakho wamanje, ufuna ukushintsha imisebenzi? Inselele okungelula njalo ukuhlangabezana nayo... Ikakhulukazi lapho ukwesaba okuthile kusivimbela, lapho izinkolelo ezithile ezikhawulelayo zisivimba. Njengoba sibhekene nokuqeqeshwa kabusha kochwepheshe, umcabango wokungalondeki ngokwezinto ezibonakalayo ungasiholela ngokusobala ekungabazeni. Futhi okwamanje. Ukuvikeleka kwangaphakathi nakho kubalulekile. Yenza uhlelo lokusebenza, phendula kangcono ezifisweni zakho, zuza ukuzethemba: izinyathelo eziningi zokushintsha indlela yokuphila yobungcweti ngaphandle kokukhathazeka kakhulu. Umqeqeshi wokuzithanda, uNathalie Valentin, imininingwane, ye Ipasipoti yezempilo, ukwesaba ukuthi ngokuvamile kubalulekile ukuqeda ...

«Ngiphelezela umuntu oqala ukuqeqeshwa kabusha, kusho uNathalie Valentin. Wayesevele esethuthukile ekucabangeni kwakhe lapho engithinta: Ngamsiza kakhulu ukuthi angenele, futhi ashiye umqashi wakhe ukuze ethule iphrojekthi yakhe. Ngaphambili, ubesebenzela inkampani enkulu yokunyathelisa. Manje usezohlanganyela ekwelulekeni, nabasubathi nabazali babasubathi…U-Nathalie Valentin ungumqeqeshi wokuzithanda, futhi uthole isitifiketi kusukela ngo-April 2019. Usebenzisa amathuluzi ahambisanayo njengohlelo lwe-neuro-linguistic, ukuxhumana okungenalo udlame, noma ukuhlaziya okwenziwayo ...

Naye wathatha izintambo eminyakeni embalwa edlule. Ngo-2015, wabe eseqashwe ngenkontileka engapheli emkhakheni wedijithali, lapho enza khona izicelo zama-smartphones, nokho wayehola iholo elihle… "Kodwa ngaqaphela ukuthi engangikwenza kwakungaseyona izindinganiso zami zokuziphatha. Nganginesithukuthezi emsebenzini, hhayi ngoba ngingenanto yokwenza, kodwa ngenxa yokuthi nganginesithukuthezi ngalokho engangikwenza… Akuzange kungenze ngidlidlizele!“Akulula ngaso sonke isikhathi ukukuvuma! Ikakhulukazi njengoba inkampani isiphusha kakhulu embonweni wokuthi “ukuba nomsebenzi omuhle, inkontileka ehlala njalo, iholo elihle, lokho kuvikeleka“… Nokho, uNathalie Valentin uthi: empeleni, umuzwa wokulondeka uvela ngaphakathi. Ngakho-ke, singazuza ukuzethemba, futhi sazi ukuthi noma yini eyenzekayo, sizokwazi ukuphindela emuva.

Ukwesaba okuhlukile kungavezwa lapho kubhekene noshintsho olukhulu njengokuqeqeshwa kabusha kochwepheshe. Ngokusobala kunombuzo wokulondeka ngokwezinto ezibonakalayo, ngokuvamile owokuqala wokwesaba. Abantu kumbhangqwana bangakwazi ukuthembela kumlingani wabo womshado ngesikhathi sokuqeqeshwa kabusha. Lokhu kwesaba, okusemthethweni, ngakho-ke kuncike esicini sezezimali, ngoba umuntu angase aholelwe ekuzibuzeni ukuthi uzohlangabezana kanjani nezindleko zakhe ...

Kuhlala kukhona okungaphezulu noma okuncane, futhi, kulowo nalowo, ukumelana noshintsho. Khona-ke kungaba okubalulekile ukuhambisana, kakade ekuqaleni ukubiza ukwesaba kwakho: ngoba ngokushesha nje lapho sibiza ukwesaba, kuphelelwa amandla phezu kwethu. Ngakho-ke ukuqwashisa kungasiza kakhulu. Khona-ke, amasu angenza kube nokwenzeka ukugwema, ukunqoba lokhu kwesaba. Njengaleyo yezinyathelo ezincane, ngokuhamba kancane kancane, ngokwenza uhlelo lwayo lokusebenza ...

Ukwesaba ukwenqatshwa ngabanye nakho kungaba ukuthenwa. Kunezinkolelo eziningi okuthiwa zinemingcele emphakathini: lezo ezenza, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uyakubona noma cha, ukuthi ukholelwe ezintweni ezithile ezikucekela phansi. Kungase futhi kube nokwesaba ukwehluleka, ngisho nokwesaba impumelelo ...

Ukwengeza, lokho ngezinye izikhathi okunciphisa iphrojekthi yilokho esikubiza ngokuthi "ukwethembeka". Futhi-ke, ngokwesibonelo, kukhona ukwethembeka okuvamile phakathi kwabesifazane, okuwukuthi ukungenzi kangcono kunoyise womuntu ...

Amasu ahlukahlukene, ngisho nokwelapha, angasiza ekutholeni inhlamvu yokuthatha isinyathelo, ukuthatha isinyathelo sokuziqeqesha kabusha. Enye yazo, njengoba sekushiwo, i-coaching, nayo eyindlela yokwelapha kafushane. I-Psychotherapy noma i-psychoanalysis izoba ngaphezulu esikhathini eside, umsebenzi esikhathini esidlule, futhi izohlose ukuxazulula izinkinga ngezinye izikhathi ezindala, ngokwabo. Ukuqeqesha kufushane, futhi ngokuvamile kuphendula itimu ecacile kakhulu.

Abanye sebeyazi kakade ukuthi yiluphi uhlobo lokuqeqeshwa kabusha abalufunayo, abanye, ekuqaleni, bazoqala ngokufuna ukuthola. Kuzodingeka izenzo ezihlukahlukene, njengokuthi, ngezinye izikhathi, ukulandela isifundo sokuqeqesha. Izenzo zangaphakathi ezengeziwe, nazo, njengokusebenzela ukuzethemba ...

«Ekuqeqesheni, kuchaza uNathalie Valentin, Ngibuza imibuzo, futhi ngibuye ngithathe ikhefu. Ngichazela umqeqeshi ngezinqubo ezithile esinazo sonke kithina. Ngiyamchazela ukuthi sisebenza kanjani ngaphakathi, ngoba asihlale sikuqaphela lokho ... futhi ngiyamsiza ukuba achaze uhlelo lwakhe lokusebenza, uhlu lwezimfanelo zakhe, ukuze abone ukuthi angaqhubekela kanjani phambili ... Futhi lapho sihlangana nebhuleki, siyaba ezombuza eminye imibuzo. Inhloso ukuthi azifikele mathupha ngale ndlela!» 

Lapho abantu bezwa ukuphikiswa kwangempela kokuqhubekela phambili kuphrojekthi yabo, izikhathi ezimbalwa nomqeqeshi zinganele ukusiza ukususa izithiyo nokuqhubekela phambili. Ukwenza i-aphoyintimenti negumbi lezohwebo nezimboni nakho kuyisinyathelo esithembisayo. Izincwadi ezihlukahlukene zokuzithuthukisa, noma amavidiyo aku-YouTube afana nalawo ka-David Laroche, angaba wusizo… Inqobo nje uma usebenzisa iseluleko!

Okubaluleke kakhulu, ngaphezu kwakho konke, njengoba sesishilo, ukwenza uhlelo lokusebenza, ukuhlela: abantu abafisa ukuqeqesha kabusha bangaqala ngokwenza uhlu lwakho konke okufanele bakwenze ukuze baphumelele kuphrojekthi yabo, kanye nalolo lwabo bonke. abantu abazohlangana nabo, noma okungenzeka babasize.

Lapho uNathalie Valentin eseseshini yokuqeqesha, uzozizwa lapho ukukhetha “komqeqeshi” wakhe kulungile: “Eqinisweni, uyachaza, Ngiyabona uma umuntu edlikiza. Uma ngibona ukuthi ujabulile lapho enikeza izimpendulo, noma kunalokho uyahoxisa. Yimizwa ezoqondisa… Futhi lapho, sizothi, kuyisinqumo esifanele! “Futhi uchwepheshe wokuthuthukisa umuntu angangeza:”Ngemibuzo yami, uma umuntu engitshela ukuthi “yilokho engifuna ukukwenza”, futhi ngibona ukuthi uyavula, ukuthi uyamamatheka, ukuthi usentokozweni, ukuthi uyakhanya, ngizitshela ukuthi kulungile, leyo yinto elungile. okwakhe“… Ngaphezu kwalokho, ngokombono ongokomzwelo, onamandla, kusho ukuthi umuntu usanda kuxhumeka kokuthile okungaphakathi kuye, okuzodingeka ukuthi aphinde axhumane nakho njalo lapho enokungabaza, ukulahlekelwa ukuzethemba… Ngakho-ke, ingabe usulungile ukuthatha futhi?