Kubhalwe izindatshana eziningi ngisho nezincwadi mayelana nezingozi nezinzuzo ze-inthanethi ngokujwayelekile kanye nezinkundla zokuxhumana ikakhulukazi. Abaningi babona ukushintshela “ohlangothini olungokoqobo” njengobubi obungangabazeki nosongo ekuphileni kwangempela nokufudumala kokukhulumisana kwabantu okuphilayo. Kodwa-ke, kwabanye abantu, i-inthanethi ihlala iwukuphela kwendlela yokugcina okungenani abanye abantu oxhumana nabo.
I-inthanethi ivule (futhi yabumba kabusha) ukuxhumana ngisho nakubantu abanamahloni kakhulu kithi. Ezinye izazi zokusebenza kwengqondo zincoma ukuqomisana ku-inthanethi njengendlela ephephile nencane kakhulu ekhathazayo yokwakha ukuxhumana nabantu. Futhi ngempela, sicasha ngegama-mbumbulu, sibonakala sithola inkululeko eyengeziwe, siziphatha ngokukhululeka, sidlala ngothando, sijwayelane futhi sifunge nabaxhumanisi bethu abafanayo.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, indlela ephephile enjalo yokuxhumana nabanye ngokuvamile iwukuphela kwendlela eyamukelekayo kubantu abane-social phobia. Isifo sokukhathazeka komphakathi sivezwa njengokwesaba okuqhubekayo kwesimo somphakathi esisodwa noma ngaphezulu lapho umuntu echayeka kubantu angabazi noma ukulawulwa abanye okungenzeka.
UProfesa waseBoston University, isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo uStefan G. Hofmann siyabhala: “Ukusetshenziswa kwe-Facebook (inhlangano eyeqisayo evinjelwe eRussia) kushukunyiswa izidingo ezimbili eziyisisekelo: isidingo sokuba ngowakho kanye nesidingo sokuziveza. Esokuqala sibangelwa izici zabantu namasiko, kuyilapho i-neuroticism, i-narcissism, amahloni, ukuzethemba okuphansi kanye nokuzethemba kunengxenye esidingweni sokuzethula.
Inkinga iqhamuka uma sesiyeka ukuphila impilo yangempela ngoba sichitha isikhathi esiningi ezinkundleni zokuxhumana.
USolwazi Hofmann uphethe iLabhorethri Yokucwaninga Ngengqondo Nemizwa. Kuye, amandla e-inthanethi futhi iyithuluzi elikahle lokusebenza neziguli ezinokukhathazeka komphakathi kanye nokunye ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo, iningi labo elingakutholi nhlobo ukwelashwa.
I-inthanethi inezinzuzo eziningi ngaphezu kokuxhumana kwangempela. Into esemqoka ukuthi engxoxweni eku-inthanethi umphikisi akaboni isimo sobuso, akakwazi ukuhlola ukubukeka kanye ne-timbre ye-interlocutor. Futhi uma umuntu ozethembayo, ovulekele inkhulumomphendvulwano angabiza ngokuthi kunalokho ukungalungi kokuxhumana kwe-inthanethi, khona-ke kumuntu ophethwe yi-social phobia, lokhu kungaba insindiso futhi abavumele ukuba baqale ukuxhumana nabanye.
Nokho, uHofmann ukhumbula nengozi yokufaka ukuphila kwangempela esikhundleni sempilo yangempela: “Izinkundla zokuxhumana zisinikeza ukuxhumana okudingekile esikudingayo sonke. Inkinga iba uma sesiyeka ukuphila impilo yangempela ngoba sichitha isikhathi esiningi ezinkundleni zokuxhumana.”
Kodwa ingabe kuyingozi enkulu ngempela? Naphezu kwakho konke ukugcinwa kwezinsiza (isikhathi, amandla omzimba), ngokuvamile sisakhetha ukuxhumana nabantu: siyavakashela, sihlangane endaweni yokudlela, ngisho nomsebenzi oqhelile, othola ukuthandwa, awufaneleki wonke umuntu.
“Ngokokuziphendukela kwemvelo sahlelwa ukuba sibe nothile ekuphileni kwangempela,” kuchaza uHofmann. - Iphunga lomunye umuntu, ukubheka amehlo, isimo sobuso, ukuthinta komzimba - lokhu akwenziwa kabusha endaweni ebonakalayo. Lokhu yikho okusivumela ukuthi siqonde imizwa yomunye futhi sizizwe sisondelene.”