Okuqukethwe
“Yonke into iyawohloka”, “angazi ukuthi ngenzenjani”, “ngiyikhipha kwabathandekayo” — lezi ezimbalwa nje ezingazwakala kubantu obajwayele nabangabazi. Siyini isizathu salesi simo nokuthi ungaphuma kanjani kuso?
Kwenzekani kimi?
Kulezi zinsuku, ezimweni zamanje, isidingo sethu sokuphepha siphulwa - isidingo esiyisisekelo somuntu, ngokusho kwephiramidi kaMaslow. Kukhona okusongela ukuphila kwethu, futhi ingqondo ayikwazi ukucabanga nganoma yini enye, ngoba ukusinda kuyinto ehamba phambili. Futhi ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa ukuphila ukwesaba isilwane esidala kakhulu, esinamandla kakhulu.
Ukwesaba ukusabela okungokwemvelo komzimba esimweni esinzima sangaphandle, lapho i-psyche ibona njengeyingozi. Kukhona ukusabela okuthathu kokwesaba: shaya, gijima, qhwa. Ngakho-ke ukwethuka, isifiso esinamandla sokwenza okuthile, ukugijima endaweni ethile, ukushaya kwenhliziyo okunamandla (gijima!). Kunemizwa eminingi lapha: ulaka, intukuthelo, ukucasuka, ukufuna abanecala, ukuwohloka kwabathandekayo (hit!). Noma, ngokuphambene nalokho, ukunganaki, isifiso sokulala phansi, ubuthakathaka, ukungabi namandla (iqhwa!).
Kodwa ukukhathazeka kuhlukile.
Ihluke ekwesabeni lapho kungekho khona into, lapho singesabi okuthile okuqondile, kodwa ukungaqiniseki. Lapho kungabikho ukuqiniseka ngekusasa, akukho lwazi, akwaziwa ukuthi yini okufanele uyilindele.
Ngokombono wokwelashwa kokuziphatha kwengqondo, ubuchopho bunesibopho sokuziphatha kwethu okulimazayo kanye nomuzwa wokwesaba nokukhathazeka. Ubona usongo futhi akhiphe imiyalo kuwo wonke umzimba - izimpawu zokuthi, ngokuqonda kwakhe, kuzoholela ekusindeni kwethu.
Uma senza lula kakhulu, khona-ke uchungechunge olulandelayo luyasebenza:
Umcabango uthi "impilo yami isengozini."
Umzwelo noma imizwa - ukwesaba noma ukukhathazeka.
Ukuzwa emzimbeni - ukushaya kwenhliziyo, ukuzamazama kwezandla, ama-clamps.
Ukuziphatha — izenzo ezishintshashintshayo, ukwethuka.
Ngokushintsha imicabango, singashintsha lonke iketango. Umsebenzi wethu wukushintsha imicabango elimazayo sifake eyakhayo. Into engcono kakhulu esingayenza ukuzola, "ukuphuma" esimweni sokwesaba, bese sithatha isinyathelo.
Kulula ukusho. Kodwa kanjani lokho?
Bhekana nemizwa
Unelungelo lokuthola noma yimiphi imizwa nemizwa. Intukuthelo. Ukwesaba. Inzondo. Ukucasuka. Intukuthelo. Ukungabi namandla. Ukungabi nakuzisiza. Ayikho imizwa emibi nemihle. Zonke zibalulekile. Futhi lokho okuzwayo kuyamangalisa. Kusho ukuthi uyaphila. Omunye umbuzo uwukuthi ungayiveza kanjani imizwa ngendlela efanele esimweni. Lapha umthetho oyinhloko awukona ukuwagcina kuwe!
Zama ukudweba ukwesaba kwakho.
Ukuzivocavoca okuhle kwengqondo kuyisingathekiso. Cabanga ngokwesaba kwakho. Uyini yena? Ibukeka kanjani? Mhlawumbe into ethile noma isidalwa? Kucabangele nxazonke. Cabanga ukuthi ungenzani ngakho? Nciphisa, shintsha, thambisa. Isibonelo, uma libukeka njengexoxo elikhulu eliphuzi elibandayo elicindezela esifubeni, ungalinciphisa, ulifudumeze kancane, ulifake ephaketheni lakho ukuze lingakhwazi. Uyakuzwa ukwesaba kwakho kulawulwa?
Vula umculo futhi udanse imizwa yakho. Yonke into oyizwayo, yonke imicabango yakho.
Uma kunentukuthelo eningi, cabanga ngendlela yokuyiqondisa ngendlela evumelana nemvelo: shaya umcamelo, sika izinkuni, ugeze phansi, udlale izigubhu. Ungazilimazi wena noma abanye.
Hlabelelani noma nimemeze.
Funda izingoma zongwaqa noma izinkondlo.
Ukukhala kuyindlela enhle yokukhipha imizwa yakho.
Ngena kwezemidlalo. Gijima, bhukuda, sebenza kusifanisi, shaya isikhwama sokubhoboza. Hambani nizungeze indlu. Noma yini, into esemqoka ukuhambisa nokukhulula i-adrenaline ukuze ingaqoqi futhi ibhubhise umzimba kusuka ngaphakathi.
Uma unomuzwa wokuthi awukwazi ukubhekana nesimo, thintana nodokotela wezengqondo. Ngisho nokubonisana okukodwa kwesinye isikhathi kungasidambisa kakhulu lesi simo.
Bheka ukwesekwa
Okokuqala nokubalulekile: uyaphila? Sekuvele kuningi. Ingabe impilo yakho isengozini njengamanje? Uma kungenjalo, kuhle lokho. Ungaqhubeka.
Bhala isimo esibi kakhulu. Yibeke eceleni uqhamuke necebo B. Cha, awusishubi isimo. Ukuba nohlelo kuzokunika ukuzethemba futhi kuthulise ingqondo yakho enganakile. Akuseyona into engaziwa. Uyazi ukuthi uzokwenzenjani uma izinto zingahambi kahle.
Thola umthombo wolwazi noma umuntu omethembayo umbono wakhe. Angazi ukuthi ngikwenze kanjani kahle, kodwa kulula ngempela ukwamukela umbono othile bese uqhathanisa amanye amaqiniso nawo. Kodwa lokhu, yiqiniso, akulona isu kuphela.
Bheka isisekelo sezindinganiso zakho. Lokhu kuyinto esingakholelwa kuyo nakanjani. Ukuthula, uthando, inhlonipho ngemingcele - eyakho kanye neyabanye. Ukuzazi. Konke lokhu kungaba amaphuzu okuqala lapho lonke ulwazi olungenayo lungaqinisekiswa ngawo.
Zama ukuhlola ukuthi sikuphi ngokomlando? Sekwenzekile konke lokhu. Futhi konke kuphinda futhi. Vumelana, kunesici esithile sokuzinza ekuphindaphindweni. Futhi lokhu kuyinto ongazama ukuthembela kuyo.
Qhathanisa nesikhathi esedlule. Kwesinye isikhathi umcabango wokuthi “asisibokuqala, asibona abokugcina” uyasiza. Ogogo nomkhulu bethu basinda empini neminyaka enzima yangemva kwempi. Abazali bethu basinda kwaze kwaba ngama-90s. Nakanjani babebabi kakhulu.
Kwamukele okwenzekayo. Kunezinto emhlabeni esingeke siziguqule. Akukona konke okungaphansi kwamandla ethu. Kuyadabukisa, kuyethusa, akujabulisi kakhulu, kubuhlungu. Kuyacasula, kuyacasula, kuyacasula. Kodwa kunjalo. Uma uvuma ukuthi awuyena umninimandla onke, ungaqalaza: yini engingayenza noma kunjalo?
Kuvela okuningi. Okokuqala, ngingazibophezela mina, ngesimo sami kanye nezenzo zami. Okwesibili, kukhona engingakwenzela umndeni wami kanye nabantu engibathandayo. Okwesithathu, ngiyakwazi ukukhetha indawo ezungezile. Ubani ozolalela, ozoxhumana naye.
qala ukwenza okuthile
Vele uqale ukwenza okuthile. Into esemqoka ayikona ukuphindaphinda izinxushunxushu.
Kwabaningi, ukuze wehlise umoya, udinga ukucwiliswa emsebenzini onzima womzimba. Woza nekesi elithile elilinganisekayo. Geza phansi, hlunga izinto ekhabetheni, geza amafasitela, ubhake amapanikuku, ulahle amathoyizi ezingane ezindala, faka izimbali, penda izindonga, hlela amaphepha edeskini.
Kwenze ngokucophelela nangempumelelo kusukela ekuqaleni kuze kube sekugcineni, uze uthole umphumela. Kubalulekile ukuthi lokhu kuyisenzo somzimba. Kanjalo ubuchopho bumatasa.
Abanye bathenga igrosa ngosuku lwemvula, baguqule ama-ruble abe amadola, noma bafake izicelo zokuba izakhamuzi ezimbili
Leli iqhinga elihle elingokwengqondo — yilena ndlela esizithengela ngayo ukuphepha. Mhlawumbe ngeke sisebenzise "i-stash", kodwa lesi senzo esingokomfanekiso sanele ukuze ubuchopho buzole futhi buqale ukusebenza ngokujwayelekile. Yenza okuthile ukuze uzizwe sengathi nguwe olawulayo.
Ngokubona kwami, indlela enhle yokubhekana nokucindezeleka iwukuphila impilo evamile. Zibandakanye esimisweni sansuku zonke: yenza izivivinyo, wendlule umbhede, upheke ukudla kwasekuseni, uhambe nenja, hamba uyokwenza insipho, ulale ngesikhathi. Imodi ukuzinza. Futhi ukuzinza yikho kanye okudingayo umzimba ukuze usinde ekucindezelekeni. Makaqonde: Ngiyaphila, ngenza izinto ezijwayelekile, ngakho konke kuhamba kahle, impilo iyaqhubeka.
Afinyelele emzimbeni
Zithinte wena. Zigone. Ngokunamandla. Unazo wena.
Phefumula. Njengamanje, donsa umoya futhi ukhiphe kancane ngomlomo wakho. Futhi ngakho izikhathi ezi-3. Izindlela zokuphefumula zilula futhi zinhle ngoba zisibambezela, zisibuyisele emzimbeni.
Prakthiza i-yoga. Pilates. Yenza izivivinyo ezilula zokwelula. Hamba uyokwenza massage. Ngokuvamile, yenza noma yini ekhululayo futhi yelula umzimba, isuse ama-clamps nama-spasms okubangelwa ukucindezeleka.
Phuza amanzi amaningi. Hamba ku-sauna, ukugeza noma ukugeza. Vele ugeze ngamanzi abandayo.
Lala. Kunomthetho: kunoma yisiphi isimo esingaqondakali, lala. Hhayi ngoba uvuka futhi izenzakalo ezicindezelayo zihambile (kodwa ngingathanda). Ukulala nje kuyindlela engcono kakhulu yokubuyisela i-psyche ekucindezelekeni.
Zehlise. Hamba ungafake zicathulo phansi uma kungenzeka. Yima ngemilenze emibili. Izwa ukuzinza.
Zindla. Udinga ukuphula umbuthano wemicabango elimazayo futhi usule ikhanda lakho.
Ungahlukani nabanye
Yiba nabantu. Khuluma. Yabelana ngokwesaba kwakho. Khumbula ikhathuni mayelana nekati: «Asesabe ndawonye?». Ndawonye, futhi iqiniso alesabisi kangako. Kodwa ngicela ucabangele imizwa yabanye.
Ungesabi ukucela usizo. Uma uzizwa kabi, awukwazi ukubhekana nesimo, khona-ke endaweni ethile kukhona abantu abangasiza.
Siza abanye. Mhlawumbe abantu abaseduze kwakho nabo badinga usizo noma nje ukwesekwa. Babuze ngakho. Kukhona imfihlo engokwengqondo: lapho usiza umuntu, uzizwa unamandla.
Uma unezingane, into yokuqala okufanele uyenze ukunakekela isimo sakho sengqondo. Khumbula umthetho: okokuqala imaski ngokwakho, bese kuba ingane.
Lawula inkambu yolwazi
Ngenhla, ngibhale ukuthi kubalulekile ukukhuluma ngokwesaba kwakho. Manje ngizonikeza cishe iseluleko esiphambene: ungabalaleli abaphushayo. Ubani osakaza ukuthi konke kuzoba kubi kakhulu, ohlwanyela ukwethuka. Laba bantu baphila ukwesaba kwabo ngale ndlela, kodwa wena awuhlangene nakho. Uma uzwa ukukhathazeka kwakho kuba kubi kakhulu, hamba. Ungalaleli, ungakhulumi. Zinakekele.
Khawulela ukuhamba kolwazi olungenayo. Akuwenzi mqondo ukuhlola okuphakelayo kwezindaba njalo ngemizuzu emihlanu - kwenezela ekukhathazekeni.
Hlola ulwazi. Kunezindaba eziningi ezingamanga nenkulumo-ze ku-inthanethi evela ezinhlangothini zombili. Zibuze: zivelaphi lezi zindaba? Ubani umbhali? Ungathembela kangakanani?
Ungadluliseli imilayezo uma ungaqiniseki. Zibuze umbuzo: yini ezokwengezwa emhlabeni uma ngidlulisa noma ngibhala lo mlayezo? Khetha unolwazi.
Ungahlwanyeli ukwethuka futhi ungawi ngenxa yokucasuka. Akudingekile ukuba wamukele noma imuphi umbono.
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