Wazi kanjani ukuthi impilo yakho iyaphumelela noma cha? Futhi yini ekuvumela ukuthi wahlulele lokhu - iholo, isikhundla, isihloko, ukuqashelwa komphakathi? Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo esihle u-Emily Isfahani Smith uyachaza ukuthi kungani kuyingozi ukuhlobanisa impumelelo nomsebenzi kanye nodumo emphakathini.
Eminye imibono eyiphutha ngokuthi impumelelo iyini idlangile emphakathini wanamuhla. Umuntu oye e-Harvard ngokungangabazeki uhlakaniphe futhi ungcono kunomuntu othole iziqu e-Ohio State University. Ubaba ohlezi ekhaya nezingane akalutho emphakathini njengomuntu osebenza kwenye yezinkampani ezinkulu emhlabeni. Owesifazane onabalandeli abangu-200 ku-Instagram (inhlangano eyeqisayo evinjelwe eRussia) akabalulekile kunowesifazane onezigidi ezimbili.
Lo mbono wempumelelo awugcini nje ngokudukisa, ulimaza kakhulu labo abakholelwa kuwo. Lapho ngisebenza ngencwadi ethi The Power of Meaning, ngaxoxa nabantu abaningi abazakhela udumo ngesisekelo semfundo yabo nemisebenzi abayifezile.
Lapho bephumelela, baba nomuzwa wokuthi abaphili ize—futhi bayajabula. Kodwa lapho bengayitholi imiphumela ababeyilindele, bawela ngokushesha ekuphelelweni ithemba, beqiniseka ngokuthi bona abalutho. Eqinisweni, ukuphumelela nokuchuma akusho ukuba nomsebenzi ophumelelayo noma ukuba nezinto eziningi ezimba eqolo. Kusho ukuba ngumuntu omuhle, ohlakaniphile futhi ophanayo.
Ukuthuthuka kwalezi zimfanelo kuletha abantu umuzwa wokwaneliseka. Okubuye kubasize ukuba babhekane nobunzima ngesibindi futhi bakwamukele ngokuthula ukufa. Nazi izindlela okufanele sizisebenzise ukukala impumelelo—eyethu, eyabanye, futhi ikakhulukazi izingane zethu.
Ukucabanga kabusha Impumelelo
Ngokombono wesazi sokusebenza kwengqondo esikhulu sekhulu lesi-XNUMX u-Erick Erickson, ngamunye wethu, ukuze aphile impilo enenjongo, udinga ukuxazulula izinkinga ezithile esigabeni ngasinye sokukhula. Ebusheni, isibonelo, umsebenzi onjalo uba ukwakheka kobunikazi, umuzwa wokuzazi ngokwakho. Umgomo oyinhloko wobusha uwukwakha izibopho eziseduze nabanye.
Ekuvuthweni, umsebenzi obaluleke kakhulu uba "ukukhiqiza", okungukuthi, isifiso sokushiya uphawu emva kwakho, ukwenza umnikelo obalulekile kulo mhlaba, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ukufundisa isizukulwane esisha noma ukusiza abanye abantu baqaphele amandla abo.
Echaza igama elithi «generativity» encwadini ethi Life Cycle Complete, u-Eric Erikson uxoxa indaba elandelayo. Kwafika izihlobo eziningi zizovakashela ikhehla elaligulela ukufa. Walala evale amehlo, umkakhe wamhlebela bonke ababefika bezombingelela. “Futhi ubani,” wabuza ngokuzumayo, ehlala ngokuzumayo, “ubani obheke isitolo?” Le nkulumo iveza yona kanye incazelo yokuphila kwabantu abadala, amaHindu ayibiza ngokuthi “ukugcina ukuthula.”
Ngamanye amazwi, umuntu omdala ophumelelayo yilowo odlula ubugovu bemvelo bobusha futhi uyaqonda ukuthi akuseyona indaba yokuhamba ngendlela yakho, kodwa ukusiza abanye, ukudala into entsha futhi ewusizo emhlabeni. Umuntu onjalo uzibona eyingxenye yendwangu enkulu yokuphila futhi ufuna ukuyilondolozela izizukulwane ezizayo. Lo msebenzi wenza ukuphila kwakhe kube nenjongo.
Umuntu uzizwa kahle lapho azi ukuthi unendima ebalulekile emphakathini wakubo.
Usomabhizinisi kanye nomtshali-zimali u-Anthony Tian uyisibonelo somuntu okhiqizayo. Kodwa wayengekho njalo. Ngo-2000, u-Tian, ongumfundi omusha wase-Harvard Business School, waqhuba inkampani ye-inthanethi ekhula ngokushesha engu-$100 million ebizwa ngokuthi i-Zefer. U-Tian wayezoyisa inkampani emakethe evulekile, okwakufanele imlethele inzuzo esheshayo.
Kodwa ngalo kanye usuku okwakuhlelelwe ukuthi inkampani iphumele obala, iNasdaq yabhekana nokuphahlazeka kwayo okukhulu emlandweni. Ibhamuza le-dot-com, elakhiwa ngenxa yokukhuphuka kwamasheya ezinkampani ze-inthanethi, laqhuma. Lokhu kwaholela ekuhlelweni kabusha kwenkampani kaTian kanye nemizuliswano emithathu yokudilizwa. Wonakele usomabhizinisi. Wazizwa ephoxekile futhi edangele.
Ngemva kokululama ekunqotshweni, u-Tian waqaphela ukuthi ukuqonda kwakhe impumelelo kwakumholela endleleni engalungile. Igama elithi "impumelelo" kuye lalifana nokunqoba. Uyabhala: "Sibone impumelelo yethu ezigidini okufanele zilethwe ukunikezwa komphakathi kwamasheya, hhayi ezenzweni ezintsha esizidalile, hhayi emthelela wazo emhlabeni." Wanquma ukuthi kwase kuyisikhathi sokusebenzisa amakhono akhe ukuze afinyelele imigomo ephakeme.
Namuhla, u-Tian unguzakwethu enkampanini yokutshala imali i-Cue Ball, lapho ezama ukuphila ngokuvumelana nokuqonda kwakhe impumelelo entsha. Futhi ubonakala ephumelela kakhulu kukho. Enye yamaphrojekthi akhe ayintandokazi iMiniLuxe, uxhaxha lwamasaluni ezinzipho alusungula ukuze kukhuliswe iphrofayili yalo msebenzi okhokhelwa kancane.
Kunethiwekhi yakhe, ochwepheshe be-manicure bahola kahle futhi bathola izinkokhelo zempesheni, futhi imiphumela emihle iqinisekiswa kumakhasimende. “Angifuni izingane zami zicabange ngempumelelo ngokuhlulwa,” kusho uTian. "Ngifuna balwele ukuphelela."
Yenza Okuthile Okuwusizo
Kumodeli yentuthuko ye-Ericksonian, ikhwalithi ephambene nokukhiqiza iwukumila, ukuminza. Okuhambisana nawo umuzwa wokungabi nanjongo kokuphila kanye nokungabi namsebenzi komuntu.
Umuntu uzizwa echuma lapho azi ukuthi ufeza indima ethile ebalulekile emphakathini wakubo futhi unesithakazelo somuntu siqu ekuchumeni kwawo. Leli qiniso laqashelwa emuva ngeminyaka yama-70s yizazi zokusebenza kwengqondo ezithuthukayo phakathi neminyaka eyishumi yokubheka amadoda angama-40.
Esinye sezifundo zabo, umlobi, sasibhekene nenkathi enzima emsebenzini wakhe. Kodwa lapho ethola ucingo olunesicelo sokufundisa ukubhala ngobuciko enyuvesi, wakuthatha njengesiqinisekiso sokufaneleka nokubaluleka kwakhe emsebenzini.
Omunye umhlanganyeli, owayengasebenzi isikhathi esingaphezu konyaka ngaleso sikhathi, watshela abacwaningi: “Ngibona udonga olungenalutho phambi kwami. Ngibona sengathi akekho onendaba nami. Umcabango wokuthi angikwazi ukwanelisa izidingo zomkhaya wami ungenza ngizizwe ngiyisiphukuphuku, isilima.”
Ithuba lokuba usizo lanikeza umuntu wokuqala injongo entsha ekuphileni. Owesibili akazange alibone ithuba elinjalo, futhi lokhu kwaba igalelo elikhulu kuye. Ngempela, ukuntuleka kwemisebenzi akuyona nje inkinga yezomnotho. Lokhu kuyinselelo ekhona futhi.
Ucwaningo lukhombisa ukuthi ukwenyuka kwezinga lokungasebenzi kuhambisana nokukhuphuka kwamazinga okuzibulala. Lapho abantu benomuzwa wokuthi abakwazi ukwenza okuthile okuzuzisayo, balahlekelwa indawo ngaphansi kwezinyawo zabo.
Ngokusobala, ekujuleni komphefumulo wami, kukhona okwakushoda, njengoba kwakudingeka imvume eqhubekayo evela ngaphandle.
Kodwa umsebenzi awukona ukuphela kwendlela yokuba wusizo kwabanye. UJohn Barnes, omunye umhlanganyeli ocwaningweni lwesikhathi eside, wafunda lokhu kokuhlangenwe nakho. U-Barnes, uprofesa wesayensi yezinto eziphilayo enyuvesi, wayenguchwepheshe onesifiso sokuvelela futhi ophumelele kakhulu. Wathola izibonelelo ezibalulekile njenge-Guggenheim Fellowship, wakhethwa ngazwi linye njengosihlalo wesahluko sendawo se-Ivy League, futhi wayengumqondisi wesikole sezokwelapha.
Futhi kukho konke lokho, yena, indoda esakhula, wayezibheka njengesehluleki. Wayengenayo imigomo ayengayibheka njengefaneleka. Futhi ayekuthanda kakhulu “ukusebenza elabhorethri futhi ezizwa njengelungu leqembu” - akekho omunye, ngamazwi akhe, "owayengadingi lutho olubi."
Wezwa sengathi uphila ngokungazi. Yonke iminyaka wayeqhutshwa isifiso sokuvelela kuphela. Futhi ngaphezu kwakho konke, wayefuna ukuthola idumela njengososayensi wesigaba sokuqala. Kodwa manje waqaphela ukuthi isifiso sakhe sokuqashelwa sasisho ukungabi nalutho ngokomoya. “Ngokusobala, ekujuleni komphefumulo wami, kukhona okwakushoda, njengoba kwakudingeka imvume eqhubekayo evela ngaphandle,” kuchaza uJohn Barnes.
Kumuntu osemdala, lesi simo sokungaqiniseki, esishintshashintshayo phakathi kokuzala nokuma, phakathi kokunakekela abanye nokuzinakekela, singokwemvelo. Futhi ukuxazululwa kwalokhu kungqubuzana, ngokusho kuka-Erickson, kuwuphawu lwentuthuko eyimpumelelo kulesi sigaba seminyaka. Okuthi, ngemva kwakho konke, uBarnes wakwenza.
Iningi lethu linamaphupho angafezeki. Umbuzo uthi sisabela kanjani kulokhu kuphoxeka?
Lapho abacwaningi bemvakashela eminyakeni embalwa kamuva, bathola ukuthi wayengasagxilile ekuthuthukeni komuntu siqu nasekuqashelweni kwabanye. Kunalokho, wathola izindlela zokusiza abanye—ukubamba iqhaza kakhudlwana ekukhuliseni indodana yakhe, ukuphatha imisebenzi yokuphatha enyuvesi, eqondisa abafundi abaneziqu elebhu yakhe.
Mhlawumbe umsebenzi wakhe wesayensi awusoze waqashelwa njengobalulekile, akasoze wabizwa ngokukhanya emkhakheni wakhe. Kodwa wayibhala kabusha indaba yakhe futhi wavuma ukuthi ikhona impumelelo. Wayeka ukujaha ukuvelela. Manje isikhathi sakhe simatasa ngezinto ezidingwa ozakwabo namalungu omndeni.
Sonke sifana noJohn Barnes. Mhlawumbe asikulambele kangako ukuqashelwa futhi asikathuthuki kangako emisebenzini yethu. Kodwa iningi lethu linamaphupho angafezeki. Umbuzo uthi sisabela kanjani kulokhu kuphoxeka?
Singaphetha ngokuthi siyizehluleki nokuthi ukuphila kwethu akunanjongo, njengoba uBarnes anquma ekuqaleni. Kodwa singakhetha incazelo ehlukile yempumelelo, ekhiqizayo—ukusebenza buthule ukuze sinakekele izitolo zethu ezincane emhlabeni wonke futhi sithembe ukuthi kukhona ozozinakekela ngemva kokuba sesihambile. Okuyinto, ekugcineni, engabhekwa njengesihluthulelo sempilo enenjongo.