Ngamunye wethu kukhona izinhlangothi esingaziboni, esingazamukeli. Aqukethe amandla angakhululwa. Kodwa kuthiwani uma sinamahloni futhi sesaba ukuzibheka sijule phakathi kwethu, eSithunzini sethu? Sikhulume ngalokhu nodokotela wezengqondo uGleb Lozinsky.
Igama lomkhuba elithi «Shadow Work» livusa izinhlangano ne-Jungian archetype, kodwa futhi ne-karate ehlanganisa "i-shadow boxing". Umelelani? Ake siqale ngokubaluleke kakhulu…
Psychology: Yini le Shadow?
Gleb Lozinsky: UJung wabiza isithunzi ngokuthi i-archetype, okuthi engqondweni yethu ibambe konke esingakuboni kithi, esingafuni ukuba yikho. Asiboni, asizwa, asizizwa, asiboni ngokugcwele noma ngokwengxenye. Ngamanye amazwi, iShadow yilokho okukithi, kodwa lokho esikuthatha njengokungathi yithina, ubunikazi obunqatshiwe. Isibonelo: Ngeke ngivumele ukuhlukunyezwa noma, ngokuphambene nalokho, ubuthakathaka, ngoba ngicabanga ukuthi lokhu kubi. Noma ngingeke ngivikele okungokwami ngoba ngicabanga ukuthi ukuba nempahla akufanelekile. Singase singaqapheli nokuthi sinomusa, siyaphana, nokunye. Futhi nalokhu kuyiSithunzi esaliwe.
Futhi awukwazi ukukubona ...
Kunzima kunoma ubani kithi ukubamba isithunzi, indlela yokuluma indololwane, indlela yokubona izinhlangothi ezimbili zeNyanga ngesikhathi esisodwa ngeso. Kodwa ingabonakala ngezimpawu ezingaqondile. Lapha senza isinqumo: konke, ngeke ngiphinde ngithukuthele! Nokho, “Eshu! Ukuphi ukulingana!?”, “Kodwa kunjani, bengingafuni!”. Noma othile esho into enjengokuthi “Ngiyakuthanda”, futhi kukhona ukudelela noma ukuzidla ezwini, amagama awahambisani nephimbo. Noma kuzothiwa umuntu: wena unenkani, uyaphikisana, avele aphakame ngokucasuka athi cha, anginjalo, abukho ubufakazi!
Bheka nxazonke: kunezibonelo eziningi. Sibona kalula isithunzi somunye umuntu (utshani obusesweni), kodwa asikwazi ukubona okwethu (ugodo). Futhi enye into: lapho okuthile kwabanye kweqisa, kweqisa, kuyacasula noma kuthakasela ngokweqile, leli ithonya leSithunzi sethu, esisivezayo, siphonsa kwabanye. Futhi akunandaba ukuthi kuhle noma kubi, kuhlale kumayelana nalokho thina bantu, esingakuqapheli kithi. Ngenxa yokungabonwa, i-Shadow idla ngamandla empilo yethu.
Kodwa kungani singaziboni lezi zimfanelo, uma sesinazo kakade?
Okokuqala, kuyabangela amahloni. Okwesibili, kuyethusa. Futhi okwesithathu, akuvamile. Uma uhlobo oluthile lwamandla luhlala kimi, luhle noma lubi, kusho ukuthi ngidinga ukuphatha la mandla ngandlela thize, ngenze okuthile ngawo. Kodwa kunzima, kwesinye isikhathi asazi ukuthi sizoyiphatha kanjani. Ngakho-ke kulula ukusho ukuthi, "O, lokhu kuyinkimbinkimbi, kungcono ngingabhekana nakho." Kunjengoba uyazi akulula kithina abantu abamnyama kakhulu, kodwa futhi akulula nabantu abakhanya kakhulu. Ngoba nje inamandla. Futhi thina, ngomqondo ongokomfanekiso, sibuthakathaka emoyeni, futhi sidinga ukuzimisela ukuze sihlangane namandla, amandla, ngisho nokungaziwa.
Futhi labo abalungele ukujwayelana nalamandla beza kuwe?
Yebo, abanye bazimisele ukungena ngaphakathi komuntu ongaziwa. Kodwa wonke umuntu uyazinqumela mayelana nezinga lokulungela. Lesi yisinqumo samahhala sabahlanganyeli. Ngemuva kwakho konke, ukusebenza neShadow kunemiphumela: lapho uthola okuthile ngawe obungakwazi ngaphambili, noma mhlawumbe ubungafuni ukwazi, impilo ishintsha nakanjani ngandlela thize.
Obani othisha bakho?
Mina nozakwethu u-Elena Goryagina saqeqeshwa mathupha ngu-John no-Nicola Kirk base-UK futhi ku-inthanethi ngu-American Cliff Barry, umdali wokuqeqeshwa kwe-Shadow Working. UJohn unomdlandla futhi uqondile, uNicola unobuqili futhi ujulile, uCliff uyingcweti yokuhlanganisa izindlela ezahlukene. Waletha kumkhuba we-psychotherapeutic umuzwa wobungcwele, umkhuba. Kodwa wonke umuntu owenza lolu hlobo lomsebenzi uwenza ngendlela ehlukile.
Uyini umongo wendlela?
Sakha izimo ezivumayo zokuqaphela Ithunzi eliphazamisa kakhulu impilo yelungu elithile leqembu. Futhi uthola indlela yakhe ngayinye yokuveza amandla afihlwa yiSithunzi. Okusho ukuthi, baphuma baye embuthanweni futhi benze isicelo, isibonelo: "Kunzima kimi ukusho engikufunayo," futhi ngosizo lweqembu basebenza nalesi sicelo. Lena indlela yokwenziwa, okugxilwe kakhulu (kuyo yomibili imizwa) ukubona indlela yokuziphatha ehlanekezela ukuphila, kodwa ingafezeki. Bese uyishintsha ngosizo lwesenzo esithile: ukubonakaliswa kanye / noma ukwamukela amandla, amandla.
Okuthile okufana nesibhakela sesithunzi?
Angiyena uchwepheshe kule mpi. Uma ku-approximation yokuqala, ku-«shadow boxing» i-fighter ifika ekuxhumaneni okujulile naye. Akukho imbangi yangempela, futhi ukuzibona kuqala ukusebenza ngendlela ehlukile, ukuzazi okuphelele. Ngakho-ke, "i-shadow boxing" isetshenziselwa ukulungiselela impi yangempela.
Sisebenzisana noMthunzi ukuze uMthunzi angadlali ngathi. Sidlala neShadow ukuze isisebenzele.
Futhi yebo, umsebenzi wethu wokwenza kahle iSithunzi uqala ukuxhumana okujulile nathi. Futhi njengoba impilo nezwe elingaphakathi kuhlukene, thina, ngaphezu kweShadow, sisebenzisa ezinye izinhlobo ezine ze-archetypes: Inkosi, iQhawe, uMlingo, Onothando - futhi sinikeza ukucabangela noma iyiphi indaba, inkinga, isidingo kusukela kuleli phuzu. buka.
Kwenzeka kanjani lokhu?
Lokhu kungumuntu ngamunye, kodwa ukwenza lula: isibonelo, indoda ethile ingase ibone ukuthi nabesifazane isebenzisa amaqhinga eQhawe. Okungukuthi, ifuna ukunqoba, ukunqoba, ukuthumba. Kuphakathi kokuthi ubukeka ebanda kakhulu emandleni oMlingo, noma uthathwa abantu abadlulayo, ugeleza ebuhlotsheni emandleni oMthandi. Noma yenza njengenkosi esikhundleni somsizi. Nokukhononda kwakhe: “Angikuzwa ukusondelana! ..”
Ingabe umsebenzi omude?
Ngokuvamile senza ukuqeqeshwa ensimini izinsuku ezingu-2-3. Umsebenzi weqembu unamandla kakhulu, ngakho ungaba owesikhashana. Kodwa futhi kukhona ifomethi yeklayenti eyodwa, kanye namasu angasetshenziswa ngokuzimela.
Ingabe ikhona imikhawulo yokubamba iqhaza?
Siyaqikelela ukuthi sithatha labo abadinga ukwesekwa kokwelashwa, umsebenzi wabo okungekona ukuzenza babe babi kakhulu. Ukuqeqeshwa kwethu kuningi kulabo abafuna ukuthuthukisa: ukusebenza neShadow kulungele ukukhula komuntu siqu.
Uyini umphumela wokuhlangana noMthunzi?
Umgomo wethu uwukuhlanganisa iShadow kumuntu ngamunye. Ukunaka komhlanganyeli, ngokufanele, kuqondiswe endaweni lapho enendawo efile, ukuze avuselele le ndawo, ukuyixhuma nawo wonke umzimba. Cabanga nje, siphila futhi asizizwa ingxenye ethile yomzimba, ikhona, kodwa asiyizwa, asiyisebenzisi. Enye ingxenye kulula ukuyinaka, kanti enye inzima. Lapha kuzwane omkhulu kulula. Futhi phakathi nozwane kakade kunzima nakakhulu. Futhi ngakho ngize lapho nokunaka kwami, ngizwe, kodwa nginyakaze? Futhi kancane kancane le ngxenye iba ngeyami ngempela.
Futhi uma kungewona uzwane oluphakathi, kodwa isandla noma inhliziyo? Abanye abantu bacabanga ukuthi lokhu akudingekile, ngoba ngaphambi kokuba ngandlela-thile baphile ngaphandle kwayo, ungaqhubeka uphila. Abanye abantu bayabuza: Ngiyizwile, futhi manje sengenzenjani ngayo? Futhi umsebenzi wethu njengabethuli wukwenza ababambiqhaza baqonde ukuthi banomsebenzi ohlukile okufanele bawenze ukuze bahlanganise amathuba amasha nolwazi ekuphileni.
Uma sihlanganisa iSithunzi, sizosinikani?
Ukuzizwa uphelele. Ukuphelela kuhlale kusho ukufana nami okwengeziwe. Mina ohlelweni lobudlelwano bomndeni, mina nomzimba wami, nezimiso zami, mina nebhizinisi lami. Ngilapha. «Mina» avuke futhi alale. Ukwazi iShadow kusinika umuzwa omkhulu wokuba khona ezimpilweni zethu. Kukunika isibindi sokuqala into, okungukuthi, ukukhetha ukwenza okuthile ngokwakho. Ingivumela ukuthi ngithole engikufunayo. Noma uyeke into ongayifuni. Zazi izidingo zakho.
Futhi kothile kuyoba ukudalwa kombuso wabo, umhlaba. Indalo. Uthando. Ngoba uma singasiboni iShadow, kuba sengathi asiboni isandla sokudla noma sokunxele. Kodwa lokhu kuyinto ebalulekile: isandla, sihamba kanjani? O, buka, welula isandla lapho, waphulula othile, wadala okuthize, wakhomba ndawondawo.
Lapho siqaphela lokhu, enye impilo iqala nge «I» entsha. Kodwa ukusebenza neShadow, ngokungazi lutho kithi, kuyinqubo engapheli, ngoba uNkulunkulu oyedwa kuphela futhi ukuyo yonke indawo, futhi umuntu uhlale elinganiselwe ekuziboneni kwakhe, ekuboneni umhlaba. Uma nje singelona ilanga, sizoba neSithunzi, ngeke sisuke kulokhu. Futhi sihlala sinokuthile esingakuthola futhi sikuguqule kithina. Sisebenzisana noMthunzi ukuze uMthunzi angadlali ngathi. Sidlala ngeSithunzi ukuze uMthunzi uzosisebenzela.