Empilweni yawo wonke umuntu kunezikhathi lapho imigomo ibonakala ingafinyeleleki, futhi imizamo iyize. Izikhathi zokuwohloka komnotho zithatha isikhathi esingaphezu kosuku olulodwa futhi zenzeka izikhathi ezingaphezu kwesisodwa, ngezinye izikhathi zenza ize zonke izifiso. Ungabhekana kanjani nawe? Ungasithatha kanjani esinye isinyathelo? Izindlela ezimbalwa ezilula kodwa ezisebenzayo zizosiza ukuthi ungalahlekelwa ukholo kuwena.
"Konke kubi ngami, sengineminyaka engu-25 kakade, futhi akukho osekwenziwe kuze kube phakade", "omunye unyaka usudlulile, futhi angiyena usozigidi / hhayi inkanyezi yaseHollywood / angishadile ne-oligarch / hhayi umongameli / hhayi umklomelo weNobel. " Imicabango enjalo ivakashela umuntu obhekene nenkinga, okubizwa nge-psychology ebizwa ngokuthi i-existential.
Ibanga phakathi kwesifiso sokuvelela neqiniso libonakala lingenakunqotshwa. Kufika umuzwa wokuthi impilo iphilwa ize, hhayi ngendlela obuyifisa ngayo. Unyaka nonyaka, amaphupho ahlala engamaphupho nje futhi azikho izinguquko ezibalulekile ezenzekayo. Umuzwa ojwayelekile?
Nakuba lesi simo singase sibonakale singenathemba, ikhona indlela yokunqoba le nkinga. Ihlolwe futhi ifaka izinyathelo ezine kuphela.
1. Khumbula ukuthi izikhathi ezinjalo zike zenzeka ngaphambili. Kwakukhona ukuwa, futhi ngemva kwabo - ups, futhi wena wabhekana. Ngakho lesi yisimo sesikhashana esizodlula. Hlaziya ukuthi ukwazile kanjani ukuphuma kulo mkhuba okokugcina, okwenzile, ongakwenzanga. Izikhathi zokuphelelwa ithemba azibulali, kodwa zinikeza ithuba lokuzindla - yini ongayenza ukuze uqhubekele phambili emgomweni wakho ohlosiwe?
2. Qhathanisa: waphuphani ngonyaka odlule, yini onayo manje? Impumelelo yabanye ihlale ibonakala. Kusukela ngaphandle kubonakala sengathi abanye abantu bafinyelela yonke into ngokushesha. Iqhinga lilula: konke okukuzungezile kulungile phambi kwamehlo akho, ngakho-ke izinguquko azibonakali futhi kubonakala sengathi akukho nqubekelaphambili.
Ukuze uhlole kahle imizamo yakho, thola isithombe esidala bese usiqhathanisa nalokho okubona manje. Uyakhumbula ukuthi impilo yayinjani ngonyaka odlule? Yiziphi izinkinga ozixazulule, yiziphi izinjongo ozibekele zona, ubukuliphi izinga? Mhlawumbe, ngaphambili wawungakwazi ukukhokhela ibhotela lesinkwa, kodwa namuhla ukhathazekile ukuthi amaparele amancane?
Yingakho kubaluleke kakhulu ukukhumbula isigaba sakho sangaphambilini futhi usiqhathanise nesamanje. Noma iyiphi inqubekelaphambili? Wabe uphuphe ngokuthola lokhu onakho manje? Funda ukungazibukeli phansi izinto ozifezile.
3. Cabanga ukuthi impumelelo yakho iyanda kakhulu. Nsuku zonke, inani lezinyathelo ezithathiweyo liphindaphindwa ngenombolo engashintshi. Isibonelo, namuhla ukuseli 1, kusasa 1 x 2, ngakusasa 2 x 2. Bese - kuseli 8, bese - 16, futhi ngokushesha kuya ku-32. Isinyathelo ngasinye esilandelayo asilingani nesedlule. Umphumela ngamunye uphindaphinda owedlule kuphela uma ugudluza ngenhloso eyodwa. Yilokhu okukuvumela ukuthi uzuze imiphumela emihle kakhulu, noma ngabe ekuqaleni bekukhona eyodwa kuphela. Ngakho-ke, lapho igagasi lokudangala liqala ukugoqa futhi, khumbula ukuthi ukuqhubeka kwejometri kuzoholela nakanjani kumphumela. Into esemqoka ukuthi ungayeki.
4. Sebenzisa indlela «izinyathelo ezincane». Ukuze sihlole ukusebenza kwayo, ake siqale sikhulume ngamahomoni - i-dopamine ne-serotonin. Cabanga ukuthi usendaweni engu-A futhi ubheke umgomo wakho owuthandayo, olinde endaweni engu-Z, futhi kukhona kwalasha phakathi kwawo. Iphuzu engikude kakhulu nasekuqaleni, alinangqondo kakhulu futhi alifinyeleleki, futhi lokhu kubangela ukunganaki nokucindezeleka.
Kungani? Ngoba umzimba uyenqaba ukunikeza amandla ezenzweni "ezingenanzuzo". “Akunakwenzeka,” kusho ubuchopho bese buvala ukusebenza ngakule ndawo. I-Dopamine inesibopho sokugqugquzela kanye nezenzo ezisebenzayo emzimbeni wethu. Lokhu kubizwa ngokuthi "i-hormone ethembisa injabulo", kuletha injabulo ekulindeni umvuzo, kusukela ekuqhubekeleni phambili emgomweni.
I-dopamine eyenza ukuthi uye phambili, kodwa uma isikhathi esithile izenzo zingalethi umphumela osobala, umgomo usekude, i-serotonin ixhunyiwe. Le hormone ikhishwa lapho uthola umvuzo othenjisiwe. Uma umgwaqo oya egoli uba mude kakhulu, izinga le-serotonin liyehla, futhi i-dopamine yehla ngemva kwayo. Kuvela ukuthi njengoba kungekho mvuzo, akukho ugqozi, futhi okuphambene nalokho: akukho ukugqugquzela, akukho mvuzo.
Udumele: akukho okuzolunga, sekuyisikhathi sokuma. Okufanele ngikwenze?
Funda ubuciko «izinyathelo ezincane». Kulula ukubona ukuthi phakathi kwephoyinti lokuqala nendawo I kunezinye izincwadi eziningi ezibalulekile ngokulinganayo, isibonelo, B, C kanye no-G. Ngamunye wabo unomthwalo wemfanelo weseli elithile. Isinyathelo sokuqala sithathwa, futhi manje uku-B, okwesibili kuthathwa, futhi usuvele uku-G. Uma ungagcini iphuzu elingafinyeleleki I phambi kwamehlo akho ngaso sonke isikhathi, kodwa gxila ephuzwini eliseduze, lapho-ke ungagwema ugibe lwe-dopamine-serotonin.
Khona-ke, ngemva kokuthatha isinyathelo, uzoba lapho ubufuna ukuba khona, futhi uyokwaneliseka. I-Serotonin iletha imivuzo, uzwa injabulo yempumelelo, futhi ubuchopho bunikeza ithuba lokuthola umthamo olandelayo we-dopamine. Kungase kubonakale kulula futhi kucacile: hamba ngezinyathelo ezincane, ngaphandle kokudonsa amabanga amade. Kungani abanye bephumelela kanti abanye bengaphumeleli? Iqiniso liwukuthi abantu abaningi bazama ngokushesha ukufika ephuzwini I, beqa yonke eminye imigomo emincane endleleni eya kuyo.
Bekezela uzowina. Zidumise ngakho konke ukunqoba okuncane, gubha yonke inqubekelaphambili encane, futhi ukhumbule ukuthi konke kungenzeka, kodwa hhayi ngokushesha.