“Anginendaba”: kuyini ukungazweli ngokomzwelo

Cishe wonke umuntu uba nezinkathi zokungezwani nemizwelo. Ngesinye isikhathi, ubuchopho buvele bucime ingxenye yemisebenzi, futhi siphila ngokusebenza nje. Lokhu akukuhle futhi akukubi. Abantu abahlukene babona izenzakalo ezifanayo ngendlela ehlukile. Asixhunyiwe esikhungweni sokulawula esisodwa, okusho ukuthi asikwazi ukuphendula kulokho okwenzeka ngendlela efanayo. Umuntu ongazweli ngokomzwelo ubonakala eba ndikindiki futhi angabi nandaba nakho konke, kuhlanganise nezimo ezazivusa ukusabela okujabulisayo ngaphambili.

Kuyini ukungazweli ngokomzwelo

Imizwa iyingxenye ebalulekile yokuphila komuntu. Ziqondisa izifiso nezenzo zethu, zisenze silwele okwengeziwe futhi siziqhenye ngezimpumelelo zethu, sidabuke, sithukuthele, sicasukile, simangale, uthando. Umzwelo ngamunye unezithunzi eziningi ezakha isithombe esimibalabala sokuhlangenwe nakho kwempilo.

Ukungazweli ngokomzwelo akukhona nje ukungabi nandaba, kuncisha ikhono lokubona izwe langaphandle nokuhlola konke okwenzekayo nxazonke. Ayikuvumeli ukusebenza, ukuxhumana nokuphila ngokujwayelekile. Izinto zokuzilibazisa, izithakazelo, ubudlelwano nabantu abunangqondo futhi akudingekile, ngoba ayikho imizwelo: umuntu akafuni ukwenza into engalethi injabulo noma injabulo. Kungani wenza ukunyakaza okungasho lutho?

Izibopho zingolunye udaba, kufanele zifezeke, kungenjalo uzoshelela phansi. Futhi konke okungaphezu kwalokho - imihlangano nabangani, ezokuzijabulisa, izinto zokuzilibazisa, izifiso zokudala - kuhlanganiswe nemizwa nezifiso.

Abantu abaningi benza iphutha lokungabi nazwelo njengendlela esindisa ukuphila. Lokhu akulona iqiniso. Kuyasiza ngempela ukuvala imizwelo yakho ngezikhathi ezithile ukuze ugxile emisebenzini ebalulekile, ngoba ukufutheka ngokweqile kuzolimaza kuphela. Enye into embi: nathi sivame ukukhohlwa ukubuyela emuva futhi siphile ngokwengqondo esimweni esinzima. Imizwa eyinsalela inqwabelana ngaphakathi futhi ngokushesha noma kamuva izwakale.

Umkhuba wokuthulisa imizwa ukuze uvale noma yimiphi imizwa engathandeki ubizwa ngokuthi ukugwema, futhi lokhu akuyona indlela engcono kakhulu yokuzivikela. Ukungabi nokuzwela okwesikhathi eside kubonisa ukwephulwa okukhulu, ezimweni ezinjalo kuyadingeka ukuthintana nochwepheshe. Nazi izimpawu ezimbalwa okufanele uzibheke:

• ukulahlekelwa isithakazelo emisebenzini yomphakathi;
• umuzwa wokungabi nalusizo kanye nokuhlukaniswa;
• ukukhathala ngokomzwelo nangokomzimba, ukuphelelwa amandla;
• ukungabi nandaba okuphelele, hhayi imizwelo emihle noma engemihle;
• ukukhathala okujwayelekile, ubunzima emisebenzini yansuku zonke;
• ukungakwazi ukucabanga ngokujulile kanye nokubona ulwazi oluyinkimbinkimbi;
• ubunzima bokuveza imizwa ngamagama kanye nokuyichazela abanye;
• isifiso sokuvala ekhaya ungahlangani namuntu.

Izimbangela zokungazweli ngokomzwelo

Ngokuvamile, lesi simo senzeka ngenxa yobuhlungu obungapheli, ngokomzimba noma ngokwengqondo. Umuntu okumelwe akhuthazelele ukuhlushwa ngokuzenzakalelayo uzama ukuyivala imizwelo, bese kuba lula kuye. Kuyasiza ekuqaleni, kodwa inkinga iba yimbi kakhulu njengoba isikhathi sihamba. Inkathazo iwukuthi udonga luya ngokuya lukhula futhi luminyene, futhi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi alikho igebe elisele kulo, lapho okungenani imizwelo ethile, emihle noma engemihle, ingangena.

Indlela izovalwa size siqagele ukunqamula umnyango.

Phakathi kwezimbangela ezingase zibe khona yizinkinga ezingokwengqondo, okuhlanganisa:

• ukucindezeleka;
• ukuhlukunyezwa ngokwengqondo nangokomzimba;
• ukuncika kwamakhemikhali;
• ukucindezeleka;
• usizi;
• isipiliyoni esibuhlungu kanye nokuphazamiseka kwangemva kokuhlukumezeka;
• ukwanda kokukhathazeka noma ukukhathazeka kokukhathazeka.

Ukungazweli ngokomzwelo kuvame ukuvela ngemva kokushaqeka, ikakhulukazi kubantu asebehlukunyezwe isikhathi eside ngabazali abahlukumezayo noma abathandana nabo. Njengomthetho, izisulu zobudlova azikwazi ukuthonya okwenzeka kuzo, ngakho-ke zizivalele, ngoba lena ukuphela kwendlela yokuzivikela etholakalayo. Okuhlangenwe nakho okunzima kubuya ngokuphindaphindiwe: ngisho nalapho yonke into iphela, umuntu uzama ukugwema izimo, izingxoxo kanye nemizwa emkhumbuza okwedlule.

Kubantu abakhathazekile, ukungezwani ngokomzwelo kubangelwa uhlobo lwendlela yokubuyisela evumela ukuthi unciphise izinga eliphezulu lokucindezeleka ukuze ubekezeleleke. Ngaphezu kwalokho, imithi ethile ingabangela. Lo mphumela ohlangothini ubonwa cishe kuzo zonke izidakamizwa ze-psychotropic.

Uphathwa kanjani

Alikho ikhambi eliphelele lokungazweli ngokomzwelo, icala ngalinye lilodwa. Abangane, izihlobo, amaqembu asekelayo ngeke bakwazi ukusiza ngesifiso sabo sonke, ngoba abazi ukuthi kanjani. Indlela engcono kakhulu yokuphuma iwukuthintana nodokotela wezengqondo. Angakwazi ukunquma izimbangela futhi axazulule lesi simo kanye nesiguli.

Akufanele ulindele umphumela osheshayo: amabhokisi lapho imizwa engaphili ifihlwe khona kufanele avulwe ngokucophelela, ucabange kabusha isimo ngasinye. Uma konke kwenziwa ngendlela efanele, ikhono lokuzwa libuyiselwa kancane kancane. Izindlela ezimbili ezivame kakhulu zokwelapha ukungazweli ngokomzwelo yilezi:

Ukwelashwa kokwamukelwa nokuzibophezela. Kugxilwe ekuthuthukisweni kokuqwashisa, ikhono lokubona nokuhumusha isipiliyoni somzwelo “njengoba sinjalo”. Isiguli sifunda ukuqaphela ukusabela kwaso okulimazayo futhi esikhundleni sako kufake ezakhayo.

Ukwelashwa kwengqondo-yokuziphatha. Inaka kakhulu ekuthuthukiseni ikhono lokuqonda nokuveza imizwa. Isiguli sifunda ukususa izimo zengqondo ezingezinhle ngokuqaphela esikhundleni sezinto ezinhle. Ngaphezu kwalokho, indlela isiza ukuhlola ngokucabangela izimo ezihlukahlukene futhi ukhethe impendulo efanele yomzwelo.

Ukungazweli akuchazwa njalo izehlakalo ezimangalisayo. Ivame ukukhula kulabo abaphila ngokucindezeleka njalo futhi basebenze kuze kube sekugcineni. Kulokhu, izazi zokusebenza kwengqondo zincoma ukucabangela kabusha indlela yokuphila.

Indlela yokugcina ibhalansi engokwengqondo

Ukungazweli ngokomzwelo kungavinjelwa ngokulandela imithetho embalwa elula.

1. Yenza izivivinyo zakho

Imithwalo yezemidlalo iyikhambi elingcono kakhulu lokungazweli ngokomzwelo. Lapho sinyakaza, ubuchopho bukhiqiza ama-endorphin, athuthukisa isimo sengqondo futhi abangele ukwanda kwamandla. Imizuzu engamashumi amabili nje ngosuku ingahamba ibanga elide ekuthuthukiseni impilo yengqondo.

2. Zijwayeze nenhlanzeko yokulala kahle

Ukulala okunekhwalithi kwenza izimanga. Udinga nje ukumenzela izimo: umbhede onethezekile, igumbi elimnyama, awekho ama-smartphones embhedeni futhi angahlali kuze kube sekwephuzile.

3. Bhekisisa ukudla

Ukudla kungamafutha abalulekile emzimbeni. Lena imoto ekahle, kodwa uma uyigcwalisa nganoma yini, izohluleka nakanjani. Uma ushintsha ukudla okuyingozi esikhundleni sokudla okunempilo futhi udle lapho ufuna ngempela, impilo yakho izoba ngcono ngokushesha.

4. Yehlisa amazinga akho okucindezeleka

Abantu abaningi abangenaluzwela banezinkinga eziningi ezingaxazululiwe. Zinqwabelana kancane kancane bese ziphenduka umthwalo ongabekezeleleki. Ekugcineni, ubuchopho abukwazi ukumelana nokugcwala futhi bungena kumodi elinganiselwe. Ukuvimbela lokhu ukuthi kungenzeki, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuphumula nokubuyisela izinsiza zakho.

5. Funda ukuqaphela, ukuveza kanye nempilo imizwa

Noma ubani obelokhu enganaki yonke into isikhathi eside umane akhohlwe ukuthi kusho ukuthini ukuzwa nokuphendula okuvelayo, ngoba amakhono angafunwa aba buthuntu ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Kungaba kubi kakhulu. Abantu abahlukunyezwa beseyizingane abazi ukuthi iyini imizwa ngoba bebengavunyelwe ukuba nayo. Ngenhlanhla, ubuhlakani bomzwelo bungathuthukiswa.

6. Bheka labo abakulungele ukukweseka

Kuhle ukuba nabangane nomndeni eduze abakulungele ukusiza ezikhathini ezinzima. Kwesinye isikhathi ukukhuluma nje ngenhliziyo nenhliziyo kwanele ukukucacisa okumele ukwenze ngokulandelayo. Kodwa uma kungekho omethembayo bheka ama-support groups, hamba uye komelaphi, ungabi wedwa.

Ukungazweli ngokomzwelo akuhambi ngokwakho, indlela yokululama yinde futhi inzima. Kuzodingeka uziguqule futhi uguqule ubudlelwano bakho nezwe langaphandle. Kodwa nakanjani uzophumelela. Phela lokhu kwenzelwa ukubuyisela ukunambitheka kwempilo futhi.