Okuqukethwe
Ungabukeka kanjani umuhle ngaphandle kokuba muhle: ungafunda ukuzwelana?
Psychology
Kuhle ukwazi ukuthi ungabona kanjani lapho ukuba mnandi kungiholela ekugcineni imibono, imizwa noma, ekugcineni, ukuyeka ukuba yimi uqobo
Ubuwazi ukuthi ukuzwelana kuyikhono elingafundwa? Lowo muntu ombona emamatheka njalo futhi enobungane kungenzeka ukuthi wayengenjalo ebuntwaneni bakhe kepha, eminyakeni edlule, ukwazile ukufunda khombisa ukusondelana komphakathi.
Sizobe sikhuluma ngakho amakhono omphakathi, ayisethi yamakhono asisiza ukuba siqondane nabanye nezwe elisizungezile. Singathola ukulalela, ukuqala ingxoxo, buza imibuzo, cela usizo, cela ukuthethelelwa, yiba nozwela, njll.
Funda uzwela
Njengoba sishilo, ña isihawu Kungafundwa ngokuthuthukiswa kwamakhono omphakathi kanye nokuqina. «Endabeni yokuba onozwela, singakhulisa ikhono lokulalela ukuze siqonde kangcono umuntu engikhuluma naye. Impela lokhu kwenza omunye azizwe emuhle futhi kuthuthukisa isithombe abanaso ngami. Konke amakhono omphakathi zinganikela ekutheni zithandeke kakhudlwana, ngakho-ke ukufunda kwazo kuzobaluleke kakhulu, "kusho isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo nomtholampilo uLaura Fuster (@laurafusterpsicologa).
Kuzobaluleka ukuxhumana nomunye umuntu ku indlela ephumelelayo futhi uqeqeshe ukulalela okusebenzayo.Ukuze ube nozwela kothile kubalulekile ukuthi ube friendly kepha futhi nokwazi ukumaka imingcele yethu nokwazi ukuthi cha. "Enkambisweni yethu, sihlala sibona ukuthi la maphuzu abiza abantu umsebenzi omningi futhi adala ubudlelwane obuyinkimbinkimbi nokungakhululeki komuntu siqu", kuchaza uchwepheshe wezazi zokusebenza kwengqondo eValencia.
Uzwela nozwela
Uzwela akumele ludidaniswe nozwela ngoba umehluko omkhulu phakathi kwazo uxhomeke ekwazini ukuqonda imizwa yabanye.
Ngenkathi isihawu Kuchazwa njengamandla okuthola ukuthi omunye umuntu uzizwa kanjani, kepha ngaphandle kokukuqonda ngempela, uzwela yikhono lokuzibeka endaweni yomunye. «Umuntu onozwela thola imizwa yabanye futhi uyakwazi ukuziqonda noma engazabelani nazo noma noma engazizwa ngendlela efanayo kulezo zimo. Isenzo sokuzwelana kulapho uthola ukuhleka komuntu ojabulayo. Uzwela kungaba ukuqonda ukuthi kungani lowo muntu ejabule ngaleso sikhathi, ”kuchaza isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo.
Uzwela olungamanga
Kukangaki sibabiza njengabazenzisi labo abebelungile uma kungaxhunyanisiwe nobuntu babo. Noma kunjalo, lokhu akusho ukuthi kunjalo. Ukulingisa ukuzwelana kungukuhleleka kosuku, futhi kungenzeka ngezizathu eziningi: «Ehhovisi lethu sihlaziya imicabango njalo. Isibonelo, kungaba njalo uziphathe kahle Noma ungazizwa uthanda ngoba ucabanga ukuthi omunye umuntu angathukuthela. Kulokhu, mhlawumbe awuvezi lokho okuzwayo noma okucabangayo futhi lokhu kungakukukhathaza. Kulesi sibonelo esithile, ukuba muhle kungaphikisana nathi, ”kusho uLaura Fuster.
Esinye isibonelo kungaba wukusebenza kahle uma ungenalo usuku oluhle: “Kulokhu, umzamo ungahle uwufanele ngoba ukhuthaza indawo yokusebenza enhle futhi kungakusiza uma uqondana nomphathi wakho,” kusho yena. uthi.
Ngakho-ke, sivame ukukusho lokho inkomba ayizwani. Kuhle ukwazi ukuthi ungabona kanjani lapho ukuba mnandi kungiholela ekugcineni imibono, imizwa noma, ekugcineni, ukuyeka ukuba yimi uqobo.