Okuqukethwe
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1. Memeza uqhelelene nezingane
Uma uzwa ukuthi intukuthelo iyakhula futhi awukwazi ukuzibamba ekuqhumeni, yiyeke iphunyuke ngokumemeza into engaphili, kunokuba ukhulume nezingane zakho. Memeza "Arghhh" yakho ekhabetheni noma okufanayo, njengendlu yangasese, umgqomo kadoti, isiqandisi, i-dresser, idrowa, noma isikhwama. Ngemva kokwenza lokhu izinsuku ezimbalwa, nokwenza izingane zakho zihleke ngokuklabalasa izingubo, uzobona ukuthi ungakwazi ukuveza ukukhungatheka kwakho ngaphandle kokubahilela. Isinyathelo esilandelayo ukuqukatha "Ahhh". Lapho uzijwayeza kakhulu ukulawula lapho umemeza, uzofunda kakhulu ukuzehlisa futhi ukumemeza ngeke kuphume nhlobo.
2. Yeka izimo ezibucayi
Phenya ukuthi yini esuse intukuthelo yakho ngokusemthethweni ngaso sonke isikhathi lapho usuka ezinkingeni zakho. Zijwayeze ukuhlola izimo ezinzima kuwe futhi uhlukanise ama-slippage abe yizigaba ezintathu: izimo ezilawulekayo, izimo ezinamathelayo nezimo ezingenakwenzeka. Uzokwenza ukuhlolwa okusha njalo ezinsukwini ezine.
- Izimo ezilawulekayo kukhona okulula ukususa ngoba kunesixazululo esilula sokususa i-trigger. Izibonelo: ukugijima ekuseni (ukulungisa izinto ngayizolo), umsindo (ukufaka ama-earplugs® noma ukudala izindawo zokuthula ekhaya), izingane ezikhohlwa ukuxubha amazinyo noma ukugeza izandla (ukukhombisa imikhuba emihle ekamelweni).
- Izimo ezibucayi yizikhathi ezikhethekile ongafunda ukuzibikezela ukuze ulungele lapho zifika. Kwezinye izimo, ngokuzijwayeza okwanele, zingase zinyamalale ohlwini. Isibonelo: ukungqubuzana komshado, ukuhlehlisa izingane, ukukhathala okukhulu, njll.
- Izimo ezingenakwenzeka zingaphezu kwamandla akho, awukwazi ukuzenza zihambe noma uzifake ohlelweni lwakho. Cishe bakuhlupha nsuku zonke. Izibonelo: izinkinga zempilo, izenzakalo ezibuhlungu zesikhathi esidlule, ukuziphatha kwabanye. Azinawo ngempela amadlingozi. Isixazululo ukuzibona kahle, ukwamukela ubukhona bazo futhi uzidedele ngaphandle kokuzama ukuziqeda, ngoba umgomo awunakwenzeka.
3. Vula ukuthethelelwa
Imisho eqala ngokuthi “Bekufanele ngi…” iyingozi, ikhuthaza ukukhala ngakho-ke ukuhhewula, okubuye kubhebhethekise izinkinga. Ukugxila ezintweni ezingezinhle empilweni kwenza kube nzima ukubona uhlangothi oluhle lwabantu, ikakhulukazi izingane. Uma sicabanga negative, sibona negative, sikhuluma negative. Zama ukunciphisa isikhathi esibekelwe imicabango engemihle. Zama ukugxila ezisombululweni: “Ngesikhathi esizayo, kufanele ngi…” Zijwayeze ukuthethelela. Xolela abanye ngamaphutha abo kanye nawe. Zixolele ngokumemeza esikhathini esidlule. Yisho ngokuzwakalayo nangokucacile: “Yebo! Ngiyazixolela ngokumemeza esikhathini esidlule. Ngenza amaphutha. Ngingumuntu. “
4. Yakha amazwi amahle
Sonke sinezinqumo eziningi ezingqondweni zethu, njengokuthi “Angikwazi ukuncipha” noma “Akekho ongithandayo” noma “Angisoze ngayeka ukuklabalasa”. Ngokuziphindaphinda kaningi, siyazikholelwa futhi ziba ngokoqobo. Ngenhlanhla, amandla okucabanga okuhle kanye nethemba angakwazi ukukunqoba lokhu. Esikhundleni sokuthi “Argh! Ngeke ngifike lapho ! Zitshele izikhathi eziningana ngosuku: “Ngingakwenza lokhu. Ngikhetha ukuthanda kakhulu futhi ngimemeze kancane. »Uzobona, kuyasebenza!
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5. Hleka lapho ufuna ukuklabalasa!
Noma yini iyingxenye ebalulekile yokuphila. Ukulindela, ukwamukela futhi ngakho-ke ukwamukela uhlangothi lokuphila oluhlanya kancane, esikhundleni sokuzama ukulwa nalo noma ukulishintsha, kunikeza amandla amaningi nokubekezela ukuze ungamemezi ezimweni ezicasulayo. Isisho esithi, “Momotheka uma usesimweni esibi futhi uzozizwa ujabule” sisebenza kahle ekuhlekeni. Uma ufuna ukuklabalasa, hleka noma ukuzenzisa. Ukuhleka kudambisa intukuthelo futhi kukuphoqa ukuthi uhlehle. Njengoba kungenakwenzeka ukuthukuthela nokuhleka ngesikhathi esifanayo, xoxela izingane zakho izindaba ezihlekisayo futhi uzicele zikutshele ezinye. Yenza ukudla kubheke phansi. Ungalinge into engenangqondo (ukuthiwani uma bekugqokise izingubo zabo?)… Ngamafuphi, jabula nabo, khululeka, uzoba sesimweni esingcono sokungamemezi.
6. Hlunga ukukhala okwamukelekayo nokunye
Akekho ophelele, ngakho kufanele uphakamise izwi lakho. Okunye ukukhala kuwela esigabeni “esamukelekayo,” njengezwi lansuku zonke, ukuhleba, izwi elicacile eliqondisa kabusha ngesineke, izwi eliqinile, kanye nokuthi “Angidlali!” Izwi. Okunye ukukhala kusesigabeni “okupholile”, njengokukhala kwentukuthelo, ukukhala kakhulu (ngaphandle kwesililo esiphuthumayo sokuxwayisa ingane yakho ngengozi). Abanye basesigabeni esithi “abapholile neze,” njengokukhala kwentukuthelo okulimazayo ngamabomu. Inselele iwukuqeda ngokuphelele ukukhala “okungapholile” futhi esikhundleni sokukhala “okungapholile” ngokukhala okwamukelekayo..
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