Isikole sasekhaya (K. Podorova)

Abstract:

….abafundi abaningi bayakhumbula ukuthi izingane zami aziyi esikoleni! Izincwadi zana ngemibuzo esukela kwehlekisayo (“Ingabe iyiqiniso ngempela ?!”) kuya kwebalulekile (“Ngingayisiza kanjani ingane yami ukuthi ithole lonke ulwazi oludingekayo?”). Ekuqaleni ngazama ukuphendula lezi zincwadi, kodwa ngase nginquma ukuthi kuzoba lula ukuziphendula zonke ngesikhathi esisodwa ...

Ubani oya esikoleni ekuseni...

Isingeniso

Ukuqala konyaka omusha wesikole kuye kwavusa ukukhathazeka kwabazali abathile mayelana nokuthi “Ingabe uzophumelela esikoleni?” Futhi njengoba abafundi abaningi babekhumbula ukuthi izingane zami azizange ziye esikoleni, izincwadi zazina ngemibuzo esukela kwehlekisayo (“Ingabe kuyiqiniso ngempela?!”) kuya kwebalulekile (“Ngingayisiza kanjani ingane yami ukuba ithole lonke ulwazi oludingekayo?” ). Ekuqaleni ngazama ukuphendula lezi zincwadi, kodwa ngabe senginquma ukuthi kuzoba lula ukuphendula wonke umuntu ngesikhathi esisodwa - ngohlu lwamakheli.

Okokuqala, izingcaphuno zezincwadi engizithole kulezi zinsuku zamuva.

“Lokhu okhuluma ngakho kuyathakazelisa kakhulu. Ngangifunda futhi ngizwa ngezinto ezinjalo, kodwa abalingiswa bebelokhu beba "abalingiswa bezincwadi" kakhulu kimi kunabantu bangempela. Futhi uyiqiniso kakhulu."

“Ngizimisele kakhulu ngemfundo yasekhaya. Indodana yami ayifuni manje ukuya esikoleni, futhi angazi ukuthi ngizoyinikeza kanjani ulwazi lwesikole. Sicela wabelane ngolwazi lwakho.»

“Ake ngibuze umbuzo (ngiyaxolisa uma kuzwakala kuwubuwula): Ingabe izingane zakho aziyi ngempela esikoleni? Iqiniso? Kubonakala kungenakwenzeka kimi, ngoba yonke indawo eRussia (njengalapha e-our country) imfundo yesikole iyimpoqo. Kwenzenjani ukungayi esikoleni? Ngitshele, kuthakazelisa kakhulu."

“Kanjani ukungayihambisi ingane esikoleni, kodwa ukuze abanye bangayibizi isilima? Futhi ukuze angakhuli engazi? Angikayiboni enye indlela yesikole ezweni lakithi.”

“Awungitshele, uyazifundisa izingane ekhaya? Lapho ngiqala ukusebenzisa ithuba lokufunda ekhaya ezinganeni zami, ukungabaza kuphakama ngokushesha: ingabe zizofuna ukuzifundela? ngingabafundisa? Ngivame ukuba nezinkinga ngokubekezela nokubekezelelana, ngisheshe ngiqale ukucasuka ngezinto ezincane. Yebo, futhi izingane, kubonakala kimi, zibona umama wazo ngendlela ehlukile kunomfundisi wangaphandle. Owangaphandle uyayala. Noma ingabe imane ikuphuce inkululeko yangaphakathi?

Ngizozama ukuqala kusukela kulezo zikhathi zasendulo lapho indodana yami endala, njengawo wonke umuntu, yayiya esikoleni njalo ekuseni. Egcekeni kwaba ekupheleni 80s, «perestroika» isivele iqalile, kodwa akukho okushintshile esikoleni okwamanje. (Futhi umqondo wokuthi awukwazi ukuya esikoleni awukafiki kimi, zama ukukhumbula ubuntwana bakho). Phela abaningi benu baya esikoleni ngesikhathi esifanayo. Ingabe omama bakho bacabanga ukuthi awukwazi ukuya esikoleni? Angikwazanga. Ngakho angikwazanga.

Safika kanjani kulempilo?

Njengoba sengingumzali wengane efunda ibanga lokuqala, ngaya emhlanganweni wabazali nothisha. Futhi lapho ngaba nomuzwa wokuthi ngangisendaweni yeshashalazi yezinto ezingenangqondo. Isixuku sabantu abadala (okubonakala sengathi sivamile) sasihlezi ematafuleni amancane, futhi bonke babhala ngokuzimisela, ngaphansi komyalelo kathisha, ukuthi mangaki amaseli okufanele ahlehliswe onqenqemeni lwesokunxele lwencwajana, njll., njll. awubhale phansi?!» bangibuza ngesankahlu. Angizange ngiqale ukukhuluma ngemizwa yami, kodwa ngavele ngasho ukuthi angiliboni iphuzu kulokhu. Ngoba ingane yami isazobala amaseli, hhayi mina. (Uma kuzoba njalo.)

Kusukela ngaleso sikhathi, isikole sethu "ezamehlela" saqala. Eziningi zazo seziphenduke «zinganekwane zomndeni» esizikhumbula ngokuhleka uma kuziwa kokuhlangenwe nakho kwasesikoleni.

Ngizonikeza isibonelo esisodwa, "indaba yokuphuma ngo-Okthoba." Ngaleso sikhathi, bonke abafundi bebanga lokuqala babesabhalise "ngokuzenzakalelayo" kuma-Octobrists, base beqala ukunxusa "kunembeza wabo ka-Okthoba", njll. Ekupheleni kwebanga lokuqala, indodana yami yaqaphela ukuthi akekho owayeyibuzile. uma efuna ukuba umfana ka-Okthoba. Waqala ukungibuza imibuzo. Futhi ngemva kwamaholide ehlobo (ekuqaleni kwebanga lesibili) wamemezela uthisha ukuthi "uphuma ngo-Okthoba". Isikole saqala ukutatazela.

Bahlela umhlangano lapho izingane zahlongoza khona izinyathelo zokujezisa ingane yami. Okukhethwa kukho kwaba: "ukungafaki esikoleni", "ukuphoqelela ukuba ngumfundi ka-Okthoba", "beka i-deuce ekuziphatheni", "ungadluliseli ebangeni lesithathu", "ungamukeli amaphayona". (Mhlawumbe leli kwakuyithuba lethu lokushintshela emfundweni yangaphandle nangaleso sikhathi, kodwa asizange sikuqonde lokhu.) Sazinza ekukhetheni “ukungamukeli njengamaphayona”, okwakufanele indodana yami impela. Futhi wahlala kuleli klasi, engeyena umfundi ka-Okthoba futhi engahlanganyeli ekuzijabuliseni kuka-Okthoba.

Kancane kancane, indodana yami yazuza idumela esikoleni “njengomfana ongaziwa,” owayengakhathazwa ngokukhethekile othisha ngoba babengayitholi impendulo evela kimi ezikhalweni zabo. (Ekuqaleni, kwakunezikhalo eziningi—eziqala endleleni yokubhala incwadi ethi “s” yendodana yami futhi igcine ngombala “ongalungile” wezinto zayo. Khona-ke “zaphela”, ngoba angizange “hamba phambili” futhi uthinteke» akulona uhlamvu «s» noma ukukhetha kombala ku-ueshek.)

Futhi ekhaya, mina nendodana yami sasivame ukuxoxelana ngezindaba zethu (ngokwesimiso esithi “lokho ebengikuthakasela namuhla”). Futhi ngaqala ukuqaphela ukuthi ezindabeni zakhe eziphathelene nesikole, izimo zalolu hlobo zishiwo kaningi: "Namuhla ngiqale ukufunda incwadi ethakazelisa kangaka - ngezibalo." Noma: "Namuhla ngiqale ukubhala amaphuzu e-symphony yami entsha - emlandweni." Noma: "Futhi uPetya, kuvele ukuthi udlala i-chess enhle - sikwazile ukudlala naye imidlalo embalwa endaweni." Ngacabanga: kungani eya ngisho esikoleni? Ukufunda? Kodwa ekilasini, wenza okuhluke ngokuphelele. Xhumana? Kodwa futhi kungenziwa ngaphandle kwesikole.

Kwase kwenzeka I-REVOLUTIONARY REVOLUTION ngempela engqondweni yami !!! Ngacabanga, “Mhlawumbe akumele nhlobo aye esikoleni?” Indodana yami yahlala ekhaya ngokuzithandela, saqhubeka sicabanga ngalo mbono ezinye izinsuku ezimbalwa, ngabe sengiya kuthishanhloko ngamtshela ukuthi indodana yami ngeke isafunda.

Ngizobe ngithembekile: isinqumo sase "sihluphekile", ngakho-ke cishe ngangingenandaba nokuthi bazongiphendulani. Bengifuna nje ukugcina okusemthethweni futhi ngisindise isikole ezinkingeni - bhala uhlobo oluthile lwesitatimende ukuze behlise umoya. (Kamuva, abaningi babangane bami bangitshela: “Yebo, ube nenhlanhla ngomqondisi, kodwa uma engavumanga…” — yebo, akusiwo umsebenzi womqondisi! Ukungaboni ngaso linye kwakhe kwakungeke kushintshe lutho ezinhlelweni zethu. ukuthi izenzo zethu ezengeziwe kuleli cala zizohluka kancane.)

Kodwa umqondisi (ngisamkhumbula ngozwela nangenhlonipho) wayenesithakazelo esiqotho ezisusa zethu, futhi ngamtshela ngokungagunci ngesimo sami sengqondo ngesikole. Yena ngokwakhe wanginikeza indlela yokwenza okwengeziwe - ngizobhala isitatimende sokuthi ngicela ukudlulisela ingane yami esikoleni sasekhaya, futhi uzovuma e-RONO ukuthi ingane yami (ngenxa yamakhono ayo okuthiwa "avelele") izofunda njengomfundi. "zama" ngokuzimela futhi wenze izivivinyo ngaphandle esikoleni esifanayo.

Ngaleso sikhathi, lokhu kwakubonakala kuyikhambi elikhulu kithi, futhi sakhohlwa isikole cishe kwaze kwaba sekupheleni konyaka. Indodana yazithatha ngentshiseko zonke lezo zinto eyayihlala ingenaso isikhathi esanele: usuku lonke yayibhala umculo futhi izwakalise lokho okulotshwe ezinsimbini "bukhoma", futhi ebusuku yayihlala kukhompyutha ihlomisa i-BBS yayo (uma kukhona. "fidoshniks" phakathi kwabafundi, bayasazi lesi sifinyezo; Ngingasho ngisho ukuthi wayenendawo "ye-114th" eSt. Petersburg — «kulabo abaqondayo»). Futhi wakwazi ukufunda yonke into ngokulandelana, ukufunda isiShayina (njengalokho, kwakuthakazelisa kuye ngaleso sikhathi), ngisize emsebenzini wami (lapho ngingenaso isikhathi sokuzenzela i-oda) indlela, ukufeza ama-oda amancane okuphrinta kabusha imibhalo yesandla ngezilimi ezahlukene kanye nokusetha i-imeyili (ngaleso sikhathi kwakusabhekwa njengomsebenzi onzima kakhulu, kwakufanele umeme "umdwebi"), ukujabulisa izingane ezincane ... , wayejabule kakhulu ngenkululeko ayesanda kuyithola esikoleni. Futhi angizange ngizizwe ngishiywe ngaphandle.

Ngo-April, sakhumbula: “O, sekuyisikhathi sokufundela izivivinyo!” Indodana yakhipha izincwadi zokufunda ezinothuli futhi yazifunda ngokujulile amasonto angu-2-3. Sabe sesihamba naye saya kumqondisi wesikole sathi usekulungele ukuphasa. Lokhu kwaba ukuphela kokubamba kwami ​​iqhaza ezindabeni zakhe zesikole. Yena ngokwakhe «wabamba» othisha futhi wavumelana nabo ngesikhathi nendawo yomhlangano. Zonke izifundo zingadluliswa ngokuhanjelwa okukodwa noma okubili. Othisha ngokwabo banquma ukuthi bazoqhuba ngaluphi uhlobo “isivivinyo” — kungakhathaliseki ukuthi “ingxoxo” nje, noma into efana nesivivinyo esibhaliwe. Kuyathakazelisa ukuthi cishe akekho owalokotha ukunikeza u-“A” esifundweni sakhe, nakuba ingane yami yayingazi kancane kunezingane zesikole ezivamile. Isilinganiso esiyintandokazi besingu-"5". (Kodwa lokhu akuzange kusicasule nakancane - kwakuyintengo yenkululeko leyo.)

Ngenxa yalokho, saqaphela ukuthi ingane ingaba "amaholide" izinyanga ezingu-10 ngonyaka (okungukuthi, yenza lokho akuthandayo ngempela), futhi izinyanga ezingu-2 zidlule ohlelweni lwekilasi elilandelayo futhi ziphumelele izivivinyo ezidingekayo. Ngemva kwalokho, uthola isitifiketi sokudluliselwa ekilasini elilandelayo, ukuze nganoma isiphi isikhathi akwazi "ukudlala kabusha" konke futhi ahambe ukufunda ngendlela evamile. (Kufanele kuqashelwe ukuthi lo mcabango wabaqinisekisa kakhulu ogogo nomkhulu — babeqiniseka ukuthi ngokushesha ingane “izoshintsha umqondo wayo”, yayingeke ilalele lo mama “ongavamile” (okungukuthi, mina) futhi yayizobuyela esikoleni. Maye! akabuyanga.)

Lapho indodakazi yami isikhulile, ngamthembisa ukuthi angaqali ukuya esikoleni. Kodwa wayeyingane "enomphakathi": wayefunda izincwadi zezingane ngababhali baseSoviet, lapho umqondo wawuphikelela uzwakalisa ukuthi "kuhlonishwa" kakhulu ukuya esikoleni. Futhi mina, njengomsekeli wemfundo «yamahhala», ngangingeke ngikwenqabele kuye. Futhi waya ebangeni lokuqala. Kwaphela cishe iminyaka emibili!!! Kuthe ngasekupheleni kwebanga lesibili lapho (ekugcineni!) adinwa yile nto yokuzilibazisa engenalutho, wabe esememezela ukuthi uzofunda njengomfundi wangaphandle, njengomfowabo omdala. (Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukwazile ukufaka isandla “ekugcineni kwengcebo” yezinganekwane zomndeni, nezindaba ezingezinhle zalesi sikole nazo zenzeke kuye.)

Ngavele ngawisa itshe emphefumulweni wami. Ngithathe esinye isitatimende kuthishanhloko wesikole. Futhi manje ngase nginezingane ezimbili zasesikoleni ezingasayi esikoleni. Nokho, uma othile ethola lokhu ngephutha, wayengibuza ngokuphoxeka: “Zigulani izingane zakho?” “Lutho,” ngiphendula ngomoya ophansi. “Kodwa WHY?!!! Kungani bengayi esikoleni?!!!» - "Angifuni". Isigcawu esithule.

Kungenzeka yini ukuthi ungayi esikoleni

Angakwazi. Ngikwazile lokhu iminyaka engu-12 ngokuqinisekile. Ngalesi sikhathi, izingane zami ezimbili zakwazi ukuthola izitifiketi zihleli ekhaya (njengoba kwanqunywa ukuthi lokhu kungase kube usizo kuzo ekuphileni), futhi ingane yesithathu njengazo ayisayi esikoleni, kodwa isivele yaphasa. izivivinyo zesikole samabanga aphansi futhi kuze kube manje azizogcina lapho. Uma ngikhuluma iqiniso, manje angisacabangi ukuthi izingane kudingeka zibhale izivivinyo zekilasi ngalinye. Angibavimbeli ekukhetheni “okuzongena esikhundleni” sesikole abangasicabanga. (Nakuba, kunjalo, ngihlanganyela imibono yami ngalokhu nabo.)

Kodwa emuva esikhathini esedlule. Kuze kube ngu-1992, kwakukholelwa ngempela ukuthi yonke ingane iphoqelekile ukuya esikoleni nsuku zonke, futhi bonke abazali babebophekile ukuba "bathumele" izingane zabo lapho zifinyelela iminyaka engu-7. Futhi uma kuvela ukuthi othile akazange akwenze lokhu. , izisebenzi zenhlangano ethile ekhethekile zingathunyelwa kuye (kubonakala sengathi amagama athi “ukuvikelwa kwezingane” ayebhalwe egameni, kodwa angikuqondi lokhu, ngakho ngingase nginephutha). Ukuze ingane ibe ILUNGELO lokungayi esikoleni, kwakufanele iqale ithole isitifiketi sikadokotela esishoyo ukuthi “ayikwazi ukuya esikoleni ngenxa yezizathu zempilo.” (Yingakho wonke umuntu engibuza ukuthi kwenzakalani ngezingane zami!)

Ngendlela, kamuva ngathola ukuthi ngalezo zinsuku abanye abazali (ababecabanga ngombono "wokungathathi" izingane zabo esikoleni ngaphambi kwami) bamane BATHENGA izitifiketi ezinjalo kodokotela ababaziyo.

Kodwa ehlobo lika-1992, u-Yeltsin wakhipha isimemezelo esiyingqopha-mlando esimemezela ukuthi kusukela manje, NOMA YIYIPHI INGANE (kungakhathaliseki isimo sayo sempilo) inelungelo lokufunda ekhaya !!! Ngaphezu kwalokho, laze lathi isikole kufanele SIKHOKHE I-EXTRA kubazali bezingane ezinjengalezi ngoba imali eyabelwa uhulumeni ngempoqo yemfundo yamabanga aphezulu hhayi ngosizo lothisha futhi hhayi emagcekeni esikole, kodwa eyabo nasekhaya!

NgoSeptember ngawo lowo nyaka ngafika kumqondisi wesikole ngizobhala esinye isitatimende sokuthi kulo nyaka ingane yami izofunda ekhaya. Wanginika umbhalo walo mthetho ukuba ngiwufunde. (Angizange ngicabange ukubhala igama layo, inombolo kanye nosuku ngaleso sikhathi, kodwa manje, ngemva kweminyaka engu-11, angisakhumbuli. Uma unesithakazelo, bheka ulwazi ku-Internet. Uma uluthola, yabelana ngalo. : Ngizoyishicilela ohlwini lwamakheli.)

Ngemva kwalokho ngatshelwa: “Ngeke sikukhokhele ngokuthi ingane yakho ayisayi esikoleni sethu. Kunzima kakhulu ukuthola imali yalokho. Kodwa ngakolunye uhlangothi (!) Futhi ngeke sikuthathele imali ngenxa yokuthi othisha bethu babhala izivivinyo enganeni yakho. Kwakungifanela kakhulu, ukuthatha imali yokukhululwa kwengane yami emaketangeni esikoleni kwakungeke kwafika engqondweni yami. Ngakho sahlukana, sijabulile sodwa kanye noshintsho emthethweni wethu.

Yiqiniso, ngemva kwesikhashana ngathatha amadokhumenti ezingane zami esikoleni lapho babhala khona izivivinyo mahhala, futhi kusukela ngaleso sikhathi bathatha izivivinyo endaweni ehlukile kanye nemali, kodwa leyo indaba ehluke ngokuphelele (mayelana nesifundo sangaphandle esikhokhelwayo, esihlelwa kalula. futhi kulula kakhulu kunokukhululeka, okungenani kwakunjalo ngeminyaka yama-90s).

Futhi ngonyaka odlule ngafunda idokhumenti ethakazelisa nakakhulu - futhi, angisakhumbuli igama noma usuku lokushicilela, bangibonisa yona esikoleni lapho ngize khona ukuzoxoxisana ngesifundo sangaphandle sengane yami yesithathu. (Ake ucabange isimo: Ngifike kuthisha omkhulu ngithi ngifuna ukubhalisa ingane esikoleni. Ifunda ibanga lokuqala. Uthisha omkhulu ubhala igama lengane bese ecela usuku lokuzalwa. Kuvele ukuthi ingane ineminyaka engu-10. Futhi manje - ejabulisa kakhulu Uthisha omkhulu usabela kulokhu OKUZOLA!) Bangibuza ukuthi yiliphi ikilasi afuna ukubhala ngalo izivivinyo. Ngiyachaza ukuthi asinazo izitifiketi zokuphothula zanoma yimaphi amakilasi, ngakho-ke sidinga ukuqala, ngicabanga, kusukela kwelokuqala!

Futhi ekuphenduleni, bangibonisa idokhumenti esemthethweni mayelana nesifundo sangaphandle, lapho kubhalwe khona ngombala omnyama nomhlophe ukuthi NOMA YIMUPHI umuntu unelungelo lokuza KUNOMA YILUPHI isikhungo semfundo sikahulumeni KUNOMA YILUPHI ubudala futhi acele ukuthi abhale izivivinyo zaNOMA Isiphi isikole esiphakeme. ikilasi (ngaphandle kokucela noma yimiphi imibhalo mayelana nokuqedwa kwamakilasi adlule !!!). Futhi abaphathi balesi sikole banesibopho sokwenza ikhomishini futhi bathathe zonke izivivinyo ezidingekayo kuye !!!

Okungukuthi, ungafika kunoma yisiphi isikole esingumakhelwane, uthi, lapho uneminyaka engu-17 (noma ngaphambili, noma kamuva - njengoba uthanda; kanye nendodakazi yami, isibonelo, omalume ababili abanentshebe bathola izitifiketi - kahle, ngokuzumayo bazizwa befuna ukuthola. izitifiketi) futhi ngokushesha baphumelele izivivinyo zebanga le-11. Futhi uthole sona kanye isitifiketi sokuthi wonke umuntu ubonakala eyisihloko esidingeka kangaka.

Kodwa lokhu kuwumbono. Ngeshwa, ukuzijwayeza kunzima kakhulu. Ngolunye usuku (ngenxa yelukuluku kunesidingo) ngaya esikoleni esiseduze nasekhaya futhi ngacela ukuxoxa nothishanhloko. Ngamtshela ukuthi izingane zami kade zayeka ukuya esikoleni, futhi okwamanje ngifuna indawo lapho ngingaphasa khona ngokushesha izivivinyo zebanga lesi-7. Umqondisi (owesifazane osemusha omuhle onemibono ethuthukayo) wayenesithakazelo esikhulu sokukhuluma nami, futhi ngamtshela ngokuzithandela ngemibono yami, kodwa ekupheleni kwengxoxo wangeluleka ukuba ngifune esinye isikole.

Babenesibopho somthetho ngempela ukwamukela isicelo sami sokwamukelwa kwengane yami esikoleni futhi babezoyivumela ngempela ukuba “ifundele ekhaya”. Ngeke kube khona inkinga ngalokhu. Kodwa bangichazela ukuthi othisha asebekhulile abadla ngoludala abakha “iningi elinqumayo” kulesi sikole (“emikhandlwini yokufundisa” lapho kuxazululwa khona izingxabano) ngeke bavumelane nemibandela YAMI “yokufundisa kwasekhaya” ukuze ingane vele uye kuthisha ngamunye kanye futhi ngokushesha waphumelela izifundo zonyaka. (Kufanele kuqashelwe ukuthi ngiye ngabhekana nale nkinga izikhathi ezingaphezu kwesisodwa: lapho izivivinyo zabafundi bangaphandle zithathwa othisha ABAVAMILE, baphikelela bethi ingane AYIKWAZI ukudlula lonke uhlelo ngokuvakasha okukodwa !!! KUMELE «Asebenze OKUDINGEKAYO inani AMAHORA»okungukuthi abanaluthakasela nakancane olwazini lwangempela lwengane, bakhathazeke kuphela ISIKHATHI esichithwa ekufundeni. Futhi ababuboni nhlobo ubuwula balo mbono ...)

Bazodinga ukuthi ingane ithathe zonke izivivinyo ekupheleni kwethemu ngayinye (ngoba ayikwazi ukubeka «ideshi» esikhundleni sebanga lekota encwadini yekilasi uma ingane isohlwini lwekilasi). Ngaphezu kwalokho, bazodinga ukuthi ingane ibe nesitifiketi sikadokotela futhi isiyenze yonke imigomo (futhi ngaleso sikhathi sasingakabalwa nhlobo kunoma yimuphi umtholampilo, futhi amagama athi “isitifiketi sokwelashwa” angenza ngibe nesiyezi), ngaphandle kwalokho uyobe “thelela” ezinye izingane. (Yebo, izothelela impilo nothando lwenkululeko.) Futhi-ke, ingane izodingeka ukuba ibambe iqhaza "empilweni yekilasi": ukugeza izindonga namafasitela ngoMgqibelo, ukuqoqa amaphepha emagcekeni esikole, njll. .

Amathemba anjalo avele angenza ngihleke. Ngokusobala, ngenqaba. Kodwa umqondisi, nokho, wangenzela khona kanye engangikudinga! (Ngenxa nje yokuthi wayeyithanda ingxoxo yethu.) Okungukuthi, kwadingeka ngiboleke izincwadi zebanga lesi-7 emtatsheni wezincwadi ukuze ngingazithengi esitolo. Futhi ngokushesha wabiza umsebenzi wasemtatsheni wezincwadi futhi wayala ukuba anginike (mahhala, ngerisidi) zonke izincwadi zokufunda ezidingekayo ngaphambi kokuphela konyaka wesikole!

Ngakho indodakazi yami yafunda lezi zincwadi futhi ngomoya ophansi (ngaphandle kokugoma kanye «nokuhlanganyela empilweni yekilasi») yaphasa zonke izivivinyo kwenye indawo, okwathi ngemva kwalokho sabuyisela izincwadi.

Kodwa ngiyaxolisa. Ake sibuyele onyakeni odlule lapho ngiletha ingane eneminyaka engu-10 "ebangeni lokuqala". Uthisha omkhulu wamnikeza izivivinyo zohlelo lwekilasi lokuqala - kwavela ukuthi wazi konke. Isigaba sesibili - sazi cishe yonke into. Ibanga lesithathu - akazi okuningi. Wamenzela uhlelo lokufunda, futhi ngemva kwesikhashana waphumelela izivivinyo zebanga lesi-4, okungukuthi "waphothula esikoleni samabanga aphansi." Futhi uma ufisa! Manje ngase ngingeza kunoma yisiphi isikole futhi ngiqhubeke nokufunda khona kanye nontanga yami.

Ukuthi akanaso leso sifiso. Ngendlela efanayo. Kuye, isiphakamiso esinjalo sibonakala sihlanya. Akaqondi ukuthi KUNGANI umuntu ojwayelekile kufanele aye esikoleni.

Indlela yokufunda ekhaya

Abazali abaningi bacabanga ukuthi uma ingane ifundela ekhaya, khona-ke umama noma ubaba bahlala eduze kwayo kusukela ekuseni kuze kube kusihlwa futhi bafunde lonke uhlelo lwezifundo zesikole kanye nayo. Ngiye ngizwe amazwi anjengalawa: “Ingane yethu iya esikoleni, kodwa sisahlezi nayo kuze kube sebusuku kakhulu nsuku zonke kuze kube yilapho zonke izifundo seziphelile. Futhi uma ungazange uhambe, kusho ukuthi kufanele uhlale amahora ambalwa ngosuku ngaphezulu !!!” Uma ngithi akekho “ohlezi” nezingane zami, enze “izifundo” nazo, azingikholwa. Bacabanga ukuthi isibindi.

Kodwa uma ungakwazi ngempela ukuvumela ingane yakho ukuthi ifunde ngaphandle kokubamba iqhaza kwakho (okungukuthi, uhlose "ukwenza umsebenzi wesikole" naye iminyaka eyi-10), khona-ke, isikole sasekhaya asikufanelanga neze. Iqala ithatha ukuzimela kwengane.

Uma usukulungele ukuvumelana nombono wokuthi ingane ikwazi ukuzifundela (kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ingakanani amabanga azonikezwa yona, ngoba mhlawumbe u-“3” wokwethula eyakhe imicabango ungcono kuno-“5” wokubhala phansi. ekababa noma kamama?), bese ucabangela imfundo yasekhaya futhi. Kuhlanganisa ngoba kuzovumela ingane ukuba ichithe isikhathi esincane kulokho ekutholayo ngokushesha elulwaneni, kanye nesikhathi esengeziwe sokunikela kulokho engakuqondi ngokushesha.

Futhi-ke konke kuncike ekubukeni kwezwe kwabazali. Kusuka emiphi imigomo ozibekela yona. Uma umgomo "uyisitifiketi esihle" (sokwamukelwa "enyuvesi enhle"), lesi yisimo esisodwa. Futhi uma umgomo kuyikhono lengane lokwenza izinqumo nokwenza izinqumo, kuhluke ngokuphelele. Ngezinye izikhathi kungenzeka ukufeza imiphumela yomibili ngokubeka eyodwa kuphela yale migomo. Kodwa lokho kuwumphumela nje oseceleni. Kwenzeka, kodwa hhayi wonke umuntu.

Ake siqale umgomo wendabuko kakhulu - nge «isitifiketi esihle». Zinqumele ngokushesha izinga lokubamba kwakho iqhaza ekuxazululeni le nkinga. Uma kunguwe ozonquma, hhayi ingane yakho, khona-ke udinga ukunakekela abafundisi abahle (abazofika ekhaya lakho) futhi udwebe (wedwa, noma kanye nengane, noma kanye nengane kanye neyakhe. othisha) uhlelo lwamakilasi. Futhi khetha isikole lapho ingane yakho izobhala khona izivivinyo nezivivinyo. Futhi okuzomnika isitifiketi esinjalo njengoba ubufuna, isibonelo, isikole esithile esikhethekile lapho uhlose khona "ukuhambisa" ingane yakho.

Futhi uma ungeke ukwazi ukulawula ngokugcwele inqubo yokufunda (okubonakala kimi kungokwemvelo kakhulu), khona-ke kuyoba usizo ukuxoxa ngokuningiliziwe nengane ngezifiso zakhe, izinhloso kanye namathuba. Khuluma naye ngokuthi yiluphi ulwazi UFUNA ukuluthola nokuthi yini akulungele ukuyenza kulokhu. Izingane eziningi ezifunde esikoleni azisakwazi ukuzihlelela izifundo. Badinga «push» ngesimo «umsebenzi wesikole» njalo. Ngaphandle kwalokho, bayehluleka. Kodwa kulula ukukulungisa. Ekuqaleni, ungasiza ingane ukuthi ihlele amakilasi akhe futhi, mhlawumbe, ukumbekela imisebenzi ethile, bese "ephumelele" izifundo ezimbalwa kule modi, uzofunda lokhu ngokwakhe.

Indlela elula yokwenza uhlelo lokufunda ukubala ukuthi unesikhathi esingakanani sokutadisha izivivinyo nokuthi lungakanani ulwazi oludingayo ukuze “ugwinye” ngalesi sikhathi. Isibonelo, ingane yakho inqume ukuphasa izifundo ezingu-6 ezinyangeni eziyisithupha. Ngakho, isilinganiso senyanga encwadini ngayinye yokufunda. (Kwanele.)

Bese uthatha zonke lezi zincwadi zokufunda futhi ubone ukuthi ezi-2 zazo zincane kakhulu futhi zifundeka «ngomoya owodwa» (isibonelo, i-geography kanye ne-botany). Unquma ukuthi ngayinye yazo ingaba yingcweti emavikini angu-2. (Kunenyanga “eyengeziwe” ongakwazi “ukunikela ngayo” esihlokweni esibonakala sinzima kakhulu enganeni yakho, ngokwesibonelo, ulimi lwesiRashiya nemithetho yalo edidayo.) Bese ubheka ukuthi mangaki amakhasi. Ake sithi kunamakhasi angama-150 ombhalo encwadini. Lokhu kusho ukuthi ungafunda amakhasi ayi-10 izinsuku eziyi-15, bese uvula incwadi futhi ezinsukwini ezimbalwa ukuphinda izahluko ezinzima kakhulu, bese uyohlola.

Ukunakwa: umbuzo kulabo abacabanga ukuthi ukufunda ekhaya "kunzima kakhulu". Ingabe ingane yakho ingakwazi ukufunda amakhasi ayi-15 ngosuku futhi ikhumbule ukuthi ibikhuluma ngani? (Mhlawumbe uze uzichaze kafushane, usebenzisa izimiso nemidwebo yakho.)

Ngicabanga ukuthi izingane eziningi zizokuthola kulula kakhulu lokhu. Futhi bazokhetha ukufunda hhayi amakhasi ayi-15, kepha angama-50 ngosuku, ukuze baqede le ncwadi hhayi ngezinsuku eziyi-10, kepha nge-3! (Abanye baze bakuthola kulula ukukwenza NGESUKU OLULODWA!)

Yiqiniso, akuzona zonke izincwadi zokufunda okulula, futhi lokhu akwanele ngaso sonke isikhathi. Kukhona nezibalo, lapho udinga ukuxazulula izinkinga, kanye nesiRashiya, lapho udinga ukubhala khona, bese kuba khona i-physics kanye ne-chemistry ... Kodwa izindlela ezingcono kakhulu zokufunda izifundo eziyinkimbinkimbi zisenqubweni yokufunda. Umuntu kufanele aqale ... Futhi noma ngabe kukhona okungahambi kahle, ungathola umfundisi esifundweni esinzima kakhulu, kokubili, kokuthathu ... Ngaphambi nje kwalokho, kuyinto efiselekayo ukunikeza ingane ithuba lokuzifundela yona yodwa. , khona-ke, okungenani, uzoqala ukuqonda ukuthi yini ngempela ehlulekayo.

(Ngabuza engibaziyo ababefundisa: INGABE bangakwazi ukufundisa IYIPHI ingane isifundo sabo? Futhi yibuphi ubunzima obuvame ukuvela? Ngokuqondene nokuthi “noma ibuphi” — lokhu akulona iqiniso ngokuphelele. Ngezinye izikhathi kwakunabantwana abanjalo ababengafundiswa lutho. Futhi laba kwakuhlale kuyizingane ncamashi abazali bazo ABAZIPHOQA ukuthi bafunde.Futhi ngokuphambene, lezo zingane ezake ZAZAMA ukuzifundela zona ngokwazo lesi sifundo, kodwa kukhona okungazange kuzisebenzele, zaqhubekela phambili ngempumelelo enkulu.Khona-ke usizo lomfundisi lwaphenduka. ukuze kube usizo kakhulu, ingane yaqala ukuqonda lokho, okwambalekela ngaphambili, kwase kuhamba kahle.)

Futhi ekugcineni, futhi mayelana nolwazi lwami siqu. Sazama ngezindlela ezahlukene: senza izinhlelo (ngokuvamile ngonyaka wokuqala wokufunda njengomfundi wangaphandle), futhi sivumele yonke into "ithathe inkambo yayo". Baze bazama nokukhuthaza imali. Isibonelo, ngibeka inani elithile lokufunda, elanele ukukhokhela izinyanga ezintathu zamakilasi nothisha (uma ngifunda ngokohlelo "lokuhlola-ukubonisana"). Uma ingane ikwazi ukudlulisa yonke into ngezinyanga ezi-3, kuhle. Uma engenaso isikhathi, “ngimboleka” inani elishodayo, bese ngidinga ukuyibuyisela (izingane zami ezindala zazinemithombo yemali engenayo, njalo zazibamba amatoho). Futhi uma enikela ngokushesha, uthola imali esele “njengomklomelo”. (Imiklomelo yawinwa ngalowo nyaka, kodwa umqondo awuzange ubambe iqhaza. Asiphindanga sakwenza lokho. Kwakuwukuhlola nje okwakuthakazelisa bonke ababambiqhaza. Kodwa ngemva kokuthola imiphumela, yayeka ukuba mnandi. Sesivele waqonda ukuthi isebenza kanjani.)

Ngokuvamile izingane zami zazicabanga ukuthi zizofunda nini futhi kanjani. Njalo ngonyaka ngangibabuza imibuzo ngezifundo zami kancane kancane. (Ngezinye izikhathi bona ngokwabo baphendukela kimi ngemibuzo — Ngabasiza uma ngibona ukuthi babeludinga ngempela usizo lwami. Kodwa angizange ngigxambukele kulokho ababengakwenza bona.)

Enye into futhi. Abantu abaningi bathi kimi: “Uzizwa ujabule, izingane zakho zinekhono, zifuna ukufunda … Kodwa ngeke ukwazi ukuphoqa ezethu. Ngeke bafunde uma bengayi esikoleni." Ngokuqondene «abanekhono» izingane - iphuzu moot. Nginezingane ezijwayelekile. Njengawo wonke umuntu, “banamandla” okuthize, hhayi okuthize. Futhi bafundela ekhaya hhayi ngoba “bekwazi”, kodwa ngoba akukho okubavimbela ukuba babe nesithakazelo sokufunda ekhaya.

Noma yimuphi umntwana ovamile unesifiso sokwazi (khumbula: kusukela eminyakeni yokuqala yokuphila kwakhe uyazibuza ukuthi ingwenya inemilenze emingaki, kungani intshe ingandizi, lenziwa liphi iqhwa, lapho amafu endiza khona, ngoba yilokho kanye ekwenzayo. ngingafunda ezincwadini zesikole , uma ngizibona njengokuthi «izincwadi»).

Kodwa lapho eya esikoleni, baqala kancane kodwa ngokuqinisekile babulale lesi sifiso. Esikhundleni solwazi, babeka kuye ikhono lokubala inani elidingekayo lamaseli ukusuka onqenqemeni lwesobunxele lwencwajana. Njll. Ngokuqhubekayo, kubi nakakhulu. Yebo, futhi iqembu elibekwe phezu kwakhe livela ngaphandle. Yebo, nezindonga zombuso (futhi ngokuvamile ngicabanga ukuthi akukho lutho olusebenza kahle ezindongeni zombuso, noma ukuzala izingane, noma ukuphathwa, noma ukutadisha, noma ukwenza ibhizinisi elithile, noma kunjalo, lokhu kuyindaba yokunambitha, futhi “akukho kuphikisana ngokunambitha” , njengoba kwaziwa).

Konke kuhlukile ekhaya. Okubonakala kuyisicefe futhi kungajabulisi esikoleni kubonakala kuthakazelisa ekhaya. Khumbula isikhathi lapho ingane (ngisho noma ifunda ibanga) icosha isitaki sezincwadi zokufunda ezintsha okokuqala ngqa. Unentshisekelo! Uhlola izembozo, aphenye ezincwadini zokufunda, «ezulazula» phezu kwezinye izithombe ... Futhi yini elandelayo? Bese kuqala inhlolovo, ukuhlola, izabelo, ukuphawula … Futhi akufiki kuyena ukuthi avule incwadi ngoba nje “iyathakazelisa”…

Futhi uma engadingi ukuya esikoleni futhi ahambe ngejubane elibekwe kuye, enze amakhulukhulu ezenzo ezingadingekile endleleni, khona-ke ungakwazi ngokuthula (emva kokulala, ukudla kwasekuseni okukhululekile, ukuxoxa nabazali bakho, ukudlala nekati. — Gcwalisa okulahlekile) vula incwadi efanayo ngesikhathi esifanele kanye ne-INTEREST ukuze ufunde okubhalwe lapho. Nokwazi ukuthi akekho ozokubizela ebhodini ngokubukeka okuyingozi futhi akusole ngokungakhumbuli konke. Futhi ungashayi isikhwama ekhanda. Futhi ngeke utshele abazali bakho umbono wakhe mayelana namakhono akho ...

Okusho ukuthi, esikoleni, ulwazi, uma luhlanganiswe, LUPHAMBANA nohlelo lwezemfundo. Futhi ekhaya zigaywa kalula futhi ngaphandle kokucindezeleka. Futhi uma ingane inikezwa ithuba lokungayi esikoleni, khona-ke, okokuqala, uzophumula kuphela. Lala, udle, ufunde, hamba uyoshaywa umoya, udlale… Kakhulu ngendlela oyidingayo ukuze «unxephezele» ngomonakalo odalwe yisikole. Kodwa ngokuhamba kwesikhathi kuzofika umzuzu lapho efuna ukuthatha incwadi futhi afunde nje ...

Indlela yokuxhumana nezinye izingane

Kalula. Ingane evamile, ngaphezu kwefunda nabo ekilasini, ngokuvamile inabanye abantu abaningi abajwayele: labo abahlala endlini elandelayo, beza ukuzovakashela nabazali babo, bathola lapho ingane yenza ibhizinisi elithakazelisayo ... azitholele abangani, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uyafunda yini. Futhi uma engafuni, khona-ke akafanele. Ngokuphambene nalokho, umuntu kufanele ajabule ngokuthi akekho ophoqelela ukuxhumana naye lapho ezwa isidingo "sokuhoxa kuye".

Izingane zami zaziba nezikhathi ezihlukene: ngezinye izikhathi zazikwazi ukuhlala ekhaya unyaka wonke futhi zixoxe namalungu omkhaya kuphela (nakuba umkhaya wakithi wawungewona mncane ngaso sonke isikhathi) futhi zibhalelane nabantu “ezingokoqobo” ezibajwayele. Futhi ngezinye izikhathi «ikhanda» wagxumela ukuxhumana. Kodwa okubaluleke kakhulu, bona ngokwabo bakhetha ukuthi kufanele bahlale bodwa nini, nalapho "bephuma emphakathini."

Futhi "abantu" "abaphuma kubo" nabo bakhethwa yizingane zami ngokwabo, kwakungelona "iqoqo labafundi engifunda nabo" elakhiwe ngokungahleliwe. Laba kwakungabantu ababefuna ukuhlala nabo njalo.

Abanye abantu bacabanga ukuthi izingane "zasekhaya", ngisho noma zifuna ukuxhumana, azikwazi futhi azi ukuthi zenziwe kanjani. Ukukhathazeka okungavamile. Phela, ingane ayihlali esitokisini sodwa, kodwa emndenini lapho, kusukela ekuzalweni, kufanele ikhulume nsuku zonke. (Yebo, uma abantu bomkhaya wakini bekhulumisana, futhi bengadluli buthule, benganakile.) Ngakho “amakhono okuxhumana” ayinhloko akhiwa ekhaya, futhi awekho esikoleni.

Kodwa ukukhulumisana ekhaya ngokuvamile kuphelela kakhulu kunasesikoleni. Ingane ijwayela ukuxoxa ngokukhululekile nganoma yisiphi isihloko, iveze imicabango yayo, icabange ngemicabango yomuntu oxoxa naye, ivumelane nayo noma iphikisane nayo, ikhethe izimpikiswano ezinamandla engxabanweni ... Ekhaya, ngokuvamile kufanele ikhulume nalabo abadala kunaye. kanye “nokwazi” ukuxhumana kangcono, kangcono, ngokugcwele. Futhi ingane kufanele "idonse" ifinyelele ezingeni lokuxhumana kwabantu abadala evamile. Ujwayela ukuhlonipha oxoxa naye futhi akhe inkhulumomphendvulwano kuya ngesimo ...

Ngiyavuma, kukhona abanjalo «ontanga» abangakudingi konke lokhu. Okuthi «ukuxhumana» baqonde enye into. Ubani ongeke aqhube izingxoxo futhi ahloniphe umxhumanisi. Kodwa ngemva kwakho konke, ingane yakho ngeke ifune ukuxhumana nabantu abanjalo! Uyokhetha abanye, okungukuthi labo yena ngokwakhe ayoba nesithakazelo kubo.

Okunye okubalulekile wukuxhashazwa nokuhlaselwa kwentsha kulabo abahluke ngandlela thile kwabanye. Noma kulabo abavele kamuva kunabanye ku- «collective». Ngokwesibonelo, uma ingane ithuthela kwesinye isikole lapho ineminyaka engu-14, ngokuvamile lokhu kuba uvivinyo olunzima kuyo.

Ngiyavuma: izingane zami ezindala zenze “izivivinyo” ezinjalo. Kwakujabulisa ngabo ukuzama indima «omusha». Baqala ukuya esikoleni futhi babuka ngesithakazelo ukuziphatha kwekilasi. Abanye ofunda nabo njalo bazama «ukubhuqa». Kodwa uma “osanda kungena” engacasukile, engacasukile, kodwa ngokusobala ejabulela ukulalela “inhlekisa” yakhe, lokhu kuyabadida kakhulu. Abaqondi ukuthi awukwazi ukucasulwa kanjani izingathekiso zabo eziyinkimbinkimbi? Ungakuthatheli phezulu kanjani? Futhi ngokushesha bakhathala "ngokugcona" mahhala.

Enye ingxenye yabafundi ofunda nabo ngokushesha ibeka inhlamba «hhayi eyethu.” Ayigqokile kanjalo, ingagqoki izinwele ezifanayo, ilalele umculo ongafanele, ikhuluma ngezinto ezingalungile. Phela, izingane zami azizange zifune ukuba phakathi “kwezethu”. Futhi, ekugcineni, iqembu lesithathu yilabo abavele baba nesithakazelo sokukhuluma nalo "omusha" ongavamile. Labo. kwakuyiqiniso ngempela ukuthi “wayengafani nabo bonke abanye” okwathi masinyane iqembu lesibili kuye kwaheha iqembu lesithathu kuye.

Futhi phakathi kwalezi “zintathu” kwakukhona kanye labo ababentula ukuxhumana okuvamile futhi ababezungeza osanda kufika “oyinqaba” ngokunaka, ukutuswa nenhlonipho. Futhi-ke, lapho izingane zami zishiya leli klasi (zihlale lapho izinyanga ezingu-3-4 - inqobo nje uma zinamandla okuvuka ekuseni njalo ekuseni, ngendlela yethu yokuphila yasekhaya "yezikhova"), abanye balaba engifunda nabo bahlala beseduze. abangani. Ngaphezu kwalokho, abanye babo baze basishiya isikole ngemva kwabo!

Futhi nakhu engaphetha ngakho kulezi «izivivinyo». KWAKULULA kakhulu ezinganeni zami ukwakha ubudlelwano neqembu elisha. Abazange babangele ukucindezeleka kanye nokuhlangenwe nakho okubi okunamandla. Babona "izinkinga" zesikole njengomdlalo, futhi hhayi "njengezinhlekelele nezinhlekelele." Mhlawumbe ngenxa yokuthi ngesikhathi abafundi abafunda nabo beya esikoleni futhi bechitha amandla benqoba ubunzima isikole esibabeke phambi kwabo (ukuvuka ekuseni, ukuhlala kakhulu, ukungondleki, ukusebenza ngokweqile, ukuxabana nabafunda nabo futhi besaba othisha), izingane zami esikhundleni salokho zakhula, njengezimbali. , sikhululekile futhi sijabule. Futhi yingakho bekhule NGAMANDLA.

Manje mayelana nesimo sengqondo sezinye izingane kulabo abangayi esikoleni. Sekuyiminyaka engu-12 sibona izinto ezahlukene. Kusukela ekuhlekeni kobuphukuphuku kweziwula ezincane (“Ha ha ha! Akayi esikoleni! Uyisiphukuphuku!”) kuya ezinhlotsheni eziyinqaba zomona (“Ucabanga ukuthi uhlakaniphe kunathi uma ungayi esikoleni? babheja ngemali!”) kanye nokuncoma okuqotho (“Ninenhlanhla nabazali benu! Ngingathanda lokho…”).

Kaningi kwenzeka. Lapho abanye engangibajwayele bezingane zami bethola ukuthi aziyi esikoleni, lokhu kwabangela ukumangala okukhulu. Kwaze kwafika ethukile. Yaqala imibuzo, kungani, kungenzeka kanjani lokhu, ubani oqhamuke nakho, ukuthi izifundo ziqhubeka kanjani, nokunye. Izingane eziningi emva kwalokho zafika ekhaya, zatshela abazali bazo ngentshiseko ukuthi - kuvela !!! — UNGASE UYISIKOLE!!! Futhi-ke - akukho okuhle. Abazali abazange babe nalo mdlandla. Abazali bachazela ingane ukuthi lokhu "akuwona wonke umuntu." Ukuthi abanye abazali, kwezinye izikole, kwezinye izingane, abanye bayakhokha… Futhi ababona «abanye.» Futhi vumela ingane ikhohlwe kuze kube phakade. Ngoba esikoleni SETHU lokhu akuvumelekile! Futhi iphuzu.

Futhi ingane ngakusasa iphefumula kanzima yathi endodaneni yami: “Uyaphila, AWUKWAZI ukuya esikoleni, kodwa ANGIKWAZI. Abazali bami bangitshele ukuthi lokhu akuvumelekile esikoleni sethu.”

Ngezinye izikhathi (ngokusobala, uma ingane yayinganelisekile ngempendulo enjalo), baqala ukumchazela ukuthi WAYENGUMUNTU, ngokungafani nalabo ABANGAYA esikoleni. Kwakukhona izindaba ezimbili lapha. Noma wachazelwa ukuthi umngani wakhe (okungukuthi ingane yami engayi esikoleni) empeleni ukhubazekile ngokomqondo, AKAKWAZI ukuya esikoleni. Futhi "ayifuni" nhlobo, njengoba bezama ukucabanga lapha. Futhi akufanele abe nomona kuye, kodwa kunalokho, kufanele ajabule ngokuthi "uvamile, futhi UNGAFUNDA esikoleni !!!" Noma abazali «bakhukhuleka» kokunye okweqisayo, futhi bathi udinga ukuba nemali eningi ukuze uvumele ingane yakho ukuthi ingayi esikoleni, kodwa nje "ukumthengela" amamaki.

Futhi izikhathi ezimbalwa kuphela kuyo yonke le minyaka, abazali basabela ngesithakazelo endabeni enjalo. Baqale babuza ingane yabo kabanzi, kwalandela eyami, kwalandela mina, base bethatha eyabo esikoleni. Kwabajabulisa abakamuva. Ngakho nginezingane ezimbalwa "ezihlengiwe" esikoleni ku-akhawunti yami.

Kodwa ezikhathini eziningi, abangane bezingane zami babecabanga ukuthi izingane zami zinenhlanhla kubazali bazo. Ngoba ukungayi esikoleni, ngokombono wabo, kuhle kakhulu, kodwa akekho umzali "ovamile" ongavumela lokhu kumntanakhe. Nokho, abazali bezingane zami «abavamile» (ngezindlela eziningi), ngakho babe nenhlanhla. Futhi akukho lutho lokuzama ngale ndlela yokuphila, ngoba lawa amaphupho angafinyeleleki.

Ngakho abazali banethuba lokwenza "iphupho elingafinyeleleki" lengane yabo lifezekile. Cabanga ngakho.

Ingabe izingane zami ziyathanda ukungayi esikoleni

Impendulo isobala: YEBO. Ukube bekungenjalo, bebezovele baye esikoleni. Angikaze ngibaphuce ithuba elinjalo, futhi kule minyaka engu-12 edlule kube nemizamo eminingana yokwenza lokhu. Bona ngokwabo babenentshisekelo yokuqhathanisa ukuya esikoleni nenkululeko yasekhaya. Umzamo ngamunye onjalo wabanikeza imizwa emisha (hhayi ulwazi! — abalutholanga ulwazi esikoleni!) futhi wabasiza ukuba baqonde okuthile okubalulekile ngabo, ngabanye, ngempilo ... okungukuthi, ngokungangabazeki, kwakuyisipiliyoni esiwusizo kakhulu, kodwa ngaso sonke isikhathi isiphetho sasifana: ekhaya kungcono.

Ngicabanga ukuthi akunangqondo ukubhala ukuthi kungani bengcono ekhaya. Ngakho-ke yonke into isivele icacile, ungenza lokho okuthandayo, wena ngokwakho unquma ukuthi wenzeni futhi nini, akekho obeka okuthile kuwe, akudingeki uvuke ekuseni futhi uminyanise izithuthi zomphakathi ... Futhi njalonjalo. njalonjalo...

Indodakazi yami yachaza okuhlangenwe nakho kwayo kokuya esikoleni kanje: “Zicabange wome kakhulu. Futhi ukuze ucime ukoma kwakho (“ukoma” ulwazi), ufika kubantu (emphakathini, kothisha, esikoleni) futhi ubacele ukuba baqede ukoma kwakho. Bese bayakubopha, bahlwithe ama-enema angu-5-litre bese beqala ukuthela uhlobo oluthile loketshezi olunsundu kuwe ngobuningi ... Futhi bathi lokhu kuzoqeda ukoma kwakho ... ”Gu.e.vato, kodwa ngokweqiniso.

Futhi okunye ukuqaphela: umuntu ongazange achithe iminyaka engu-10 emndenini wesikole uhluke ngokuphawulekayo kwabanye. Kukhona okuthile kuye ... Njengoba omunye uthisha asho ngengane yami - "umqondo wenkululeko we-pathological."

Ngesizathu esithile, angikwazi nje ukuvalelisa esikoleni, ngemva kokukhishwa okubili kohlu lwamakheli, ngathola izincwadi eziningi kangangokuthi angibanga naso nesikhathi sokuziphendula. Cishe zonke izincwadi zazinemibuzo mayelana nesikole sasekhaya kanye nezicelo zokuthola ulwazi olwengeziwe ngale ndaba. (Ngaphandle kokubala lezo zinhlamvu ezimfushane lapho ngatshelwa khona ukuthi «ngivule amehlo ami» kwabanye abazali.)

Ngimangele ukusabela okunesivunguvungu ekukhishweni kokugcina okungu-2. Kubonakala sengathi ababhalisile bohlu lwamakheli ekuqaleni baba abantu abathanda ukuzalwa ekhaya, kodwa lapha isihloko sikude kakhulu nabo ... esikoleni kodwa bambalwa abanqumayo. Indawo engaziwa.

(“... Ngafunda futhi ngagxuma ngenjabulo: “Lapha, lapha, lokhu kungokoqobo! Ngakho singakwenza futhi!” Umuzwa ofana nohambo oluya eMoscow kanye, emhlanganweni wokufundisa ngokuzalwa ekhaya. Kubonakala sengathi lonke ulwazi luwukuthi eyaziwa ezincwadini.Kodwa edolobheni lakithi akekho ongakhuluma naye ngokuzalelwa emakhaya, futhi nansi imindeni eminingana eyazalela ekhaya, kanye nabakwaSarguna, ababeletha cishe ama-500 ngaleso sikhathi, futhi bazala abathathu. ezinganeni ezine ekhaya.ukuthi yonke into izohamba njengoba bekuhleliwe, ibilingana nemali esiyikhokhele umhlangano.Kunjalo-ke ngalezi zinombolo zokuposa.SIKHUTHAZEKE KAKHULU!Siyabonga ngencazelo enemininingwane neningilizayo! »)

Ngakho-ke, nginqume “ukuhlehla” izihloko ezihleliwe futhi nginikele enye inkinga ekuphenduleni imibuzo evela kubafundi. Futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo shicilela incwadi eyodwa ethakazelisayo.

Izincwadi ezivela kubafundi nezimpendulo zemibuzo

Ukubhala: Kusetshenziswa Nini Isikole Sasekhaya

“… Ishayeke emongweni! Ngiyabonga NGESAMBULO, ngomndeni wethu (nakimi mathupha) kwaba ukutholakala kwangempela ukuthi lokhu kungenziwa nokuthi othile usevele ekwenza. Ngikhumbula iminyaka yami yesikole ngokwesaba nokudelela. Angithandi ukuqamba isikole, ngesaba ukunikeza izingane zami ezizayo ukuba zidwengulwe yilesi silo, angifuni ukuthi zihlupheke kangaka ... »

“…Isihloko sakho singethusile. Mina ngokwami ​​ngaphothula esikoleni esiphakeme eminyakeni engu-3 edlule, kodwa izinkumbulo zisezintsha. Isikole sami, okokuqala, ukuntula inkululeko, ukulawula kothisha phezu kwezingane, ukwesaba okubi kokungaphenduli, ukuklabalasa (kwaze kwafika nasekuthukeni). Futhi kuze kube manje, kimi, uthisha womuntu uyinto ephuma kulo mhlaba, ngiyabesaba. Muva nje, umngane osebenze njengothisha izinyanga ezi-2 uthe manje sekuyiphupho elibi ezikoleni - ngesikhathi sakhe, umfana oyedwa wahlaziswa uthisha kangangokuthi yena, owesifazane omdala, wayefuna ukuwela phansi. Kanti kwenzekani enganeni? Futhi bahlaziswa kanjalo cishe zonke izinsuku.

Enye indaba eyenzeka kumngane okude kamama - umfana oneminyaka engu-11, ezwe ingxoxo yocingo phakathi kukanina nothisha (wanikezwa 2), wagxuma ngefasitela (wasinda). Angikabi nazo izingane, kodwa ngesaba kakhulu ukubayisa esikoleni. Ngisho nasezintweni ezinhle kakhulu, empeleni, "ukuphuka" kwengane ethi "I" ngakolunye uhlangothi lothisha akunakugwenywa. Ngokuvamile, uthinte isihloko esithakazelisa kakhulu. Angikaze ngizwe into enjena..."

Impendulo ivela ku- Xenia:

IKsenia:

Yiqiniso, akubona bonke abanezinkumbulo ezibuhlungu kangaka zasesikoleni. Kodwa iqiniso lokuthi zikhona (futhi hhayi kuphela kumuntu oyedwa, okuthi, mhlawumbe, "unecala" ngokungakwazi kwakhe "ukulungisa", kodwa kwabaningi!) Yenza umuntu acabange. Uma isikole sibonakala “njengesilwane esisabekayo” kwezinye izingane, futhi lezi zingane zingalindele “okuhle naphakade” kothisha, kodwa kuphela ukululazeka nokuklabalasa, ngabe lesi akusona yini isizathu esanele “sokusindisa” izingane zethu kulolu hlobo lokuziphatha. ingozi?

Okungenani, ungajahi ukuthi «sinesikole esihle» noma «sizothola isikole esihle». Zama ukuqonda ukuthi ingane yakho iyasidinga yini isikole futhi ikule minyaka ethile. Zama ukucabanga ukuthi yini ngempela isikole esizoyenza enganeni yakho, nokuthi uyafuna yini. Futhi kanjani ngempela ingane yakho izosabela kule «reke» ubuntu bakhe. (Futhi nawe ungafuna ukuphathwa ngendlela izingane eziphathwa ngayo ezikoleni?)

Nokho, azikho izindlela zokupheka ezijwayelekile lapha, njengakunoma yiliphi ibhizinisi. Ngaphandle kokuthi "ungalimazi".

Kwezinye izimo, ukuya esikoleni kungaba yinzuzo ngaphezu kokuhlala ekhaya uma isikole sinikeza umntwana okuthile okungcono kunangakuthola ekhaya. Isibonelo esilula kunazo zonke abazali abangafundile abaphuza utshwala kanye nendlu lapho kungekho khona izincwadi namakhompyutha, futhi lapho izivakashi ezithakazelisayo zingafiki khona. Yiqiniso, ingane ingathola okuningi esikoleni kunakule "ndlu" enjalo. Kodwa ngikholelwa ukuthi ayikho imindeni enjalo phakathi kwabafundi bohlu lwamakheli futhi ngeke ibe khona.

Esinye isibonelo abazali abaphuma ekuseni beye emsebenzini babuye sekuhlwile, bekhathele futhi behlanya. Ngisho noma ingane inesithakazelo esikhulu ekukhulumeni nabo kanye nezivakashi zabo (ake bathi, ngezimpelasonto), izothanda ukuhlala ekhaya kuphela uma ingenabo ubungane kakhulu futhi ikwazi ukujabulela ukuba yedwa. Uma kunganele ukuba akhulume ngezimpelasonto kuphela, kodwa efuna ukuxoxa nsuku zonke, khona-ke, kulapho esikoleni lapho ezokwazi khona ukwanelisa lesi sidingo.

Isibonelo sesithathu ukuthi abazali bayakwazi ukunikeza ingane yabo isikhathi esiningi, kodwa umbuthano wezithakazelo zakhe uhluke kakhulu kumbuthano wezithakazelo zabazali nabangane babo. (Ake sithi ingane ikhulela emkhayeni wabaculi “abagxile kakhulu” ezinhlelweni, futhi abakwazi ukuhlanganisa amagama amathathu kulesi sihloko.) Esimweni esinjalo, ingane ingase izitholele isigcawu esifanelekayo esikoleni.

Ngakho ngiyaphinda: ngezinye izikhathi ukuya esikoleni kungcono ngokusobala kunokuhlala ekhaya. Kuyinto «ngezinye izikhathi», hhayi «njalo». Ngaphambi kokwenza isinqumo mayelana nokuthi le ngane yakho iyasidinga yini isikole, cabanga ngalokho enentshisekelo kukho nokuthi izokwazi kuphi ukubona izithakazelo zayo kangcono: ekhaya noma esikoleni. Futhi ingabe unamandla ngokwanele ukuba azivikele ekungeneni kontanga nothisha enkululekweni yakhe siqu.

Ukubhala: izincwadi zokufunda zamabanga aphansi

“Akungicaceli ukuthi izingane zakho zazithembisene kanjani zineminyaka engu-7-9 ubudala. Phela kusenzima kubo kule minyaka ngezincwadi zokufunda, lapho kupendwe khona imisindo ethambile, eqinile, njll. (into enzima kakhulu ukuqonda izincwadi zomzala, uneminyaka engu-8), kunzima futhi ukuthola izibalo, ingane ingaqonda kanjani ngokuzimela ukuhlanganisa, ukuhlukaniswa, njll., noma ngabe isivele ifunde kahle, kubonakala sengathi kimina ukuthi lokhu ngokuvamile akunakwenzeka ukwenza ngaphandle kosizo lomuntu omdala «.

Impendulo ivela ku- Xenia:

IKsenia:

Ngivuma ngokuphelele ukuthi ezimbalwa zezingane ezineminyaka engu-7 zinentshisekelo futhi ziqonda konke okubhalwe ezincwadini zesikole zamabanga aphansi. (Impela lezi zincwadi ngizibonile ngaphinde ngamangala ukuthi yonke into yayixaka futhi idida kanjani, kungathi ababhali bazibekele umgomo wokugxilisa ezinganeni nakubazali ukuthi akekho ozokuqonda lokhu eyedwa, ngakho hamba uye esikoleni futhi lalela uthisha. ) Kodwa ngenza isiphetho esihlukile kulokhu, kodwa ingabe ingane eneminyaka engu-7 ubudala idinga ukukuqonda konke lokhu? Makenze lokho akuthandayo nakwenza kahle.

Lapho ngithatha "izinyathelo zami zokuqala" ngale ndlela, okungukuthi ngisanda kulanda ingane esikoleni futhi ngiyidlulisela "esikoleni sasekhaya", kimina kwakubonakala sengathi kwakudingeka ukulondoloza ukubukeka ukuthi ingane yayihamba parallel» nontanga yakhe - eneminyaka engu-7 ubudala waphumelela ukuhlolwa kwebanga loku-1, ngo-8 - okwesibili, nokunye. Kodwa-ke (nengane yesithathu) ngabona ukuthi akekho oyidingayo.

Uma ingane eneminyaka engu-10 ubudala ithatha izincwadi zebanga 1, 2, 3, khona-ke iyakwazi ukuqonda ngokushesha futhi kalula konke okubhalwe lapho. Futhi cishe ngaphandle kokungenelela kwabantu abadala. (Ngaphinde ngatshelwa ngalokhu uthisha obelokhu ebhala izivivinyo zabafundi bangaphandle esikoleni samabanga aphansi iminyaka engaphezu kwe-10: izingane eziqala ukufunda zineminyaka engu-9-10 ubudala zifunda sonke isikole samabanga aphansi ezinyangeni ezimbalwa ngaphandle kokucindezeleka. Futhi labo abaqala ukufunda beneminyaka engu-6 -7 ubudala, bahamba kancane kakhulu.. hhayi ngoba beyiziduli!!! Kumane nje abakakulungeli "ukugaya" imiqulu yolwazi enjalo futhi bakhathale ngokushesha.) Kunjalo-ke kuwufanele ukuqala eminyakeni engu-7 ukuqeda isikole samabanga aphansi nge-10, uma kungenzeka uqale eduze kwe-10 futhi ukwenze izikhathi eziningana ngokushesha?

Yiqiniso, kukhona ubuqili obukodwa lapha. Uma ingane engaphansi kweminyaka engu-9-10 ingayanga esikoleni kuphela, kodwa ingenzanga lutho (ilale esofeni futhi ibukele i-TV), yebo, cishe ngeke ikwazi ukudlula lonke uhlelo lwesikole samabanga aphansi ngokushesha. futhi kalula. Kodwa uma sekunesikhathi eside efunda ukufunda nokubhala (yize hhayi ngendlela abafundisa ngayo ezincwadini zokukopisha), uma ubelokhu enza izinto ezithakazelisayo kuyo yonke le minyaka (okungukuthi, usethuthukile, futhi akamile), khona-ke Ikharikhulamu yesikole ayimniki inkinga.

Usevele ejwayele ukuxazulula “imisebenzi” abhekane nayo kwezinye izindawo zomsebenzi, futhi ukuphatha kahle ikharikhulamu yesikole kuba “omunye umsebenzi” kuye. Futhi angakwazi ukubhekana nakho kalula, ngoba uthole «amakhono okuxazulula izinkinga» kwezinye izindawo.

Ukubhala: Ukukhetha kanye Nomthwalo wemfanelo

“… Angikholwa ukuthi izingane zifunda ohlelweni lwezifundo zesikole ngaphandle kosizo lwabantu abadala. Futhi akubukeki sengathi unothisha basekhaya abahlale besebenza nezingane zakho. Ngakho uyazifundisa wena?

Impendulo ivela ku- Xenia:

IKsenia:

Cha, angivamile ukuphazamisa “inqubo yokufunda”. Kuphela uma ingane inombuzo othize engingayiphendula.

Ngihamba ngenye indlela. Ngizama nje ukudlulisela ezingqondweni zabo umqondo (kusukela ebuntwaneni) wokuthi bona ngokwabo kumelwe benze ukukhetha futhi benze imizamo yokuqaphela lokhu kukhetha. (Leli yikhono izingane eziningi ezintula kakhulu.) Ngokwenza kanjalo, ngishiya izingane ZINGELUNGELO lokuzikhethela engicabanga ukuthi akulungile. Ngibashiyela ilungelo lokwenza awabo amaphutha.

Futhi uma bona ngokwabo benquma ukuthi BADINGA ukufunda ikharikhulamu yesikole, khona-ke lokhu sekuyimpumelelo engu-90%. Ngoba kulokhu abafundeli “abazali babo”, hhayi “uthisha” futhi “nokuhlola”, kodwa bona ngokwabo. Futhi kubonakala kimi ukuthi ulwazi olutholwe ngale ndlela lusezingeni eliphezulu kakhulu. Noma bebancane.

Futhi ngibona umsebenzi «imfundo» ngokunembile kule - ukufundisa ingane ukuqonda lokho ekudingayo. Kuyena, hhayi ezihlotsheni zakhe. Ngifuna izingane zami zifunde hhayi ngoba "wonke umuntu ufunda" noma ngoba "kufanele kube njalo", kodwa ngoba zidinga zona ngokwazo. Uma kudingeka.

Yiqiniso, lapha, njengakwezinye izindawo, awekho "amaresiphi" ajwayelekile. Sengivele ngikule ndlela nengane yami yesithathu, futhi ngaso sonke isikhathi ngithola izithiyo EZINTSHA. Zonke izingane zami zinesimo sengqondo esihluke ngokuphelele esikoleni nempilo. Futhi ngamunye udinga indlela ekhethekile, entsha ngokuphelele, ehluke ngokuphelele kulokho esengikwazile ukuqhamuka nakho ngaphambili. (Ingane ngayinye iwuhambo olusha olunomphumela ongalindelekile.)

Incwadi: ugqozi lokufunda

“…Noma kunjalo, udaba lokugqugquzela izingane ukuthi zifunde lwahlala lubalulekile kimina. Awu, kungani beyidinga? Ukhuthaze kanjani? Uthi ngeke uzuze lutho empilweni ngaphandle kwemfundo? Noma ingabe babenesithakazelo esihlokweni ngasinye esisha, futhi kulesi sithakazelo kwanqotshwa sonke isihloko?

Impendulo ivela ku- Xenia:

IKsenia:

Anginayo indlela «yesistimu». Kunalokho, vele ukhulume ngokuphila. Izingane, ngokwesibonelo, zicabanga ngokucacile ukuthi umsebenzi wami uquketheni - uma kungenzeka, ngiphendula yonke imibuzo yezingane ngokuningiliziwe. (Ngokwesibonelo, indodakazi yami eneminyaka engu-4 ubudala ihlala ethangeni lami lapho ngihlela umbhalo, bese ichofoza isikelo lapho ngikhetha ucezu olungadingekile - ngokombono wayo, "isebenza" nami, futhi indlela engimtshela ngayo ngokuningiliziwe ukuthi senzani nokuthi kungani.Ngingase “ngilahlekelwe” imizuzu eyi-10-15 kulokhu, kodwa ngizophinde ngikhulume nengane.)

Futhi izingane ziyaqonda ukuthi umsebenzi onjalo ngokuvamile wenziwa abantu abathole ulwazi oluthile futhi abakwaziyo ukwenza okuthile okwakudinga isifundo esikhethekile. Futhi ngandlela-thile ngokwemvelo banombono wokuthi kufanele uqale ufunde, ukuze kamuva ukwazi ukwenza ekuphileni lokho okuthandayo futhi okuthandayo.

Futhi lokho ngempela abakuthakaselayo yilokho abazibheka bona. Angithandi ukungenelela kulolu hlelo. Uma ungakuvimbeli ukufinyelela olwazini, ingane izothola lokho ekudingayo. Futhi lapho isithakazelo sesakhekile kakade, ngokuqinisekile ngizokujabulela ukugcina izingxoxo ngalezi zihloko, inqobo nje uma ngingakwazi. Kusukela esikhathini esithile kuqhubeke, ingane “ingifica” kulokho enesithakazelo kukho, bese ngihlala ngiyisilaleli esithakazelayo kuphela.

Ngaqaphela ukuthi kusukela eminyakeni engu-10-11, izingane zami ngokuvamile ziba “umthombo wolwazi” kimi, sezingakwazi kakade ukungitshela izinto eziningi engingakaze ngizizwe ngazo. Futhi akungicasuli nakancane ukuthi ngamunye wabo “unomkhakha wakhe ozithakaselayo”, ongabandakanyi iningi “lezifundo zesikole”.

Incwadi: kuthiwani uma bengafuni ukufunda?

“… Futhi wenzeni endabeni “yokuphumula” okunonya kwezinsuku eziningi kwengane esikoleni?”

Impendulo ivela ku- Xenia:

IKsenia:

Akunakwenzeka. Manje sekuyinyanga ka-Okthoba, futhi indodana yami (efana «nebanga lesihlanu») ayikhumbuli ukuthi sekuyisikhathi sokufunda. Uma ekhumbula, sizokhuluma ngalesi sihloko. Izingane ezindala ngokuvamile zazikhumbula ndawana thize ngo-February, futhi ngo-April zaqala ukufunda. (Angicabangi ukuthi udinga ukufunda nsuku zonke. Isikhathi esisele abakhafuli ophahleni, kodwa futhi benza okuthile, okungukuthi, “ubuchopho” busasebenza.)

Incwadi: udinga ukulawula

“… Bebenjani ekhaya emini? Ngaphansi kokugadwa kwakho, noma bekukhona umzanyana, ugogo ... Noma ubuwedwa ekhaya usuka ebangeni lokuqala?

Impendulo ivela ku- Xenia:

IKsenia:

Ngabona ukuthi angisafuni ukuya emsebenzini lapho kuzalwa ingane yami yesibili. Futhi iminyaka eminingi manje bengisebenza ekhaya kuphela. Ngakho-ke izingane zazingavamile ukushiywa zodwa ekhaya. (Kuphela lapho bona ngokwabo befuna ukwanelisa isidingo sabo sokuba yedwa, wonke umuntu anakho. Ngakho-ke, lapho umndeni wonke uya endaweni ethile, omunye wabantwana angase athi ufuna ukuhlala yedwa ekhaya futhi akekho oyomangala. )

Kodwa asizange sibe “nokuqondisa” (ngomqondo “wokulawula”) noma: Ngihamba ngebhizinisi lami, bona benza elabo. Futhi uma kunesidingo sokuxhumana - lokhu kungenziwa cishe nganoma yisiphi isikhathi. (Uma ngenza into ephuthumayo noma ebalulekile, ngivele ngitshele ingane yami ukuthi ngizophumula nini emsebenzini. Imvamisa, ngalesi sikhathi ingane isinesikhathi sokwenza itiye futhi ingilinde ekhishini. yokuxhumana.)

Uma ingane idinga usizo lwami ngempela, futhi ngingekho matasa ngomsebenzi ophuthumayo, yebo, ngingabeka izindaba zami eceleni ngisize.

Mhlawumbe, uma ngiye emsebenzini usuku lonke, izingane zami zizofunda ngendlela ehlukile. Mhlawumbe bangazimisela kakhulu ukuya esikoleni (okungenani eminyakeni yokuqala yokufunda). Noma mhlawumbe, ngokuphambene nalokho, bayokujabulela ukuzwa ukuzimela kwabo okuphelele nokuzimela, futhi bayokujabulela ukuhlala bodwa ekhaya.

Kodwa anginakho lokho okuhlangenwe nakho, futhi angicabangi ukuthi ngiyoke ngibe nakho. Ngiyakujabulela ukuba sekhaya kangangokuthi angicabangi ukuthi ngiyoke ngikhethe enye indlela yokuphila.

Incwadi: kuthiwani uma uthanda uthisha?

“… Kuyangimangaza ukuthi phakathi naso sonke isikhathi izingane zakho zifunda, azikaze zihlangane nothisha oyedwa wesifundo esithakazelisayo ezikoleni. Ingabe bebengafuni ngempela ukufunda noma yisiphi isifundo ngokujule (hhayi nje ukufunda ubuncane besikole)? Ezifundweni eziningi, izincwadi zesikole zimpofu kakhulu (ziyayisicefe, zibhalwe kabi, ziphelelwe yisikhathi noma azithandisisi). Uthisha onekhono uthola izinhlobonhlobo zezinto zesifundo ezivela emithonjeni ehlukene, futhi izifundo ezinjalo zijabulisa kakhulu, akanaso isifiso sokuxoxa nomngane, ukufunda incwadi, ukwenza umsebenzi wesikole we-algebra, njll. Uthisha omaphakathi wenza ukuba uthathe amanothi asuka encwadini bese uphinda ulandisa eduze nombhalo. Ngabe yimi ngedwa nginenhlanhla yothisha? Ngangikuthanda ukuya esikoleni. Ngangibathanda othisha bami abaningi. Sahamba ngezinyawo, saxoxa ngezihloko ezihlukahlukene, saxoxa ngezincwadi. Ngingahle ngilahlekelwe kakhulu uma ngihlala ekhaya futhi ngifunde kahle izincwadi… »

Impendulo ivela ku- Xenia:

IKsenia:

Kafushane nje, wonke la mathuba obhala ngawo awatholakali kuphela kulabo abafunda isikole. Kodwa ngizozama ukuphendula yonke into ngononina.

Uma ingane inesithakazelo esifundweni esithile esingakwazi ukufunda ekhaya, ungaya esikoleni kuphela kulezi zifundo, futhi uthathe konke okunye njengomfundi wangaphandle. Futhi uma engenasithakazelo ku-chemistry ne-physics, ungaphumelela ukuhlolwa ngaphandle kokuhlolwa. Imfundo yasekhaya ikuvumela ukuthi ungachithi isikhathi kulokho ingane engakuthandi.

Ngokuqondene nothisha abathakazelisayo, kunjalo, babekhona. Kodwa ingabe leso isizathu esihle sokuya esikoleni? Ekhaya, phakathi kwezivakashi, kwakungekho abantu abathakazelisa kancane ababekwazi ukuxhumana nabo ngabanye, hhayi esixukwini, ngezihloko ezifanayo. Kodwa ukuxhumana komuntu siqu kuthakazelisa kakhulu kunokuhlala ekilasini phakathi kwesixuku sabafundi.

Ngokuqondene nokucwaninga okujulile kwezifundo ngazinye - kuyadingeka ukwenza lokhu esikoleni? Kunezincwadi eziningi kanye neminye imithombo yolwazi yalokhu. Ngaphezu kwalokho, esikoleni kukhona "izinhlaka" ezibekwe uhlelo, kodwa azikho izinhlaka zokufunda ezizimele. (Isibonelo, lapho ineminyaka engu-14, indodana yami yayisivele isisazi kahle isiNgisi, futhi yaphasa izivivinyo zesikole “on the fly”, ingazi nokuthi bazobuzani khona. noma unomfundisi omuhle?)

Ubhala ukuthi uthisha omuhle, ngaphezu kwezincwadi zokufunda, usebenzisa izinto ezihlukahlukene, kodwa ingane enelukuluku futhi ithola izinto ezihlukahlukene uma ithanda lesi sifundo. Izincwadi, ama-encyclopedia, i-inthanethi - noma yini.

Mayelana nemikhankaso nezingxoxo ezihlokweni ezingabonakali. Ngakho izingane zami azizange zihlale zodwa ekhaya. Nabo benza okufanayo! Hhayi kuphela "nabafundi ofunda nabo", kodwa nabangane (ababekhulile, ngakho-ke babethakazelisa nakakhulu). Ngendlela, kwakungenzeka ukuhamba ngezinyawo nabanye abafundi hhayi nje ngamaholide esikole, kodwa nganoma yisiphi isikhathi sonyaka nanoma iyiphi inombolo yezinsuku.

Indodakazi yami, isibonelo, inezinkampani ezingaba ngu-4 "zokuhamba ngezinyawo" (yathathwa ohambweni olunjalo kusukela eminyakeni engu-12) - abaqwali, ama-caver, ama-kayaker nalabo abathanda nje ukuhlala ehlathini isikhathi eside. Futhi phakathi nohambo, bavame ukusivakashela ekhaya, nezinye izingane zami nazo ziyazazi futhi zingahamba nodade wazo. Uma befuna.

Incwadi: thola isikole esihle

“… Awuzamanga yini ukuthola isikole esihle esinothisha abasezingeni eliphezulu? Ingabe akukho okuthakazelisayo kuzo zonke izikole ozamile okungakufanelekela ukufunda?

Impendulo ivela ku- Xenia:

IKsenia:

Izingane zami zazizama zona uma zithanda. Ngokwesibonelo, eminyakeni engu-2 edlule esikoleni, indodakazi yami yafunda esikoleni esithile esikhethekile, lapho kwakunzima kakhulu ukungena (wathola lesi sikole ngokwakhe, waphumelela kahle izivivinyo zakhe futhi wafunda lapho iminyaka engu-2 ngemodi "nsuku zonke") .

Wayefuna nje ukuzama ukuthi uyini umuthi, futhi kulesi sikole babe ne-internship esibhedlela, futhi kanye nesitifiketi wathola idiploma yobuhlengikazi. Akazange abone enye indlela yokuhlola «underside of medicine», ngakho wenza ukukhetha okunjalo. (Angijabulile ngalokhu kukhetha, kodwa angisoze ngamphuca ilungelo lokuzikhethela, ukuthatha isinqumo nokufeza umgomo wakhe. Ngicabanga ukuthi yinto esemqoka lena okufanele ngiyifundise njengomzali. yena.)

Incwadi: kungani ingane kufanele ihole imali eyengeziwe?

“… Ushilo ukuthi izingane zakho zazibamba amatoho futhi zinemithombo ethile yeholo ngalezo zinyanga lapho zingayi esikoleni. Kodwa kungani lokhu kudingekile? Ngaphezu kwalokho, angiqondi nhlobo ukuthi ingane iyithola kanjani imali eyengeziwe, uma ngisho nabantu abadala bekuthola kunzima ukuthola umsebenzi? Abazange behlise izinqola, ngiyethemba?”

Impendulo ivela ku- Xenia:

IKsenia:

Cha, abazange bacabange ngezinqola. Konke kwaqala ngokuthi mina ngokwami ​​nganikela ngendodana yami endala (eyayineminyaka engu-11 ngaleso sikhathi) ukuba izongisebenzela kancane. Ngezinye izikhathi ngangidinga umshini wokubhala ukuze ngibhale ngezilimi ezihlukahlukene, kuhlanganise nesiFinnish. Futhi indodana yami yakwenza ngokushesha okukhulu nangekhwalithi ephezulu - futhi yakwenza ngemali efanayo eyayimiselwe abashicileli bokubhala "bangaphandle". Khona-ke kancane kancane waqala ukuhumusha imibhalo elula (yebo, umsebenzi wakhe wabe usuhlolisiswa ngokucophelela, kodwa "njengomfundi" wayengifanela ngokuphelele) futhi wangisebenzela njengesithunywa kusukela ngineminyaka engu-12.

Khona-ke, lapho indodana yami ikhula futhi iqala ukuhlala ngokuhlukana, “yathathelwa indawo” indodakazi yami endala, nayo eyayingisebenzela njengomshini wokuthayipha nomthumeli wezincwadi. Wabuye wabhala ukubuyekezwa komagazini nomyeni wami - babenokwehlukaniswa okucacile kwemithwalo yemfanelo ekulungiseleleni lezi zinto, futhi wathola ingxenye ethile yemali. Nyanga zonke.

Kungani kudingeka lokhu? Kubonakala kimi, ukubona indawo yabo emhlabeni wezinto ezibonakalayo. Izingane eziningi zinombono ongacacile wokuthi iyini imali nokuthi ivelaphi. (Ngazi "izingane" ezikhulile (ezingaphezu kweminyaka engama-20) ezikwazi ukwenza amarowu omama ngoba akazange azithengele ijezi noma imonitha entsha.)

Uma ingane ike yazama ukwenza umsebenzi othile ngemali, khona-ke inombono ocacile wokuthi noma iyiphi imali ihlotshaniswa nemizamo yomunye umuntu. Futhi kukhona ukuqonda kwesibopho osithathayo ngokuthatha uhlobo oluthile lomsebenzi.

Ngaphezu kwalokho, ingane ivele ithole isipiliyoni sokuphila esiwusizo, ifunda ukusebenzisa imali eyitholayo ngendlela engcono kakhulu. Phela akubona bonke abantu abakwaziyo ukwenza lokhu, kodwa lokhu abakufundisi esikoleni.

Futhi omunye more ewusizo «side effect» — umsebenzi, Oddly ngokwanele, kuvusa isifiso solwazi. Ngemva kokuzama ukuthola imali, ingane iqala ukuqonda ukuthi inani lemali lincike kulokho angakwenza. Ungaba i-courier, uhambe uyothungatha futhi uthole okuncane, noma ungabhala indatshana futhi uthole inani elifanayo lemali ngesikhathi esincane kakhulu. Futhi ungafunda okunye futhi uzuze okwengeziwe. Uqala ukucabanga ngalokho akufunayo ngempela ekuphileni. Futhi uzama ukuthola indlela engcono kakhulu yokufeza lo mgomo. Ngokuvamile indlela engcono kakhulu ukutadisha! Ngakho safinyelela impendulo yombuzo wokukhuthaza ukufunda kwelinye icala.

Futhi manje - incwadi wathembisa ezithakazelisayo.

Ukubhala: Okuhlangenwe nakho Kwesikole Sasekhaya

Vyacheslav kusukela Kyiv:

Ngingathanda ukwabelana nabanye okuhlangenwe nakho kwami ​​(ikakhulukazi okuhle, «nakuba kungalahleki») kanye nemicabango yami «ngokungayi esikoleni».

Okuhlangenwe nakho kwami ​​​​ngokwami, hhayi okuhlangenwe nakho kwezingane zami - kwakuyimi engangingayanga esikoleni, noma kunalokho, cishe angizange ngihambe. Kwaba "ngokwaso": ubaba wahamba wayosebenza edolobhaneni elikude, ngenxa yezizathu eziningi ezicacile, kwakungekho sizathu sokudlulisela esikoleni sendawo (okuyinto, ngaphezu kwalokho, cishe amakhilomitha ayisikhombisa). Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ngokwezinga elithile kwakuyisinqumo esihlakaniphile: umama wayehlala eMoscow, futhi, empeleni, ngangingakwazi ukuya ndawo. Ngangiphila ngokufana lapha nalaphaya. Ngokuvamile, ngahlala ngokwezinga elithile ngabelwa esikoleni saseMoscow, futhi ngafunda ngihlezi eqhugwaneni eliqhele ngamakhilomitha angamakhulu amane ukusuka kuleli dolobha lamaqhawe.

Ngendlela: lokhu kwakungaphambi kuka-1992, futhi kwakungekho sisekelo somthetho ngaleso sikhathi, kodwa kuhlale kungenzeka ukuvuma, ngokusemthethweni ngaqhubeka nokufunda ekilasini elithile. Yiqiniso, isikhundla somqondisi sibalulekile (futhi yena, i-"perestroika" ekhululekile, wayebonakala enesithakazelo esimweni sami). Kodwa angikhumbuli nakancane ukuthi kwakukhona izithiyo ngasohlangothini lothisha (nakuba, kunjalo, kwakukhona ukumangala nokungaqondi).

Ekuqaleni, kwakukhona ukucindezela okuvela kubazali, futhi ngokokuqala ngqa, umama wahamba futhi wavumelana nomqondisi, kodwa-ke, ngaphambi kwamakilasi alandelayo, wahamba, waxoxisana, wathatha izincwadi zokufunda, njll. Inqubomgomo yabazali yayingahambisani, ngakho-ke ngaphoqeleka ukuba ngenze zonke izivivinyo ezivela ezincwadini ze-algebra nezinye i-geometri zilandelana, khona-ke izinyanga bakhohlwa ukuthi "ngifana nokufunda" ngokujwayelekile. Ngokushesha nje, ngabona ukuthi kuwumbudane ukudlula kulesi sihlubuki UNYAKA, futhi noma ngithola amaphuzu amaningi (ngenxa yesithukuthezi), noma ngifunda ngokushesha.

Ngemva kokuphasa izivivinyo zekilasi elilodwa entwasahlobo, ngathatha izincwadi zokufunda zehlobo elilandelayo, kwathi ekwindla ngadluliselwa (ngemuva kwenqubo elula) ngekilasi; Ngafunda amakilasi amathathu ngonyaka olandelayo. Khona-ke kwaba nzima nakakhulu, futhi ekilasini lokugcina ngase ngifunde "ngokuvamile" esikoleni (sabuyela eMoscow), nakuba futhi kuqhathaniswa, ngangiya esikoleni izinsuku ezimbili noma ezintathu ngesonto, ngoba kwakukhona ezinye izinto, ngasebenza ingxenye. -isikhathi, wangena ezemidlalo kakhulu njll.

Ngashiya isikole ngineminyaka engu-14. Ngineminyaka engu-24 namuhla, futhi ngingakwazi, mhlawumbe, ngokuzumayo kuyathakazelisa kumuntu, ngithi, uma othile ecabangela i-«pluses» kanye «ne-cons» yohlelo olunjalo? - zama ukuthola ukuthi lokhu okuhlangenwe nakho kwanginika ini, ukuthi kungincishe ini nokuthi yiziphi izingibe esimweni esinjalo.

Okuqinile:

• Ngaphunyula umoya wasesikoleni. Izinwele zami ziyama lapho umkami (owaphothula esikoleni ngendlela evamile futhi wazuza indondo yegolide) engitshela ngokuhlangenwe nakho kwakhe kwasesikoleni, kumane nje akujwayelekile kimi, futhi ngijabula ngendlela emangalisayo ngakho. Angizijwayele zonke lezi ziphukuphuku ngamaseli asuka ekugcineni kwekhasi, «impilo yeqembu», njll.
• Ngangikwazi ukuphatha isikhathi sami futhi ngenze engikufunayo. Ngangifuna izinto eziningi, nakuba kungekho nesisodwa sezifundo engangizihilela ngentshiseko futhi ngizikhandla kakhulu, isibonelo, ukudweba, akuzange kube usizo kimi, futhi lokhu akuzange kube umsebenzi wami, njll. Ungenzi ihaba ikhono ingane eneminyaka engu-11-12 ukukhetha umsebenzi wayo wesikhathi esizayo. Okukhulu, ngikwazile ukwenza lokho engingeke ngikwenze, osekuvele kuhle—angizange ngichithe umzamo omkhulu kuwo wonke lawa ma-algebra namanye amajiyometri … (umkami, ngokwesibonelo, utshela abengakwazi ukukwenza. nokuthi waphoqeleka ukuba ayeke emabangeni okugcina esikole, ngenxa yokuthi ngangingenaso isikhathi sokwenza umsebenzi wami wesikole! ngokuthula ngizifundele imibhalo yomagazini othi “Technology-Youth” kanye “Nesayensi Nenkolo” amashumi eminyaka amaningana, ngigijima izicathulo ezinqamula izwe, amatshe okugaya abe yimpushana (ngopende wemvelo osetshenziswa ekudwebeni kwezithombe) nokunye okuningi.)
• Ngakwazi ukuqeda isikole kusenesikhathi futhi ngathola isiqalo, isibonelo, lapho ngibhekene “nomsebenzi ohloniphekile” owawuseza kimi (njenganoma yimuphi owesilisa ophile kahle) emkhathizwe. Ngokushesha ngangena esikhungweni semfundo, futhi sahamba ... ngaphothula kuso ngineminyaka engu-19, ngangena esikoleni ...
• Bathi uma ungafundi esikoleni, kuyoba nzima esikhungweni, ngaphandle uma, ngokuqinisekile, uya kwesinye. Umbhedo. Esikhungweni, sekuvele (futhi ngokuqhubekayo - ngaphezulu) akuwona amaseli avela ekugcineni kwekhasi abalulekile, kodwa ikhono lokusebenza ngokuzimela, elifinyelelwa ngokuqondile (kuzwakala kungavamile ngandlela-thile, kodwa kuyiqiniso) ngo. okuhlangenwe nakho komsebenzi ozimele, enganginakho . Kwaba lula kakhulu kimina kunabaningi engifunda nabo ekilasini, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi babebadala kangakanani kunami ngeminyaka, ukulandela indlela yomsebenzi wesayensi, ngangingadingi ukugadwa kumphathi, njll. Empeleni, manje ngenza umsebenzi wesayensi. , futhi ngempumelelo impela.
• Yebo, anginaso isitifiketi se-“Pyaterochny”. Futhi mancane amathuba okuthi ngithole indondo yegolide ngedwa, ngingenabo abafundisi, njll., noma ngabe bengizibekele umsebenzi onjalo. Kodwa ingabe uyakufanelekela? Okomuntu onjengaye. Kimina, akungifanele neze.
• Noma kunjalo, kunezinto ezingaba usizo ekuphileni, kodwa ingane engakwazi ukuzifundela yona (kuyacaca ukuthi kukhona abafana abanamakhono ahlukene ezifundweni ezahlukene, njll., kodwa ngikhuluma kuphela ngolwazi lwami ...) . Izilimi, isibonelo. Kusukela emizamweni yami yokuzihlola ngokuzimela izincwadi zokufunda ngesiNgisi nangesiJalimane eminyakeni yami yesikole, angizange ngibekezelele lutho nhlobo. Kamuva kwadingeka ngikwenzele lokhu ngomzamo omkhulu, futhi kuze kube manje izilimi zakwamanye amazwe (futhi kubalulekile ukuba ngizazi ngenxa yemininingwane yomsebenzi wami!) Nginendawo ebuthaka. Angisho ukuthi ungafunda ulimi esikoleni, ukuthi nje uma kukhona okungenani uhlobo oluthile lothisha, khona-ke ukufunda ulimi kulula kakhulu, futhi ukulufunda, okungenani ngokwethiyori, kungokoqobo.
• Yebo, mina ngokwami ​​ngaba nezinkinga zokukhulumisana. Kuyacaca ukuthi yilokhu okuqondile kwecala lami, ngangingenaye umuntu engangixhumana naye egcekeni, emibuthanweni, njll. Kodwa lapho ngibuyela esikoleni, kwaba nezinkinga. Ngeke ngisho ukuthi kwakubuhlungu kimi, nakuba kungajabulisi, yebo, kodwa ngaphambi kwesikhungo angizange ngixhumane namuntu ngempela. Kodwa ngizocacisa: sikhuluma ngontanga. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, kwakulula kakhulu kimi ukuxhumana "nabadala", futhi kamuva nothisha kanye "nabaphathi" ngokujwayelekile, phambi kwabo abafana abaningi, ukuthi bangasho kanjani, isimo esifanayo nesami, enamahloni. Kunzima kimi ukusho ukuthi kwenzekeni ekugcineni susa noma ukuhlanganisa. Kunalokho, ukuhlanganisa, kodwa inkathi yokuntuleka kokuxhumana nabafunda nabo kanye nontanga ngokuvamile yayingemnandi kakhulu.

Injalo imiphumela yesipiliyoni.

Impendulo ivela ku- Xenia:

IKsenia:

“Ngayeka isikole ngineminyaka engu-14.” Leli yiphuzu elingithakazelisa kakhulu. Izingane zami zazingafuni ukweqa amakilasi, zavele zaphasa uhlelo lwekilasi elilandelayo ekupheleni konyaka wesikole, kwase kuthi izinyanga ezingu-9-10 (kusukela ngoJuni kuya ku-April) zingasakhumbuli nhlobo ngesikole.

Ngibuze abangani bami, izingane zabo ezangena kusenesikhathi emanyuvesi - bazizwa kanjani lapho? Phakathi kwabantu asebekhulile, abanomthwalo wemfanelo othile kubo (okuthi esikoleni, njengokungathi, kwabelwa othisha)? Bangitshela ukuthi abazange baphatheke kabi. Kulula nakakhulu ngentsha ukuxhumana nabantu abadala (nalabo abaneminyaka engu-17-19 noma ngaphezulu) kunokontanga. Ngoba phakathi kontanga kukhona okufana «nokuncintisana», okuvame ukuphenduka isifiso "sokwehlisa" abanye ukuze "baziphakamise". Abantu abadala abasenayo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, abanaso isifiso "sokwehlisa" osemusha, osemncane ngeminyaka embalwa, akayena "umncintiswaneni" wabo nhlobo. Ungakwazi yini ukusitshela okwengeziwe ngobudlelwano bakho nofunda nabo?

Impendulo ivela ku- Vyacheslav

Vyacheslav:

Ubudlelwano babubuhle kakhulu. Empeleni, esikoleni angizange ngigcine abantu engibaziyo ngisho nobuhlobo bobungane; Ngisaxhumana neningi lezingane engifunda nazo (onyakeni wesihlanu ngiqedile). Akukaze kube khona isimo sengqondo esibi ngasohlangothini lwabo, noma ukuzidla, nanoma yini enye. Ngokusobala, abantu «abantu abadala», futhi, njengoba ubonile, abazange bangibone njengomuntu engincintisana nabo ... Kuphela manje ngibabona njengabaqhudelana nabo.

Kwadingeka ngizibonakalise ukuthi ngangingeyena «omncane». Ngakho-ke okunye okungokwengqondo - hhayi izinkinga ngempela ... kodwa kwakukhona ukungakhululeki. Futhi-ke - kahle, esikhungweni kukhona amantombazane, "abadala" ngakho konke lokho, kodwa mina? Kubonakala sengathi kuhlakaniphile, futhi ngiziphakamisa izikhathi ezingamashumi amabili, futhi ngigijima njalo ekuseni, kodwa angivusi isithakazelo kubo ...

Noma kunjalo, kwakukhona izinto lapho umehluko weminyaka wawuzwakala khona. Ngangingenaso, ukuthi ngingasho kanjani, isipiliyoni esithile emkhakheni “wombhedo” ohlukahlukene ongawuthola kontanga esikoleni (yebo, unyaka wokugcina lapho “ngangifunda”, ngibambe lezi ziphukuphuku ngenkuthalo. , kodwa umehluko phakathi kwempilo "isizinda" kanye nabantu abasha, yiqiniso, bazizwa).

Ungacabanga ukuthi kwakubhekwa kanjani ebusheni. Kodwa “ukungakhululeki” okunjalo (kunalokho okunemibandela; ngazama nje ukukhumbula ukuthi ngabe kukhona okuthile lapho umehluko weminyaka uzwakala) wawusenyuvesi ekuqaleni, ngonyaka wokuqala.

I-Afterword

Ngithemba ukuthi sengiyiphendulile imibuzo esemqoka yabafundi. Imisebenzi ehlukahlukene emincane ephakamayo endleleni (lapho ungathola khona isikole esifanelekayo somfundi wangaphandle, lapho ungathatha khona izivivinyo zamamaki aphansi, indlela yokusiza ingane ukuthi "ihileleke" esikoleni sasekhaya, njll.) izoxazululwa ngokwayo ngemva uyasamukela isinqumo sokugcina. Into esemqoka ukwenza ukukhetha futhi ulandele ngokuthula umgomo. Nobabili wena nezingane zakho. Ngikufisela inhlanhla kule ndlela.