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Kukhona umuzwa wokuthi ukhangwa uhlobo olufanayo lwamadoda ukuthi awuhambisani nhlobo? Khona-ke kudingeka uhlaziye ubuhlobo nabobulili obuhlukile. Uma ukwazi ukulandelela izindlela zokuziphatha zamadoda, imikhuba, nesimo, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi kungani. Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo uZoya Bogdanova sisiza ukuqeda umbhalo.
Empilweni, imvamisa akukho okuphindaphindwayo kanjalo, ikakhulukazi ebudlelwaneni. Ukuphindaphinda kwenzeka kuze kuqedwe umjikelezo othile. Ukubeka iphuzu elinengqondo ohlelweni, sithola isiqalo somjikelezo omusha.
"Isebenza" kanjani ebudlelwaneni nabobulili obuhlukile? Owesifazane uzoheha amadoda ohlobo olufanayo empilweni yakhe aze aqonde ukuthi kungani lokhu kwenzeka.
Isibonelo, ngivame ukuzwa izikhalazo ezivela kumakhasimende mayelana nabalingani abanomona noma ababuthakathaka. Abesifazane bafuna ukuthola okhethiwe ozithembayo, onomongo wangaphakathi ongaba ukusekelwa nesivikelo sabo. Maye, kuvela okuphambene: sithola esibalekela kukho.
Yimiphi imibuzo emine okufanele uzibuze yona?
Thola isikhathi samahhala lapho kungekho muntu ozokuphazamisa, phumula futhi ugxile. Bese uthatha ipeni nephepha bese uphendula imibuzo emine:
- Bhala uhlu lwezimpawu zabalingiswa (ezifika kweziyi-10) ongathanda ukuzibona kumlingani wakho futhi ezinikezwe ubuntu obuseduze noma obunegunya kuwe.
- Maka izici ezifika kweziyi-10 ezikuxosha emadodeni futhi awufuni ukuzibona kokhethiwe, kepha usuvele uhlangane nazo kumuntu ovela ezihlotsheni zakho, abangani, izihlobo.
- Bhala phansi iphupho lakho lobuntwana obulithanda kakhulu: lokho obufuna ukukuthola ngempela, kodwa akuzange kwenzeke (kwakunqatshelwe, akuzange kuthengwe, kwakungenakwenzeka ukukusebenzisa). Isibonelo, njengengane, uphuphe ekamelweni lakho, kodwa waphoqeleka ukuba uhlale nodadewenu noma umfowenu.
- Khumbula isikhathi esikhanya kakhulu, esifudumele kakhulu kusukela ebuntwaneni - yini eyenza uzizwe ujabule, ukwesaba, kubangela izinyembezi zobubele.
Manje funda ukuthi iphuzu ngalinye lisho ukuthini ngokombono womthetho wokulinganisa kanye nemimoya yomndeni.
Ukuhlelwa kwekhodi kungokulandelayo: ungathola okufunayo esigabeni 1 kuphela ngemuva kokuxazulula isimo ngesigaba 2, futhi lokhu kuzokuvumela ukuthi ufeze iphupho lakho kusuka esigabeni 3 futhi uzwe lokho okubhalile esigabeni 4.
Kuze kube yileso sikhathi, uzohlangana ngqo nalokho okuzondayo futhi ubalekele kumlingani wakho (funda iphuzu 2). Ngoba yizo kanye lezi zici zomlingiswa endodeni ozaziyo futhi oziqondayo futhi ezisondelene kakhulu nezinga elithile - uphila noma uhlala nalokhu, futhi kukhona okunye ongakujwayele.
Owesifazane ufuna ukuthola okhethiwe ozethembayo ongaba ukusekelwa nesivikelo sakhe, kodwa uthola kuphela lokho abalekela kukho.
Isibonelo esivamile sizosiza ukuqonda: intombazane yakhulela emndenini wabazali abadakwa futhi, lapho ikhulile, ishada nesiphuzo, noma ngesikhathi esithile umyeni wayo ophumelelayo waqala ukuphuza ibhodlela.
Ngokuyinhloko sikhetha umlingani ngokungazi lutho, futhi uhlobo olukhethiwe lujwayele owesifazane - wakhulela emndenini ofanayo futhi, ngisho noma yena engakaze aphuze utshwala, kulula kakhulu ukuba aphile notshwala. Okufanayo kusebenza kumuntu onomona noma obuthakathaka. Umkhuba, nakuba izimo ezimbi zenza ukuziphatha kokhethiwe kuqondakala, owesifazane uyazi ukuthi angasabela kanjani kuye.
Ungaphuma kanjani embuthanweni ononya wobudlelwano obungebuhle
Ukuphuma kulo mjikelezo ngokuvamile kulula kakhulu. Thatha ipeni bese wengeza ezigabeni 1 no-2 izici zomlingiswa ezinhle nezimbi ongakaze uhlangane nazo nabathandekayo bakho, abantu abavela endaweni yakho, iziphathimandla kanye nobuntu obazondayo. Lokhu kufanele kufake izici ezingajwayelekile, ezingavamile, amakhono, amasu okuziphatha angaveli ezimeni zakho nasemindenini.
Bese uzigcwalisele uhlu lwemibuzo olufanayo — bhala ukuthi yiziphi izici ezintsha ongathanda ukuba nazo, nokuthi yiziphi ongathanda ukuzisusa ngokushesha. Cabanga ukuthi ubungabukeka kanjani ekubukekeni okusha, futhi uzame kuwena nakumlingani wakho omusha, njengesudi. Khumbula ukuthi konke okusha kuhlale kungakhululekile: kungase kubonakale sengathi ubukeka uyisiphukuphuku noma izinguquko ezifunwayo azisoze zafezwa.
Ukuzivocavoca okulula kwe-kinesthetic kuzosiza ukunqoba lesi sivimbelo: nsuku zonke, kusukela kusasa ekuseni, xubha amazinyo akho ngesinye isandla sakho. Uma usebenzisa isandla sokudla, bese kwesokunxele, uma usebenzisa kwesokunxele, bese kwesokudla. Futhi wenze lokhu izinsuku ezingama-60.
Ngithembe, ushintsho luzofika. Into eyinhloko yizenzo ezintsha, ezingavamile ezizodonsa konke okunye nazo.