Ukungazi kwethu kuhlakaniphe ngendlela yakhona: kulungisa "ukuqhekeka" kwengqondo yethu futhi kuqede "izimbungulu" ezingokomzwelo ngendlela efinyeleleka kuyo. Yiqiniso, ngezinye izikhathi lokhu kubangela ukuziphatha okungamukeleki ngokuphelele ngokombono womphakathi. Isibonelo, ekukhuleni kocansi.
Baningi abahleli bohlelo phakathi kwabantu engibaziyo. Mhlawumbe, lokhu kungenxa yokuthi emhlabeni wabo jikelele manje kukhona ubumnyama, ubumnyama. Ngokuxhumana nabo, ngajula kancane emahlayeni abo akhethekile, inganekwane kanye nomlingo. Yebo, yebo, umlingo. Ngoba noma yimuphi umhleli uzokutshela izindaba eziningi mayelana nendlela i-IT esebenze ngayo - akucaci ukuthi KANJANI futhi akucaci ukuthi KUNGANI. Futhi noma ubani owayefuna ukuqonda izizathu wayejeziswa kanzima ngekhodi ehlulekile kanye kanye (ngaphambili yayisebenza kahle).
Ngokwami, la makhodi, asebenza noma angasebenzi ngokumelene nawo wonke ama-logic, asikhumbuza kakhulu ukungazi kwethu. Iphinde isifihlele izimiso zomsebenzi, inikeze amacebo angajwayelekile okuziphilisa ngokubuyisela, esingawanaki kuze kube yilapho ephazamisa ukuphila kwethu.
Eminyakeni yami yokufunda, ngangingabangane nentombazane engavamile. Wayehlakaniphile futhi engenangqondo ngesikhathi esifanayo. Wayedlala kakhulu, ethanda ukudlala: kuzinhlangano, ama-dominoes, ilotto. Ingane enjalo emzimbeni wowesifazane osungulwe. Ama-pigtails namasokisi, ubhaka osesimweni sebhere. Wayencamela okwengane, hhayi okowesifazane. Isitolo sezimonyo — «Umhlaba Wezingane».
Omunye wabajwayelene "abanakekelayo" wakhuluma ngaye ngendlela engathandeki kakhulu: bathi enkampanini yethu evamile kwakungekho neyodwa indoda, ngaphandle kokungabali abashadile, ababengekho embhedeni wakhe. Angiyena umzenzisi. Siphila emhlabeni okhululekile, wonke umuntu wenza ngempilo yakhe njengoba ethanda. Kodwa la mahemuhemu amangala: ama-teddy bear namasokisi afika emadolweni ahlangana kanjani nesifiso esinjalo socansi?
Kukhona okwakuphukile "ku-love etiquette protocol"
Ngaxoxa ngokucophelela ngale ndaba nentombazane. Wayezivulekele izingxoxo ezinjalo. Wathi ngaphezulu Yiqiniso, baqamba amanga, kwakukhona ezimbalwa «ezamehlela» - nokho. Kusukela lapho, ngibe yisithenjwa sakhe ezindabeni zothando futhi isikhathi ngasinye ngilalela izindaba ezimayelana nendlela ubudlelwano bakhe obaqala ngayo. Kukhona okwakuphukile "ku-protocol of love etiquette".
Ngalezo zinsuku, nganginikeza abantu abasha amafoni kalula bese ngilandelela izinga lokubandakanyeka kwabo: ingabe bangangimema ngosuku oluthile? Shayela? Bhala i-SMS? Noma ufuna nje ukuba abangane? Konke kwaba ngenye indlela kuye: ucansi lokuqala, bese kulandela ubuqili: ingabe ifoni izoyithatha? Uzobuza ukuthi ubani igama lakhe? .. Isidalwa esimangalisayo. Ngesizathu esithile, wayengesabi nhlobo.
Umkhondo wakhe ulahlekile enkampanini elandelayo, ukugibela izintaba noma uhambo. Ngisho naku-Facebook (inhlangano eyeqisayo evinjelwe eRussia), angizange ngiyithole, ngithole ukuthi yashintsha kanjani, lapho ihamba khona. Isithombe sakhe savela engqondweni yami ngokuphazima kweso, esifundweni. Ngatshela abafundi mayelana nokunamathela kwezocansi kwezisulu kubadlwenguli babo, ngalolo hlobo lobulili, okuwukuphela kwenhloso okuwukufuna ukuqashelwa, uthando.
Kwafika umngane wami omdala engqondweni yami njengesibonelo esiphelele salokho engangikhuluma ngakho. Abazali bakhe bahlukana esemncane, ngamunye enezingane ebuhlotsheni obusha. Babekhathazeke kakhulu ngokuphila kwabo kunendodakazi yabo endala, izici zayo nokuziphatha kwayo kubakhumbuza ngomshado wesikhathi esidlule, onephutha.
Kwakufanele azimele, umuntu omdala. Isihluthulelo sizungeze intamo, "yidla okuthile ngokwakho." Ubuntwana obunjalo abuzange bube khona - yingakho, lapho esekhulile, wayewathanda kakhulu wonke lawa magalofu nama-pigtails.
Ukuziphatha okusebenzayo kocansi, ukulungela ukugijimela ezingalweni zomuntu wokuqala ohlangana naye kuwukuqhubeka kwendaba edabukisayo yobuntwana kanye nesibonelo esicacile sokuthi ukuquleka komuntu kufuna kanjani “ukulungisa” ukulimala ngaphandle kokunikeza noma yiziphi izimpawu “ngaphandle” . Ukuntuleka kothando ebuntwaneni kwenziwa ubulili obusebenzayo ebusheni.
Ngikhumbula indlela amantombazane ahleba ngayo futhi ededela amagama ahlambalazayo ekhelini lakhe. Futhi ngiyazi ngokuqinisekile: wayevele aphelelwe yithemba - kakhulu kunathi sonke - wayedinga uthando. Uguquko kwezocansi, isimo esibucayi kanye nokubukeka okukhangayo kwenza umsebenzi wabo. Futhi emva kwakho konke, akekho endaweni yakhe, akukho nomphefumulo owodwa ophilayo owambuza umbuzo wokuthi kungani eziphatha ngale ndlela. Kungani eyidinga?
Thatha umuntu ozophatha le ntombazane ngaleso sikhathi, futhi uzoshaywa umoya we-melancholy eqoqwe.
Manje, ngokubuka amacala afanayo ekusebenzeni, ukufunda izihloko zesayensi nokukhuluma nabafundi, ngiyaqonda ukuthi isizungu, ukudabuka nobuhlungu obungakanani intombazane eyayinabo ngaphakathi. Ngaleso sikhathi, ukuxhumana nezikhalazo ezingenangqondo kwakungenakwenzeka. Ukuquleka kwathumba i-melancholy futhi kwalwa nakho ngendlela evumayo - eyamukelekayo ngokombono wokuquleka uqobo, futhi imikhuba yezenhlalo eyamukelwa yithi ayisebenzi kukho.
Ukube othile wayeyinakekele le ntombazane ngaleso sikhathi, wayezoshaywa umoya wokuqunjelwa kwe-melancholy. Izifo eziningana ze-venereal, ukuhayiza nokuhleba ngemuva komhlane wakhe - ngokombono womuntu oqulekile, konke lokhu kwakuyinani elincane lokukhokhela ukuqukatha i-avalanche.
Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo sisebenza ngala maphethini (amasu) kuphela uma kunesicelo. Kodwa lokhu kwenzeka ngokungavamile. Ngokuvamile, abantu abanjalo bangena ekwelapheni lapho idamu "liphuka", lapho indlela yokuguquguquka ihluleka. Futhi ngokuqinisekile kunzima kakhulu ukusebenza esimweni esibucayi esinjalo.
Kodwa uma wenza ukuvimbela noma "ubamba" inkinga ekuqaleni, kunethuba lokukhulula amandla amaningi asetshenziswe kangcono enjabulweni nasenjabulweni. Akuyona?