Usizi lungolunye lwezinto ezibuhlungu kakhulu ongabhekana nazo ekuphileni. Futhi kungenye yezinto ezimbi kakhulu emiphakathini yaseNtshonalanga. Imele zombili lezi ” ukusabela okubuhlungu ngokomzwelo nangokomzwelo ngemva kokushona komunye obalulekile "Futhi" inqubo ye-intrapsychic yokuhlukaniswa kanye nokuhoxiswa kwenyama elahlekile ngokungenakulungiseka ukuze kuvunyelwe ukutshalwa kwezimali kwesikhathi esizayo. »

Ngisho noma kunenqubo evamile kubo bonke abashonelwe, ukushonelwa ngakunye kuhlukile, kubunye, futhi kuncike ebuhlotsheni obabukhona phakathi koshonile noshonelwe. Ngokuvamile, ukushonelwa kuthatha isikhathi esifushane kuphela, kodwa ngezinye izikhathi kuyadonsa, okuholela ekuphazamisekeni kwengqondo kanye ne-somatic okuvame ukuhlala njalo futhi kungase kuthethelele ukubonisana nodokotela onguchwepheshe. Ama-pathologies athile ahlobene nobuntu boshonelwe angase avele. U-Michel Hanus kanye no-Marie-Frédérique Bacqué bahlonze abane.

1) Ukulila okubuhlungu. Umuntu oshonelwe uhlonza umufi ngokwengqondo ngokwethula isimo sengqondo somzimba noma sokuziphatha okuyisici sakamuva. Kukhona nokuziphatha okuzilimazayo noma imizamo yokuzibulala ukuze joyina abalahlekile.

2) Ukulila okungenangqondo. Le pathology imakwa, njengoba negama layo lisikisela, ngokuthatheka. Uchungechunge lwemicabango ephindaphindayo ehlanganisa izifiso ezindala zokufa nemifanekiso engokwengqondo yomuntu oshonile kancane kancane luhlasela oshonelwe. Lokhu kukhathazeka kuholela ku-psychasthenia ebonakala ngokukhathala, umzabalazo wengqondo ngaso sonke isikhathi, ukuqwasha. Kungaholela nasekuzameni ukuzibulala kanye nezigigaba “zokuswela ikhaya”.

3) Ukuzila kohlanya. Kulokhu, oshonelwe uhlala esigabeni sokuphika ngemva kokufa, ikakhulukazi mayelana nemiphumela engokomzwelo yokufa. Lokhu kungabikho okubonakalayo kokuhlupheka, okuvame ukuhambisana namahlaya amahle noma ukujabula ngokweqile, bese kuphenduka ulaka, bese kuba yi-melancholy.

4) Ukulila kwe-melancholy. Kulolu hlobo lokucindezeleka, sithola ukwanda kwecala nokungabi nanzuzo kwabashonelwe. Wabhuquza ngenkathi ezimboza ngezihlamba, ukuthukwa nokugqugquzela isijeziso. Njengoba amathuba okuzibulala anda kakhulu, ngezinye izikhathi kudingekile ukulaliswa esibhedlela abashonelwe.

5) Usizi olubuhlungu. Kuphumela ekucindezelekeni okungathi sína okumakwe kancane ezingeni lezengqondo kodwa kakhulu ezingeni lokuziphatha. Ukufa kothandekayo kuchichima izivikelo zoshonelwe futhi kuveza kuye ukukhathazeka okukhulu kakhulu. Izici eziyingozi zokushonelwa okunjalo ukulahlekelwa abazali kusenesikhathi, inani labashonelwe (ikakhulukazi inani lokushonelwa “okubalulekile”) kanye nobudlova noma isihluku salokhu kufelwa. Amaphesenti angu-57 abafelokazi nabafelokazi bethula ukushonelwa okubuhlungu emasontweni ayisi-6 ngemva kokushona. Le nombolo yehla yaya ku-6% ezinyangeni eziyishumi nantathu kamuva futhi ihlala izinzile ezinyangeni ezingama-25.

Kuyinkinga yokushonelwa eyenza okwengeziwe c futhi izinkinga zenhliziyo kulabo abathintekayo, okufakazela umthelela wento enjalo ku izivikeli mzimba. Abantu abashonelwe futhi bathambekele ekuthatheni izinto eziluthayo njengokuphuza utshwala, izidakamizwa ezithinta ingqondo (ikakhulukazi i-anxiolytics) nogwayi.

6) Usizi lwangemva kokuhlukumezeka. Lolu hlobo lokulila lungenzeka lapho ukushonelwa othandekayo kwenzeka ngesikhathi esifanayo njengosongo oluhlangene oshonelwe ayeyingxenye yalo: ingozi yomgwaqo, ukusinda enhlekeleleni enabantu abaningi abafa, okwenzeka kubantu abacishe bagibela indiza ehlulekile. noma isikebhe nabanye, njll. Kungumqondo wokwabelana ” isiphetho okungenzeka sijwayelekile futhi usibaleke ngenhlanhla Okunikeza ukusondelana kwabahlukunyezwayo, futhi ikakhulukazi abashonile. Oshonelwe uzizwa engakwazi ukuzisiza kanye nomuzwa wecala wokusinda futhi ubona ukushona komuntu oshonile njengokwakhe: ngakho-ke udinga ukusekelwa ngokuphuthumayo kwe-psychotherapeutic.