Kuchazwa kanjalo iqiniso lokwazi ukuhlobanisa: kuhlanganisa ukwenza into ethile ilahlekelwe uhlamvu oluphelele ngokuyihlanganisa nento efana nayo, eqhathanisekayo, noma nayo yonke, umongo. Eqinisweni, kubaluleke kakhulu ekuphileni kwansuku zonke ukwazi ukuthi singabeka kanjani izinto ngendlela efanele: ngakho-ke siyakwazi ukuziqhelelanisa nathi. Uma sicabangela ubunzima bangempela bento esikhathazayo noma esikhubazayo, ingase ibonakale ingenalo ulaka, engeyona ingozi, ingahlanyisi kangako njengoba ibibonakala kithi ekuqaleni. Izindlela ezimbalwa zokufunda ukubeka izinto ngombono…

«Phakathi kwezinto abanye bathembele kithina, abanye abancikile kukho, kusho u-Epictetus, umStoyiku wasendulo. Lezo ezincike kithi umbono, ukuthambekela, isifiso, inzondo: ngegama, konke okuwumsebenzi wethu. Lezo ezingancikile kithi ziyimizimba, izimpahla, idumela, izithunzi: ngezwi, konke okungewona umsebenzi wethu.. "

Futhi lona umbono obalulekile we-Stoicism: kuyenzeka ngathi, ngokwesibonelo ngokwenza okuthile okungokomoya, sithathe ibanga lokuqonda ekuphenduleni esinakho ngokuzenzakalelayo. Isimiso esisengasisebenzisa nanamuhla: lapho sibhekene nezigigaba, singakwazi ukuhlobanisa, ngomqondo ojulile waleli gama, okungukuthi, sibeke kude, futhi sibone izinto ngendlela eziyiyo. kukhona; imibono nemibono, hhayi iqiniso. Ngakho, igama elithi relativize lithola umsuka walo egameni lesiLatini elithi “relativus", Isihlobo, ngokwaso sisuselwa ku-"umbiko“, Noma isihlobo, isihlobo; kusukela ku-1265, leli gama lisetshenziselwa ukuchaza "into enjalo kuphela ngokuphathelene nezimo ezithile".

Ezimpilweni zansuku zonke, singabe sesikwazi ukuhlola ubunzima ngesilinganiso sabo esifanele, sicabangela isimo sangempela ... Umgomo ophakeme wefilosofi, e-Antiquity, wawuwukuba, kuwo wonke umuntu, ukuba umuntu olungile ngokuphila ngokuhambisana nenhlalakahle... Futhi uma sisebenzise, ​​kusukela namuhla, lo mthetho wamaStoyiku ohloselwe ukuhlanganisa?

UBlaise Pascal, kweyakhe Amapayipi, incwadi yakhe ngemva kokufa kwakhe eyanyatheliswa ngo-1670, futhi isikhuthaza ukuba siqaphele isidingo sokuba umuntu abeke umbono wakhe ngombono wakhe, ebhekene nembulunga yonke enikezwa indawo yonke . . .Ngakho-ke kwangathi umuntu angacabangisisa ngayo yonke indalo ngobukhosi bakhe obuphakeme nobugcwele, sengathi angakudela ukubona izinto eziphansi ezimzungezile. Kwangathi angabheka lokhu kukhanya okukhanyayo, okubekwe njengesibani saphakade sokukhanyisa indawo yonke, kwangathi umhlaba ubonakala kuye njengephuzu lentengo yombhoshongo omkhulu ochazwa yilenkanyezi.“, Uyabhala, futhi.

Ukwazi okungapheli, lokho okukhulu ngokungenasiphelo kanye nalokho okuncane kakhulu, uMuntu, "esebuyele kuwena", Izokwazi ukuzibeka ezingeni elifanele futhi icabangele"ukuthi iyini ngezindleko zalokho okuyikho“. Bese ekwazi"ukuzibuka njengolahlekile kule canton ephambukiswe emvelweni“; futhi, uPascal uyaphikelela: ukuthi “kusukela kulo mgodi omncane lapho ahlaliswe khona, ngizwa indawo yonke, ufunda ukulinganisa umhlaba, imibuso, amadolobha kanye naye inani lakhe elihle.". 

Ngempela, ake sikubeke ngombono, uPascal usitshela ngokwangempela: “ngoba phela uyini umuntu emvelweni? Ukungabi nalutho ngokuphathelene nokungapheli, okuphelele ngokuphathelene nokungabi nalutho, indawo phakathi kwento nakho konke“… Ebhekene nalokhu kungalingani, umuntu uholelwa ekuqondeni ukuthi kuncane kakhulu! Ngaphezu kwalokho, uPascal usebenzisa izikhathi eziningana embhalweni wakhe igama elithi “ubuncane“... Ngakho, sibhekene nokuthobeka kwesimo sethu sobuntu, sicwiliswe phakathi nendawo engapheli, uPascal ekugcineni usiholela ku”cabanga“. Futhi lokhu, "kuze kulahleke umcabango wethu"...

«Iqiniso ngale kwePyrenees, iphutha elingezansi. ” Lona futhi umcabango kaPascal, owaziwa kakhulu: kusho ukuthi okuyiqiniso kumuntu noma kubantu kungaba yiphutha kwabanye. Manje, eqinisweni, lokho okuvumelekile komunye akudingekile ukuthi kusebenze komunye.

Montaigne, naye, kweyakhe izilingo, futhi ikakhulukazi umbhalo wayo onesihloko Amazimuzimu, ulandisa iqiniso elifanayo: uyabhala: “Abukho ubuqaba nobulwane kulesi sizwe“. Ngendlela efanayo, uyaphikisana ne-ethnocentrism yabantu besikhathi sakhe. Ngamafuphi: kuhlobana. Futhi kancane kancane kusiholela ekuhlanganiseni umbono esingeke sahlulele ngawo eminye imiphakathi ngokwalokho esikwaziyo, okungukuthi umphakathi wethu.

Izincwadi ZasePheresiya U-de Montesquieu uyisibonelo sesithathu: empeleni, ukuze wonke umuntu afunde ukuhlanganisa, kuyadingeka ukukhumbula ukuthi lokho okubonakala kuhamba ngaphandle kokusho akusho ukuthi kuhambe ngaphandle kokusho kwelinye isiko.

Amasu amaningana, kupsychology, angasisiza ukuthi sifinyelele ukuhlobana, nsuku zonke. Phakathi kwazo, indlela ye-Vittoz: eyasungulwa nguDokotela Roger Vittoz, ihlose ukubuyisela ibhalansi ye-cerebral ngokusebenzisa izivivinyo ezilula nezisebenzayo, ezihlanganiswe ekuphileni kwansuku zonke. Lo dokotela ubephila ngesikhathi sabahlaziyi abakhulu, kodwa wancamela ukugxila ekwazini: ngakho-ke ukwelapha kwakhe akuhlaziywa. Ihloselwe wonke umuntu, iwukwelapha kwengqondo. Umgomo wayo ukuthola ikhono lokulinganisa ubuchopho obuqulekile kanye nobuchopho obaziyo. Lokhu kufundisa kabusha, ngakho-ke, akusasebenzi embonweni kodwa kusitho ngokwaso: ubuchopho. Singabe sesimfundisa ukufunda ukuhlukanisa amandla adonsela phansi angempela ezinto: ngamafuphi, ukuhlanganisa.

Amanye amasu akhona. I-Transpersonal psychology ingenye yazo: owazalwa ekuqaleni kwawo-70s, ihlanganisa nokutholwa kwezikole ezintathu ze-psychology yakudala (CBT, psychoanalysis kanye nokwelashwa okubalulekile kobuntu) idatha yefilosofi nesebenzayo yamasiko amakhulu angokomoya (izinkolo kanye ne-shamanism). ); kwenza kube nokwenzeka ukunikeza incazelo engokomoya ebukhoneni bomuntu, ukulungisa impilo yomuntu yengqondo, ngakho-ke, kusiza ukubeka izinto ngesilinganiso sazo esifanele: futhi, ukubeka umbono.

Uhlelo lwe-Neurolinguistic lungabuye lube yithuluzi eliwusizo: le sethi yokuxhumana kanye namasu okuziguqula kusiza ukubeka imigomo nokuzifinyelela. Ekugcineni, elinye ithuluzi elithakazelisayo: ukubona ngeso lengqondo, inqubo ehlose ukusebenzisa izinsiza zomqondo, umcabango kanye nokuqondisisa ukuze kuthuthukiswe inhlalakahle yomuntu, ngokubeka izithombe ezinembile engqondweni. …

Ingabe ufuna ukubona umcimbi obonakala umbi kuwe ekuqaleni? Noma ngabe iyiphi indlela oyisebenzisayo, khumbula ukuthi akukho okungaphezu kwamandla. Kungase kwanele ukumane ubone ngeso lengqondo umcimbi njengesitebhisi, hhayi njengentaba engadluleki, futhi uqale ukugibela isitebhisi ngamunye ngamunye ...