Okuqukethwe
Yeka ukubhekisela kumbono kamama
Umama oyisibonelo ongeke abe lutho kodwa ukubekezela, ukuzidela, ukutholakala nobumnene akekho! Yebo, ungumama futhi indima yakho iwukuba lapho lapho ingane yakho encane ikudinga, kodwa nakanjani kuzoba nezikhathi lapho ukhathele, ukhungathekile, ucindezelekile ... Kuvamile ukuthi uzizwe ukhathele ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, umuntu, hhayi ongcwele!
Futhi ngaphezu kwakho konke, zitshele ukuthi akekho omunye umama ofanelekile, ngakho-ke asikho isidingo sokucabanga ukuthi abanye basebenza kahle kakhulu kunawe, ukuthi banomqondo wemvelo womama ongenaphutha, ukuthi ingane yabo iyingelosi futhi impilo yabo njengomama kunenjabulo ...
Kuyafana nakumama wakho. Thatha okungcono kakhulu kwemfundo oyitholile, kodwa ungangabazi ukuziqhelelanisa, kunoma yikuphi ibanga elithile, ukusuka kumodeli yomama. Futhi uma kukhona umama eduze kwakho omthola epholile futhi enekhono, zibuze ukuthi ubengenzani esimweni sakho, bonisa indlela yokuziphatha ocabanga ukuthi ibalulekile, khetha kwesokudla nesobunxele ukuze usungule isitayela sakho.
Yiba "muhle ngokwanele"
Ufuna ukuba ngumama oqotho futhi uzizwa sengathi awenzi ngokwanele ngaso sonke isikhathi. Zitshele ukuthi yilokhu kanye okudingwa yingane yakho, umama omuhle ngokwanele futhi onothando, kodwa ngaphezu kwakho konke okungagxili kuphela enganeni yakhe. Ungazami ukwanelisa ingane yakho, ukulindela zonke izifiso zayo, myeke aphelelwe isineke, azizwe enecala lapho ebonisa ukunganeliseki kwakhe ... Ukunganeliseki nokukhungatheka kuyingxenye yempilo yawo wonke umuntu, kuhlanganise naleyo yengcebo yakho encane.
Ungaqhudelani ngesihloko esithi “miss perfection”
Ukuzethemba kwakho kuphazanyiswa ukwesaba okukuvimbela ukuba uphumelele ngokugcwele endimeni yakho njengomama: ukwesaba ukwenza okubi, ukwesaba ukudumazeka nokwesaba ukungapheleli. Noma nini lapho izwi elincane langaphakathi lithi kuwe “Kufanele wenze lokhu noma lokhuya, ngeke uphumelele, awulethi, awulingani,” mvale umlomo. Yilwa ngokungaphezi nesifiso sakho sokuphelela, ngoba kuwugibe olufaka ubuthi futhi lwenza omama bazizwe benecala. Ungabuzi umbono wawo wonke umuntu, ungafuni imvume evamile, kuyohlale kukhona othola iphutha. Khuthazwa yizindlela zemfundo ocabanga ukuthi zinhle, kodwa ungalandeli eyodwa kuya kolunye. Ungabeki ibha phezulu kakhulu, zibekele imigomo ongayifinyelela, uzothola ukuzethemba.
“Ekuqaleni, wayengenaso isiqiniseko ngaye”: UJérôme, umngane kaLaure, uyise kaLéo, 1 unyaka ubudala.
“Ngabona uLaure eshintshashintsha phakathi nezinsuku. Ekuqaleni wayecindezelekile, mina
futhi, ngaphezu kwalokho, sasingakaze sibe nesiqiniseko sokuthi senza kahle. Ngimbuke enakekela uLeo, ambambe amsondeze kuye, amncele, amgone, emnyakazisa, kubonakale ukuthi into engekho. Ngangicabanga ukuthi uLaure wayephelele, kodwa hhayi yena. Ngangithatha izithombe eziningi nsuku zonke
kaLaure noLéo ku-symbiosis. Bekukuhle futhi ezinyangeni ezimbalwa, u-Laure usephenduke umama osezingeni eliphezulu, oziqhenyayo ngaye nangathi. “
Landela imicabango yakho
Ungumuntu osesimweni esingcono kakhulu sokunquma ingane yakho, ukuze uthole iziphazamiso ezincane ezifaka ukuphila kwayo njengengane encane. Akukho okukuphunyulayo, ukungakuthandi ukudla, ukungalali kahle, imfiva, amazinyo, isimo esibi, ukukhathala, intukuthelo… Ngakho zithembe futhi wenze ngokuvumelana nomzwelo wakho wemvelo. Lapho ungazi ukuthi wenzeni, zibeke ezicathulweni zengane yakho. Zibuze ukuthi wayezizwa kanjani, zama ukukhumbula indlela owawuzizwa ngayo useyingane.
Mbhekisise
Ukubuka ingane yakho kuyinkomba engcono kakhulu yokwazi ukuthi izizwa kahle yini… noma cha. Thola lokho akukhethayo, okumjabulisayo, lokho akwazisayo, okuvusa ilukuluku lakhe, yini emenza azizwe ejabule, yini emthulisa, yini emqinisekisayo. Dlala naye, ujabule ngoba umgomo wakho uwukukhulisa kahle ingane yakho, kodwa futhi kuwukuba nesikhathi esimnandi ndawonye.
Mthembe
Ukuzethemba wena njengomama ukukwazi ukuthemba ingane yakho. Nguye ozokwenza umama, ngokuhamba kwezinsuku, amava, nizomodelana, nakhane omunye nomunye futhi uzoba kanjalo. umama ongcono kakhulu emhlabeni kuye!
“Akulula ukuba umama oyedwa! »: ULaurène, umama kaPauline, onezinyanga eziyi-18.
Ubaba kaPauline akavumanga ukuba nengane, nganquma ukumgcina noma kunjalo. Akulula ukuba umama oyedwa, kodwa ukukhetha kwami, angizisoli ngalutho. Nsuku zonke, ngizitshela ukuthi nginenhlanhla kangakanani ngokuba noPauline empilweni yami. Uyintombazane encane emangalisayo. Ukuze ngingazitholi ngiyedwa, ngithembele kakhulu kubazali bami, abafowethu, omalume abakhona ngempela, nakubangane bami. Okwamanje, ngizama ukujabulisa indodakazi yami, ukuhlela impilo yami njengomama, angizami ukwakha kabusha impilo yami, kodwa futhi ngingowesifazane osemusha.
ofuna ukuba sothandweni. “
Yamukela ukukhathazeka kwakho
Impela uke wasizwa lesi sincomo ngaphambilini: ukuze ube ngumama okahle, akumele ukhathazeke ngoba ukukhathazeka kuyathathelana futhi ingane yakho iyakuzwa. Kunjalo, uma ukhathazekile ingane yakho izozizwa. Kodwa ungalokothi ukhathazeke uma ungumama akunakwenzeka neze! Ngakho yeka ukuzizwa unecala ngenxa yokukhathazeka, yemukela ukungabaza kwakho. Nalapha futhi, iyingxenye yephakethe likamama! Ukuba ngumama kuthatha isikhathi. Yamukela amaphutha akho, qhubekela phambili ngokuzama nangephutha. Hlola futhi uma kungasebenzi, shintsha. Yamukela ukuba namaphutha, empilweni senza esingakwenza, hhayi esikufunayo. Ukwamukela ukuzibuza kuzokwenza umama ongcono kunabo bonke.
Akathathe indawo yakhe ubaba
Uyazi ukuthi ungayinakekela kanjani ingane yakho, kodwa akuwena wedwa. Uyise naye. Ungayehliseli ngemuva, yifake, ivumele ithathe indawo yayo kwasekuqaleni. Angakwazi kanye nokushintsha amanabukeni, ukuyothenga, ukushisisa ibhodlela, ukuthulula umshini wokuwasha izitsha, ukugeza, ukulungisa indlu noma ukuvuka ebusuku ukuze aduduze ikherubi lakhe. Myeke enze ngendlela yakhe, engafani neyakho. Lokhu kubambisana kuzoqinisa ubudlelwano benu. Ngamunye uyothola omunye endimeni yakhe entsha, azise izici ezintsha zobuntu bakhe futhi aqinise omunye ebuzali bakhe.
Zibongele!
Kunezikhathi nsuku zonke lapho yonke into ilawulwa kahle, ingane yakho ilale kahle, idle kahle, iyamamatheka, yinhle, ijabule kanjalo nawe... Uma izinto zihamba kahle, zihalalisele ngaphakathi ngokuba ngumama oqotho. ,bajikijelana izimbali. Qaphela izimfanelo zakho futhi wamukele izincomo, zikufanele.
Yiba ngumama, kodwa hhayi ukuthi ...
Ukuhlala ungowesifazane, isithandwa, umngane, osebenza naye, umlandeli we-zumba, kubalulekile ukuze uzizwe njengomama olungile. Ungayibeki ebaleni impilo yakho ngaphansi kwezaba lokuthi umntwana osanda kuzalwa uthatha indawo enkulu empilweni yakho. Ngemuva komntwana, kufanele uthole impilo njengombhangqwana! Ungamvumeli athathe yonke indawo, akukuhle kuye noma kuwe noma kubudlelwane bakho. Ungangabazi ukuphathisa ingane yakho ukuthi ihlale iyodwa ebusuku nesithandwa sakho. Phuma ngesidlo sakusihlwa sothando, kodwa qaphela: akuvunyelwe ngokuphelele ukukhuluma ngomncane! Zinike isikhathi sokuphumula. Ngamafuphi, thola ibhalansi entsha phakathi kwabo bonke abesifazane abahlukile oyikho!
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