I-Psychology

Abasubathi abaphumelelayo nosomabhizinisi banento eyodwa abafana ngayo: bayazi ukuthi bangabuyela kanjani ngokushesha ezinyaweni zabo. Uma izimo zomdlalo zishintsha, akubaphazamisi. Babonakala bethola amandla engeziwe futhi bazivumelanisa ngokushesha nesimo esisha. Bakwenza kanjani?

Lawa ngamasu uJim Fannin aluleka abasubathi ukuthi bazilolonge uma belungiselela umqhudelwano. Zilolonge njengoba benza ukuze ukwazi ukusabela ngokushesha ezinguqukweni zesimo futhi ungalahleki uma uqala ukulahlekelwa.

1. Ukuphola

Uma ophikisana naye eqala ukuwina, noma yimuphi umsubathi unamandla anele okubekezelela lo mbukiso ngaphandle kokwethuka. Kwezemidlalo, onqobayo yilowo ohlala ezolile kuzo zonke izimo. Akanaso isikhathi sokukhononda ngezimo noma ukungabi nabulungisa. Lowo onomlingisi wezemidlalo wangempela usalokhu ehlala emdlalweni, egxile kuwo, futhi ngokuvamile kwenzeka ukuthi ngomzuliswano wesibili konke kushintsha kakade ngokuthanda kwakhe.

2. Yima kancane ngenkathi ucindezela

Lapho injabulo yakha futhi ingcindezi ifakwa phezu kwethu, imicabango iqala ukugijima, futhi ngokuvamile siyawenza amaphutha. Phumula. Ethenisi, isibonelo, lokhu kungenziwa kuleyo mizuzwana embalwa lapho abadlali beshintsha izindawo. Ukuma kancane kuzokuvumela ukuthi ushintshe emicabangweni ekhathazayo mayelana nokulahlekelwa, kukusize ugxilise ingqondo futhi ucabangele ezinye izenzo.

3. Ungashintshi indlela odlala ngayo

Ompetha abavamile ukuyeka indlela yabo yokudlala. Bayazi ukuthi ngenxa yakhe banqobe izimpi ezedlule. Akufanele ugijimele futhi ushintshe kakhulu okuthile usohambeni, ungabaze ukuthi yini ebikade ikulethela ukunqoba. Asekhona amandla esitayela sakho sokudlala, gxila kuwo.

Hlala uzolile futhi unake ubuthakathaka besitha

4. Shintsha amaqhinga

Kusukela ekuhlaselweni okunolaka kuya ekuzivikeleni okungenzi lutho. Yehlisa umjaho, bese usheshisa. Phakamisa isilevu sakho, bheka umphikisi wakho emehlweni bese umomotheka. Sekuyiminithi kuphela, kodwa uyazilawula wena negeyimu yakho futhi. Uma uqala ukulahlekelwa, unemizuzwana engu-90 ukuze uphinde ukwazi ukulawula ngokugcwele nokuthi kwenzekani. Ukutatazela akusizi.

Abasubathi abaningi banamaqhinga omdlalo ohamba phambili ngo 2-3. Kugalofu unamakilabhu ama-3. Kukhona, isibonelo, umshayeli wegeyimu ecashile kakhulu futhi enembile, futhi ukhuni lunzima futhi lufushane. Uma ugeja ngokhuni oluncane, lushintshe lube olusindayo. Uma i-tennis yokuqala esebenza kuyo ingahlaba umxhwele, faka wonke amandla akho kwesesibili, kodwa ungawuvumeli umcabango othi: «Yilokho-ke, ngilahlekile.

5. Bheka ubuthakathaka besitha

Kubonakala sengathi i-paradox - ngemva kwakho konke, uma ukuguqulwa kufikile emdlalweni, khona-ke isitha sinamandla kunawe? Yebo, manje unamandla emdlalweni, kodwa usalawula imicabango yakho. Futhi awukwazi ukucabanga: "Unamandla." Hlala uzolile futhi unake ubuthakathaka besitha. Njengoba besho kwezemidlalo, ukusiza ophikisana naye ukuthi alahlekelwe kuwukuwina.

6. Amandla aqondile ngaphandle

Qhubeka ucabanga ngomdlalo nangesu lakho endaweni entsha, noma iqiniso lingekona lokho obekuhleliwe. Futhi ungagxili ekukhathaleni nasemaphutheni akho.

7. Khuluma kahle ngawe.

“Nginejubane elihle”, “Ngingene kahle ejikeni”. Maka zonke izikhathi zalokho okwenzekayo kulo mgudu.

Ompetha abaningi bakwazile ukunqoba umjaho ngemuva kokukhumbula umculo abebezilolongela kuwo ngesikhathi kushubile.

8. Khumbula isigqi esihlala sinikeza amandla

Ompetha abaningi bakwazile ukunqoba umjaho noma bawine umdlalo ngemuva kokukhumbula ngesikhathi esishubile umculo abebeziqeqesha ngawo. Isigqi sakhe sibasize bazihlanganisa futhi baguqule isimo somdlalo. Lo mculo uyisici esibalulekile sokulungiselela umdlalo ngokwengqondo.

9. Cabanga ngalokho okufunayo kuphela (hhayi ngalokho ongakufuni)

“Kuthiwani ngokukhonza kwami?”, “Angifuni ukulahlekelwa”, “Ngeke ngiphumelele.” Phakathi nomdlalo, imicabango enjalo akufanele ibe sekhanda. Mhlawumbe lokhu ukusabela kokuqala nokungokwemvelo, kodwa ngeke kulethe ukunqoba.

10. Khumbula umphumela

Lokhu kuzokusiza ukuthi uhlale ngokugcwele emdlalweni futhi uvule intuition yakho. Lokhu kubalulekile ngoba umphikisi wakho uzozwa ukuzethemba kwakho namandla. Mhlawumbe uzovele atatazele enze iphutha emdlalweni.

11. Lungela ushintsho nganoma yisiphi isikhathi

Imincintiswano kwezemidlalo, izingxoxo ebhizinisini zidinga ukuzola nokugxila okuphezulu. Uma wamukela kalula iqiniso lokuthi izinguquko zenzeka kuwo wonke umuntu futhi azihlale zibikezela, ungabuyela ngokushesha kugeyimu eqoqiwe futhi ulawule ngokugcwele isu kakade ezimweni ezintsha.

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