Abantu bavame ukubambelela ebudlelwaneni osebuphelile. Phela, izinkumbulo ezifudumele zifudumeza umphefumulo futhi zinikeze umuzwa wokuthi konke kusengaba ngcono. Eqinisweni, kuphumelela kakhulu ukufunda ukuyeka labo ababekade besondelene futhi uvulele okuhlangenwe nakho okusha. Kwenziwa kanjani?
Bonke ubudlelwano busifundisa okuthile, ngenxa yabo siyathuthuka. Ezinye zisenza sibe namandla futhi sibe nomusa, ezinye zisenza siqaphe kakhudlwana, singasethembi, kanti ezinye zisifundisa ukuthanda. Nokho, akubona bonke abantu okufanele bahlale ezimpilweni zethu, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi izinkumbulo zabo zingaba mnandi kangakanani.
Ubungane, njengobudlelwane ngokujwayelekile, buba nezinguquko zemvelo impilo yonke. Ebuntwaneni, sinabangane abaningi, futhi bonke bangcono kakhulu. Ebusheni nasebusheni, njengomthetho, kukhona inkampani esungulwe, futhi lapho beneminyaka engamashumi amathathu, abantu abaningi beza neyodwa, efakazelwe iminyaka, umngane omkhulu, bese kuba nenhlanhla.
Enqubweni yokuba umuntu, umuntu uzakhela isikhundla sakhe sokuphila, izindinganiso zokuziphatha, izimiso nemithetho.
Futhi uma esigabeni esithile, ukwakha indawo eseduze, awukwazanga ukunamathisela ukubaluleka okukhulu kulokhu, khona-ke ngokuhamba kweminyaka lezi zimiso ziqala ukuzibonakalisa ngokucacile nakakhulu. Abantu abanamagugu ahlukene bagcina behlukene nemvelo yakho futhi bahambe ngendlela yabo.
Ngeshwa, ngokuvamile abantu bayesaba ukulungisa izinto, ukubekezela nokukhetha "izwe elibi". Izizathu zalokhu zihlukile:
ukwesaba ukubonakala kubi emehlweni abanye,
ukwesaba ukushintsha indlela yokuphila evamile,
ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa inzuzo yesibili
ukungafuni ukushisa amabhuloho: kuyadabukisa, bakha abaningi!
Kuvele ukuthi umuntu uzenza isithunjwa ngenxa yokwesaba ukuthi akakwazi noma ngeke akwazi ukubhekana nomunye. Esikhundleni sokuqhubekela phambili, ubhajwa ebuhlotsheni obuphelelwe yisikhathi.
Indlela eqinisekile akukhona ukugcina umuntu eseduze ngenkani, kodwa ukubheka ngokweqiniso nangokuhluzekile isimo esikhona. Udinga ukuzilalela futhi uphendule imibuzo: ukhululeke kangakanani kulobu budlelwano? Ingabe lo muntu ulungile nawe? Ngeke ngempela uphile ngaphandle kwalo muntu, noma umkhuba/ukwesaba/umlutha?
Uma impendulo yakho ithembekile, uzosheshe uqonde iqiniso.
Akekho umuntu oyimpahla yakho, wonke umuntu unezifiso, izinhloso nezinhlelo zakhe.
Futhi uma behlukana neyakho, akudingeki ubophe othandekayo wakho kuwe ngazo zonke izindlela, hhayi ukuphatha, hhayi ukuzama ukwenza kabusha, kodwa ukumyeka, ukumnika ithuba lokuhamba ngendlela yakhe.
Kuzoba lula kuwena nakwabanye, ngoba ukhetha inkululeko. Ungagcwalisa ingxenye ekhululekile yempilo yakho yansuku zonke nganoma yini oyifunayo - nezihlobo nabangane abangase bakukhumbule ngempela lokhu, umsebenzi nokuzazi, ngisho nokuphumula nokuzilibazisa.
Ngandlela-thile, kungcono ukuhlakazeka ngaphandle kokumangalelana nokuhlambalaza, kodwa ngokubonga nenhlonipho, ngoba uma usunobuhlobo obufudumele.