Umthombo wokuwohloka kwezinzwa ngokuvamile awuyona inkinga yomhlaba wonke noma uvivinyo olunzima, kodwa izinto ezincane ezicasulayo ezinqwabelana usuku nosuku. Ikakhulukazi sihlangana nabo emsebenzini. Ingabe zikhona izindlela zokubhekana nazo, noma uzisebenzise ukuze uzuze? Kukhona, ngokusho komlobi we-Psychologies u-Oliver Burkeman.
Ku-psychology, kunomqondo wezici zengcindezi yangemuva. Ungathola incazelo yesayensi yalo mqondo, kodwa kulula ukuyithola ngezibonelo ezithile. Cabanga ngozakwenu osetafuleni elilandelayo ehhovisi, okuthi lapho eqaqa amasemishi alethwe ekhaya, agqume ngaso sonke isikhathi njengokungathi udlala i-timpani eyedwa. Khumbula iphrinta, ezoshwabanisa ikhasi elilodwa ledokhumenti yakho, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi mangaki. Cabanga ngomsizi womnyango owafaka ekhanda lakhe ukukhetha ingoma eyisiphukuphuku ezingomeni ezidumile eziyibhiliyoni, futhi wayenza iringithoni ocingweni lwakhe. Uyakhumbula? Konke lokhu kuyizici zangemuva, okuthi, ngokusho kochwepheshe bezengqondo, zingenye yemithombo eyinhloko yokucindezeleka.
Kungani lokhu kusicasula?
Futhi ngempela - ngani? Hhayi-ke, i-rustle ye-foil, kahle, ingoma engathandeki, kodwa akukho lutho oluyingozi. Inkinga, nokho, ukuthi asikwazi ukuzivikela kulawa mathonya. Senza umsebenzi omuhle kakhulu wokubhekana nezinto ezicasulayo esingazilindela. Ngakho-ke, uma i-air conditioner ikhala ngokuzwakalayo ehhovisi, khona-ke lokhu kuphazamisa kakhulu ngosuku lokuqala lomsebenzi, kodwa kuyeka okungenani ukubaluleka okuthile ekupheleni kwesonto lokuqala. Izicefe ezincane okukhulunywa ngazo azilindelekile. Nomsizi onefoni yakhe usemva kwakho ungalindele nhlobo. Futhi uzakwenu ukhipha isidlo sasemini ngefoil ngaso leso sikhathi lapho ukhuluma nocingo.
"Zibeke endaweni yalabo abakucasulayo"
Isidingo sokuzimela singesinye sezidingo ezibaluleke kakhulu kunoma yimuphi wethu. Futhi zonke lezi zingcindezi ezincane ngokuphindaphindiwe zisikhombisa ukuthi asikwazi nhlobo ukuzimela emsebenzini wethu futhi asikwazi ukulawula okwenzekayo.
Okufanele ngikwenze?
Igama eliyinhloko lithi «yenza». Okokuqala, akudingekile ukuthukuthela ngokuthukuthela, ubambe amazinyo ngokungenamandla. Uma ungakwazi ukushintsha okuthile, kwenze. Ake sithi wazi kancane ngamaphrinta. Ngakho kungani ungazami ukukulungisa ukuze ekugcineni iyeke “ukuhlafuna” amakhasi? Ngisho noma kungeyona ingxenye yezibopho zakho zomsebenzi. Futhi uma ingoma efonini yomunye umuntu ingajabulisi, faka ama-headphone akho bese uvula umculo ongakukhathazi, kodwa osizayo.
Isinyathelo sesibili esibalulekile ukuzibeka endaweni yalabo abakucasulayo. Sonke sivame ukukholelwa ukuthi uma othile evivinya ukubekezela kwethu, khona-ke ngokuqinisekile bakwenza ngamabomu. Kodwa kaningi kunalokho, akunjalo. Kuthiwani uma umphathi etafuleni elilandelayo engenamali eyanele yokudla kwasemini evamile ekhefi? Noma ingabe imthanda kakhulu umkakhe kangangokuthi izibheka njengesibopho sokudla kuphela lokho akulungisile? Elokuqala lidabukisa, elesibili, mhlawumbe lihle, kodwa alikho elokuqala noma elesibili elinenhloso embi ngawe.
"I-Victory pose" - ukuma komzimba oqondile namahlombe aqondile - kunciphisa ukukhiqizwa kwe-hormone yokucindezeleka i-cortisol.
Futhi, ngendlela, isiphetho singase silandele kusukela lapha ukuthi wena ngokwakho, ngaphandle kokusola, futhi ucasula othile ngokuthile. Ukuthi nje akekho okutshela ngakho futhi. Kodwa ngeze: akukho lutho olungalungile ngokusikisela ngesizotha uzakwethu ukuthi basonge amasemishi abo nge-foil, kodwa nge-cellophane, noma bacele umsizi ukuthi ehlise ivolumu yocingo. Izame.
Zuza esikhundleni sokulimaza
Kanye namathiphu ambalwa awusizo. Njengoba siye sathola ukuthi ukucasuka kwethu kubangelwa ukungakwazi ukulawula okwenzekayo, kungani singazami ukuphinda silawule izindlela ezitholakalayo? Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo kwezenhlalakahle u-Amy Cuddy uthole ukuthi ukuma komzimba kuthinta izinqubo ze-biochemical ebuchosheni. Futhi lokho okubizwa ngokuthi "isimo sokunqoba" - isikhundla somzimba esiqondile esinamahlombe aqondile (futhi ngokufanelekile, futhi izingalo ezihlukanisiwe) - kunciphisa ukukhiqizwa kwe-hormone yokucindezeleka i-cortisol futhi ivuselela ukukhululwa kwe-testosterone. Zama ukuthatha lesi sikhundla - futhi umuzwa wokulawula uzobuya.
Noma wenze izingcindezi kube izaba zokuphumula. Ziqeqeshe, isibonelo, ukuphefumula okujulile - ukuzwa ukuthi umoya ungena kanjani ngamakhala futhi kancane kancane ugcwalise amaphaphu. Lena indlela ephumelela kakhulu, futhi imfihlo kuleli cala ukusebenzisa izinto ezicasulayo njengohlobo "lwewashi le-alamu". Lapho nje uzwa umculo ocingweni lomsizi, qala ukuphefumula ujule — vumela amakholi akhe abe izikhumbuzo zakho ukuze uqale «ikilasi». Ngokwenza umkhuba, uphendula i-stressor ibe isignali yokuzola kwe-Olympian.