Kulesi sihloko, sizobheka i-psychology yezinhlobo ezahlukene zamadoda ebuhlotsheni. Ngayinye inezinzuzo zayo kanye nokubi. Ezinye zifanelekile kwezothando zesikhashana, ezinye zokudala umndeni, othile uyakwazi ukunikeza imizwelo emihle engalibaleki, kodwa ngemva kwabanye kuzodingeka ukhokhe imali eningi ku-psychotherapist ukuze ubuyisele impilo yakho yengqondo.
Ukuze ungenzi iphutha esigabeni sokuqala, ngiphakamisa ukuthi uzijwayeze ne-typology eyinhloko yamadoda futhi uthole ukuthi ufuna ukuba nobani nokuthi ubani okungafanele udideke naye.
Amadoda okumele abaleke
I-Psychology igqamisa izici zomlingiswa wezinhlobo ezithile zengqondo zamadoda, lapho noma yikuphi ukuxhumana nabo kuholela esimweni esidabukisayo sowesifazane. Lawa madoda ahlanganisa:
- I-narcissist engena ebudlelwaneni nabesifazane ukuze nje iqinisekise ukubaluleka nokuhluka kwayo. Kulobu budlelwano, owesifazane uhlala enikezwa indawo yesibili ehloniphekile, okuthi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi iphenduke ibe yinceku. Ngaphezu kokuntuleka kwesimo sengqondo esifanele ngakulona wesifazane kanye nesikhathi esihle sokuqomisana, umuntu onjalo angakwazi ukukhulisa ukuzethemba kwakhe ngokumlulaza nokumthuka.
- Hlala umatasa. Umuntu onjalo angakwazi ukuguqula impilo yentombazane ibe inganekwane phakathi nemihlangano, izikhathi phakathi kwazo ezingadonsela isikhathi eside esingapheli. Indoda enjalo izonyamalala futhi ibonakale lapho ikulungele, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi umlingani udinga ukunakwa noma usizo lwangempela. Kungenzeka kakhulu ukuthi ngesikhathi esifanayo unamanoveli amaningana noma umndeni wonke, ochaza indlela yakhe ebucayi kokuhlangenwe nakho okungokomoya kowesifazane. Izinga eliphezulu lokuzwela emadodeni litholakala esikhathini esiningi esichithwa nobulili obuhlukile.
- Umashiqela (ngokubonakaliswa ngokomzimba noma kokuziphatha). Ngeke azinikele ngaso leso sikhathi, kodwa angabonakala ngokubuyekezwa okunzima nokubi mayelana nothando oludlule, ubudlelwano nabanye. Ezigabeni zokuqala, uzoguqula impilo yowesifazane ibe inganekwane futhi aphoqelele imicimbi. Konke lokhu kwenziwa ukuze uthole amandla aphezulu. Abahlukumezi kanye namagesi asebenza ngale ndlela. Kungaba nzima kakhulu ukuphuma ebuhlotsheni obunjalo.
- Ubaba womndeni noma indoda eshadile. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uqinisekisa kanjani ukuthi ayikho imizwa emxhumanisa nomkakhe, umuntu onjalo ngeke abe umuntu ofanelekayo wokwakha ubuhlobo obanele. Lo muntu ekuqaleni usethelwe amanga, ukugwema umthwalo wemfanelo, ubeka umlingani omusha endaweni yesibili, engakhathazeki ngempela ngokuhlangenwe nakho kwakhe. Yiqiniso, abanye besifazane bahlala ebuhlotsheni obunjalo iminyaka, okuholela ekwephuleni hhayi nje ngokomzwelo, kodwa futhi nokuphila kahle ngokomzimba.
Ukuxhumana nabantu abanjalo kungagcinwa kuphela ngendlela enobungane noma yokusebenza.
Izinhlobo zamadoda anganikeza imizwa emangalisayo
Kunezinhlobo eziningi zamadoda amantombazane ahlanya ngazo. Ngokuyiqonda kahle imigomo yabo, bangajabulela uthando olujabulisayo. Le psychology yamadoda ihlanganisa:
- Ama-Knights namanenekazi, amangaza ngokuziphatha kwawo kanye nobuqhawe, amandla okuhlangula nganoma yisiphi isikhathi sosuku nanoma yiziphi izinkinga. Izici ezinjalo ngokuvamile kunzima ukuzilingisa isikhathi eside, ngakho-ke nalo muntu owesifazane uyohlale ezizwa njengenkosazana encane. Izinkinga zizoqala kamuva, lapho i-knight iba yivila, ngoba yenza kuphela ezimweni ezimbi kakhulu, futhi umnumzane ngeke akwazi ukukhombisa amandla anonya, esimweni lapho intombazane idinga ukuvikelwa.
- Iqhawe lothando lweholide. Uyohlale ekhazimula, njengoba ekwazi ukunikeza amazwi amaningi amahle futhi enze umuzwa wothando lwaphakade. Into esemqoka edingekayo akuyona ukucabanga ngomshado wesikhathi esizayo kanye naye nanoma yikuphi ukuqhubeka okungathi sína kobudlelwane. Uma ulandela isimiso se-Gestaltists futhi ube sesikhathini samanje, khona-ke ebuhlotsheni obunjalo ungathola insiza enkulu kanye nogqozi.
- Indoda ewusana, usomathuba noma usisi. Uhlobo olunjalo lungaba i-godsend yowesifazane onamandla owaziyo ukuguqula ubudlelwano ngendlela ayidingayo. Ungamshada kalula nangokwethembeka umuntu onjalo noma umsebenzise njengembuyiselo—okungukuthi, yenza noma yini. Umuntu kufanele aqonde kuphela ukuthi kungahlala kukhona umkhuzi oqinile, noma ukubaluleka komama kuzoba kukhulu kangangokuthi ngeke akwazi ukunqotshwa.
- Indoda ephelelwe ithemba ifuna umkayo ngayo yonke indlela. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukhangwa ukungathi sína kwezinhloso zakhe, kodwa kufanele ulungele ukuthi ukutadisha ukuhlukumezeka kwengqondo okuhlukahlukene, izinkimbinkimbi kanye nokungavikeleki kuzowela emahlombe wesifazane. Ngokuvamile phakathi kwalolu hlobo kukhona labo abangenalo inhlanhla empilweni, kodwa bangabantu abahle kakhulu.
Ukuhlukaniswa kungaqhutshekwa futhi kwengezwe, kodwa indoda ngayinye izohlanganisa kokubili okuhle nokubi. Yini kulokhu owesifazane ozovuma ukukubekezelela, lokho akubheka njengelungile, futhi yini engamukeleki - kuncike kumlingiswa wakhe.
Isiphetho
Qaphela ngokukhetha kwakho! Funda izindatshana zethu eziwusizo namathiphu. Isibonelo, sincoma ukuthi ufunde indatshana mayelana nokuhlukumeza ebuhlotsheni.
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