Okuqukethwe
Isikhathi siyahamba, futhi awukaqondi ukuthi ubudlelwano bakho bukusiphi isigaba? Umuntu akapheli ngokuphelele ku-radar, kodwa kuyaqabukela ashaye ucingo futhi abhale? Ubonakala eseduze - uthumela ama-selfies, utshela okwenzekayo empilweni yakhe - kodwa akamvumeli ukuba asondele kuye? Uma lokhu kuzwakala kujwayelekile kuwe, mhlawumbe yisikhathi sokusho iqiniso elidabukisayo lokuthi abanye abantu bakubheka kuphela "njengenye inkundla yezindiza".
Sivamise ukuthatha njengesahlulelo somuntu osiheha kwezothando nezocansi. Umuntu esingakabi nokuxhumana naye, kodwa esingaqala naye ubudlelwano uma inketho engcono ingaveli. Mhlawumbe asikuvumi kithina, kodwa sihlala sinomuzwa wokuthi yile ndlela esiphatha ngayo umuntu.
Kodwa uyaqonda kanjani ukuthi kulokhu wena ngokwakho "usebhentshini"?
1. Uxhumana nawe njalo, kodwa hhayi zonke izinsuku.
Imilayezo emithathu noma emine ngesonto, izingcingo ezimbalwa ngenyanga, imilayezo embalwa ye-selfie, izimemo ezimbalwa zekhofi - umuntu onjalo akalokothi anyamalale emgqeni wokubona, ugcina ukuxhumana, kodwa uvela ngezikhathi ezithile.
Kubonakala sengathi usigcina e-leash - futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo ugcina ibanga; uchitha isikhathi nathi ngendlela evumelana naye, kodwa engathathi isinyathelo esilandelayo.
Uziphatha kanjani? Uma ukhathele imidlalo enjalo, ungakwazi ukuyeka ukuphendula izingcingo nemilayezo okungenani izinsuku ezimbalwa, noma, ngokuphambene, uqale ukubhala nokubiza nsuku zonke. Futhi ubone ukusabela. Lokhu kuzokunikeza ukucaca futhi kusize ekuqedeni amaphupho mayelana nokuthi kungani enza ngendlela eyinqaba eduze kwakho.
2. Uyadlala kodwa akakubuyisi.
Umngane wenza izincomo noma ngisho nokusikisela kwemvelo yocansi, kodwa uma ubuyela okufanayo, uvele aguqule isihloko noma anyamalale. Konke kumayelana nokulawula isimo - kubalulekile kumuntu oxoxa naye ukuthi akugcine ezandleni zakhe futhi angavumeli okwenzeka phakathi kwakho ukuya kwelinye izinga, kube yinto engathi sína kunokuba nje ubuhlobo bobungane.
Uziphatha kanjani? Ngokuzayo lapho umuntu eyiziba imizamo yakho yokudlala ngothando, mazise ukuthi ulibonile leli qhinga futhi umbuze ngokuqondile ukuthi kwenzakalani, kungani ekwenza, nokuthi kusho ukuthini ebudlelwaneni benu.
3. Imihlangano yenu ihlezi iphazamisa.
Uyaphuthelwa futhi ufuna ukuhlangana, kodwa kukhona into ehlala iphazamisa izinsuku - umkhuhlane, ukuvinjelwa emsebenzini, isimiso esimatasa, noma ezinye izimo ze-force majeure.
Uziphatha kanjani? Ngokweqiniso, awukakalungeli ukuqhubeka nokukhawulelwa ekubhaleni nasezingcingweni. Phela, kokubili ubungane nobudlelwano bothando kudinga ukuxhumana ubuso nobuso ezimweni eziningi.
4. Isikhathi senu nobabili sihlale "asifanelekile"
Kukhona into ehlala iphazamisa imihlangano yakho kuphela, kodwa futhi nokushintsha kobudlelwane kuya ezingeni elisha. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi umuntu “akakalungeli okwamanje”, noma kukhona “okuthile okudingeka kulungiswe”, noma ngisho “mina nawe senzelwe omunye nomunye, kodwa manje akusona isikhathi esifanele.” Kuyathakazelisa ukuthi kukho konke okunye - ukushintsha imisebenzi, ukuhamba, amaholide - isikhathi esifanele kakhulu.
Uziphatha kanjani? Isikhathi siyinani lethu eliyinhloko, futhi akekho onelungelo lokuvele asilahlele. Uma lowo omthandayo engakalungeli ukuqala ukuthandana nawe njengamanje, ungaqhubeka ngokuphepha.
5. Usejola nomuntu
Kungase kubonakale sengathi lokhu akuyona nje insimbi ethusayo, kodwa insimbi yangempela, noma kunjalo, lapho sithanda umuntu ngempela, sivame ukungaziboni "izinto ezincane" ezifana nokuba khona komlingani ongase abe umlingani engxenyeni yesibili - ikakhulukazi lobo ubuhlobo obubonakala “ buzophuka.»
Enye inketho lapho umuntu ekhululekile ngegama futhi ekuqinisekisa ukuthi uphelele, ukuthi nje "akakasuki ngokuphelele ebuhlotsheni bangaphambilini" noma "akakakufanele" okwamanje. Njengomthetho, lokhu akumvimbi ukuthi ahlangane nabanye - imihlangano enjalo "ayisho lutho" kuye.
Uziphatha kanjani? Impilo imfushane kakhulu ukuthi ungayichitha kulabo abangakalungeli ukuba nobudlelwano nawe. Khuluma ngokungagwegwesi ngakho konke futhi, uma lokhu kungaholeli entweni, zizwe ukhululekile ukuvala ukuxhumana.
Ufanele ukuba nomuntu onentshisekelo yangempela kuwe futhi othatha izinyathelo eziqinile ukuze uqale ukuthandana nawe, kunokudlala imidlalo, mayelana nawe "njengenye inkundla yezindiza".