Uma ubuhlobo bufinyelele isikhathi eside, kodwa asifuni ukuhlukanisa, ngezinye izikhathi sidlulisela izifiso zethu emhlabeni wamaphupho. Cabanga ngempilo ongazange uhlangane ngayo nowakwakho. Ungabhekana kanjani neqiniso futhi amaphupho ngokuhlala wedwa angaba kanjani usizo?
Ngisho nasebudlelwaneni obuseduze kakhulu, lapho sizithola sisesimweni sokungqubuzana, singanquma ngamawala ukuthi ukuhlala sodwa kungasisindisa ezinkingeni eziye zavela. Kodwa lokhu kulungiswa ngokushesha yikhono labalingani ukuzwana nokuya phambili. Akumangalisi ukuthi ngokungaqondi ngaso sonke isikhathi kumuntu obizwa ngokuthi useduze kakhulu, siya ngokuya siqala ukudweba ukuphila kwethu ngaphandle kwakhe.
Labo abangajabule emshadweni bayanqikaza ukuvuma ngisho kubo ngokwabo ukuthi bamelela izinhlekelele lapho enye ingxenye ibhubha khona. Inhlekelele enjalo ibashiya osizini nesizungu, kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo isusa inkinga ebuhlungu. Futhi lezi akuzona neze izigebengu ezingenanhliziyo ezifisela othandekayo ukulimaza ngamabomu, noma ngisho nangaphezulu kwalokho uceba ubugebengu. Laba ngabantu abajwayelekile, abanemizwa kanye nokuhlangenwe nakho kwabo, njengami nawe.
Uma emaphusheni uvame ukudweba izithombe zokuphila kwakho ngaphandle komlingani, lokhu kuyisibonakaliso sokuthi ubuhlobo bakho buye buphelelwe yisikhathi futhi, ngamathuba aphezulu, akunakwenzeka ukubuvuselela. Ufuna ukubuyela empilweni yamahhala futhi, kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo awukakakulungeli ukuhamba ngenqubo enzima yokuhlukana. Futhi, ukumisa ubuhlungu obungenakugwemeka, wakha indaba ongakaze uhlangane nayo nalo muntu.
Ngeshwa, ayikho inkinobho yomlingo engakuyisa empilweni entsha, ukweqa ukuhlukana nokuqonda ulwazi olutholile. Kunomgwaqo onzima ngaphambili, futhi kufanele udluliswe isinyathelo ngesinyathelo.
Nawa amathiphu amathathu okusiza endleleni:
1. Ngokwengxenye, ukucabanga ngokukhululeka kungaba usizo uma kwehlisa izinga lakho lokukhathazeka. Cabanga ukuthi uzoyishintsha kanjani impilo yakho ngemuva kwesehlukaniso, lapho uzohlala khona, uzokwenzani. Mhlawumbe lokhu kuzoba umfutho wokuqala into entsha: umsebenzi wokuzilibazisa osuwubeke isikhathi eside, ukudlala imidlalo, ukushintsha umsebenzi wakho. Uma kunemininingwane eminingi, egcwele izinhlelo ezinhle, ezisekelayo isithombe sekusasa siba ngcono. Lokhu kuzokusiza ngesikhathi sesehlukaniso kanye nesikhathi sokuhlunyeleliswa.
Kubalulekile ukuqonda kusengaphambili amalungelo nezibopho zakho, ukuthi ungazivikela kanjani izithakazelo zakho
2. Cabanga ngokuthi kungani ubalekela iqiniso futhi ungakakulungeli ukubheka isehlukaniso njengesinyathelo esiyokusiza ekwakheni ukuphila okujabulisayo nokunenjongo kamuva. Ngezinye izikhathi kungase kube usizo ukubona ngeso lengqondo imicabango yakho ukuze ulungise ukwesaba nokucwasa. Zama ukuphendula ngokubhala, ngokwethembeka ngangokunokwenzeka kuwena umbuzo — kungani ngigwema isehlukaniso?
Lokhu kungase kube ukwesaba ukulahlwa yizihlobo, emehlweni abo uhlakaza umndeni futhi uncishe izingane ukuxhumana noyise. Noma ukwesaba ukuba wedwa futhi ungaphinde uthole omunye umlingani. Ukwesaba ukuthi umlingani wakho ngeke asamukele isinqumo sakho. Lokhu kungamzwisa ubuhlungu, okuzokuphindela kuwe ngecala. Esinye isizathu esingenzeka: unezinsiza ohlangothini lwakhe, ngenxa yokuthi umlingani angakwazi ukuziphindiselela, wesaba imiphumela engenzeka.
3. Zama ukuhlaziya ukuthi yini ekukhathazayo ngokukhethekile. Ngokuvamile lokhu akulula ukukwenza futhi kunengozi yokuthi uzobhajwa ekuhambeni emibuthanweni. Kulokhu, funa usizo lwesazi sokusebenza kwengqondo.
Uma uqonda ukuthi umlingani wakho kungenzeka angahlangani nawe, isehlukaniso sisongela ukuphenduka impi ethatha isikhathi eside, futhi unezingane, kufanelekile ukuzihlomisa ngokusekelwa ngokomthetho. Kubalulekile ukuqonda kusengaphambili amalungelo nezibopho zakho, ukuthi ungazivikela kanjani izithakazelo zakho.
Ngokuzayo lapho uqala ukucabanga ngesehlukaniso futhi, buyela emanothini akho futhi uzobona ukuthi ungakwazi ukubhekana kahle neqiniso elikwesabisayo futhi elikuvimba ekuthatheni isinyathelo esiwujuqu.