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Amathiphu angu-5 okuyeka ukuvutha
Ukutubeka, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kuwumsebenzi, umzali (noma kokubili), kukhathaza abantu abaningi. Ezweni elilawulwa ukuphuthuma nokusebenza, omama bangabokuqala ukuthinteka kulobu bubi obungabonakali nobobuqili. Bebizelwe ukuphumelela emisebenzini yabo nasezimpilweni zabo, babe ngabafazi abaphelele nomama abanothando, bangaphansi kwengcindezi enkulu nsuku zonke. Ngokusho kocwaningo olwenziwe yinhlangano "", ngo-2014, U-63% womama abasebenzayo uthi "ukhathele". U-79% uthi usuvele wadela ukuzinakekela njalo ngenxa yokushoda kwesikhathi. Umagazini i-Elle waphawula, ngakolunye uhlangothi, ekuhloleni okukhulu “Abesifazane Emphakathini” ukuthi ukubuyisana nokuphila komsebenzi wangasese “kwakuyinselele yansuku zonke kodwa efinyelelekayo” kowesifazane oyedwa kwababili. Ukuze kuvinjwe lokhu kukhathala okuvamile okusongamela, u-Marlène Schiappa no-Cédric Bruguière basebenzise indlela entsha phakathi kwezinsuku ezingu-21 *. Kulo mcimbi, umbhali usinika izeluleko zokuthi siphinde sibe namandla futhi sibuyise wonke amandla ethu.
1. Ngihlola izinga lami lokukhathala
Ngokushesha nje lapho uzibuza umbuzo (ingabe ngikhathele?), Kufanele ukhathazeke futhi wenze konke ongakwenza ukuze ubuyele phezulu. Uthi bewazi ? Isiteji esandulela ukushiswa wukushiswa. Phakathi nalesi sigaba, uyaqhubeka nokuzikhandla ngoba uzizwa sengathi unamandla amaningi. Kuyinkohliso, empeleni, uzidla kancane kancane. Ukuze uvimbele ukukhathala, izimpawu ezithile kufanele zikuxwayise: Uhlala usonqenqemeni. Uma uvuka, uzizwa ukhathele kakhulu kunayizolo. Uvamise ukuba nenkumbulo encane. Ulale kabi. Unezifiso noma ngokuphambene nalokho awunayo isifiso sokudla. Uvame ukuphindaphinda: “Ngeke ngisakwazi ukukubekezelela”, “Ngikhathele”… Uma uzibona kokuningi kwalezi ziphakamiso, yebo, sekuyisikhathi sokusabela. Kodwa izindaba ezinhle ukuthi, unawo wonke amakhadi esandleni sakho.
2. Ngiyayeka ukuphelela
Singakhathala ngenxa yokuthi silala kancane, noma ngenxa yokuxinwa wumsebenzi. Kodwa on singasetshenzwa ngokweqile ngoba sifuna ukuphelela kuzo zonke izindawo. “Akukhona esikwenzayo okusiqeda amandla, yindlela esikwenza ngayo nendlela esikubona ngayo,” kusho uMarlène Schiappa. Ngamafuphi, nguwe oziqeda amandla noma ozivumela ukuthi uzikhathaze. Ukuzama ukuphuma kulokhu kugoqa, siqala ngokwehlisa amazinga ethu. Ayikho into eqeda amandla njengokujaha imigomo engenangqondo. Isibonelo: ukuya emhlanganweni obalulekile ngo-16:30 ntambama nokuba senkulisa ngo-17:45 ntambama ukuyolanda ingane yakho, ukuthatha usuku lwe-RTT ukuya ohambweni lwesikole ekuseni futhi uhlele iphathi yetiye nofunda nabo esikoleni. ntambama, bonke bazi kahle ukuthi kuzodingeka uhlole ama-imeyili akho usuku lonke (ngoba awazi ukuthi yini engenzeka ehhovisi). Kunoma iyiphi iphrojekthi, kubalulekile ukuqala ngokuhlola isimo, kanye nezinsiza ezikhona.
3. Ngiyayeka ukuzizwa nginecala
Uma ungumama, uzizwa unecala ngoyebo noma cha. Uhambise icala sekwephuzile. Ufaka indodakazi yakho esikoleni inomkhuhlane. Izingane zakho bezilokhu zidla i-pasta ubusuku obubili ngoba ubungenaso isikhathi sokuthenga. Icala liwuhlangothi olumnyama lweqhwa lomama. Ngokusobala, konke kuhamba kahle: uphatha umndeni wakho omncane kanye nomsebenzi wakho ngesandla esiyinhloko. Kodwa, eqinisweni, uhlala unomuzwa wokuthi awenzi ngendlela efanele, awuwenzi umsebenzi, futhi lowo muzwa uyakuqeda amandla kokubili ngokokuziphatha nangokomzimba. Ukuqeda ngempumelelo leli cala elibi, umsebenzi wangempela wokuhlaziya uyadingeka. Umgomo? Yeka ukuphakamisa izinga futhi ube nomusa kuwe.
4. Ngiyathuma
Ukuze uthole ibhalansi ekhaya, sebenzisa umthetho othi “CQFAR” (lowo oqinisile). “Le ndlela isekelwe esimisweni sokuthi asinalo ilungelo lokugxeka isenzo esingasenzanga,” kuchaza uMarlène Schiappa. Isibonelo: Umyeni wakho ugqokise indodana yakho izingubo ozizondayo. Wanikeza omncane ibhodwe elincane kuyilapho isiqandisi sakho sigcwele imifino esanda kuphekwa futhi ixutshwe. Kulezi zimo zokuphila kwansuku zonke esazi kahle kakhulu, ukweqa ukugxeka kwenza kube nokwenzeka ukugwema izingxabano eziningi ezingabalulekile. Ukunikeza amandla ngokusobala kuyasebenza nasempilweni yobungcweti. Kodwa inselele ukuthola abantu abalungile futhi uzizwe ulungele ukudedela ekugcineni.
5. Ngifunda ukuthi CHA
Ukuze singadumazi abasizungezile, ngokuvamile sivame ukwamukela yonke into. “Yebo, ngingafinyelelwa kule mpelasonto,” “Yebo, ngingakubuyisela lesi sethulo ngaphambi kwanamuhla kusihlwa”, “Yebo, ngingahamba ngithole uMaxime ku-judo. ” Ukungakwazi ukwenqaba okunikezwayo kukubeka esimweni esingemnandi futhi kusiza ukukuqeda amandla kancane kunalokho osuvele ukhona. Noma kunjalo, unamandla okwenza umehluko. Ungakwazi ukubeka imigoqo futhi uzibekele imingcele yakho. Ukwenqaba isabelo esisha ngeke kukwenze ungafaneleki. Njengoba nje ukwenqaba uhambo lwesikole ngeke kukuguqule ube ngumama ongafanele. Ukuze uhlole ikhono lakho lokuthi cha, zibuze le mibuzo elandelayo: “Kungani wesaba ukwenqaba?” “,” Ubani ongalokothi wenqabe kuye? “,” Wake wahlela ukwenqaba, futhi ekugcineni wathi yebo? “. “Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi wazi ukuthi yini esengozini uma uthi 'yebo' noma 'cha', kugcizelela uMarlène Schiappa. Kungemva kwalokho kuphela lapho ungafunda khona ukuphendula ngokuthula ku-negative. Iqhinga: qala kancane kancane ngamagama avulekile angakuhlanganisi ngokushesha, njengokuthi “Ngidinga ukuhlola i-ajenda yami” noma “Ngizocabanga ngakho”.
* "Ngiyeka ukuzikhathaza", nguMarlène Schiappa noCédric Bruguière, enyatheliswa ngu-Eyrolles