Igama elithi "ukukhathala" ngaphambilini laligcinelwe umhlaba wezobuchwepheshe. Kodwa-ke, ukukhathala ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo kuthinta nomkhakha wangasese, kubandakanya nokuba ngumama. Njengomuntu osebenza ngokungapheleli, umama okhathele ufuna ukufeza yonke imisebenzi yakhe ngokuzimisela, ngokusho kwemodeli efinyelelekayo futhi engafinyeleleki. Okuyisito esikhulu ebusweni bomphakathi, abanye omama bafinyelela esimweni sokucindezeleka nokukhathala okudlula kude okujwayelekile. Qaphela, ukutubeka komama kuhlukile ekucindezelekeni, okungenzeka noma kunini empilweni, noma kwi-baby blues, eyehla ezinsukwini ezimbalwa ngemuva kokubeletha.

Njengakwezinye izifo zengqondo, ayikho iphrofayli ejwayelekile. Omama bodwa noma njengombhangqwana, omncane noma ngemuva kwezingane ezine, abasebenza noma cha, abancane noma abadala: bonke abesifazane bangakhathazeka. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukukhathala komama kungavela noma kunini, emasontweni ambalwa ngemuva kokubeletha noma ngemuva kweminyaka eyishumi. Noma kunjalo, izimo ezithile ezibuthakathaka zingavumela ukuvela kokukhathala komama, njengokuzalwa okusondele noma ukubeletha amawele, izimo eziyingozi kanye nokuhlukaniswa okukhulu, ngokwesibonelo. Abesifazane abahlanganisa umsebenzi odinga usizo kanye nempilo yemindeni yabo nabo bangathola ukukhathala uma bengasekelwa ngokwanele yilabo abasondelene nabo.

Njengokucindezeleka, ukutubeka komama kungabonakali. Izimpawu zokuqala azinabungozi ngokuphelele: ingcindezi, ukukhathala, ukucasuka, ukuzizwa ukhungathekile nokuziphatha okuthusayo. Kodwa-ke, lezi akuzona izimpawu okufanele zinganakwa. Emasontweni noma ezinyangeni, lo muzwa wokugcwala uyakhula, uze ubonakale njengomuzwa wokulahlwa. Ukuhlukaniswa ngokomzwelo kuyenzeka - umama uzizwa engenabumnene enganeni yakhe - futhi kuyacasuka. Umama, ekhungathekile, ugcina engakaze azizwe esesondele kulo. Kungaleso sikhathi lapho imicabango emibi neyihlazo imhlasela khona ngengane yakhe noma ngezingane zakhe. Ukushiswa ngumama kungaholela ezimweni eziyingozi: isenzo esinolaka enganeni, ukungabi nandaba nokuhlupheka kwayo, njll. Okunye ukuphazamiseka kuvame ukuvela ngokufana, njenge-anorexia, i-bulimia noma ngisho nokuqwasha.

Isici esisodwa esiyinhloko sokulindela ukukhathala komama ukwamukela ukuthi awuyena umzali ophelele. Unelungelo, ngezikhathi ezithile, lokuthukuthela, ukuthukuthela, ukubekezela noma ukwenza amaphutha. Lokhu kuvamile ngokuphelele. Uma uzizwa ukuthi uyaxega, vula ingxoxo nomunye umama, osondelene nawe: uzobona ukuthi le mizwa ivamile futhi ingumuntu. Ukuvimbela noma ukwelapha ukutubeka komama, zama ngakho konke ongakwenza ukuze uyeke: nika imisebenzi ethile, nomlingani wakho, umngane, umama wakho noma umzanyana. Futhi zinike isikhathi sokuphumula, lapho uzinakekela khona: ukubhucunga umzimba, ezemidlalo, ukuzihambela, ukufunda, njll. Ungaxhumana nodokotela wakho ukuze ukhulume naye ngesimo sakho jikelele sokukhathala, owokugcina angakukhomba kuchwepheshe ongakwazi ikusize ukunqoba lesi simo.

Eminyakeni yamuva nje, omama bebekhululekile ukukhuluma ngokukhathala kwabo. Emphakathini wethu, ukuba ngumama ongcwele kuvezwa njengokugcwaliseka kokugcina kwabesifazane, okufakwa uphawu ngokugigitheka nokugonwa kuphela. Abaningi babo ngakho-ke babengakulindelanga ukucindezeleka, ukukhathala nokuzidela okulethwa ngumama. Ukuba nengane luhambo oluhle kodwa olunzima, futhi oluvame ukubanjwa ngokungabongi. Ngempela, yini engaba yinto evamile ukwedlula umama onakekela ingane yakhe? Ubani ongacabanga ukumhalalisela? Namuhla, okulindelwe umphakathi ngabesifazane kuphezulu. Kufanele bafezwe ngomsebenzi, ngaphandle kokuthola imithwalo yemfanelo efanayo noma amaholo afanayo njengabalingani babo besilisa. Kumele bachume ebudlelwaneni babo kanye nobulili babo, babe ngumama ngenkathi behlala bengowesifazane, futhi baphathe yonke imikhakha ngokumomotheka. Kufanele futhi bagcine impilo ecebile nenesasasa yezenhlalo namasiko. Ingcindezi inamandla, futhi izidingo ziningi. Kunengqondo ukuthi abanye baqhekeka emkhakheni osondelene kakhulu: kungukushiswa komama.

Ukutubeka komama kungumphumela wokukhulelwa okulungiselelwe kukamama ophelele: vuma manje ukuthi akekho! Uma uzizwa sengathi uyacwila, ungazihlukanisi, kunalokho: khuluma ngokuhlangenwe nakho kwakho nabangani abangomama futhi, zinike isikhathi sokuzinakekela.