I-Technique One: Yazi umphikisi wakho futhi ulungele ukumelana naye ngokwanele.
Obathandayo akuzona izitha zakho, kodwa endabeni yokudla imifino bangabaphikisi bakho. Banemibono yabo ngokudla, wena unowakho. Fakazela umbono wakho kufanele uphikiswe, kodwa hhayi ngokomzwelo futhi ngaphandle kokuphakamisa izwi lakho.
“Awuyidli inyama, uwathathaphi amaprotheni? Uzoba kanjani nempilo enhle futhi uqine uma ungayidli inyama? njll. Kufanele ube nezimpendulo ezigculisayo zale mibuzo. Akulula ukushintsha umbono wezwe kagogo noma umama wakho, kodwa uma unezingxabano ezinamandla, kungenzeka. Ukuze uthole ukuqina okukhulu, amazwi akho kufanele asekelwe yizihloko ezivela emaphephandabeni, izingcaphuno ezivela ezincwadini, izinkulumo zodokotela. Udinga imithombo enegunya obathandayo abazoyikholelwa. Isayensi ingenza njengaleli gunya. Isibonelo, "izazi zezinto eziphilayo ziye zafakazela ukuthi amantongomane, ubhontshisi, i-lentils, i-broccoli, isipinashi iqukethe amaprotheni amaningi kunenyama, ngaphezu kwalokho, le mikhiqizo ayigxiliwe ngama-antibiotics, njengenkukhu noma inkomo ekhuliswe epulazini" - kukhona ithuba. ukuthi impendulo enjalo izokwanelisa u-interlocutor wakho. Umlando nawo unegunya: “eRus’, babedla inyama kanye ngenyanga, kanti u-95% wokudla kwakuwukudla kwezitshalo. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, okhokho bethu babenempilo futhi benamandla, ngakho-ke asikho isizathu sokubeka inyama phambili.
Abangane nabantu obajwayele nabo bangasiza. Uma obathandayo benabangane (okungcono isizukulwane sabo) abanethemba lokudla imifino, bacele ukuthi baphawule ngokudla ukudla kwezitshalo nokugwema inyama. Lapho abantu abaningi namaqiniso ngawe, kulula futhi ngokushesha uzokwazi ukuzuza ukuqashelwa okukhethile.
Indlela Yesibili: Yeqa ukuhlasela kudlule kuwe
Uzohlaselwa: uzama ukukukholisa ukuthi udle inyama, mhlawumbe ukuchoboza ngemizwa. Kunzima nakakhulu ukuzwa othile esho ngokucasuka ethi: “Ngizamile, ngiphekile, kodwa awuzami nokuzama!” - esinye sezibonelo zokuxhaphaza imizwa kwansuku zonke ukuze uzizwe unecala. Iqhinga lesibili ukweqa ukukhwabanisa. Suka emgqeni wokuhlasela: cabanga ngokucacile ukuthi wonke amathonya aqondiswe kuwe ayadlula. Ungakwazi ukusho ifomula ngengqondo: "Lokhu kuhlasela kudlula, ngihlala ngizolile futhi ngivikelekile." Uma umile, ungakwazi ngokoqobo ukuthatha isinyathelo esincane ohlangothini. Le nqubo izokusiza ukuthi uhlale uzolile, futhi esimweni lapho amazwi engakuzwisi ubuhlungu, kuyoba lula ukuvikela izinkolelo zakho.
Icebo lesithathu: Sebenzisa amandla esitha
Amandla omphikisi asemazwini nasezwini lakhe. Esimeni sokungqubuzana, abantu bavame ukuyiphakamisa, futhi bakhetha amagama ahlabayo. Uma uphakamisa izwi lakho, phendula ngomoya ophansi futhi usebenzise amandla amazwi ngokumelene nomhlaseli: “Angivumi ukukhuluma ngokuphakamisa izwi. Usamemeza, mina ngizothula. Uma uhlaselwa ngamazwi futhi ungavunyelwe ukuphendula, yithi: “Awukuvumeli ukuba ukhulume – yima ungilalele!” Futhi lapho usho ngomoya ophansi, umphumela uzoba namandla. Ungase ucabange ukuthi lokhu ngeke kusebenze. Kungenzeka ukuthi uke wazama kodwa akukusebenzelanga. Ngempela, ngokuvamile akusebenzi okokuqala - ukusebenza kahle kuncike ekutheni uzokwenza kanjani konke ngokuzolile nangokuzethemba.
Indlela Yesine: Lawula ibanga lakho
Zizwe ukhululekile ukwakha inkhulumomphendvulwano. Kwesinye isikhathi kunengqondo ukunqamula ibanga okwesikhashana ukuze ungavumeli ukulimala okukhulu kuwena. Phakathi nengxoxo eshubile, thatha umoya ukuze ululame. Ukuhlehla kungaba kufushane impela, isibonelo, hamba uyogeza endlini yokugezela umzuzu. Vumela amanzi asuse ukungezwani, phefumula kancane futhi ukhiphe umoya omude. Bese uyabuya futhi uqhubeke nengxoxo. Noma ungathatha ikhefu elide, isibonelo, hamba uhambo lwehora, futhi lapho ubuya, esimweni esizolile, ukhulume ngokungathí sina ngokungamukeleki kokucindezela kuwe.
Indlela Yesihlanu: Isimiso Sokwenqaba Ukulwa
Ningalwi nabaniphoqa ngenyama. Ungazivumeli ukuba ugxile ezimangalweni ozenziwa ngawe. Vumelana nabo, kodwa hlala lapho ukhona, uthi, “Ngiyaqonda ukuthi kungani ungajabule, kodwa ukukhetha kwami akushintshile.” Yiba njengamanzi, amukela konke, kodwa ahlale ngokwawo. Ngokuzola kwakho nokukhuthazela, cisha intshiseko yalabo abazama ukukushintsha. Yiba yidwala, futhi ubone izenzo zabo njengomoya ovunguza eduze kwakho, kodwa awukwazi ukunyakaza! Futhi okubaluleke kakhulu: njengoba ulahle inyama, ukhethe indlela yokukhula kokuziphatha nokungokomoya, kufanele uqonde ukuthi abathandekayo bakho bazama ukukuphoqa ukuba udle amaprotheni ezilwane kuphela ngenxa yezinhloso ezinhle, njengoba bekholelwa. Futhi umsebenzi wakho uwukubuka ngombono womuntu oqaphelayo, zama ukwamukela nokuqonda ukuziphatha kwabo.
Lezi zindlela ziyasebenza, kodwa izinga lokusebenza kwazo lincike ekhonweni lokusetshenziswa kwazo, ngakho-ke zijwayeze njalo. Maduze uzozibusa ngendlela yokuthi kungabikho muntu oyokwazi ukukuphoqelela ukuthi udleni. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kunzima kangakanani, kholelwa kuwe, futhi uzokwazi ukuvikela umbono wakho.