Okuqukethwe
Senza konke okusemandleni ukufisela izingane zethu ukuthi zikhule njengabantu abajabulayo, abazethembayo kubo nasesikhathini esizayo. Kodwa ingabe siyakwazi ukugxilisa kubo isimo sengqondo esihle kangaka ngezwe, uma thina ngokwethu singasilawulanga ngaso sonke isikhathi isimo?
Asikho isifundo esinjalo kukharikhulamu yesikole. Nokho, njengoba kungekho muntu ofundisa ukuba nethemba ekhaya. “Ngiye ngibuze abazali ukuthi yiziphi izimfanelo abafuna ukuzihlakulela ezinganeni zabo, futhi abakaze bakhulume ngokuba nethemba,” kusho isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo nomqeqeshi uMarina Melia. – Kungani? Mhlawumbe, leli gama lisho i-naivety, ukuntuleka kokucabanga okujulile, ukuthambekela kokubuka umhlaba ngokusebenzisa izibuko ezinemibala e-rose. Eqinisweni, isimo sengqondo esiqinisekisa ukuphila asiwukhanseli umbono osangulukile weqiniso, kodwa sinomthelela ekuqineni kobunzima kanye nokuzimisela ukufeza izinhloso.
“Ukucabanga okunethemba kusekelwe ekuzethembeni, ikhono lokuthola ikhambi lazo zonke izinkinga, nokukhuthazela,” kukhumbuza isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo esakhayo u-Oleg Sychev. Kodwa ingabe abazali abanombono ohlukile, ongenathemba ngokuphila bangayifundisa le ngane?
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, izingane zifunda ngokuzenzakalelayo isimo sethu sengqondo ngezwe, zamukele izimo zengqondo, izenzo, imizwelo. Kodwa ngakolunye uhlangothi, "umuntu ongenathemba oye wakwazi kahle izimiso zokucabanga okuhle cishe uba "ithemba elifundiwe", umuntu olinganiselayo, omelana nobunzima nokwakhayo," ukholelwa u-Oleg Sychev. Ngakho-ke amathuba okudala enganeni isimo sengqondo esihle ngakubo kanye nomhlaba kumzali onekhono ngokwengqondo makhulu.
1. Phendula ezidingweni zakhe
Ingane encane ithola umhlaba. Uphuma ngesibindi endaweni ayijwayele, azame, ahogele, athinte, athathe izinyathelo zokuqala. Ukumvumela ukuthi alinge kubalulekile, kodwa akwanele. "Ukuze ingane ijabulele izenzo ezizimele futhi ingalahlekelwa isithakazelo ekusesheni, idinga ukusekelwa kwabantu abadala, ukusabela okufika ngesikhathi ngezidingo zakhe," kuphawula u-Oleg Sychev. Ngaphandle kwalokho, uyajwayela ukulindela okubi kakhulu, okokuqala kubantu abaseduze, bese kuba emhlabeni wonke.
Sekela imizamo yakhe, lalela, uphendule imibuzo futhi ungakhohlwa ukwabelana ngalokho okukujabulisayo - methule ngomculo, imvelo, ukufunda, mvumele enze lokho akuthandayo. Makakhule eqiniseka ukuthi impilo ilungiselela intokozo eningi. Lokhu kwanele ukulwela ikusasa.
2. Gcina inkolelo yakhe empumelelweni
Ingane evame ukubhekana nezinkinga ezingaxazululeki iqongelela okuhlangenwe nakho kokukhungatheka nokungabi namandla, imicabango engenathemba ivela: “Angisakwazi ukuphumelela”, “Akunasizathu ngisho nokuzama”, “Angikwazi”, njll. Yini abazali okufanele bayenze ? Phinda ngokungapheli “Usuqedile, usungakwazi”? “Kunengqondo ukudumisa nokukhuthaza ingane lapho umsebenzi usemandleni akhe, lapho isivele isiseduze nomphumela futhi ivele iswele ukubekezela,” kuchaza u-Oleg Sychev. "Kodwa uma ubunzima buhlobene nokuntula ulwazi namakhono noma ukuntula ukuqonda ukuthi yini okufanele bashintshe ezenzweni zabo, kuyoba usizo kakhulu ukuthi ungambambathe emhlane, kodwa ukuphakamisa ngobumnene ukuthi yini nokuthi yenziwe kanjani, basize bakwazi amakhono/ulwazi abangenalo.”
Khuthaza ingane yakho ukuba nomuzwa wokuthi noma iyiphi inkinga ingaxazululeka ngokwayo (uma wenza umzamo owengeziwe, uthole ulwazi olwengeziwe, ufunde inkambo engcono yokwenza) noma ngosizo lomunye umuntu. Mkhumbuze ukuthi kuvamile ukufuna ukwesekwa, imisebenzi eminingi ingaxazululwa kuphela ndawonye futhi abanye bayokujabulela ukumsiza futhi ngokuvamile benze okuthile ndawonye – kuhle lokho!
3. Hlaziya ukusabela kwakho
Uyakuqaphela yini lokho ovame ukukusho ezinganeni uma kwenzeka amaphutha namaphutha azo? UMarina Melia uyachaza: “Umbono wabo uncike kakhulu endleleni esisabela ngayo. Ingane yakhubeka yawa. Uzozwani? Inketho yokuqala: “Yini le ongayazi! Zonke izingane zifana nezingane, futhi lena izoqoqa wonke amaqhubu. Futhi okwesibili: “Kulungile, kuyenzeka! Umgwaqo mubi, qaphela.”
Noma esinye isibonelo: umfana wesikole ulethe i-deuce. Okuhlukile kokuqala kokusabela: “Kuhlala kunje kuwe. Ubonakala ungazi nhlobo.” Okwesibili: “Mhlawumbe awulungiselelanga kahle. Ngokuzayo kufanele unake kakhulu ukuxazulula izibonelo.
"Esimweni sokuqala, sibeka inkolelo yokuthi yonke into ihlale ihamba kabi enganeni futhi "noma yini oyenzayo iyize," kuchaza uchwepheshe. - Futhi okwesibili, siyamazisa ukuthi isipiliyoni esibi sizomsiza ukuba abhekane nobunzima esikhathini esizayo. Umlayezo omuhle wabazali: “Siyazi ukuthi singakulungisa kanjani lokhu, asihlehli, sibheka izinketho futhi sizothola umphumela omuhle.”
4. Hlakulela Umkhuba Wokubekezela
Icala elivamile: ingane, engakaze ihlangabezane nokwehluleka, iyayeka lokho ekuqalile. Ungamfundisa kanjani ukuthi angalingisi amaphutha? “Mbuze ukuthi, ngokombono wakhe, yini imbangela yobunzima,” kusikisela u-Oleg Sychev. “Msize athole ukuthi akukhona kangako ngekhono, kodwa mayelana nokuthi umsebenzi onjalo udinga umzamo owengeziwe, ulwazi olwengeziwe namakhono angatholwa uma ungalilahli ithemba futhi ulwela ukufinyelela umgomo.”
Ukugcizelela indima yomzamo nokubekezela kubaluleke kakhulu. “Into esemqoka ukungayeki! Uma kungasebenzi manje, kuzolunga ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, lapho usuthola / ufunda okuthile okudingayo / uthole umuntu ongakusiza. " Akukhona kakhulu ukuzuza komphumela okufanele ukudunyiswa, kodwa umzamo: “Umuhle! Usebenze kanzima, wafunda okuningi ngenkathi uxazulula le nkinga! Futhi uthole umphumela omfanele!” Ukudumisa okunjengalokhu kuqinisa umqondo wokuthi ukubekezela kuzoxazulula noma iyiphi inkinga.
“Lapho nixoxa ngezimbangela zezinkinga, gwema ukuziqhathanisa kabi nabanye abantu,” kukhumbuza isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo. Uma uzwa ngendodakazi yakho ukuthi “akadwebi kahle njengoMasha,” yisho ukuthi sonke sihlukene ngamakhono nangamakhono, ngakho asikho isidingo sokuziqhathanisa nabanye. Umehluko kuphela obaluleke ngempela ekugcineni oholela kumphumela ukuthi ungakanani umzamo nokubekezela umuntu akwenza ekufinyeleleni imigomo.
5. Ukwenza kube lula ukuxhumana kwakhe endaweni ephephile
Izingane ezingenathemba zingase zingabi nobudlelwane ngandlela thize futhi zingasheshi ebudlelwaneni nabanye ngenxa yezinto ezizilindele kabi kanye nokuzwela ukulahlwa. Ngezinye izikhathi kubukeka njengamahloni. U-Oleg Sychev uthi: “Ingane enamahloni eba nezinkinga zokukhulumisana ingazuza kunoma yikuphi okuhlangenwe nakho okuqinisa amathemba ayo amahle.
Okokuqala, abazali ngokwabo kufanele bagweme ukuhlolwa okungalungile futhi ngokuvamile bakhumbule naye impumelelo yakhe, ngisho nesizotha. Futhi ngaphandle kwalokho, kuyinto efiselekayo ukuhlela izimo zokuxhumana endaweni ephephile lapho ingane yamukelwa futhi ihlonishwa khona, lapho izizwa inekhono. Lokhu kungase kube ukuxhumana nezingane ezincane noma amakilasi embuthanweni wakhe ozithandayo, lapho ephumelela kakhulu. Esimweni esinjalo esinethezekile, ingane ayikwesabi ukugxekwa nokulahlwa abanye, ithola imizwa eyakhayo eyengeziwe futhi ijwayele ukubuka umhlaba ngentshisekelo nethemba.