Okuqukethwe
Ngokuvumelana nomsebenzi walo, Ibhodi Lokuhlela le-MedTvoiLokony lenza yonke imizamo yokuhlinzeka ngokuqukethwe kwezokwelapha okuthembekile okusekelwa ulwazi lwakamuva lwesayensi. Ifulegi elengeziwe elithi "Okuqukethwe Okuhloliwe" libonisa ukuthi i-athikili ibuyekezwe noma yabhalwa udokotela ngokuqondile. Lokhu kuqinisekisa okuyizinyathelo ezimbili: intatheli yezokwelapha kanye nodokotela basivumela ukuthi sinikeze okuqukethwe kwekhwalithi ephezulu ngokuhambisana nolwazi lwamanje lwezokwelapha.
Ukuzibophezela kwethu kule ndawo kuye kwathakaselwa, phakathi kokunye, yiNhlangano Yezintatheli Zezempilo, eyaklomelisa Ibhodi Lokuhlela le-MedTvoiLokony ngesihloko sokuhlonipha esithi Umfundisi Omkhulu.
Ukwelashwa komshado, noma ukwelashwa kwengqondo kwabashadile, kuyisixazululo hhayi kubantu abaxhunywe yisitifiketi somshado kuphela. Imibhangqwana ebudlelwaneni obungakahleleki nabo bangazuza osizweni lomelaphi. Kungaba nemithombo eminingi yezinkinga, futhi ngenxa ye-psychotherapy yemibhangqwana akunakwenzeka nje ukuthola izimbangela zezingxabano, kodwa futhi nokubuyisela ibhalansi ebuhlotsheni. Yini okufanele ukwazi ngezinzuzo kanye nenkambo yokwelashwa kwabashadile?
Izinkinga zobudlelwano kanye ne-psychotherapy yombhangqwana
Kunoma ibuphi ubuhlobo, ngezinye izikhathi izinkinga ziyaphakama futhi kungase kube nobunzima ekuzwaneni. Ukwehluka kwemibono, ukungaqondi kahle, ukungakwazi ukuveza izidingo zomuntu, ukukhungatheka. Zonke lezi zici ziyimbangela yokungavumelani ebudlelwaneni. Ngezinye izikhathi isizathu sokuvukela umbuso inkinga ebuhlotsheni kukhona ukukhaphela, ukulutheka noma ngisho udlame ohlangothini olulodwa noma zombili zobudlelwano. Ingabe ubuhlobo obunezinkinga ezinkulu kangaka bungasindiswa?
Abantu abaningi abanalo imodeli yobudlelwano, ephawulwe kusukela besebancane, ephuma ekhaya lomndeni wabo, abangayilandela ekwakheni ubuhlobo babo. E-Poland, ngokusho kwedatha yezibalo kusukela ngo-2012, kwakukhona isehlukaniso esisodwa semishado emithathu. Izingqinamba eziningi eziphakamayo ebudlelwaneni, ngakho-ke, zisukela ezingxabanweni zangaphakathi ezingenalwazi ezisuka ebuntwaneni.
Nokho, ubunzima ekuxazululeni izingxabano noma ukunqwabelana kwezinkinga akudingekile ngaso sonke isikhathi kuholele ekupheleni kobudlelwano. Ukubukeka okusha kwezinkinga zemibhangqwana, okuyizinkinga eziyinkimbinkimbi, kuzokwenzeka ngenxa yokwelashwa kwengqondo kwemibhangqwana. Uma bobabili abathintekayo bebonisa isifiso esihle nokuzimisela ukuzisebenzela bona kanye nobudlelwano, usizo lwe-psychotherapist ingakulethela izinzuzo eziningi.
Ungaya nini ku-Couples Therapy?
Umbhangqwana ngamunye ubhekana nezinkinga, kunezifo, ukulahlekelwa umsebenzi, izikhathi zobuthakathaka nokungabaza, kodwa uma abantu ababili bethandana futhi benakekelana, bangazama ukuthola usizo lobuhlobo babo nomelaphi onolwazi. Kungcono ukungalindi kuze kube umzuzu wokugcina ngesinqumo esinjalo. Ukulungisa ubudlelwano phakathi kozakwethu kulula esiteji lapho izinhlangothi zombili zifuna ukulungisa, futhi ukucasuka okucindezelwe isikhathi eside ngeke kungene phakathi kwabo.
I-psychotherapy yabashadile ingaba nenzuzo lapho isebenza ezinkingeni ezithile, kodwa izophinde ibe nomthelela ekubunjweni okuphelele kobudlelwane.
Kuyafaneleka ukusabela ngokushesha ngangokunokwenzeka ngokushesha nje lapho izimpawu zokungabi nandaba, umuzwa wokulindela okungagcwaliseki noma izikhalazo ezingenasizathu zivela. Ukupholisa ubudlelwano akuzona kuphela izimpawu ezikhathazayo. Kwesinye isikhathi kuba nzima kakhulu ukuqaphela ukuthi ubudlelwano akubona ubudlelwano futhi omunye wezinhlangothi uncike komunye. Lokhu kungase kuhlotshaniswe nokukhohlisa, ukuntuleka kokuzimela, noma ukuhlukunyezwa kwengqondo. Ezimweni ezinjalo, umuntu olimele angase azisole futhi angase angaboni ukuthi inkinga ijulile. I-Psychotherapy iyindlela yokubona ngeso lengqondo izinkinga zakho kanye nokugcina ubudlelwano noma ukuqeda obungenabo ubuthi.
Ezweni lanamuhla, ukusebenzisa ukwelashwa kuyinketho ethengekayo. Kuthonywa ukuqwashisa okukhulayo ukuthi ukwelashwa kwengqondo akuyona into enamahloni, kodwa uhlobo lokuzithuthukisa nokusiza ekuxazululeni izinkinga ezingathinta wonke umuntu. Khulisa ukuzazi ngokwengqondo ngakho-ke kuwumkhuba omuhle osivulela amathuba amaningi okuba senze futhi silwele ubudlelwano. Umqondo wokwelashwa komshado noma ukwelapha kwabashadile ungase ukhathaze, kodwa awuhloselwe ukusola noma ubani noma ukusola omunye wabathintekayo ngokwehluleka kwabo ngokuhlanganyela. Ukwelashwa kuzokuvumela ukuthi ume isikhashana futhi ubheke izinkinga ezikhona ndawonye.
- Funda futhi: Yiziphi izinhlobo ze-psychotherapy? Izinkomba zokuvakashela i-psychotherapist
Kuyini ukwelapha ngomshado?
Ukwelashwa komshado kuklanyelwe ukwenza izinhlangothi zombili zobudlelwano zazi ngezizathu zokungqubuzana, ukukhuthaza ukuzindla nokuxoxisana. Abantu abaningi ngokungazi noma bengazi ngokuphelele badlulisela amaphethini athile noma okuhlangenwe nakho okuvela ekhaya lomndeni wabo noma ubudlelwano bangaphambilini babayise ebudlelwaneni babo nokuthi babhekana kanjani nezinkinga.
I-Psychotherapy yemibhangqwana ingathatha uhlobo lwe-psychodynamic therapy.
Ukwelashwa komshado kusiza abalingani ukuba baxazulule inkinga ethile ngosizo lomelaphi, ukuze bavuleleke futhi babheke isixazululo ngaphakathi kwabo, ngisho noma leso sixazululo kuyisinqumo sokugcina sokuhlukana. Kwesinye isikhathi abantu ababili abakwazi ukusebenza njengabalingani empilweni yansuku zonke, futhi ubudlelwano babo ngokushesha noma kamuva bukhombisa noma yiziphi izimpawu zobudlelwano obunobuthi. Kwesinye isikhathi wukwelashwa kwabashadikazi okunganikeza umfutho ofanele ukuze kukhanye lokhu kungalingani. Ngokuvamile kuba ngumuntu ohlukunyezwa omunye umuntu kulobu budlelwano obunobuthi okufanele abone ukuthi ukubuyisela ibhalansi kungenzeka kuphela ngokubambisana nokuzimisela kwabo bobabili abalingani.
- Bheka futhi: I-Psychodynamic psychotherapy - iyini, isetshenziswa nini futhi iyini imiphumela yayo
Kuthatha isikhathi esingakanani ukwelashwa kwezithandani?
Ukwelashwa kwemibhangqwana ngokuvamile kuthatha izinyanga eziyisi-6 kuye kweziyi-12. Imihlangano nomelaphi ibanjwa kanye ngesonto, okuvumela isikhathi esikahle sokuqaliswa kwezixazululo ezithuthukiswe ngesikhathi seseshini yokwelapha kanye nokuqinisekiswa kwazo okulandelayo nokuhlaziywa kwemiphumela nomelaphi. Izinyanga ezimbalwa zokusebenza ebuhlotsheni besikhathi eside isikhathi esincane, okuyinto ezimweni eziningi kuwufanele ukusetshenziswa ukuze uthole ukuqwashisa okwengeziwe indlela ukusebenza ebuhlotsheni. Ukuzithuthukisa, ukuthola izinkinga zakho nokuthi zihumusheka kanjani ebudlelwaneni kungaba semqoka ukuze ugweme ukujula kwezingxabano nokuhlukana.