Usibeka Kanjani Isihlobo Ekhaya Labahlengikazi: Izinyathelo ezi-5

“Kungani ngingakwazi ukunakekela othandekayo wami ngedwa?”, “Bazothini abantu?”, “Ngiyindodakazi embi” … Cishe bonke abantu abanquma ukubeka isihlobo esikhulile endlini yokuhlala imicabango efanayo.

Ngokusho kocwaningo lwakamuva, ngenxa yemibono mayelana nezikhungo ze-geriatric ezisungulwe emphakathini, isiRashiya ngasinye sesibili sikholelwa ukuthi kungcono ukuthi umuntu osekhulile ahlale ekhaya, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi isimo sakhe sempilo sinjani.¹. Kodwa ukumnakekela kahle ekhaya ngezinye izikhathi kumane kungenzeki. Futhi-ke kufanele senze isinqumo esinzima, kuyilapho sibhekene nobuhlungu bengqondo.

Kuchazwa isidingo sokuthathela abazali isinqumo. Lokhu kuphambene nesifiso sethu esijulile sokubheka asebekhulile njengabantu abake basenzela izinqumo ezibalulekile.

Imizwa yecala ingasingathwa uma kunezimpikiswano ezinzima «for»: ezifana nokunakekelwa ubusuku nemini kwesihlobo endlini okuhlalwa kuyo, imishini yezokwelapha edingekayo, kanye nokumane ugadwe ngaso sonke isikhathi. Kodwa uma isihlobo ngokwaso singavumelani nesinqumo sokuthutha, ukukhathazeka ngesimo sakhe esingokwengqondo kuhlanganisa nomuzwa wecala. Futhi kunzima ukubhekana nayo ngaphandle kwenkhulumomphendvulwano. Kungaba kanjani?

Abantu asebekhulile bakuthola kunzima ukuzivumelanisa noshintsho ekuphileni kwabo. Abafuni ukuvuma ubuthakathaka babo, bathuthele endaweni abangayijwayele, noma basuke emikhayeni yabo. Kodwa kunezinyathelo ezi-5 ezizokusiza ukuthi uqonde uma kwenzeka ukuthutha kungenakugwema.

Isinyathelo 1: Chaza konke okuhle nokubi

Ngisho noma isinqumo sesithathiwe, umuntu omdala udinga isikhathi sokusenza. Udinga ukukhuluma naye ngomoya ophansi futhi umchazele ukuthi kungani kufanele ucabangele ukuthuthela esikhungweni sabagula kakhulu. Kubalulekile ukukubeka kucace ukuthi isiphakamiso sakho sokuya lapho asinqunywa isifiso sokuxosha isihlobo, kodwa ngokusinakekela: “Ngiyakuthanda, ngakho angifuni ukuthi ube wedwa ngibe wedwa. m emsebenzini usuku lonke” noma “Ngesaba ukuthi ngeke ngibe naso isikhathi sokufika, lapho udinga usizo lwami.”

Ungakwenzi kanjani?

Tshela umuntu omdala ukuthi isinqumo sesithathiwe. Vumela isihlobo okungenani ngokwengqondo "siphile" endimeni entsha futhi sizinqumele ukuthi udinga ukuthutha yini. Sivame ukubabukela phansi abazali bethu lapho bekhula, kodwa iqiniso liwukuthi ngezinye izikhathi baziqonda kangcono izimo zokuphila kunathi futhi bakulungele ukuhlangana nezingane zabo enkathini enzima.

Isinyathelo sesi-2: Ulwazi Lwethamo

Abantu asebekhulile bathatheka kalula, ngakho lapho bethola ulwazi oluningi, bangesaba futhi bazivalele. Kulesi sigaba, akufanele wehlise yonke imininingwane yesinqumo sakho. Sitshele ngesikhungo osikhethile, izimo ezikuso, odokotela abasesifundazweni, nokuthi sikude kangakanani nedolobha. Uma usuvele uvakashele indlu yokuhlala ekhethiwe, yabelana ngesihlobo sakho ngemibono yakho.

Ungakwenzi kanjani?

Phendula imibuzo, ngisho noma isihlobo siyibuza izikhathi eziningana. Mvumele athathe ukwaziswa ngejubane lakhe futhi aphinde izimpendulo zemibuzo yakhe njengoba kudingeka. Akudingekile ukuhlobisa izimo lapho ezothola khona - ukukhohlisa okuzenzisayo kubangela ukungathembeki. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kufanele uqambe amanga kumuntu osekhulile: lapho ukukhohliswa kwembulwa, kuyoba nzima ukubuyisela ukwethenjwa.

Isinyathelo sesi-3: Ungaphushi

Kubantu abadala, ukumelana nezinkinga ezintsha kuyehla ngokuhamba kweminyaka. Bafana nezingane, kodwa uma benokuvikelwa kwezinto eziphilayo, khona-ke ukumelana nokucindezeleka kwesizukulwane esidala kuncipha. Lokhu kuvezwa ngokwesaba nokukhathazeka okuphelele. Njengoba unikezwe ubuthakathaka obungokwengqondo bomuntu osekhulile, zama ukumeseka futhi wabelane naye ngokuhlangenwe nakho kwakhe kwangaphakathi.

Ungakwenzi kanjani?

Aphendule amemeze. Izingxabano namahlazo kuyindlela yokuzivikela uma kwenzeka ushintsho endaweni evamile kumuntu osekhulile. Zola uzame ukuqonda ukuthi ubhekene nesihlobo esethuswa amathemba futhi sidinga ukuqonda nokunakekelwa.

Ukucindezela kwengqondo akufanele kusetshenziswe. Abantu abadala bazi kahle ukuthi bathembele ezinganeni zabo. Kodwa isikhumbuzo esingadingekile salokhu singababangela ukuhlukumezeka okukhulu kwengqondo, okuholela ekuphazamisekeni kwemizwa kanye nesifo sengqondo.

Isinyathelo sesi-4: Hlelisa amakhona

Ukwethembeka engxoxweni nabantu abadala kwamukelekile, kodwa kukhona amagama abangela ukukhathazeka nokukhathazeka kubo. Gwema amagama athi «kufanele» nelithi «kufanele» - angavusa ukuphikiswa kwangaphakathi futhi anikeze umuzwa wokuphelelwa ithemba esihlotsheni.

Inkulumo ethi "ikhaya labahlengikazi" akufanele futhi isetshenziswe. Kubantu abadala, lesi sisho sisahlotshaniswa nezindaba ezithusayo mayelana nezindawo lapho abantu abadala bathunyelwa khona ukuba bafe bodwa. Zama ukusebenzisa amagama esimanje esikhungo: isikhungo se-geriatric, indlu yokuhlala noma indawo yokuhlala yabantu asebekhulile.

Ungakwenzi kanjani?

Biza zonke izinto ngamagama azo. Ngisho nengxoxo engagwegwesi, khumbula: abantu abadala basengozini futhi bayazwela. Izwi elilodwa elikhulunywa ngokunganaki lingabathukuthelisa kangangokuba lingathatha isikhathi eside ukulichaza.

Isinyathelo sesi-5: Yehlisa inhlekelele

Kubantu asebekhulile, akuyona kakhulu indawo evamile yasekhaya ebalulekile, kodwa ithuba lokuhlala useduze nezihlobo nabangane. Chaza isihlobo sakho ukuthi ukuthuthela kwakhe endlini okuhlalwa kuyo ngeke kuphazamise ubuhlobo bakho nemihlangano yakhe nezingane nabazukulu. Kubalulekile ukukubeka kucace ukuthi usazoba nethuba lokuza uchithe amahora ambalwa naye noma umlande ngempelasonto.

Ungakwenzi kanjani?

Ukunikeza amathemba amanga. Uma uthembise ukuvakashela isihlobo endlini yokuhlala masonto onke, kuzodingeka ugcine izwi lakho: akukho lutho olubi kunekhehla elikhohlisiwe elichitha impelasonto lilinde abathandekayo bakhe ukuba bafike. Isihlobo esikhulile, oyisizinda saso sezwe laso elintekenteke, kumelwe sithembele kuwe nokwethembeka kwakho.

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