Izincwadi zokuzithuthukisa zingobani? Singasho yini ukuthi lezi zihlose ukuthuthukisa impilo yengqondo yanoma yimuphi umuntu?

Ku-Lacroix, ukuthuthuka komuntu siqu kuthinta abantu abaphilile ngokwengqondo, okuyinto ehlukanisa nayo i-psychotherapies. I-Psychotherapies izinikele enqubweni "yokuphulukisa", enye ifuna ukuqala "ukuvuthwa" okuguquguqukayo.

Ngamanye amazwi, ukuthuthuka komuntu siqu akukhona “kwabagulayo” kodwa okwalabo abafuna ukwaneliseka.

Ngakho-ke umqondo "wezempilo yengqondo" uhlanganisani? I-Jahoda ibonakalisa impilo yengqondo ngo 6 okusalungiswa ezahlukene: 

• isimo sengqondo somuntu ngakuye;
• isitayela kanye nezinga lokuzithuthukisa, ukukhula noma ukwenziwa ngokoqobo;
• ukuhlanganiswa kwemisebenzi engokwengqondo;
• ukuzimela;
• umbono owanele weqiniso;
• ukulawula imvelo.

Ukuzithuthukisa komuntu siqu kuzohlanganisa omunye umqondo obizwa ngokuthi "ukuzenzela wena", ngokomsebenzi ka-1998 kaLeclerc, uLefrançois, uDube, uHébert noGaulin nokuthi iyiphi enye ongabiza ngayo ” ukuzifeza ".

Izinkomba ezingama-36 zokuzifeza zahlonzwa ekupheleni kwalo msebenzi, futhi zahlukaniswa ngezigaba ezi-3. 

Ukuvuleka ukuzwa

Ngokwale misebenzi, abantu abasenqubweni yokuzanelisa….

1. Uyayazi imizwa yabo

2. Yiba nombono ongokoqobo ngabo

3. Bathembe inhlangano yabo

4. Bayakwazi ukuqaphela

5. Bayakwazi ukwamukela imizwa engqubuzanayo

6. Bavulekele ukushintsha

7. Bayawazi amandla abo nobuthakathaka babo

8. Bayakwazi ukuzwelana

9. Bayakwazi ukungazixaki

10. Phila okwamanje

11. Yiba nombono omuhle ngempilo yomuntu

12. Zamukeleni njengoba benjalo

13. Yiba nombono omuhle ngomuntu

14. Bayakwazi ukusabela okuzenzakalelayo

15. Bayakwazi ukuxhumana ngokusondelene

16. Yenza ukuphila kube nenjongo

17. Bayakwazi ukuthembisana

Ukuzibhekisela

Abantu ohlelweni lokuzanelisa….

1. Bazibona benesibopho ngempilo yabo

2. Yamukela isibopho ngezenzo zabo

3. Yamukela imiphumela yezinqumo zabo

4. Yenza ngokuvumelana nezinkolelo zabo kanye nezindinganiso

5. Bayakwazi ukumelana nokucindezela komphakathi okungadingekile

6. Zizwe ukhululekile ukuveza imibono yabo

7. Jabulela ukuzicabangela

8. Ziphathe ngendlela eyiqiniso nehambisanayo

9. Yiba nomuzwa onamandla wezimiso zokuziphatha

10. Abakhutshazwa ukwahlulela kwabanye

11. Zizwe ukhululekile ukuveza imizwa yabo

12. Sebenzisa imibandela yomuntu siqu ukuze uzihlole

13. Bayakwazi ukuphuma ezinhlakeni ezimisiwe

14. Yiba nokuzethemba okuhle

15. Nikeza incazelo ku zabo ukuphila

Ukuvuleleka kokuhlangenwe nakho nokubhekisela kuwena

Abantu ohlelweni lokuzanelisa….

1. Gcina ukuxhumana nabo kanye nomunye umuntu lapho ukhuluma

2. Angabhekana nokwehluleka

3. Bayakwazi ukusungula ubudlelwano obunzima

4. Funa ubudlelwano obusekelwe ekuhloniphaneni

Ukuthuthukiswa komuntu siqu Ikakhulukazi iqondana nomqondo wokuhlukaniswa, le nqubo ehlanganisa ukuzihlukanisa ngazo zonke izindleko kusukela ku-archetypes yokuquleka kweqoqo. Ngokusho kwesazi sokusebenza kwengqondo uJung, ukuhlukanisa umuntu ngamunye “kuwukuzibona, kulokho okungokwakho kakhulu nokuvukela kakhulu ukuqhathanisa nakho konke ukuqhathanisa”, ngamanye amazwi ... 

Ukuthuthuka komuntu siqu kuhlose ukwandisa inani kanye nekhwalithi yemizwa eyakhayo. Nokho, uFredrickson nethimba lakhe bakhombisile ukuthi:

• imizwelo eyakhayo yandisa insimu yombono namakhono okuqonda;
• I-positivity isibeka phezulu: imizwa eyakhayo, impumelelo yomuntu siqu kanye neyomsebenzi, ukuqiniseka okwengeziwe;
• imizwelo eyakhayo yandisa umuzwa wokufakwa nokuba ngowabanye;
• imizwelo eyakhayo yenza kube lula ukwanda kokwazi kanye nomuzwa wobunye ngempilo yonke
• imizwelo eyakhayo ayigcini nje ngokuxosha imizwelo engemihle, kodwa futhi ibuyisela ukulinganisela komzimba. Bazodlala indima yokusetha kabusha (njengenkinobho "yokusetha kabusha").

Ngomcwaningi u-Csikszentmihalyi, ukuthuthukiswa komuntu futhi kusiza ukuphakamisa ukuhambisana, ukuhleleka kanye nezinga lokuhleleka kokwazi kwethu. Izokwazi ukuhlela kabusha ukunaka kwethu futhi isikhulule ethonyeni elihlangene, kungaba amasiko, izakhi zofuzo noma imvelo.

Ubuye akhulume ngokubaluleka “kokuba semigudwini” ngomqondo wokuba nesimo sengqondo esithile lapho umuntu enza imisebenzi yakhe. Ukufeza lokhu, kuzodingeka ikakhulukazi ukuthi:

1. Izinjongo zicacile

2. Impendulo iyacatshangelwa futhi ibalulekile

3. Izinselelo ezihambisana namakhono

4. Umuntu ugxile ngokugcwele emsebenzini awenzayo, kulesi sikhathi samanje futhi eqaphela ngokugcwele.

Le ndlela yokubhekana “nokugeleza” emsebenzini wakhe, ubudlelwano bakhe, impilo yomndeni wakhe, izinkanuko zakhe, kungamenza anganciki kakhulu emiklomelweni yangaphandle egqugquzela abanye ukuba baneliseke ngenqubo yokuphila yansuku zonke engenanjongo. "Ngaso leso sikhathi, uhileleke kakhulu kukho konke okumzungezile ngoba utshalwe ngokugcwele ekuhambeni kokuphila," kusho uCsikszentmihalyi.

Kwabanye ababhali, ukuthuthuka komuntu siqu akusebenzi nje kuphela njengekhambi, kodwa ngaphezu kwakho konke kuzoba nenjongo yokuthuthukisa, ukuqinisa, kanye nokwandisa. URobert Redeker ungomunye wababhali abagxekayo: “ [ukuthuthuka komuntu siqu] kukhuthaza isiko lemiphumela; Ngakho-ke inani lendoda likalwa ngemiphumela ebonakalayo leyo, emqhudelwaneni ojwayelekile kanye nempi yomuntu ngamunye ngokumelene nomuntu ngamunye, ayizuzayo. »

Kuye, kungaba uhlu lwamasu-mbumbulu kuphela, " okungenangqondo , Kwe" I-bazaar enemibala yezinkolelo-ze “Okabani inhloso (ecashile) kungaba ukuphushela phezulu amandla ayo” amakhasimende “. UMichel Lacroix naye wamukela leli phuzu lokubuka: “ Ukuthuthuka komuntu siqu kuhambisana ngokuphelele nesiko lokungenamkhawulo elisabalalayo namuhla, futhi eliboniswa ukuxhashazwa kwezemidlalo, i-doping, amandla esayensi noma ezokwelapha, ukukhathazeka ngokuqina komzimba, isifiso sokuphila isikhathi eside, izidakamizwa, inkolelo yokuphindukuzalwa. “. Kungumqondo wokukhawulelwa, osekungabekezeleleki kumadoda anamuhla, okungaba nesibopho sokuphumelela kwawo kweplanethi. 

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