Ukukhathala kwemizwa kuwukukhathala ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo okunezimbangela eziningi. Akufanele inganakwa ngoba ingaholela ezinkingeni ezinkulu ezifana nokucindezeleka noma ukutubeka. Ungayibona kanjani? Yini engaholela ekukhathaleni kwemizwa? Ungakugwema kanjani? Sithatha isitoko no-Boris Amiot, umqeqeshi wokuthuthuka komuntu siqu. 

Abantu abahlushwa ukukhathala kwemizwa babonisa ukukhathala okukhulu ngokomzimba, ukuphazamiseka kokulala, ubunzima bokugxila kanye ne-hyperemotivity. “Kuyenzeka uma singalalelanga futhi siphakele izidingo zethu zesikhathi eside. Ukukhathala kwemizwa kugcina kwenzeka lapho silandela indawo engasasifanele ”, kuchaza u-Boris Amiot. Lokhu kukhathala kwengqondo empeleni kuwuphawu oluyisixwayiso oluvela emizimbeni yethu nasengqondweni yethu ukushintsha izinto empilweni yethu. “Ngeshwa, lapho ukukhathala kusihlasela, asazi okwamanje ukuthi yini ebingaholela kulesi simo, noma sizizwa singenamandla”, igcizelela uchwepheshe wezokuthuthukiswa komuntu siqu. Ngakho-ke kubalulekile ukuzibuza ukuthi yini ebangele lokhu kukhathala kwemizwa futhi ngaleyo ndlela ukunqobe kangcono.

Ukukhathala ngokomzimba isimo esivamile esivela ngemva kokuzikhandla okukhulu ngokomzimba noma ukucindezeleka okungokomzwelo okubonakala kahle. Ngokuvamile kuhamba ngemva kobusuku obubodwa noma ngaphezulu bokulala nokuphumula ngokomzimba. Nakuba ukukhathala kokwethuka kungase kube nezimpawu ezifanayo njengokukhathala komzimba, kungase kubonakale ngokuqina nobude besikhathi. Ngempela, ukukhathala kwemizwa kuqhubeka naphezu kokulala kahle, kuxazulula ngokuhamba kwesikhathi futhi kuphazamisa yonke imikhakha yokuphila (umsebenzi, impilo yomshado, impilo yomndeni, njll.). “Uma singayilaleli kancane, izozwakala nakakhulu”, kugcizelela u-Boris Amiot.

Kunezici ezimbalwa ezisebenzayo ekukhathaleni kwemizwa:

• Izinkinga kwabashadile. Lapho ukucasuka kuphindaphindwa phakathi kombhangqwana ngaphandle kokubuza kwangempela, kungaholela ekukhathaleni kovalo. Ukuphindwaphindwa kwezinkinga endimeni ebaluleke njengezithandani kuyingozi empilweni yethu yengqondo.
• Ukuntula ukucabangela nokubonga emsebenzini. Isidingo sokuqashelwa emsebenzini sinomthelela enhlalakahleni enkampanini. Lapho lesi sidingo singafinyelelwa futhi izimpawu zokungabongi kozakwethu nabaphathi zanda futhi zihlala isikhathi eside, ingozi yokukhathala kwemizwa inkulu.
• Umthwalo wengqondo. Sibiza “umthwalo wengqondo” iqiniso lokuhlala sicabanga ngomsebenzi osilindele ehhovisi noma ekhaya nokuhlela kusengaphambili ukuphathwa nokuhlelwa kwemisebenzi yobungcweti noma yasendlini, ukuze sanelise abanye (ozakwethu, oshade naye, izingane…) . Idala ingcindezi engaholela ekuphazamisekeni kwengqondo okuhlanganisa nokukhathala kwemizwa.

Kubalulekile ukulalela izidingo zakho ezingokwenyama nezingokwengqondo ukuze ugweme ukukhathala kwemizwa. Kanjani? 'Noma' Yini?

• Ngokunakekela indlela yakhe yokuphila. Lapho umzimba wethu usicela ukuba sehlise ijubane, kufanele siwulalele! Ukuzinika izikhathi zokuphumula nokuziphumuza wena ngokwakho kubalulekile, njengokuzivivinya umzimba njalo nokudla imikhuba emihle yokudla. Ukuba nomusa kuwena kuqala ukunakekela inhlalakahle yomuntu engokomzimba. “Uzijwayeza ukuzizwela ngokufunda ukulalela izidingo zomzimba wakho”, ikhombisa umqeqeshi wokuzithuthukisa.
• Ngokuhlola impilo yakhe ukuze abone okungahambisani nathi. "Ukubuyekeza zonke izici zokuphila kwakho ukuze ubone ukuthi yini engahambisani nezifiso zethu ngaphandle kokuzahlulela, kukuvumela ukuthi ubeke umunwe wakho kulokho okungase, ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, kuholele ekukhathaleni kwemizwa", kweluleka u-Boris Amiot. Uma ukungezwani nezinkinga sezibonakalisiwe, sizibuze ukuthi ziyini izidingo zethu bese sizama ukugomela usuku nosuku, kuze kube umkhuba.
• Ngokufunda ukwehlisa ijubane. Emphakathini osheshayo, kubonakala kunzima ukwehlisa ijubane. Kodwa-ke, kubalulekile ukunciphisa izinga ukuze uphile impilo ngokugcwele futhi ngaleyo ndlela uchume. “Sikusiphithiphithi 'sokwenza' okusivimbela ukuba silalele izidingo zethu. Ukuze wehlise ijubane, kuyadingeka ukuthi sisuke kukho konke okusihlukanisa nabanye kanye nemvelo, futhi ngaleyo ndlela sishiye indawo yobuhlakani bethu ”, kuphetha uchwepheshe wokuthuthukisa umuntu.