Ngokuxakayo, akekho onganikeza incazelo ecacile yomuzwa obusa umhlaba. Uthando alunayo imigomo, izizathu, izinhlobo zomhlaba wonke. Esingakwenza nje ukuzwa noma ukungaluzwa uthando.
Intombazanyana egone umama wayo nengane eklabalasa ithukuthele ithi umama mubi. Indoda eletha izimbali kothandiweyo wayo, futhi lowo, ngokufutheka, washaya umkakhe. Owesifazane onomona ngomyeni wakhe ngozakwabo, nalowo ogona isithandwa sakhe ngesisa. Bonke bangakwazi ukuthanda ngobuqotho nangeqiniso, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi muhle kangakanani noma, ngokuphambene nalokho, indlela enengekayo yokuveza lo muzwa ingase ibe.
Ngokuphambene nenkolelo evamile yokuthi kunabantu abaningi emhlabeni abangakwazi ukuthanda, izibalo zisho okuphambene. I-Psychopathy, ebonakaliswa ngokungakwazi ukuzwa uzwela nozwela futhi, ngenxa yalokho, ukuthanda, kwenzeka kuphela ku-1% wabantu bomhlaba. Futhi lokhu kusho ukuthi u-99% wabantu bayakwazi nje ukuthanda. Ukuthi kwesinye isikhathi lolu thando alufani nakancane esijwayele ukulubona. Ngakho asimazi.
“Ngiyangabaza ukuthi ungithanda ngokweqiniso” inkulumo engivame ukuyizwa kwabashade nabo abafuna usizo. Ukuhlangana nomuntu onendlela ehlukile yokuveza imizwa, siqala ukungabaza - ingabe uyamthanda ngempela? Futhi ngezinye izikhathi lokhu kungabaza kuholela ubudlelwano esiphethweni esifile.
Izolo ngike ngabonisana nabashadikazi abakhule ngaphansi kwezimo ezihluke kakhulu. Uyingane endala emndenini, okwakulindeleke kuye kusukela ebuntwaneni ukuthi angakwazi ukubhekana nezinkinga zakhe ngokuzimela futhi asize abancane. Wafunda ukungabonisi okuhlangenwe nakho okubuhlungu, ukungaphazamisi abathandekayo kanye “nokungena kuye” ezimweni zokucindezeleka.
Futhi uyena yedwa indodakazi emndenini "wohlobo lwesiNtaliyane", lapho ubudlelwano babucaciswa khona ngezwi eliphakanyisiwe, futhi ukusabela kwabazali abasheshayo kwakungalindelekile neze. Eseyingane, nganoma isiphi isikhathi wayengaphathwa ngomusa futhi ajeziswe ngokuthile. Lokhu kwamfundisa ukuba alalele ngokujulile imizwa yabanye futhi ahlale eqaphile.
Ukudalelwa kwabahlanganisa! Futhi manje, esimweni sokushuba okuncane, ubuka ngokuthuthumela ebusweni bakhe obukude futhi uzama "ukungqongqoza" okungenani ukusabela okuqondakalayo (okungukuthi, okungokomzwelo) ngezindlela ezijwayelekile zokuxhamazela. Futhi uvala kakhudlwana kunoma yikuphi ukuqhuma kwemizwelo yakhe, ngoba unomuzwa wokuthi akakwazi ukubhekana nesimo, futhi ukukhathazeka kumenza abe yitshe kakhulu! Ngamunye wabo akaqondi ngobuqotho ukuthi kungani owesibili eziphatha ngale ndlela, futhi kancane kancane ukholelwa ukuthi uyamthanda ngempela.
Ukuhluka kokuhlangenwe nakho kwethu kwasebuntwaneni kunquma ukuhluka kwendlela esiyithandayo. Futhi yingakho ngezinye izikhathi sihluke kakhulu komunye nomunye ekubonakalisweni kwalo muzwa. Kodwa ingabe lokhu kusho ukuthi sonke kumelwe sithande ngokuvumelana nesimiso esabekwa kithi ebuntwaneni? Ngenhlanhla, cha. Izindlela zobudlelwano ezijwayelekile kodwa ezibuhlungu zingashintshwa, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ifa lomndeni. Wonke umuntu omdala unethuba lokubhala kabusha ifomula yabo yothando.
... Futhi kulo mbhangqwana, ekupheleni kweseshini yethu yesithathu, ihlumela lethemba laqala ukuhluma. “Ngikholelwa ukuthi uyangithanda,” esho embuka emehlweni. Futhi ngabona ukuthi base beqala ukudala entsha, indaba yabo yothando.