Ubunqunu olwandle: izingane zicabangani?

Ubunqunu: mlungisele lento azoyibona

Umndeni ngamunye unakho ukusebenza kwayo ngokubheka ubunqunu nesizotha. Kodwa-ke, ngokushesha nje lapho efika ogwini, ingane ibona kuphela imizimba "enqunu-nqunu". Kungukubheja okuphephile ukuthi uzosabela “ngezikhali zakho”: uma ngokuvamile unesizotha kakhulu, angakwazi. wethuke kancane; uma ukhululekile angase angaboni lutho. Kumelwe kushiwo ukuthi namuhla izithombe eziningi ezicishe zibe yizinkanuko ziboniswa ezindongeni zamadolobha ethu noma ziboniswe kuthelevishini, okunomthelela omkhulu ekwamukelweni komzimba onqunu.

Kodwa-ke, ingane idlula ezigabeni ezihlukene, kuye ngeminyaka yayo, okuxhunyaniswa nokutholakala komzimba wayo kanye nobulili bayo.

Iminyaka engu-0-2: ubunqunu abunandaba

Bancane kakhulu futhi kuze kufike eminyakeni emi-2 ubudala, izingane zizwa imizimba yazo ngokwemvelo futhi zithanda ngaphezu kwanoma yini ukuhamba "imbongolo engenalutho". Bakhululekile ikakhulukazi ngomdwebo wabo womzimba futhi akukho mbuzo, kule minyaka, yesizotha noma umbukiso.

Ngakho-ke abanandaba nhlobo nemizimba evezwa eduze kwabo. Ababuzi imibuzo, ababoni ukuthi ubani onengubo yokubhukuda, okhumula phezulu, ofaka intambo … Bavame ukujabula ukuzithola benqunu, bona kanye nabadlala nabo!

Iminyaka engu-2-4: ufuna ukwazi

Uvula amehlo akhe njengamasoso lapho umakhelwane wakho osogwini ekhumula ingubo yakhe yokubhukuda. Ukubuze imibuzo eyinkulungwane lapho uwela ulwandle lwama-naturist ngesikhathi sohambo. Kusukela eminyakeni emi-2 noma emi-3, ingane iqala ukwazi umehluko phakathi kobulili. Ubuza imibuzo eminingi, mayelana nobulili bakhe siqu kodwa nangabanye: umama noma ubaba, futhi kungani kungenjalo intokazi enqunu ogwini. Uthola umzimba wakhe, azihlukanise ngokocansi futhi azimisele ngokuthola abobulili obuhlukile. Uze akujabulele ngokukhethekile ukubukisa nokubuka abanye.

Yingakho ubunqunu obuseduze olwandle bungamkhathazi. Ngokuphambene nalokho, kumvumela ukuba asho lokho akuzwayo, noma akhulume nendaba ngendlela engokwemvelo ngokuphelele.

Phendula ilukuluku lakhe kalula ngangokunokwenzeka. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uyavuma noma cha, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi wenza i-monokini noma cha, leli yithuba lokuchaza umbono wakho ngale ndaba futhi ubeke imithetho yakho siqu. Ungabi namahloni ngemibuzo yakhe ngoba ijwayelekile, kodwa uma ikuphoxa, kungcono ugweme izindawo “ezinesibindi” kakhulu ngokuthanda kwakho. I-Nudism ivamise ukulawulwa futhi ungakhetha ibhishi elivimbela i-monokini noma ukugqokwa kwamathong njengesibonelo.

Iminyaka engu-4-6: ubunqunu buyamkhathaza

Kusukela eminyakeni engu-4 noma engu-5 lapho ingane iqala ukufihla umzimba wayo. Acashe ukuthi agqoke noma akhumule, avale isicabha sasendlini yokugezela. Ngamafuphi, akasabonisi umzimba wakhe omncane othola indawo yangasese neyobulili. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, ubunqunu babanye buyamcasula. Lokho kwabazali bakhe ngoba wayedlula enkathini ye-Oedipus, kodwa nakwabanye ngoba wayeqonda futhi ebona ukuthi abantu abaseduze kwakhe abavamile ukuhamba nqunu. Kodwa kaningi, ogwini, lokhu "okujwayelekile okusha" kubukelwa phansi. Abesifazane bakhombisa amabele abo, abesilisa bashintsha izingubo zabo zokubhukuda ngaphandle kokunakekela ukucasha ngethawula, abancane banqunu ngokuphelele…

Ngokuvamile ingane eneminyaka engu-4-5 ibheka kude, inamahloni. Kwesinye isikhathi uyaye aklolode noma ahambisane nombono wakhe nge “yuck, iyanyanyisa”, kepha unamahloni impela, futhi kakhulu uma kukhulunywa ngezihlobo zakhe. Yiqiniso, umbono wokuthobeka uyahlukahluka emkhayeni ngamunye. Ingane ejwayele ukubona unina egqoke i-monokini cishe ngeke ibe namahloni kunangaphambili inqobo nje uma iqonda ukuthi lo mcimbi uvalelwe ogwini lolwandle. Ingane evela emkhayeni onesizotha kakhudlwana ingabhekana nalo “mbukiso” kabi.

Kufanele uqonde ukuphoxeka kwakhe futhi uhloniphe isizotha sakhe. Isibonelo, ungajwayelanisa izindawo ojwayele ukujwayela kuzo noma indlela oziphatha ngayo ihambisane nokusabela kwazo. Gwema izihlambi ezivamile, amabhishi aseduze namabhishi e-naturist, zivikele ngethawula ukuze ushintshe. Ukuthinta okuncane, okulula okuzomsiza azizwe ekhululekile.