Okuqukethwe
Ukuqondisa kabusha kokubili kuyindlela eqinile nenomusa ekuziphatheni kwengane, okubonisa umthwalo wayo ophelele wezenzo zayo. Isimiso sokuqondisa kabusha sisekelwe ekuhloniphaneni phakathi kwabazali nezingane. Le ndlela inikeza imiphumela yemvelo nenengqondo yokuziphatha okungathandeki kwengane, esizoxoxa ngayo ngokuningiliziwe kamuva, futhi ekugcineni ikhulise ukuzethemba kwengane futhi ithuthukise uhlamvu lwakhe.
Ukuqondisa kabusha akubandakanyi noma yimaphi amasu akhethekile, amasha kakhulu azokwenza ingane yakho iziphathe kahle. Ukuqondisa kabusha kuyindlela entsha yokuphila, ingqikithi yayo ewukudala izimo lapho kungabikho abalahlekelwa phakathi kwabazali, othisha nabaqeqeshi, naphakathi kwezingane. Lapho izingane zinomuzwa wokuthi awuhlosile ukubeka ukuziphatha kwazo ngaphansi kwentando yakho, kodwa, ngokuphambene, zizama ukuthola indlela enengqondo yokuphuma esimweni sokuphila, zibonisa inhlonipho eyengeziwe nokuzimisela ukukusiza.
Izici ezihlukile zemigomo yokuziphatha kwengane
U-Rudolf Dreikurs wabona ukungaziphathi kahle kwezingane njengethagethi engafanele engaqondiswa kabusha. Ucishe wahlukanisa ukuziphatha okubi kwaba izigaba ezine eziyinhloko, noma imigomo: ukunaka, ithonya, ukuziphindiselela kanye nokugwema. Sebenzisa lezi zigaba njengesiqalo sokuhlonza inhloso eyiphutha yokuziphatha kwengane yakho. Angiphakamisi ukuthi ulebule izingane zakho ukuze uhlobanise ngokusobala le migomo emine enemibandela kuzo, ngoba ingane ngayinye ingumuntu ohlukile. Noma kunjalo, le migomo ingasetshenziswa ukuqonda izinhloso zokuziphatha okuthile kwengane.
Ukuziphatha okubi kuwukudla kokucabanga.
Uma sibona ukuziphatha okubi kungabekezeleleki, sifuna ukuthonya izingane zethu ngandlela thize, okuvame ukuphetha ngokusebenzisa amaqhinga okwethusa (ukusondela endaweni yamandla). Lapho sibheka ukuziphatha okubi njengento yokucabanga, sizibuza lo mbuzo: “Ingane yami ifuna ukungitshelani ngokuziphatha kwayo?” Lokhu kusivumela ukuthi sisuse ukungezwani okukhulayo ebuhlotsheni naye ngesikhathi futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo kwandisa amathuba ethu okulungisa ukuziphatha kwakhe.