Iqiniso lokuthi amadoda nabesifazane bavame ukukhuluma izilimi ezahlukene kudala laziwa. Kungaba nzima kakhulu ukuthi siqondane - ikakhulukazi uma singakhulumisani ubuso nobuso, kodwa, sithi, engxoxweni. Ungaqagela kanjani uhlobo lwe-interlocutor kusuka emilayezweni futhi wakhe ubudlelwano naye (futhi okubaluleke kakhulu, ingabe kufanelekile)?
“Ubeqonde ukuthini?”, “Ufuna ukuthini ngale emoji?”, “Kungani ehlala ephendula ngama-monosyllables?”, “Kungani engavamile ukubhala?”, “Kungani engiphumisa ngezwi imiyalezo?” - abesifazane abaningi esiteji sokujwayelana nomuntu ongase abe umlingani kufanele babuze le mibuzo neminye eminingi. Ukwazi i-typology yabaxhumanisi be-inthanethi kuzosiza ukuqonda ukuthi ubani ocashe ngemuva kwemaski ebonakalayo.
1. Livila
“Omaka” engxoxweni ye-WhatsApp baphenduke baba luhlaza emahoreni ambalwa edlule, futhi akakaphenduli… Uphithizela lwemicabango luzulazula kabi ekhanda lakhe: kungani engabhali? Akangithandi! Yini emvimbayo? Kungani enganaki?
Ubhalani: lutho.
Izithombe-mzwelo ezincanyelwayo: Izithonjana? Uyamamatheka? Akukona ngaye!
Kusho ukuthini: asikho isidingo sokwethuka. Ukuthula kwakhe akusho lutho ngawe - usanda kuthola isifanekiso esivilapha kakhulu. Uma, naphezu kwalokhu, usenesithakazelo kuye, shayela futhi uhlele i-aphoyintimenti ngokushesha ngangokunokwenzeka. Ukuxhumana okubukhoma kuphela nesikhathi kuzokhombisa ukuthi uvilapha kangakanani kukho konke okunye.
2.Kancane
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi imiphi imibuzo nokuthi mingaki oyibuzayo, njalo uyayiphendula ngendlela emfushane ngangokunokwenzeka. Ngamunye wakhe we-monosyllabic othi "yebo" noma "cha" ubona njengempama ebusweni. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi wenza umzamo ongakanani, akunakwenzeka ukuthi ukwazi ukukhuluma nomuntu onjalo.
Ubhalani: kweyakho “Sawubona, ngijabule kakhulu izolo ebusuku. Sibheke ngabomvu uLwesihlanu. Siphinde sibonane ngehora lesikhombisa? – uphendula ngegama elithi “yebo”. Futhi konke?! Yebo, yilokho kuphela.
Isithombe-mzwelo esincanyelwayo: kuhle.
Kusho ukuthini: I-"laconic" idlulisela ulwazi oluyisisekelo kuphela engxoxweni. Amahlaya, indida, ukuqoma akumfanele. Ungakubeki enhliziyweni ukusabela kwakhe okuncane: cishe, akaqondi nokuthi usibona kanjani isitayela sakhe sengxoxo ebonakalayo.
3. Ukuzwela
Indoda enjalo ithela intokazi yenhliziyo ngamazwi othando, ayenze izizwe ilangazelela ukuthandwa. Inkulumo yakhe igcwele izingathekiso zothando kanye namavesi athinta inhliziyo. Kubonakala sengathi ulambele kakhulu uthando, ezothando nothando.
Ubhalani: "Uma ngicabanga ngawe noma ngizwa izwi lakho, inhliziyo yami ishaya ngokushesha."
Izithombe-mzwelo ezincanyelwayo: inhliziyo ebomvu noma isithombe-mzwelo "sokuqabula".
Kusho ukuthini: ubuhlobo bakhe bokugcina yaphela, uma kungeyona iminyaka, bese izinyanga eside edlule. Kusukela lapho, ukwazile ukuhlaziya okuningi. Lesi sikhathi ufuna ukwenza konke "okulungile", ngakho ubonisa ngokusobala ukuthi unesithakazelo ebuhlotsheni besikhathi eside nawe.
4. UMnumzane X
Kumlayezo wakho ngamunye engxoxweni, unempendulo enesihluku noma ecunulayo elungile. Uvusa isithakazelo sakho ngemibuzo ebhuqayo noma ame isikhashana ekukhulumisaneni. Cishe akunakwenzeka ukuthola izisusa zokuziphatha kwakhe. Akukho ukucaca, kodwa injabulo kanye nesasasa - ngaphezu kokwanele.
Ubhalani: kweyakho ethi “Asihlangane ngoMgqibelo?” uyaphendula: “Kungani kungoMgqibelo kuphela? Ngikubona njalo ebusuku emaphusheni ami.”
Isithombe-mzwelo esincanyelwayo: i-emoji ecwayizayo kukho konke ukuhlukahluka.
Kusho ukuthini: nakanjani ngeke udinwe ngakho, kodwa akufanele neze ukulinda okuthile okungaphezu kokuzilibazisa okujabulisayo. Ngokuvamile (nakuba kungenjalo ngaso sonke isikhathi) uMnu. X “ungumfana omubi” noma uyindoda yabesifazane. Umdlalo uwukuzilibazisa kwakhe, kodwa ubudlelwane besikhathi eside, ngokuphambene nalokho, abufakiwe ezinhlelweni zakhe.
5. Qaphela
I-smartphone yakho ihlale idlidliza. Lapho nje usuhamba uye endaweni epholile yehhovisi, sekuvele kunemilayezo emisha engama-39 Ebhokisini lokungenayo. Umuntu okhulumayo akadingi ukubuzwa nganoma yini - ubuka nje. Ngaye, uzizwa uthanda ukubuka umbukiso wangempela, ufunda izindaba ezivela empilweni yakhe yansuku zonke ngesikhathi sangempela.
Ubhalani: “Cabanga nje, omunye engisebenza naye ungilethele i-latte - naphezu kokuthi nginokungabekezelelani kwe-lactose! Ngiyafunga ngimtshele lokhu izikhathi eziyinkulungwane. O yebo, futhi nginethenisi kulobubusuku. Ngeledlule ngagcina amaphuzu.”
Isithombe-mzwelo esincanyelwayo: i-emoji ehlekayo ngokuhlukahluka okuhlukile, izingcezu ezimbalwa zilandelana.
Kusho ukuthini: ngokumelene nama-monologues akhe angapheli, ngisho namahlaya akusizi. Ngokusobala, akakakulungeli ukuxhumana ngokugcwele. Akanandaba nokusabela noma impilo yomxhumanisi. Uma ngisho naphakathi nomhlangano wangempela ekhuluma ngaye kuphela, sekuyisikhathi sokunqamula lokhu kuxhumana okungajwayelekile.
6.Iyashelela
Indoda enjalo ayiphuthelwa nelilodwa ithuba lokuphawula noma ukusikisela okuyichilo, inkulumo ethile yobulili ilandela enye. Uwazi kahle amasu "engxoxo engcolile", kodwa, maye, imilayezo yakhe ayiyona eyangempela - kunalokho iyabikezelwa. Nokho, ngokuxakayo, ngandlela-thile bahuqa abaningi bethu.
Ubhalani: ephendula umyalezo wokuthi ukhathele, uyabhala: “Nginombono wokuthi ngingakuvusa kanjani.”
Isithombe-mzwelo esincanyelwayo: inkawu evala umlomo.
Kusho ukuthini: Amacebo engxoxweni alungele ukusigcina sisemazweni, kodwa empilweni yangempela, ukukhuluma nendoda enjalo kuvamise ukuvela kuyisicefe. Nge-interlocutor enjalo, njengomthetho, kuyinkimbinkimbi futhi kuyisicefe. Ishonephi indoda ebibhalelana izolo? Ungabheki, akukho lapho. Uzophinde avele engxoxweni uma ngesizathu esithile unquma ukuqhubeka nengxoxo. Futhi-ke, khumbula: imishwana nemisho engacacile ayenzi isithandwa esihle kumuntu onjalo.