Okuqukethwe
Abaningi bethu banesifiso sokufeza amaphrojekthi ethu. Umuntu aze aqale, kodwa, ngemva kokuthatha isinyathelo sokuqala, ngaphansi kwezaba elilodwa noma esinye, uyawushiya umqondo. Ukutholaphi ugqozi lokuletha uhlelo lwakho ekupheleni?
“Ngizifela ngemfashini futhi ngizithungela izihlobo nabangani,” kusho u-Inna. - Ngithanda ukuthola izinto zakudala futhi ngizibeke ngokulandelana kwazo: shintsha izesekeli, lungisa. Ngifuna ukukwenza ngokomsebenzi, ngiphupha ngokuvula i-showroom encane, kodwa nginovalo lokuthi anginazo izinsiza ezanele zalo mbono.”
“U-Inna akayedwa ovalweni lwakhe,” kusho isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo uMarina Myaus. Abaningi bethu bayesaba futhi kunzima ukuthatha isinyathelo sokuqala. Ama-receptors obuchopho afunda lokhu njengento engajwayelekile, ngakho-ke kuwumsebenzi oyingozi we-priori futhi avule imodi yokumelana. Okufanele ngikwenze? Ungalwi nemvelo yakho, kodwa hamba uye kuyo futhi wethule umsebenzi njengonethezeke kakhulu futhi ungenzeka.
Ukuze wenze lokhu, okokuqala, dweba uhlelo lwebhizinisi lwesinyathelo ngesinyathelo: akumele kucatshangwe nje kuphela, kodwa futhi lulungiswe ephepheni ukuze kuqalwe umfutho wokulungiselela isenzo. Okwesibili, yenza uhlelo lube ovundlile, okusho ukuthi, okusho ukhonkolo, noma izinyathelo ezincane ekuqaleni.
Awudingi ukudweba ngokushesha isiqongo sempumelelo: kuhle ezingeni lephupho, kodwa esikhathini esizayo kungasebenza ngokumelene nawe. Ungakhathazeka kakhulu ngokungenzeki kokufinyelela umgomo ophezulu kangangokuthi uyeke ukwenza.
Uma usebenza noma ufunda futhi ungenaso isikhathi esiningi samahhala sokusebenzisa lo mbono, bhala kusengaphambili ukuthi yiziphi izinsuku zesonto nokuthi yini ngempela ozoyenza. Noma yikuphi, ngisho nokukhushulwa okuncane kakhulu kunikeza ugqozi.
Izinyathelo eziyisithupha ukusiza endleleni
1. Zinike imvume yokwenza amaphutha.
Zinike imvume yokwenza izinto ezingase zibonakale ziyimpikiswano ekuqaleni. "Lokhu akukhona ngezingozi ezingenasisekelo eziqhubekayo, kodwa uma ngezinye izikhathi uphambuka endleleni evamile, iphethini yezenzo ephephile kakhulu, uzothola ulwazi oluningi ongathembela kulo esikhathini esizayo," uchwepheshe ukholelwa. Kwesinye isikhathi kubukeka sengathi izixazululo ezingajwayelekile ziholele ephutheni, kodwa ngokuhamba kwesikhathi siyaqonda ukuthi kungenxa yazo kuphela ukuthi sibone amathuba amasha.
2. Vele uzame
I-Hyper-responsibility ingethusa futhi idicilele phansi, ngakho-ke kubalulekile ukususa umuzwa wokuthi umbono wakho ubaluleke kakhulu. Ukwenza lokhu, zitshele ukuthi uzozama nje futhi ngeke udumale uma kungasebenzi. Ukunciphisa izinga lokungathí sina kanye nokuphelela kuzokusiza ekuqaleni kokuqaliswa kwezinhlelo zakho.
3. Yiba nesimiso esicacile
Izinxushunxushu ziholela nakanjani ekuhlehliseni izinto. Noma yimuphi umphumela ufinyelelwa ohlelweni. Uma ukuthola kunzima ukugcina isiyalo esiqinile, vumela isimiso sakho sibe nezimo futhi sikhululeke, kodwa singabi nesiyaluyalu. Isibonelo, uhlala usebenza inombolo ethile yamahora ngosuku, kodwa unquma ukuthi yisiphi isikhathi esinethezekile ukukwenza.
4. Funda ukubhekana nokukhathala
Ungumuntu ophilayo futhi ungakhathala. Ezikhathini ezinjalo, zama ukungashintsheli ezinkundleni zokuxhumana, kodwa uye kokuthile okuthinta ibhizinisi lakho ngandlela thize. Uma ukhathele ukubhala umbhalo, qala ukuhlola imikhiqizo emisha noma ukuqapha imakethe. Ngisho nokuhambahamba edolobheni, ngokuphambene nokuskrola ngokungenangqondo ekhasethini, kunganikeza umfutho omusha wokuqonda ukuthi ungaqhubeka kanjani ngamasu.
5. Ziqhathanise nabanye ngendlela efanele.
Ukuqhathanisa kungaba yingozi futhi kube usizo ngesikhathi esifanayo. "Abaqhudelana nabo kumele bakwazi ukusebenzisa kahle," kusho uchwepheshe amahlaya. - Khetha labo abazophenduka umlingani okhuthazayo we-sparring wakho. Lena ukuphela kwendlela ongazuza ngayo kokuhlangenwe nakho okungaphandle.
Uma isibonelo somunye umuntu sikwenza ungabaze, kusho ukuthi usunesikhathi eside uxhumana nalo muntu futhi sekuyisikhathi sokusuka kude naye. Udinga futhi ukwenza lokhu ukuze ungakopishi ngokungaboni amaqhinga abanye abantu futhi ungabi “inguqulo yekhava” yombangi wakho, ehlala ikushiya usengozini. Gcina isitha sakho sethokheni inqobo nje uma ukuncintisana okunempilo, okujabulisayo kungenzeka phakathi kwakho.
6. Thumela imisebenzi
Cabanga ukuthi yiziphi izici zomsebenzi ongaziphathisa ochwepheshe. Mhlawumbe ukuhlela izithombe noma ukugcina izinkundla zokuxhumana kuzoba ngcono kulabo abasebenze ngokukhethekile kulokhu isikhathi eside. Asikho isidingo sokuthatha yonke into ngokwakho futhi ucabange ukuthi nguwe kuphela ozokwazi ukwenza konke kangcono kunanoma ubani omunye futhi futhi wonge imali.
Ekugcineni, ngisho noma ukwazi ukwenza yonke into, uzokhathala nakanjani, futhi ngeke ube nezinto ezisele ukuze ucabange ngezinyathelo ezilandelayo futhi ulawule inqubo.