“Injabulo ingatholakala ngisho nasezikhathini ezimnyama, uma ungakhohlwa ukuphendukela ekukhanyeni,” kusho umlingiswa ohlakaniphile wencwadi edumile. Kodwa ukungeneliseki kungasifica ngesikhathi esihle kakhulu, nasebudlelwaneni "obulungile". Futhi isifiso sethu kuphela esingasisiza sijabule, kusho umcwaningi nomlobi wezincwadi ezikhuluma ngomshado nobudlelwano uLori Lowe.
Ukungakwazi kwabantu ukuthola ukwaneliseka ekuphileni kwabo kuyisithiyo esikhulu sokujabula. Imvelo yethu isenza singaneliseki. Sihlala sidinga okunye okunye. Uma sithola esikufunayo: impumelelo, into ethile, noma ubudlelwano obumangalisayo, siyajabula okwesikhashana, bese sizwa le ndlala yangaphakathi futhi.
“Asikeneliseki neze ngokwethu,” kusho uLaurie Lowe, umcwaningi nomlobi wezincwadi ezikhuluma ngomshado nobuhlobo. - Kanye nomlingani, imali engenayo, ikhaya, izingane, umsebenzi kanye nomzimba wakho. Aseneliswe ngokuphelele ukuphila kwethu konke.”
Kodwa lokho akusho ukuthi ngeke sikufunde ukujabula. Okokuqala, kufanele siyeke ukusola izwe elisizungezile ngokungasiniki konke esikudingayo noma esikufunayo.
Indlela yethu eya esimweni senjabulo iqala ngomsebenzi ngemicabango
UDennis Praner, umlobi wencwadi ethi Happiness Is a Serious Issue, uyabhala, “Eqinisweni, kuyodingeka sitshele imvelo yethu ukuthi nakuba siyizwa futhi siyihlonipha, ngeke kube yiyo, kodwa ingqondo yiyona eyonquma ukuthi saneliswa yini.”
Umuntu uyakwazi ukwenza ukukhetha okunjalo - ukujabula. Isibonelo salokhu ngabantu abampofu futhi, ngaphezu kwalokho, bazizwa bejabule kakhulu kunabantu besikhathi sabo esicebe kakhulu.
Ukuzizwa singanelisekile, sisengenza isinqumo esinengqondo sokujabula, u-Laurie Low uyaqiniseka. Ngisho nasezweni elinobubi, singayithola injabulo.
Kunezici ezinhle zokungakwazi kwethu ukwanelisa ngokugcwele ukuphila. Kusikhuthaza ukuthi siguqule, sithuthukise, silwele, sidale, sizuze. Ukube bekungengenxa yomuzwa wokunganeliseki, abantu bebengeke bathole izinto eziqanjiwe ukuze bazithuthukise bona kanye nomhlaba. Lokhu kuyisici esibalulekile ekuthuthukisweni kwaso sonke isintu.
U-Prager ugcizelela umehluko phakathi kokudingekayo - okuhle - ukunganeliseki nokungadingeki.
Siyohlale singajabule ngokuthile, kodwa lokho akusho ukuthi ngeke sijabule.
Amagqubu adingekayo ngomsebenzi wakhe kwenza abantu bokudala bawuthuthukise. Ingxenye yengonyama yokunganeliseki okuhle kusiqhubezela ekwenzeni izinguquko ezibalulekile ekuphileni.
Ukube saneliswa ubuhlobo obulimazayo, besingeke sibe nesisusa sokubheka umlingani ofanele. Ukunganeliseki ngezinga lokusondelana kukhuthaza umbhangqwana ukuba ufune izindlela ezintsha zokuthuthukisa izinga lokukhulumisana.
Amagqubu angenasidingo ezihlobene nezinto ezingabalulekile ngempela (njengosesho lwengqondo lwezicathulo “eziphelele”) noma ezingaphandle kwamandla ethu (njengokuzama ukushintsha abazali bethu).
“Ukunganeliseki kwethu ngezinye izikhathi kunesisekelo esiqinile, kodwa uma imbangela yako ingenakuqedwa, kumane kubhebhethekise ukungajabuli,” kusho uPrager. "Umsebenzi wethu ukwamukela lokho esingeke sikushintshe."
Siyohlale singaneliseki ngokuthile, kodwa lokhu akusho ukuthi ngeke sijabule. Injabulo iwukusebenza nje esimweni somqondo wakho.
Uma singakuthandi okuthile kumlingani noma umlingani, lokhu kujwayelekile. Futhi lokhu akusho nakancane ukuthi akasifanele. Mhlawumbe, kubhala u-Laurie Lowe, sidinga nje ukucabangela ukuthi ngisho nomuntu ophelele akakwazanga ukwanelisa zonke izifiso zethu. Uzakwethu akakwazi ukusenza sijabule. Lesi yisinqumo okumele sizenzele thina.
Mayelana Nochwepheshe: U-Lori Lowe ungumcwaningi nombhali wezincwadi ezikhuluma ngomshado nobudlelwano.