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Inhloso yokuziphatha kwengane ukugwema
Abazali baka-Angie babona ukuthi useya ngokuya eqhela ezindabeni zomkhaya. Izwi lakhe ladabukisa ngandlela thize, kwathi lapho ecasulwa kancane waqala ukukhala. Uma ecelwa ukuba enze okuthile, wayehayiza futhi athi: "Angazi kanjani." Waqala nokuququda ngendlela engaqondakali ngaphansi kokuphefumula kwakhe, futhi ngaleyo ndlela kwaba nzima ukuqonda ukuthi ufunani. Abazali bakhe babekhathazeke kakhulu ngokuziphatha kwakhe ekhaya nasesikoleni.
U-Angie waqala ukubonisa ngokuziphatha kwakhe umgomo wesine - ukubalekela, noma, ngamanye amazwi, ukuzithoba okucashile. Waphelelwa ukuzethemba kangangokuthi wayengafuni ukuthatha lutho. Ngokuziphatha kwakhe, wabonakala ethi: “Angikwazi ukuzisiza futhi angisize ngalutho. Ungafuni lutho kimi. Ngiyeke". Izingane zizama ukugcizelela ngokweqile ubuthakathaka bazo ngenjongo «yokugwema» futhi ngokuvamile zisiqinisekisa ukuthi ziyiziphukuphuku noma zihlakaniphile. Ukusabela kwethu ekuziphatheni okunjalo kungase kube ukubahawukela.
Ukuqondiswa kabusha kwethagethi ethi "ukugwema"
Nazi ezinye izindlela ongahlehlisa ngazo ingane yakho. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuyeka ngokushesha ukumhawukela. Ngokudabukela izingane zethu, sizikhuthaza ukuba zizidabukele futhi zibonise ukuthi silahlekelwa ukholo kuzo. Ayikho into ekhubaza abantu njengokuzidabukela. Uma sisabela ngale ndlela ekuphelelweni yithemba kwabo okubonisiwe, futhi size sibasize kulokho abangazenzela khona ngokuphelele, baba nomkhuba wokuthola abakufunayo ngomoya ongacacile. Uma lokhu kuziphatha kuqhubeka kuze kube umuntu omdala, kuzobe sekubizwa ngokuthi ukucindezeleka.
Okokuqala, shintsha lokho okulindele mayelana nokuthi ingane enjalo ingenzani futhi ugxile kulokho osekwenziwe ingane. Uma unomuzwa wokuthi ingane izophendula esicelweni sakho ngesitatimende esithi “Angikwazi”, kungcono ukungambuzi nhlobo. Ingane izama ngakho konke okusemandleni ukukukholisa ukuthi ayinakuzisiza. Yenza impendulo enjalo ingamukeleki ngokudala isimo lapho engeke akuqinisekise khona ngokuntula kwakhe usizo. Mzwele, kodwa ungabi nozwela lapho uzama ukumsiza. Ngokwesibonelo: “Kubukeka sengathi unobunzima ngale ndaba,” futhi awusho neze ukuthi: “Ngivumele ngikwenze. Kunzima kakhulu kuwe, akunjalo?" Ungase futhi usho ngezwi elinothando, "Usazama ukukwenza." Dala indawo lapho ingane izophumelela khona, bese kancane kancane ukwandisa ubunzima. Lapho umkhuthaza, bonisa ubuqotho bangempela. Ingane enjalo ingazwela kakhulu futhi isolise izinkulumo ezikhuthazayo ezibhekiswe kuyo, futhi ingase ingakukholwa. Gwema ukuzama ukumncenga ukuba enze noma yini.
Nazi ezinye izibonelo.
Omunye uthisha wayenomfundi oneminyaka eyisishiyagalombili ogama lakhe linguLiz owasebenzisa inhloso "yokugwema". Ngemva kokwenza isivivinyo sezibalo, uthisha waphawula ukuthi kwase kudlule isikhathi esiningi, futhi uLiz wayengakawuqali umsebenzi. Uthisha wabuza uLiz ukuthi kungani engazange akwenze, futhi uLiz waphendula ngobumnene, "Angikwazi." Uthisha wabuza, “Iyiphi ingxenye yesabelo ozimisele ukuyenza?” Aphakamise amahlombe uLiz. Uthisha wabuza, "Ingabe usukulungele ukubhala igama lakho?" ULiz wavuma, futhi uthisha wahamba imizuzu embalwa. ULiz wabhala igama lakhe, kodwa akenzanga lutho olunye. Uthisha wabe esebuza uLiz ukuthi wayekulungele yini ukuxazulula izibonelo ezimbili, futhi uLiz wavuma. Lokhu kwaqhubeka kwaze kwaba yilapho uLiz esewuqedile umsebenzi. Uthisha wakwazi ukuhola uLiz ukuba aqonde ukuthi impumelelo ingafinyelelwa ngokuhlukanisa wonke umsebenzi ube izigaba ezihlukene, ezilawulekayo ngokuphelele.
Nasi esinye isibonelo.
UKevin, umfana oneminyaka eyisishiyagalolunye, wanikwa umsebenzi wokuhlola ukupelwa kwamagama kusichazamazwi bese ebhala phansi izincazelo zawo. Uyise waqaphela ukuthi uKevin uzama ukwenza konke, kodwa hhayi izifundo. Wakhala ngokucasuka, wabe esehayiza ngenxa yokuswela amandla, wabe esetshela uyise ukuthi akazi lutho ngale ndaba. Ubaba waqaphela ukuthi uKevin wayesaba umsebenzi ayezowenza futhi wayemvumela ngaphandle kokuzama ngisho nokwenza lutho. Ngakho-ke ubaba wanquma ukuhlukanisa wonke umsebenzi ube yimisebenzi ehlukene, efinyeleleka kalula u-Kevin ayengayenza kalula.
Ekuqaleni, ubaba wayebheka amagama kusichazamazwi, futhi uKevin wabhala izincazelo zawo ebhukwini lokubhalela. Ngemva kokuba uKevin efunde indlela yokuqeda umsebenzi wakhe ngempumelelo, ubaba wasikisela ukuba abhale phansi izincazelo zamagama, futhi abheke lawa magama kusichazamazwi ngohlamvu lwawo lokuqala, kuyilapho yena ebhala phansi. Ubaba wabe eseshintshana noKevin ukuze athole igama ngalinye elilandelayo kusichazamazwi, njll. Lokhu kwaqhubeka kwaze kwaba yilapho uKevin efunda ukuwenza yedwa umsebenzi. Kwathatha isikhathi eside ukuqeda le nqubo, kodwa kwazuzisa kokubili izifundo zikaKevin kanye nobuhlobo bakhe noyise.