Ukucindezeleka kungaphezu kokudabuka
Wonke umuntu uyadabuka ngezinto ezahlukene ngezikhathi ezithile - hhayi abantu abasha kuphela. Kodwa lapho sikhuluma ngokucindezeleka, sisuke sikhuluma ngokungaphezu nje kokudabuka. Cabanga nje: umuntu uzwa ukudabuka okukhulu kangangokuthi kuphazamisa ukuphila kwakhe kwansuku zonke futhi kubangela izimpawu ezinjengokuphelelwa ukudla, inkinga yokulala, ukulahlekelwa ukugxilisa ingqondo, namazinga aphansi wamandla. Uma noma iyiphi yalezi zimpawu ihlala isikhathi esingaphezu kwamasonto amabili, kukhona okungathí sina kunokudabuka nje cishe okwenzekayo.
Ngezinye izikhathi ukukhuluma ngokucindezeleka akwanele.
Ukukhuluma nabangani nomndeni kuyindlela enhle yokudlula esiphithiphithini sansuku zonke sempilo. Kodwa uma kuziwa ekucindezelekeni, izinto ziba nzima nakakhulu. Ukucindezeleka yisimo sezokwelapha esidinga ukwelashwa kochwepheshe abaqeqeshelwe ukubhekana nezimbangela nezimpawu zaso. Ukukhuluma ngendlela ozizwa ngayo nomngane omethembayo noma ilungu lomndeni kungasiza esikhathini esifushane, kodwa ukuqina kokucindezeleka akufanele kushaywe indiva. Odokotela, izazi zokusebenza kwengqondo, nodokotela bengqondo bangakunikeza izindlela zokwelapha kanye namasu okuzilawula umndeni wakho ongeke ukwazi ukukwenza.
Ukucindezeleka “kungasibekela” noma ubani
Ngempela, ukucindezeleka kungaqala ngemva kwesikhathi esinzima, isibonelo, ngemva kokuhlukana kobudlelwane noma ukulahlekelwa umsebenzi, kodwa lokhu akunjalo ngaso sonke isikhathi. Ukucindezeleka kungakhula ngenxa yezinye izici, okuhlanganisa ufuzo nokungalingani kwamakhemikhali okwenzeka ebuchosheni, noma amaphethini okucabanga angemihle. Yingakho ukucindezeleka kungathinta noma ubani noma nini, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kwenzekani empilweni yakhe.
Ukuthola usizo kungaba nzima kakhulu.
Ukucindezeleka kungenza umuntu azizwe engenakuzisiza ngokuphelele futhi kumphuce amandla awadingayo ukuze acele usizo. Uma ukhathazekile ngomngane wakho noma othandekayo, unganikeza ukwesekwa ngokumkhuthaza ukuthi akhulume nochwepheshe. Uma bengakwazi ukwenza lokhu, babuze ukuthi bangakwazi yini ukukhuluma nodokotela ngokwabo.
Ziningi izindlela zokwelapha zokudangala
Bheka udokotela okhululekile kuye, kodwa khumbula ukuthi kuyinto evamile ukuhlangana nodokotela abaningana ngaphambi kokuba uthole ojabulayo naye. Kubalulekile ukuthi uzwane naye futhi umethembe ukuze nisebenzisane ohlelweni lokwelapha futhi nihlale niphilile.
Abantu abafuni ukudangala
Abantu abafuni ukudangala njengoba nje bengafuni ukuba nomdlavuza. Ngakho-ke, ukweluleka umuntu onokucindezeleka ukuthi “azidonse ndawonye” kuyingozi kakhulu kunokusiza. Ukube babekwazi ukwenza lokho, ngabe kudala bayeka ukuzizwa ngaleyo ndlela.
Ukucindezeleka kungelashwa ngosizo olufanele oluvela kuchwepheshe wezempilo yengqondo. Nokho, ukululama kuthatha isikhathi eside futhi kuzohlanganisa ukukhuphuka nokwehla okuningi. Uma ubona ukuthi kukhona okhombisa izimpawu zokucindezeleka, mbuze ukuthi ungasiza kanjani futhi umkhumbuze ukuthi lokhu abhekene nakho akulona iphutha lakhe noma ukukhetha kwakhe.
Ukucindezeleka akulona uphawu lobuthakathaka
Inkolelo yokuthi ukucindezeleka kuwuphawu lobuthakathaka kuwukukhohlisa. Uma ucabanga ngakho, akuwenzi umqondo omningi onengqondo. Ukucindezeleka kungathinta noma ubani nanoma ubani, ngisho nalabo ngokwesiko ababhekwa “njengabanamandla” noma abangenazo izizathu ezisobala zokucindezeleka. Ukuxhumana okusolwayo phakathi kobuthakathaka nokudangala kwenza kube nzima ukuthi abantu abanalolu hlobo lwesifo bathole usizo abaludingayo. Kungakho kubalulekile ukwesula ukugula ngengqondo futhi kugcizelele iqiniso lokuthi ukudangala nezinye izifo zengqondo akuwona umphumela wokuntula amandla okuzimisela. Eqinisweni, okuphambene kakhulu kuyiqiniso: ukuphila nokululama ekucindezelekeni kudinga amandla amaningi omuntu siqu.