Ngenkathi esemncane, wayemuhle kakhulu ngeziqu zakhe ephuma esikoleni. Mhlawumbe ubevele ekhuluma nawe ngesithandwa sakhe futhi lokho kukwenza uhleke. Kepha manje njengoba intombazanyana yakho seyiphenduke intombazane eyeve eshumini nambili, egxeka izingubo zakho futhi ibubule ngawo wonke amazwi akho, isikhathi setimu yesoka sekunzima ukusithola. Futhi ukwamukela lokho okuthiwa "isoka" ngaphandle kokukhuluma ngakho, kanjani?

Intombazane yakho encane isikhulile. Usengumuntu osemusha omuhle, olungele ukuzama ubudlelwane bezothando izinsuku ezingaphezu kwezingu-3. Noma abazali bazi kahle kahle ukuthi le ntuthuko ijwayelekile, iningi labo lizithola lingakhululekile.

Ukuvumelana nobudlelwano bendodakazi yabo, umzali angazibuza ukuthi yini ebaphazamisayo kulesi simo? Ezinkundleni zokuxoxisana, lesi sihloko siyaphindeka futhi abazali basho izizathu eziningana:

• bacabanga ukuthi kusesekuseni kakhulu ngendodakazi yabo;
• abamazi umfana noma umndeni wakhe;
• kubo kuyamangaza, indodakazi yabo ayikaze ikhulume nabo ngakho;
• kunomehluko omkhulu kakhulu emasikweni, ezindinganisweni, enkolweni;
• akananhlonipho;
• indodakazi yabo ibingajabule selokhu yahlala nayo;
• indodakazi yabo isishintshe indlela abaziphatha ngayo kusukela ngalobu budlelwano.

Ezimweni lapho ubudlelwano buguqula indlela yokuziphatha kwengane yakhe futhi / noma buba yingozi empilweni yayo nasezifundweni zayo, abazali abadingi ukwamukela leli soka, kepha kunalokho kufanele benze ubufakazi benkhulumomphendvulwano futhi uma kungenzeka begcine indodakazi yabo ikude nalokhu ithonya elibi kuye.

Intsha isenkathini lapho yakha khona ubulili bayo, ithuthukisa imizwa yayo yothando, futhi ifunde indlela yokuziphatha namantombazane amancane.

Ngalokhu bangathembela kulokhu:

• imfundo nezibonelo ezinikezwa yimindeni nezihlobo zabo;
• ithonya labangane babo;
• imingcele amantombazane amancane azobabeka kuyo;
• ithonya labezindaba, imvelo yabo yamasiko nenkolo, njll.

Ukukhumbula ubusha bakho, ngempumelelo, ukwehluleka, izikhathi zokujabha lapho wenqatshwa, izikhathi zokuqala… Konke lokhu kusiza ukuhlala unomusa futhi uvulekele le nsizwa ongene empilweni yendodakazi yakho ngaphandle kokucela imvume.

Intombazane yakho encane iqala ukuzenzela izinqumo, ukuzikhethela, kufaka phakathi nezindaba zothando. Umzali uba ngumuntu omdala okhethiwe obhekene nokumeseka kepha hhayi ngokumkhethela. Futhi noma ngabe ubuhlungu benhliziyo buba buhlungu, kungenxa yalokhu ukuthi siyazakha.

Lapho ukulila "kwesithandwa esincane sikababa wakhe, noma umama wakhe" sekudlulile, umzali angagcina esenikeze ilukuluku, ukuthola isoka elidumile. Akunasidingo sokubuza imibuzo eminingi kakhulu, intsha ivame ukufuna ukugcina ingadi yayo iyimfihlo. Ukwazi iminyaka yakhe, lapho ahlala khona nokuthi wenzani esifundweni sekuvele kungulwazi olungaqinisa umzali.

Uma inkhulumomphendvulwano inzima, kungenzeka ukuthi uhlangane nomfana. Kuzobe sekukwazi ukushintshana ngamagama ambalwa kanye / noma ukubona ukuziphatha kwakhe.

Izikhathi eziningi zingenzeka:

• mmemele ikhofi ekhaya. Ukudla kusenesikhathi kungaba yisikhathi eside futhi kungaphazamisi;
• ukuya komunye wemicimbi yawo yezemidlalo;
• phakamisa ukuthi indodakazi yakho imyise kolunye lwezinsuku zakhe, ikakhulukazi uma izindlela zokuhamba ziyindlala, kuzoba yithuba lokubona ukuthi umfana uhanjiswa kanjani. Uma enesithuthuthu, ngokwesibonelo, kuyajabulisa ukwazi ukuthi indodakazi yakhe igibela ngemuva nokuthi ifaka isigqoko sokuzivikela;
• phakamisa ukwenza umsebenzi ndawonye, ​​umdlalo we-basketball, i-movie, njll.

Zonke lezi zikhathi zivumela ukuthi ufunde kabanzi ngalowo okhethiwe wenhliziyo yakhe futhi umangale ngokubona, ngokwesibonelo, ukuthi u-Apollo ushaya isigingci njengawe, noma umbhoxo noma ungumlandeli weParis Saint-Germain.

Kuyenzeka futhi ukuthi abazali bathandane nesoka lendodakazi yabo… yebo, uma kunjalo. Ukhona njalo ngempelasonto, kuyo yonke imikhosi yomndeni futhi udlala nawe ithenisi njalo ngeSonto.

Qaphela, kuleli zwe elihehayo labazali, akumele sikhohlwe ukuthi lo mfana okahle kakhulu, ohlangane naye, uyisoka lendodakazi yakho. Njengomuntu osemusha, unelungelo lokudlala ngothando, ukushintsha abathandi, uma ethanda.

Ngokutshala imali eningi kule ndaba, abazali bangadala:

• umuzwa wokungazethembi kowentsha ongakulungele ukuzibandakanya ebudlelwaneni babantu abadala;
• umbono wokuthi angisazizwa ngisekhaya. Abazali bakhona futhi ukugcina umfece azakhele wona nokumvumela ukuthi abuyele lapho uma ewudinga;
• ingcindezi evela kulabo abaseduze kwakhe yokuhlala nalo mfana okuye kuyisinyathelo nje kuphela empilweni yakhe yothando nasekwakheni kwakhe njengowesifazane

Ngakho-ke abazali kufanele bathole ukulingana okulungile phakathi kokwazi umfana, ukuze baziqinisekise futhi bahambe ibanga elihle, ukuze kulondolozwe inkululeko yokuzikhethela yendodakazi yabo. Akulula kanjalo. Ukuze uxhaswe, futhi ukwazi ukuveza ubunzima bawo, ukuhlela umndeni kunikeza inombolo yamahhala: 0800081111.