Intsha ilwela ukukhula ngokushesha ngangokunokwenzeka, ukwazi uhlangothi olunqatshelwe lokuphila, kodwa abaqondi ukuthi kunesikhathi sayo yonke into. Indaba ka-Lolita isabalulekile nanamuhla, ngoba indawo ebonakalayo inikeza ububanzi obukhulu bokukhohlisa abantu abadala.
Intombazane encane ilahlekelwa nini ubumsulwa bayo? Uqaphela nini ukuthi umzimba wakhe osemusha uyinto efiselekayo? Lapho evakashelwa umuzwa omnandi wamandla phezu komhlaba wesilisa? Noma ngesikhathi socansi lokuqala? U-Dolores Haze ulahlekelwa ubumsulwa bakhe lapho ebona ukuthi umuntu omdala angasebenzisa futhi amkhaphele.
Cishe ingane, ayiqapheli ukuthi abantu abadala bangaba ngamaqili kangakanani. Ukuyenga kwakhe kuwumdlalo, uneminyaka engu-12 kuphela ubudala, akavuthiwe ngokwanele futhi uhlakaniphe ngokwanele ukuqonda imiphumela yemidlalo enjalo. Konke ayekubona njengemodeli yobudlelwano kwakungunina, ehlushwa isizungu, bese eyenga ngokungafanele.
U-Dolores ugcwele amaphupho avusa inkanuko, futhi ubani ongagcwali ngawo eminyakeni yakhe? Ufuna ukubonakala evuthiwe, enolwazi, mhlawumbe ukuze anqobe unina kulo mqhudelwano wabesifazane oseneminyaka yobudala. Udlala ucansi nendoda eyaba nguyise omncane. Futhi uyalahlekelwa. Ngoba noma yimuphi osemusha, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ukulangazelela kangakanani ukuyenga umuntu omdala, ufuna ukuzwa ukuthi “cha” ngenye ingxenye yakhe.
“Umuhle, futhi amakhulu abantu abasha bazokujabulela ukukubiza ngomakoti. Kodwa ngeke kube yimina (kuyoba uhlobo oluthile lwesilima esincane), “imvamisa amadoda amadala avamile, angamboziwe izifiso ze-pathological, ngokuvamile ahleba ngokuphelelwa yithemba, ikakhulukazi obaba noma obaba.
Umkhuba wezwe labantu abadala uqinile "cha" kunoma yimiphi imizamo yokuyenga ingane. Nokuvinjelwa okuphelele kokuziyenga, ukudala iphupho, i-nymphet, u-Lolita owayekade elindelwe ovela ku-Dolores ongenalwazi, ethethelela uthando lwakhe ngokukhangwa kwakhe kobusathane.
Usizi lukaDolores Haze ukuthi akakwazanga ukukhula ngokujwayelekile ngaphansi kokuvikelwa wumndeni wakhe. Ukudlula ochungechungeni lwemvelo lokukhungatheka kwentsha ngenxa yokungakwazi ukuthola lokho okufunayo ngokushesha, ukuzazi wena, umhlaba nabanye abantu, ngaphambi kokuqala futhi, esimweni sakhe, isipiliyoni esibhubhisayo sempilo "yabantu abadala" ayibhubhisi ngokuphelele ubuntwana. , inhlalakahle nempilo.
lolita phakathi kwethu
Imizamo yentsha yokungena ngokushesha ebudaleni, lapho ingenza noma yini, ayivamile. Ukweqa lo mngcele ongabonakali, ikakhulukazi osekelwa abantu abadala abakhohlisayo, kukhubaza ingqondo engavuthiwe yengane. Lokhu, ngokwesibonelo, kungenzeka kalula kuwebhu.
Isikhala esibonakalayo sidala izimo zokwenza ama-pathologies, futhi amantombazane amancane akhula entula ukunakwa kwabantu abadala, afunda kancane futhi azi okuncane mayelana nendlela umhlaba osebenza ngayo, angawela kalula ekusetshenzisweni nasekusetshenzisweni, ebenza iphutha ngesithakazelo sangempela nothando. .