"Anginandaba nepolitiki": kungenzeka yini ukuthi ungahambi?

U-Alexander oneminyaka engu-53 uthi: “Ngazi ngokwami ​​ukuthi umuntu ongenandaba nezombusazwe akanandaba nalutho. - Kuyangicasula lapho abantu bengazazi izinto wonke umuntu asexoxile ngazo izikhathi eziyikhulu.

Nansi i-Premiere yefilimu kaStone ethi "Alexander". I-Scandal. IGreece yabhikisha ngokusemthethweni. Izindaba kuzo zonke iziteshi. Imigqa emasinema. Bangibuza: “Uyichithe kanjani impelasonto yakho?” - "Ngaya ku-Alexander. - "Imuphi u-Alexander?"

U-Alexander ngokwakhe uphawula ngenkuthalo impilo yezenhlalo kanye ne-ajenda yezombangazwe. Futhi uyavuma ukuthi angashisa kakhulu ezingxoxweni futhi aze “avimbele” abantu abambalwa ezinkundleni zokuxhumana “ngenxa yepolitiki.”

UTatyana oneminyaka engu-49 ubudala akahlanganyeli kulesi sikhundla: “Kimina kubonakala sengathi labo abathanda kakhulu ukukhuluma ngezombangazwe banezinkinga. Lezi ezinye izinhlobo "ze-scab scratchers" - abafundi bephephandaba, ababukeli bemidlalo yezombangazwe.

Ngemuva kwesikhundla ngasinye kukhona izinkolelo nezinqubo ezijulile, kusho izazi zokusebenza kwengqondo.

Ukuthula kwangaphakathi kubaluleke kakhulu?

"Impi ebaluleke kakhulu ayenzeki enkundleni yezombangazwe, kodwa emphefumulweni, engqondweni yomuntu, futhi umphumela wayo kuphela othinta ukwakheka komuntu, umbono weqiniso," u-Anton, 45, uchaza ukuhlukaniswa kwakhe kwezombusazwe. . "Ukufuna injabulo ngaphandle, ngokwesibonelo, kwezezimali noma kwezombangazwe, kuphambukisa ukunaka kulokho okungaphakathi, kuthinta yonke impilo yomuntu, ayichitha ekuhluphekeni okuqhubekayo nasekufuneni injabulo engenakufinyeleleka."

U-Elena oneminyaka engu-42 uyavuma ukuthi ukube bekungengenxa kanina nomngane wakhe we-TV, ubengeke akubone izinguquko zakamuva kuhulumeni. “Impilo yami yangaphakathi neyabantu engibathandayo ibaluleke kakhulu kimina. Asikhumbuli ukuthi ubani owangena esihlalweni sobukhosi ngaphansi kukaRousseau noma uDickens, owayebusa ngaphansi kukaMohammed noma uConfucius. Ngaphezu kwalokho, umlando uthi kunemithetho yokuthuthukiswa komphakathi, ngezinye izikhathi okungenangqondo ukulwa nayo.

UNatalia, 44, naye ukude nemicimbi yezepolitiki. “Abantu bangaba nezinto ezingafani, mina nginepolitiki nezindaba ekugcineni. Ngaphezu kwalokho, izazi zokusebenza kwengqondo zeluleka ukugwema ulwazi olubi. Yini ezoshintsha kimi uma ngithola enye impi, ukuhlasela kwamaphekula? Ngizovele ngilale kubi futhi ngikhathazeke.”

Konke “okungaphandle” akuphazamisi ukuphila kwangaphakathi nganoma iyiphi indlela, kusho uKarina oneminyaka engu-33 ubudala. “Okubalulekile wukuphila kahle kwengqondo yami, futhi kuncike kimina kuphela nendlela engizizwa ngayo, impilo yezihlobo zami. Futhi okunye kuvela ezweni elihluke ngokuphelele, cishe lisuka kwenye iplanethi. Ngiyohlala ngihola imali, futhi enginakho okwamanje kwanele kimi - lena impilo yami.

Ayikho indlela yokuphuma ebhokisini kuphela, konke okunye kusezandleni zami. Futhi okukumabonakude, abanye abantu abanenkululeko yokukhuluma, umnotho, uhulumeni, akungikhathazi - kusukela egameni elithi “ngokujwayelekile.” Ngingakwenza konke mina. Ngaphandle kwabo”.

Kodwa u-Eka oneminyaka engu-28 naye wayengenasithakazelo kwezombangazwe, “ngaze ngacabanga ukuthi isikhathi sizofika kuleli, njengoba kwamanye, uhulumeni uzoshintsha njalo. Ngake ngabona ukuthi uma kunabantu abambalwa abahluzekile engqondweni, khona-ke othile kufanele adlulisele ulwazi oluthembekile. Kwadingeka ngiqale ngami. Namanje angikafuni ukuba nentshisekelo kwezombusazwe. Lokhu akungijabulisi kakhulu kimina uqobo, kodwa kufanele ngenzenjani? Kufanele ngikuchaze, ngikutshele ukuthi kungani ungeke ungahambi, kokubili ebusweni nasezinkundleni zokuxhumana.”

Ngaphansi komlilo wokuthuka nokungabi nandaba

Kwabanye, ukuhlala kude nezihloko ezishisayo kulingana nokuphepha. U-Ekaterina oneminyaka engu-30 uthi: “Cishe angilokothi ngibhale ngezombangazwe futhi angivamile ukungena ezingxoxweni, ngoba kwabanye kubaluleke kakhulu kangangokuthi kungase kuxabane.

Usekelwa uGalina oneminyaka engu-54 ubudala: “Akukhona ukuthi anginasithakazelo ngokuphelele. Angibuqondi ngempela ubudlelwano bembangela nomthelela. Angiwushicileli umbono wami ngoba ngisaba ukuthi ngeke bangeseke, angiphawuli ngombono womunye umuntu ngoba ngisaba ukuqondwa kabi.”

U-Elena oneminyaka engu-37 wayeka ukubuka i-TV nezindaba ngenxa yokuthi kuningi ukunganaki, ubudlova nonya: “Konke lokhu kudinga amandla amaningi, futhi kungcono ukukuqondisa emigomweni yakho nempilo yakho.”

"Emphakathini waseRussia, empeleni, bambalwa abantu abangaphikisana futhi baxoxe ngokuthula - ukuntuleka kwamaphuzu okusekela kanye nesithombe esicacile kubangela ukuhumusha kwabo, okungenakwenzeka ukukhetha okulungile," kusho i-psychotherapist, i-Gestalt Therapist eqinisekisiwe. Anna Bokova. - Kunalokho, ngayinye yazo ivimbela kuphela isiphetho.

Kodwa ukuvuma nokwamukela ukungabi namandla kwakho kungomunye wemisebenzi enzima kakhulu ekwelashweni. Izingxoxo ziphenduka zibe iholideyi ye-inthanethi. Leli fomu nalo alifaki igalelo ekwandiseni isithakazelo esihlokweni, kodwa limane lithuse futhi livimbele umuntu ukuba aveze umbono wakhe ovele untengantenga.”

Kodwa mhlawumbe lokhu kuyisici saseRussia kuphela - ukugwema ulwazi lwezombangazwe? ULyubov oneminyaka engu-50 ubudala useneminyaka eminingana ehlala ngaphandle kwaseRussia, futhi nakuba enesithakazelo kwezombangazwe zaseSwitzerland, udlulisela izindaba ngesihlungi sakhe siqu.

“Ngokuvamile ngangifunda izihloko zesiRashiya. Izindaba zasendaweni zinengxenye yenkulumo-ze kanye nesistimu yazo yezinto eziza kuqala. Kodwa angixoxi ngezihloko zezombangazwe – asikho isikhathi, futhi kubuhlungu ukuzwa inhlamba kuwe siqu noma ekhelini lomunye umuntu.

Kodwa ingxabano nabangane abaseduze mayelana nemicimbi yaseCrimea ngo-2014 yaholela eqinisweni lokuthi imindeni emithathu - ngemva kweminyaka engu-22 yobungane - yayiyeka nhlobo ukuxhumana.

“Ngangingaqondi nokuthi kwenzeke kanjani. Sahlangana ngandlela thize ukuze senze ipikiniki sabe sesisho izinto eziningi ezimbi. Nakuba sikuphi futhi ikuphi eCrimea? Asinazo ngisho izihlobo lapho. Kodwa konke kwahamba ngaphandle kweketango. Futhi ngonyaka wesithupha manje, noma yimiphi imizamo yokubuyisela ubudlelwano ayizange iphele lutho, "u-Semyon oneminyaka engu-43 ubudala uyazisola.

Zama ukulawula indiza

“Labo abathanda ezombangazwe ngaphandle komsebenzi bazama ukulawula ukuphila, okungokoqobo,” kuphawula u-Anna Bokova. - Ukwanda kwentshisekelo kwezepolitiki kuyindlela yokubhekana nokwesaba okukhona kwezinxushunxushu zalo mhlaba. Ukungafuni ukuvuma ukuthi, ngokujwayelekile, akukho lutho oluncike kithi futhi asikwazi ukulawula lutho. ERussia, ngaphezu kwalokho, akukho esikwaziyo ngisho nokuqiniseka, ngoba abezindaba abaludlulisi ukwaziswa okuyiqiniso.”

“Ngicabanga ukuthi amagama athi “anginasithakazelo kwezombangazwe” empeleni ayinkulumo yezombangazwe,” kuchaza u-Alexei Stepanov, isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo esinobuntu. – Nami ngiyisihloko futhi ngingosopolitiki. Ngithanda noma ngingathandi, ngiyafuna noma angifuni, noma ngiyavuma noma cha.

Ingqikithi yendaba ingavezwa ngosizo lomqondo "wendawo yokulawula" - isifiso somuntu sokuzinqumela ukuthi yini ethonya impilo yakhe kakhulu: izimo noma izinqumo zakhe. Uma ngiqiniseka ukuthi angikwazi ukuthonya lutho, asikho isidingo sokuba nesithakazelo.”

Isikhundla sombukeli oqondayo ukulinganiselwa kwakhe sithathwe uNatalya oneminyaka engu-47 ubudala. “Ngiyabanakekela” osopolitiki: kufana nokundiza endizeni futhi ngilalele ukuthi izinjini zizwakala ngokulinganayo yini, noma kukhona abantu abahlanyayo endaweni. Uma ubona okuthile, uzwela kakhulu, ukhathazeke, uma kungenjalo, uzama ukozela.

Kodwa ngiyabazi abantu abaningi okuthi uma nje benyathela iladi bavele baphuze eflaskini ukuze bacime. Kunjalo nangepolitiki. Kodwa angazi ukuthi kwenzekani endaweni yabalindi nangemishini yendiza.”

Umehluko ekugqugquzelweni kwabantu abajwayelekile kanye nosopolitiki baqinisekisa kuphela ukuthi abakwazi ukuthonya lutho. "Ukwelashwa kwe-Gestalt kuncike endleleni ye-phenomenological. Okungukuthi, ukuze ufinyelele isiphetho ngokuthile, udinga ukwazi zonke izenzakalo nezincazelo, - kusho u-Anna Bokova. – Uma iklayenti linentshisekelo yokwelapha, likhuluma ngezimo zokuqaphela kwalo, izwe lalo elingaphakathi. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, osopolitiki bafuna ukuguqula imicimbi ngendlela efanele, ukuze izethulwe ngendlela efanele.

Yiqiniso, ngezinye izikhathi amaklayenti enza lokhu futhi, lokhu kuvamile - akunakwenzeka ukuzibheka ohlangothini, izindawo eziyimpumputhe zizovela ngokuqinisekile, kodwa uchwepheshe uyabanaka, futhi iklayenti liqala ukuzibona. Osopolitiki bona abadingi ukubhekwa ngaphandle, bayayazi into abayenzayo.

Ngakho-ke, ukukholelwa ukuthi othile ngaphandle kwabahlanganyeli abaqondile ezenzakalweni angakwazi iqiniso mayelana nezisusa zangaphakathi kanye nengqondo kuwukukhohlisa okujulile. Kuwubuwula ukucabanga ukuthi osopolitiki bangakwazi ukukhuluma ngokungagwegwesi.

Yingakho umuntu engaba nesithakazelo kwezombangazwe kuphela ezingeni le-amateur, eqaphela ukuthi ngeke sazi lonke iqiniso. Ngakho-ke, asikwazi ukuba nombono ongaguquki. "Okuhlukile kuyiqiniso kulabo abangakwazi ukwamukela futhi bamukele ukungabi namandla kwabo futhi baqhubeke nokugcina inkohliso yokulawula."

Akukho lutho kimi?

URoman oneminyaka engu-40 unombono ongokoqobo ngalokho okwenzeka emhlabeni. Unentshisekelo ezindabeni kuphela, kodwa akafundi izibalo. Futhi unesizathu sombono wakhe: “Kufana nokuqagela endaweni yekhofi. Noma kunjalo, imisinga yangempela izwakala ngaphansi kwamanzi kuphela nalabo abakhona. Futhi ikakhulukazi sibheka kwabezindaba igwebu lamagagasi.

Ipolitiki ihlale iwumbango wezikhundla, kusho uNatalia oneminyaka engu-60 ubudala. “Futhi amandla ahlala ekulabo abasezandleni zabo izimali kanye nempahla. Ngakho-ke, iningi labantu, ngaphandle kwemali, alikwazi ukufinyelela amandla, okusho ukuthi ngeke bavunyelwe ekhishini lezombusazwe. Ngakho-ke, nalabo abathanda ipolitiki ngeke benze mehluko.

Ngakho-ke, yiba nesithakazelo noma ungabi nesithakazelo, kuyilapho unqunu njenge-falcon, enye impilo ayikukhanyiseli. Inhlamba, ungathuki, kodwa ungathonya okuthile kuphela uma uba umxhasi. Kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo, uhlale usengozini yokugetshengwa.”

Kunzima ukwamukela ukuthi akukho okuncike kithina. Ngakho-ke, abaningi baphendukela kulezo zindawo abangathonya kuzo okuthile. “Futhi bathola izincazelo ezithile kulokhu. Kungomuntu ngamunye kuwo wonke umuntu, kodwa ukusesha kwenzeka kuphela ngemva kokubona ukungabi nanjongo kobukhona nokuphila imizwa ehambisana naleli qiniso.

Kuyisinqumo esikhona lapho, ngokushesha noma kamuva, ngokuqaphela noma cha, wonke umuntu abhekane nakho. Ipolitiki yezwe lakithi ingenye yezindawo, isibonelo sayo esikhombisa ubuze bokuzama ukuqonda noma yini ngomuntu. Akukho obala, kodwa abaningi bayaqhubeka nokuzama,” kusho u-Anna Bokova.

Nokho, akuzona zonke izinto ezicace kangaka. "Ipolitiki ephezulu ngeke ibonakale kwezombusazwe emazingeni aphansi," kusikisela u-Aleksey Stepanov. - Umuntu angasho ukuthi akanandaba nepolitiki, kanti uzofakwa emithethweni ekhona, isibonelo, esikoleni lapho ingane yakhe ifunda khona.

Ngiyaqiniseka ukuthi ngamunye wethu unesandla kulokho okwenzekayo. Uma ipolitiki “iyindawo yokulahla udoti”, ngabe senzani ngayo? Singakwazi ukuhlanza indawo esizungezile futhi siqale ukuhlakulela umbhede wezimbali. Singakwazi ukulahla udoti, sincoma imibhede yezimbali yabanye abantu.

Uma ungumuntu obhemayo, ubhema endaweni yesikhulumi, usekela ukungabi namthetho nezindinganiso ezimbaxa-mbili. Akusho lutho ukuthi sinentshisekelo kwezombusazwe eziphezulu. Kodwa uma ngesikhathi esifanayo sixhasa ngezimali isikhungo sokuvimbela ubudlova basekhaya, nakanjani sihlanganyela empilweni yezombangazwe.”

“Futhi, ekugcineni, izimo eziningi ezingokwengqondo zizenza zizizwe zisezingeni eliphansi lenhlalakahle yabantu,” kuqhuba isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo. - Ingabe ingane inesithakazelo kulokho inqubomgomo yomndeni elandelwa umbhangqwana wabazali bayo? Ingabe ufuna ukumthonya? Ingakwazi? Mhlawumbe, izimpendulo zizohluka kuye ngokuthi iminyaka yengane nokuthi abazali baziphatha kanjani.

Ingane izolalela umyalo womndeni, futhi osemusha angaphikisana naye. Emkhakheni wezepolitiki, umbono wokudluliselwa njengendlela yengqondo ubonakala kahle. Ngamunye wethu uthonywa isipiliyoni sokuxhumana nabantu ababalulekile - ubaba nomama. Kuthonya isimo sethu sengqondo ngombuso, izwe likaMama kanye nombusi.”