Sonke siyalazi igama elithi “empathy”, kodwa bambalwa abalaziyo igama lowesifazane oshisekayo owethula leli gama olimini lwesiNgisi.
UViolet Paget (1856 - 1935) wayengumbhali weVictorian owashicilela ngaphansi kwegama mbumbulu uVernon Lee futhi waziwa njengomunye wabesifazane abahlakaniphe kakhulu eYurophu. Waqamba igama elithi “uzwela” ngemva kokuqaphela indlela umlingani wakhe uClementine Anstruther-Thompson ayecabanga ngayo ngalo mdwebo.
Ngokuka-Lee, uClementine “wazizwa ekhululekile” ngalo mdwebo. Ukuze achaze le nqubo, uLi wasebenzisa igama lesiJalimane elithi einfuhlung futhi wethula igama elithi “uzwela” olimini lwesiNgisi.
Imibono ka-Lee ihambisana kakhulu nentshisekelo ekhulayo yanamuhla yokuthi uzwela luhlobana kanjani nokudala. Ukuthuthukisa ubuhlakani bakho kungenye yezindlela zokuziqonda wena nabanye. Ngekhulu le-19, igama elisankondlo elithi “umcabango wokuziphatha” lasetshenziswa kule nqubo.
Ukucabanga kusho ukwakha isithombe sengqondo, ukucabanga, ukukholelwa, ukuphupha, ukuveza. Lokhu kokubili kuwumbono kanye nokuhle. Amaphupho ethu angasisusa ezenzweni ezincane zozwelo asiyise embonweni omuhle wokulingana nobulungiswa. Umcabango uphemba ilangabi: usixhumanisa nobuhlakani bethu, amandla ethu okuphila. Ezweni lezingxabano zomhlaba ezikhulayo, umcabango ubaluleke kakhulu kunangaphambili.
“Ithuluzi elikhulu lokuziphatha okuhle umcabango,” kubhala imbongi uPercy Bysshe Shelley kweyakhe ethi A Defense of Poetry (1840).
Umcabango wokuziphatha uyadala. Kusisiza ukuthi sithole izindlela ezingcono zokuba khona. Kuwuhlobo lozwela olusikhuthaza ukuba sibe nomusa futhi sizithande thina kanye nomunye nomunye. “Ubuhle buyiqiniso, iqiniso ubuhle; yilokho kuphela esikwaziyo nesidinga ukukwazi,” kubhala imbongi uJohn Keats. “Anginasiqiniseko nganoma yini ngaphandle kobungcwele bezinto ezithandwa yinhliziyo kanye neqiniso lomcabango.”
Umcabango wethu wokuziphatha ungasixhuma nakho konke okuyiqiniso nokuhle emhlabeni, kithina na komunye nomunye. “Zonke izinto ezifanele, zonke izenzo ezifanele, yonke imicabango efanele iyimisebenzi yobuciko noma yokucabanga,” kubhala uWilliam Butler Yeats esethulweni senkondlo kaWilliam Blake.
UShelley wayekholelwa ukuthi singawaqinisa amakhono ethu okucabanga ngokuziphatha “ngendlela ukuvivinya umzimba kuqinisa ngayo imizimba yethu.”
Ukuqeqesha Umcabango Wokuziphatha
Sonke singazibandakanya ezivivinyweni ezikhethekile zokuthuthukisa umcabango wokuziphatha.
Qala ukufunda izinkondlo. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uyifunda kuyi-Internet noma uthola incwadi endala enothuli ekhaya, uShelley wathi izinkondlo “zingavusa futhi zandise ingqondo ngokwayo, ziyenze ibe indawo yokwamukela izinkulungwane zenhlanganisela yemicabango engaqondakali.” “Ingummemezeli, umngane nomlandeli onokwethenjelwa kakhulu wokuvuswa kwabantu abakhulu ukuze kushintshwe ingqondo ezuzisayo.”
Phinda ufunde. Encwadini yakhe ethi Hortus Vitae (1903), u-Lee wabhala:
“Okujabulisa kakhulu ukufunda kusekufundeni kabusha. Kwesinye isikhathi kucishe kungafundi ngisho ukufunda, kodwa ukucabanga nje nokuzwa okungaphakathi encwadini, noma okwaphuma kuyo kudala futhi kwahlala engqondweni noma enhliziyweni.”
Okunye, "ukufunda ngokucabangisisa" okumatasa kakhulu kungaveza uzwela olujulile, indlela yokucabanga eklanyelwe ukungathathi hlangothi.
Buka amamuvi. Thinta umlingo wokusungula ngokusebenzisa i-cinema. Ziphumulele njalo ngemuvi emnandi ukuze uthole amandla - futhi ungesabi ukuthi lokhu kuzokushintsha ube izambane likasofa. Umlobi u-Ursula Le Guin uphakamisa ukuthi nakuba ukubuka indaba esikrinini kuwumsebenzi wokuzivivinya, kusasidonsela kwelinye izwe lapho singazicabangela khona okwesikhashana.
Vumela umculo ukuqondise. Nakuba umculo ungase ungabi namagama, uthuthukisa nozwela kithi. Ngokocwaningo lwamuva olunyatheliswe kumagazini i-Frontiers, “umculo uyingosi yezwe elingaphakathi labanye.”
Umdanso ungasiza nasekuthuthukiseni lokho okwaziwa ngokuthi “uzwela lwe-kinesthetic.” Ababukeli bangakwazi ukulingisa abadansi ngaphakathi noma babonise ukunyakaza kwabo.
Okokugcina, veza owakho ukugeleza kokudala. Akunandaba ukuthi yimaphi amakhono akho. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ukudweba, ukubhala, ukwenza umculo, ukucula, ukudansa, imisebenzi yezandla, “umcabango kuphela ongasheshisa ukuba khona kokuthile okuhlala kufihliwe,” kubhala imbongi u-Emily Dickinson.
Ubuciko buqukethe le nqubo ye-alchemical, yokuguqula. Ukudala kusisiza ukuthi sithole izindlela ezintsha, eziyiqiniso, ezingcono zokuphila. “Singaba nekhono lokusungula izinto—sicabange futhi ekugcineni sidale into engakatholakali,” kubhala uMary Richards, umlobi wencwadi ethi Opening Our Moral Eye.
Umlobi uBrené Brown, umgqugquzeli wozwela namuhla, uphikisa ngokuthi ukusungula kubalulekile ukuze “uphile ngokusuka enhliziyweni.” Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi umdwebo noma i-patchwork quilt, uma sidala okuthile singena esikhathini esizayo, sikholelwa ekumiselweni kwendalo yethu. Sifunda ukwethemba ukuthi singazakhela iqiniso lethu.
Ungesabi ukucabanga nokudala!