Sekuyisikhathi eside abantu abangashadile beyizisulu zemibono engokwenkolo. Babebhekwa njengabangajabule, abaphansi. Kodwa-ke, manje abaningi banquma ngokuzithandela ukuhlala ngokuzimela, ngaphandle kokuzibophezela ebuhlotsheni nasemishadweni, futhi lokhu kukhetha akumangazi kancane. Ushintshe kanjani umbono womphakathi ngabashadile nabashadile?
Kancane kancane siyawushiya umqondo wokuthi umuntu onesizungu akajabulile, akanampilo futhi ukhathazeke kakhulu ngalokhu. Ngokukhulayo, isayensi, nokuphila ngokwako, kuthatha uhlangothi lwalabo abangakawutholi umbhangqwana.
Kodwa kuthiwani ngombono womphakathi? Ongoti bezokuhlalisana kwabantu abavela eKinsey Institute (USA) bafunde ukuthi imibono yethu mayelana nabashadile nabashadile ishintshe kanjani. Bangu-6000 abantu ababambe iqhaza kulolu cwaningo. Baxoxa ngemibono yabo ngokuhlala bodwa nokuhlala njengezithandani.
Abacwaningi babuza abahlanganyeli bocwaningo imibuzo elandelayo: “Ingabe ucabanga ukuthi abantu abashadile banobulili obuningi kunabantu abangashadile? Ingabe banabangane abaningi? Ingabe ukuphila kwabantu abashadile kucebile kunokwabangashadile? Ingabe abantu abashadile bachitha isikhathi esiningi besesimweni sabo somzimba?
Abahlanganyeli baphinde babuzwa imibuzo emithathu mayelana nokuhlangenwe nakho okungokomzwelo: “Ingabe ucabanga ukuthi abantu abashadile baneliseke kakhulu ngokuphila? Ingabe bazizwa beqiniseka kakhulu kunabantu abanesizungu? Ingabe bazizwa belondeke kakhudlwana? Ake sibone ukuthi amavolontiya athini.
ongashadile nowezemidlalo
Abantu bazo zonke izimo zomshado bavuma ukuthi abangashadile baphumelela kakhulu ekuphileni, banabangane abaningi, ubulili obuningi, bazinakekela kangcono.
Okwambula kakhulu kwakuyimpendulo yombuzo mayelana nesimo somzimba. U-57% wabaphenduli bacabanga ukuthi abantu abashadile abanandaba kangako ngokuyigcina kunabantu abangashadile. Mayelana nocansi, imibono yahlukaniswa cishe ngokulinganayo: ama-42% amavolontiya akholelwa ukuthi abantu abashadile abakwenzi kaningi kunabangashadile, kanti u-38% wabaphenduli baqiniseka ngokuphambene.
U-40% wabahlanganyeli bocwaningo akakholelwa ukuthi abantu abashadile banabangane abaningi. Ukuphila komphakathi kwabantu abangashadile kuthakazelisa kakhulu - u-39% wabaphenduli banqume kanjalo. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, kwavela ukuthi iningi lababambe iqhaza livumile ukuthi abantu abashadile baqiniseka kakhulu kunabantu abangashadile. Futhi, umshado, ngokusho kwabahlanganyeli bocwaningo, unikeza abantu umuzwa wokulondeka.
u-53% ukholelwa ukuthi abantu abashadile baneliseke kakhulu ngokuphila kwabo kunabangashadile; Ama-23% acabanga ukuthi akunjalo. U-42% uthe abantu abashadile bayazethemba. Futhi u-26% kuphela wabahlanganyeli ongavumelani nalesi sitatimende.
Ukukhohlisa kwabangashadile
Ukuhlola kwabonisa ukuthi abantu abadivosile nabashadile ngokuvamile abanawo umbono omuhle ngomshado kunalabo unyawo lwabo lungakaze lubeke unyawo embundwini wehhovisi lokubhalisa ngisho nakanye ekuphileni kwabo. Kodwa labo abangakaze bashade bavame ukucabanga ukuthi abantu abashadile bajabule kunabantu abangashadile.
Abantu abangashadile manje kucatshangwa ukuthi banabangane abaningi, ukuphila kokuzijabulisa okuthakazelisayo nemidlalo eminingi kunalabo abashadile. Ngaphezu kwalokho, benza kangcono ngocansi.
Abake bashada abahluleli kakhulu amasoka. Futhi yilabo kanye abangakaze bashade noma abangakaze bashade abathanda umshado ngaphezu kwabanye.
Kuvele ukuthi abantu abanesizungu abasafuni ukukholelwa ezinganekwaneni ezilulazayo ngabo. Futhi labo abanabalingani abavumelani nezitatimende ezivamile. Ubani owaziyo ukuthi sizocabangani ngomshado nokungashadi eminyakeni eyishumi kusukela manje?